He mea maʻamau ka makaʻu i nā holoholona i waena o nā keiki. Hiki ke hoʻopili ʻia i kahi hanana traumatic a i ʻole e hōʻike ana i kahi maʻi hopohopo ākea. Pehea e kōkua ai i kahi keiki makaʻu i nā holoholona? Nā ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo mai Vincent Joly, psychologist no nā keiki a me nā ʻōpio.

Makaʻu paha ke keiki i kekahi holoholona a i ʻole kekahi mau holoholona no nā kumu nui ʻelua:

• Ua loaʻa iā ia kahi ʻehaʻeha me kekahi holoholona a ʻo ia ka mea i hoʻomaka ai ka makaʻu i loko ona e pale ai iā ia mai ka hoʻouka hou ʻana me kēia holoholona. Hiki i ke keiki i nahu ʻia e ka pōpoki a i ʻole ka ʻīlio, me ke ʻano koʻikoʻi o ka hanana, hiki ke ʻike iā ia me ka ʻino loa a laila hoʻomohala i ka makaʻu noʻonoʻo i kēia holoholona. "Inā he ʻīlio, makaʻu ke keiki i nā ʻīlio āpau āna e hele ai a e hoʻāʻo ʻo ia i nā koina āpau e pale aku iā lākou", wehewehe ka psychologist. ;
• Hoʻopilikia ke keiki i ka hopohopo a hoʻopuka i kāna mau manaʻo ma luna o kahi holoholona e hōʻike ana iā ia i ka pōʻino. “ʻO ka hopohopo o ke keiki ke kumu pinepine mai ka hopohopo makua. Inā makaʻu kekahi o nā mākua ʻelua i kahi holoholona, ​​manaʻo ke keiki a hiki iā ia ke hoʻomohala i ka phobia like ʻoiai ke hoʻāʻo ka makua e hūnā iā ia ”, wahi a Vincent Joly.

I ka hihia mua, ʻoi aku ka ikaika o ka phobia o ka holoholona i nīnau ʻia a ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ka holoholona e ke keiki ma mua o ka hanana traumatic. Eia kekahi laʻana, ua hoʻokokoke ke keiki i kahi pōpoki me ka wiwo ʻole, me ka manaʻo ʻaʻole ia he pōʻino no ka mea ua ʻike mua ʻo ia i nā pōpoki maikaʻi loa ma nā wahi ʻē aʻe, inā ma ka ʻoiaʻiʻo a i ʻole ma nā puke a i ʻole nā ​​kiʻi paʻi kiʻi. A ʻo ka ʻoiaʻiʻo o ka ʻoki ʻia ʻana i hana i kahi poloka koke. "Hiki i ka hilinaʻi ʻole o kahi holoholona ke hoʻonui i nā holoholona ʻē aʻe no ka mea e hoʻopili ke keiki i ka pōʻino i nā holoholona āpau", wahi a ka loea.

Ke kū nei me kahi keiki makaʻu i kahi holoholona, ​​pono e pale ʻia kekahi mau ʻano, hoʻomanaʻo ka psychologist:

• e hoʻoikaika i ke keiki e hahau i ka holoholona inā ʻaʻole ʻo ia e makemake a hoʻokokoke paha iā ia (ma ka huki ʻana i ka lima no ka laʻana);
• E hoʻohaʻahaʻa i ke keiki ma ka haʻi ʻana iā ia "ʻaʻole ʻoe he pēpē, ʻaʻohe kumu e makaʻu ai". ʻO ka phobia he makaʻu noʻonoʻo ʻole, ʻaʻohe kumu o ka hoʻāʻo ʻana e ʻimi i nā wehewehe e hōʻoiaʻiʻo i ke keiki. "ʻAʻole e hoʻoponopono kēia ʻano ʻano i ka pilikia a nalowale paha ke keiki i ka hilinaʻi iā ia iho no ka mea hoʻohaʻahaʻa ka makua iā ia," i ʻōlelo ai ʻo Vincent Joly.

No ke kōkua ʻana i kāu keiki liʻiliʻi e hoʻopau i kāna phobia, ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ka lawe ʻana i kēlā me kēia pae. Ke ʻike ʻo ia i ka holoholona, ​​mai hoʻāʻo ʻoe e hoʻokokoke iā ia, e noho ma kona ʻaoʻao a nānā pū i ka ʻīlio, mai kahi mamao aku, no kekahi mau minuke. E ʻike ana ke keiki nona iho ʻaʻole hōʻike ka holoholona i ka ʻano pōʻino. ʻO ka ʻanuʻu ʻelua, e hele ʻoe e hālāwai me ka holoholona, ​​​​me ke keiki ʻole, i ʻike ʻo ia mai kahi mamao aku i ke ʻano o ka ʻīlio me ʻoe.

No ka psychologist, ke kōkua ʻana i ke keiki e hoʻopau i kāna phobia o nā holoholona, ​​​​ʻo ia hoʻi ka wehewehe ʻana iā ia i ke ʻano o kā mākou hana ʻana me kahi holoholona i mea e pale ai i ka lilo ʻana i mea pōʻino a e aʻo iā ia e ʻike i nā hōʻailona o ka huhū o ka holoholona.

“No ke kanaka makua, he mau mea ma'amau a loaa keia, aka, he mea hou no ke keiki: aole e hoopilikia i ka holoholona i kana ai ana, aole e hoohuoi ma ka huki ana i kona mau pepeiao a me kona huelo, e hahau malie ia ia a ma ke ala o ka holoholona. ka lauoho, ka neʻe ʻana mai kahi ʻīlio uwē a i ʻole ka pōpoki kuha, etc. ”, wehewehe ka psychologist.

He mea maʻamau ka Phobia i nā keiki, ma waena o 3 a 7 mau makahiki. ʻO ka mea pōmaikaʻi, i ka ulu ʻana o ke keiki, ua pau kona makaʻu i kona hoʻomaopopo ʻana i ka pōʻino a ua aʻo ʻo ia e hoʻokala iā lākou. E pili ana i ka makaʻu i nā holoholona, ​​ʻoi aku ka nui o nā holoholona e like me nā pōpoki, nā ʻīlio, nā lapeti; e hele mau ana i ka manawa. Eia naʻe, ua manaʻo ʻia kēia makaʻu he pathological ke lōʻihi ka manawa a loaʻa nā hopena nui i ke ola o ke keiki i kēlā me kēia lā. “I ka wā mua, pale ke keiki i ka hahau ʻana i ka holoholona, ​​a laila haʻalele ʻo ia i ka holoholona ke ʻike ʻo ia, a laila haʻalele ʻo ia i nā wahi e hiki ai iā ia ke hele i ka holoholona a i ʻole e ʻae ʻo ia e hālāwai me ka holoholona i mua o ke kanaka hilinaʻi e like me kona makuahine a makua kāne paha. ʻO kēia mau hoʻolālā āpau a ke keiki e hoʻokomo ai e lilo ia i mea kīnā i kona ola i kēlā me kēia lā. Hiki ke hoʻohana ʻia kahi kūkākūkā me kahi psychologist ", aʻo ʻo Vincent Joly.

Ke hoʻopili ʻia ka makaʻu o nā holoholona i ka hopohopo a loaʻa ke keiki i nā hopohopo ʻē aʻe a me nā hopohopo ʻē aʻe, ʻaʻole ka hoʻonā ʻana i ka phobia o nā holoholona akā e ʻimi e ʻimi i ke kumu o kona hopohopo ākea.