"Pau ke ola i ka makemake", kākau ʻo Jean de la Bruyère ma Les Caractères, mai ka makahiki 1688. ʻO ka mea kākau, ma ke kuhi ʻana i kēia, ua koi ʻo ia i ka filigree i ke kuleana nui, i ko mākou ola, o nā moemoeā, kēia mau manaʻo kuhihewa i unuhi i ko mākou makemake. E like me, kahi laʻana, ka ʻoiaʻiʻo o ka hoʻokumu ʻana i nā hanana i hoʻokō ʻole ʻia, a i ʻole ka makemake moekolohe i hoʻokō ʻole ʻia e kekahi. Hele mai kekahi poʻe i ka manaʻo me kā lākou moemoeā. Makemake nā poʻe ʻē aʻe e kāohi iā lākou. ʻO nā poʻe ʻē aʻe, māʻona iā lākou. He aha inā, i ka hopena, ka ʻike ʻana iā lākou i ke ola maoli e hoʻohoka iā lākou? He aha inā, ma ka mālama ʻana iā lākou i ka lili, kōkua pū lākou iā mākou e ola?

"ʻAʻole pili ka moemoeā i ke ola moekolohe, ʻo lākou ka meaʻai", i hōʻoia i ka psychiatrist Palani Henri Barte. Iecaianoaaiiuo o ka manaʻo ma o ka prism o ka ego hiki ke ʻimi e pakele i ka paʻa o ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, ka moemoeā, e like me ka manaʻo, kuhikuhi pū kekahi i ka wahaheʻe, a i ʻole nā ​​mea maoli ʻole. Etymologically, hele mai ia mai ka Helene dummy ʻo ia hoʻi "helehelena".

Aia kahi moemoeā moekolohe, no ka laʻana, i ka noʻonoʻo ʻana i nā hanana, nā moekolohe i hana ʻole ʻia a hiki i kēia wā. David Lodge, ma Ka honua o ka hoʻonaʻauao, pela i koho ai "Hana hapa ʻia ka moekolohe kāne o kēlā me kēia me nā moemoeā pū kekahi, i hāpai hapa ʻia e nā hiʻohiʻona moʻokalaleo, nā kaʻao, nā moʻolelo a me nā kiʻi a me nā kiʻi ʻoniʻoni". No laila, ʻo nā huapalapala o ka Vicomte de Valmont a me ka Marquise de Merteuil, nā mea protagonist ʻelua o ka puke epistolary kaulana ʻo Les Liaisons Dangereuses, hiki, no ka laʻana, hānai i nā moemoeā he nui ... ʻO ke ʻano moemoeā ke ʻano o ke ʻano psychological o ka moekolohe.

Aia nā moemoeā moekolohe, akā me nā moemoeā narcissistic, a laila pili i ka ego. Ma ka ʻaoʻao ʻē aʻe, hiki i kekahi mau moemoeā ke makaʻala, a ʻo kēia nā hoʻoliʻiliʻi a me nā hoʻolālā i ke ao, a me nā mea ʻē aʻe ʻole: ma kēia hihia ua hōʻike ʻia lākou ma o nā moeʻuhane a me nā hōʻailona neurotic. I kekahi manawa hiki i ka moemoeā ke alakaʻi i nā hana keu. 

ʻO nā singularities he moemoeā nā formations o ka manaʻo. Hāʻawi lākou, i kēia ʻano, i ke ala aliʻi no ka ʻimi ʻana i nā hiʻohiʻona o ka unconscious. Mai poina iā mākou i ka ʻōlelo, “Mea pāpā, mea makemake ʻia”...

"ʻOi aku ka maikaʻi o ke aloha fantasized ma mua o ke aloha i noho ʻia. ʻAʻole lawe i ka hana, pīhoihoi loa ia ”, kākau ʻo Andy Warhol. ʻO ka mea ʻē aʻe, ua hōʻoia ʻo Oscar Wilde: "ʻO ke ala wale nō e hoʻopau ai i kahi hoʻowalewale ka hāʻawi ʻana iā ia. E kūʻē, a maʻi kou ʻuhane e ka wī o ke kanikau ʻana i ka mea āna i pāpā aku ai iā ia iho ». No laila, he aha e hana ai, ke hopu ʻia kekahi e kahi moemoeā? Malia paha, ma ka noʻonoʻo maʻalahi, inā ʻoe e ʻike iā lākou i ke ola maoli, e hoʻohoka paha lākou?

A i ʻole, hiki paha iā mākou ke hoʻokō iā ia ma o ka prism o ka mele a me ka moʻokalaleo? Poetry, ʻo ia no Pierre Seghers, "ʻO ka pivot o ka mea e ʻimi ana iā ia iho i kāna mau kūʻē, i ke kaulike ʻole o kāna mau pūʻali, ka leo o ka leo pupule, ke alo me nā manaʻo.".

Hiki paha ke noʻonoʻo iā lākou pū, ke kūlike lākou me ʻoe iho? E like me Françoise Dolto, ka mea, no ka laʻana, hoihoi wale i ka manaʻo o kekahi inā hiki iā ia ke hana nona iho? ʻO ia, inā hiki iā ia "E ʻike ma laila, hōʻike ʻokoʻa ma mua o kāna hana, kāna mau moemoeā, kāna ʻike, a me kona ʻike.". A laila, aʻaʻo ʻo ia e hoʻokuʻu i nā mea āpau āpau, nā mea āpau, i ke kumumanaʻo o ka mea ʻē aʻe, paʻakikī e hoʻomālamalama i ka mea āna i manaʻo ai a i ʻole nā ​​mea i loaʻa iā ia.

Hiki iā mākou ke kiʻi i kahi manaʻo o ka hopena o ka manaʻo haipule i nā moemoeā? Ua hoʻāʻo ka psychologist ʻAmelika ʻo Tierney Ahrold e nānā i ka hopena o ke ʻano hoʻomana o kēlā me kēia kanaka i kāna ʻano e pili ana i ka moekolohe a me ka moemoeā. No laila ua ʻike ʻo ia i nā kiʻekiʻe o ka hoʻomana i loko e wānana i nā ʻano moekolohe ʻē aʻe conservative, ma nā kāne a me nā wahine. Ma ka ʻaoʻao ʻē, wānana kahi pae kiʻekiʻe o ka ʻuhane i nā ʻano moekolohe liʻiliʻi i nā kāne, akā ʻoi aku ka conservative i nā wahine.

He hopena maopopo ka pilinaismismism i nā moemoeā moekolohe: ua hoʻemi nui ʻia kēia ma waena o kāna poʻe ukali. ʻO kahi kiko e hoʻomaopopo ai: nā pae kiʻekiʻe o ka paranormal manaʻoʻiʻo a me ka ʻuhane, i hoʻohui ʻia i kahi mea liʻiliʻi o ka hoʻomana kuʻuna, unuhi ʻia, i nā wahine, i kahi kiʻekiʻe kiʻekiʻe e ʻike ʻia i nā moemoeā ʻokoʻa.

ʻO ka mea hope loa, inā mākou e hoʻolohe hou iā Françoise Dolto, ka mea i hoʻomaʻamaʻa i ka hoʻokau ʻana i nā ʻeuanelio a me ka hilinaʻi i mua o ka maka o ka psychoanalysis, malia paha "ʻO ka hewa wale nō ʻaʻole e makaʻu iā ʻoe iho e ola i kou makemake"...

E hāʻawi ʻia mākou i ke anuanu e aloha i ka lapalapa, e hāʻawi ʻia mai ka inaina a e aloha mākou i ke aloha, hīmeni ʻo Johnny ... Pili loa ka makemake a me ka moemoeā i ke kuko. Eia naʻe, kuhi ka mea kākau ʻo Malebranche ʻaʻole manuahi kēia mau kuko, na lākou nō "I loko o mākou me ka ʻole o mākou, a i loko nō o ka hewa.

Eia nō naʻe, e pili ana iā Descartes, ke ʻike koke mākou ua hana ʻia nā kuko i loko o ka ʻuhane me ka ʻole o ka makemake e ʻāpana, a laila e hoʻomaopopo mākou he mea makehewa ke ʻimi e hoʻoliʻiliʻi iā lākou me ka hana maʻalahi o ka noʻonoʻo. No Descartes, i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, "ʻO nā kuko o ka ʻuhane e like me nā manaʻo, a i ʻole nā ​​manaʻo o ka ʻuhane, i hoʻoikaika ʻia e kekahi neʻe ʻana o nā ʻuhane."

Me ka ʻole naʻe o ka mālama ʻana i kēia "Makemake e makemake", a Johnny i kūkala pololei ai, hiki nō iā mākou, ma ke ʻano he haumana na Descartes, ke kōkua i ke kumu e loaʻa hou ai kāna mau pono ... Me ka poina ʻole i ka ʻuhane like e mālama iā mākou i ola. A laila, e hāhai mākou i kēia ala i ka mea kākau ʻo Frédéric Beigbeder, ka mea aʻoaʻo: "E hoʻomaikaʻi kākou i ko mākou mau makemake i hoʻokō ʻole ʻia, e aloha aku i kā mākou mau moemoeā i hiki ʻole ke kiʻi ʻia. Mālama ka lili iā mākou i ke ola.