He nui nā mea i kākau ʻia a ʻōlelo ʻia e pili ana i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo o ka huhū a me ka huhū i nā mākua e pale iā mākou mai ka neʻe ʻana i mua. Ke kamaʻilio nei nā mea a pau e pili ana i ke ʻano nui o ke aʻo ʻana i ke kala ʻana, akā pehea e hana ai inā ʻeha mākou a ʻeha?
“E nana, ua hana au.
Na wai i ʻōlelo iā ʻoe hiki iā ʻoe? Manaʻo nui ʻoe iā ʻoe iho. ʻAʻole i ʻae ʻia ka papahana.
— Aponoia. Ua hookomo au i ko'u uhane a pau iloko.
— E noonoo oe. ʻAʻole manaʻo e hoʻokomo i ka ʻuhane i ka lolo. A ʻaʻole ʻoe i hoaaloha me ia mai ka wā kamaliʻi, ʻōlelo mau wau pēlā.
Hoʻohuli ʻo Tanya i kēia kamaʻilio kūloko me kona makuahine e like me kahi moʻolelo haki i kona poʻo. E ʻae ʻia ka papahana, e loli ke kumuhana o ke kamaʻilio ʻana, akā ʻaʻole pili kēia i ke ʻano o ke kamaʻilio. Hoʻopaʻapaʻa a hoʻopaʻapaʻa ʻo Tanya. Lawe ʻo ia i nā kiʻekiʻe hou, uhaʻi i ka hoʻomaikaʻi ʻana o nā hoaaloha a me nā hoahana, akā ʻaʻole ʻae ka makuahine i kona poʻo e ʻike i ka pono o kāna kaikamahine. ʻAʻole ʻo ia i manaʻoʻiʻo i nā mana o Tanya a ʻaʻole manaʻoʻiʻo ʻoiai inā lilo ʻo Tanya i pelekikena o Rusia āpau. No kēia, ʻaʻole e kala ʻo Tanya iā ia. ʻAʻole loa.
ʻOi aku ka paʻakikī o Julia. I ka manawa i haʻalele ai kona makuahine i kona makuakāne, ʻaʻole i hāʻawi i kāna kaikamahine hoʻokahi makahiki i hoʻokahi manawa e ʻike ai i ke aloha o kona makuakāne. I kona ola ʻana a pau, ua lohe ʻo Yulia i ka hackneyed "he kao nā kāne a pau" a ʻaʻole hoʻi i kāhāhā i ka wā i hoʻopaʻa ai kona makuahine i ke kāne hou a Yulia i hana ʻia me ka inoa like. Ua hoʻomanawanui ʻo ke kāne me ka wiwo ʻole i ka ʻōlelo hōʻino mua, akā ʻaʻole hiki iā ia ke kāohi i ka hoʻouka kaua ʻana o kona makuahōnōwai wahine no ka manawa lōʻihi: hoʻopaʻa ʻo ia i kāna ʻeke a hoʻi i loko o ka ʻehu o ka wā e hiki mai ana. ʻAʻole i hoʻopaʻapaʻa ʻo Julia me kona makuahine, akā ua huhū wale ʻo ia iā ia. Mea make.
He aha kā mākou e ʻōlelo ai no Kate. Ua lawa iā ia ke pani i kona mau maka no ke kekona, ʻoiai ʻo ia e ʻike ana i kona makuakāne me kahi kaula lole ma kona lima. A me nā ʻili liʻiliʻi ma ka ʻili ʻulaʻula. I ka hala ʻana o nā makahiki, hoʻohui ka kaleidoscope o ka hopena i nā kiʻi ʻē aʻe, akā ʻaʻole ʻike ʻo Katya iā lākou. Ua paʻi ʻia ma kona mau maka ke kiʻi o kahi kaikamahine liʻiliʻi e uhi ana i kona mau maka mai ka hahau ʻana. I loko o kona puʻuwai he ʻāpana hau, mau loa, ʻoiai ʻo nā glaciers ma luna o Everest mau loa. E haʻi mai iaʻu, hiki anei ke kala aku?
ʻOiai inā i kēia manawa ua ʻike ka makuahine i nā mea āpau a ke hoʻāʻo nei e hoʻoponopono i nā hewa o kona wā ʻōpio, ʻaʻole ia i hiki ke hoʻomalu.
He paʻakikī ke kala aku i kou mau mākua i kekahi manawa. I kekahi manawa paʻakikī loa. Akā ʻoiai ʻaʻole hiki ke kala ʻia ka hana kala ʻana, e like me ka pono. ʻAʻole i ko mākou mau mākua, iā mākou iho.
He aha ka hopena ke huhū mākou iā lākou?
- Paʻa kekahi hapa o mākou i ka wā i hala, lawe ikaika a hoʻopau i ka ikehu. ʻAʻohe manawa a makemake ʻole e nānā i mua, e hele, e hana. ʻOi aku ka nui o nā kamaʻilio noʻonoʻo me nā mākua ma mua o nā hoʻopiʻi hoʻopiʻi. Hoʻopiʻi ʻia nā ʻōhumu i ka lepo e ke kaumaha o nā mea kaua naita. ʻAʻole nā mākua - mākou.
- Ke hoʻopiʻi nei i nā mākua, lawe mākou i ke kūlana o kahi keiki liʻiliʻi ʻole. Zero kuleana, akā nui nā manaʻolana a me nā koi. Hāʻawi i ke aloha, hāʻawi i ka ʻike, a ma ke ʻano laulā, e lokomaikaʻi, e hāʻawi. He papa inoa makemake.
E maikaʻi nā mea a pau, ʻaʻole hiki i nā mākua ke hoʻokō i kēia mau makemake. ʻOiai inā i ka makuahine i kēia manawa ua ʻike i nā mea āpau a ke hoʻāʻo nei e hoʻoponopono i nā hewa o kona wā ʻōpio, ʻaʻole ia i hiki ke hoʻomalu. Ua hōʻeha mākou i ka wā i hala, akā ʻaʻole hiki ke hoʻololi. Hoʻokahi wale nō mea i koe: e ulu i loko a lawe i ke kuleana no kou ola. Inā makemake maoli ʻoe, e hele i nā koi no ka mea i loaʻa ʻole a hōʻike iā lākou i mea e pani hope ai i ka gestalt. Akā, hou, ʻaʻole i ko lākou mau mākua - iā lākou iho.
- ʻO ka huhū huna a ʻike paha e hoʻomālamalama i nā haʻalulu, ʻaʻole i ka lokomaikaʻi a me ka hauʻoli - negativity. ʻO ka mea a mākou e hoʻopuka ai, ʻo ia ka mea i loaʻa iā mākou. He mea kupanaha anei ka hewa pinepine. ʻAʻole nā mākua - mākou.
- A ʻo ka mea nui: inā makemake mākou a ʻaʻole paha, lawe mākou i kahi ʻāpana o ko mākou mau mākua i loko o mākou. ʻAʻole ʻo koʻu makuahine ka leo o koʻu poʻo, ʻo kā mākou ponoʻī. Ke hōʻole mākou i ka makuahine a i ʻole ka makuakāne, hōʻole mākou i kahi ʻāpana o mākou iho.
Paʻakikī ke kūlana ma muli o mākou, e like me nā sponges, ua komo mākou i nā ʻano o nā ʻano makua. ʻO ka hana kala ʻole ʻia. ʻĀnō, i ka wā e haʻi hou ai mākou i ka ʻōlelo a ko mākou makuahine i loko o ko mākou naʻau me kā mākou mau keiki ponoʻī, e hoʻōho a i ʻole, ʻaʻole mai ke Akua, e paʻi, hāʻule koke lākou: he ʻano ʻino. ʻO nā hoʻopiʻi me ke kuleana ʻole i ka hoʻopono. Pā o ka inaina. ʻAʻole wale i kou mau mākua. Nou iho.
Pehea e hoʻololi ai?
Ke hoʻāʻo nei kekahi e haʻalele i ka pōʻai ʻino o nā hiʻohiʻona inaina ma ka pāpā ʻana. E hoʻomanaʻo i ka ʻōlelo hoʻohiki āu i hana ai i kou wā kamaliʻi, "ʻAʻole loa wau e like me kēia ke ulu au"? Akā ʻaʻole kōkua ka pāpā. I ka wā ʻaʻole mākou i loko o ka punawai, hoʻokaʻawale nā palapala makua mai o mākou e like me ka makani ʻino, e kokoke ana e lawe i ka hale, a me Ellie, a me Toto me ia. A lawe aku ia.
Pehea la? Noho ka lua o ka koho: holoi i ka inaina mai ka ʻuhane. Manaʻo pinepine mākou ua like ka "kala ʻana" me ka "hōʻoia." Akā inā e hōʻoiaʻiʻo wau i ka hoʻomāinoino kino a i ʻole ka manaʻo, ʻaʻole wale wau e hoʻomau i ka ʻae ʻana iaʻu iho e mālama ʻia ma kēia ʻano, akā e hoʻomaka wau e hana like. He hoopunipuni.
Ua like ka kala ʻana i ka ʻae ʻana. Ua like ka ʻae ʻana i ka ʻike. ʻO ka pinepine e pili ana i ka hoʻomaopopo ʻana i ka ʻeha o haʻi, no ka mea, ʻo ia wale nō ke koi e hoʻokau i ka ʻeha ma luna o kekahi. Inā ʻike mākou i ka ʻeha o kekahi, a laila aloha mākou a kala hope, akā ʻaʻole kēia manaʻo e hoʻomaka mākou e hana like.
Pehea e kala ai i kou mau makua?
ʻO ke kala kala ʻoiaʻiʻo e hele mau i ʻelua mau pae. ʻO ka mea mua e hoʻokuʻu i nā manaʻo maikaʻi ʻole. ʻO ka lua, ʻo ia ka hoʻomaopopo ʻana i ka mea i hoʻoikaika i ka lawehala a me ke kumu i hāʻawi ʻia mai iā mākou.
Hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻokuʻu i nā manaʻo ma o kahi leka o ka huhū. Eia kekahi o nā leka:
“E Māmā / Pāpā aloha!
Huhu au iā ʻoe no ka…
Ke huhū nei au iā ʻoe no ka…
Ua nui koʻu ʻehaʻeha i kou…
Makaʻu loa au i ka…
Ua hoka au i ka…
Ke kaumaha nei au no…
Minamina wau i kēlā…
Mahalo wau iā ʻoe no…
Ke noi aku nei au i kou kala ʻana no…
Aloha wau iā ʻoe".
ʻAʻole loaʻa ke kala ʻana i ka poʻe nāwaliwali. No ka poe ikaika ke kala ana. Paʻa ka naʻau, ikaika ka ʻuhane, ikaika i ke aloha
ʻO ka pinepine, pono ʻoe e kākau ma mua o hoʻokahi manawa. ʻO ka manawa kūpono e hoʻopau ai i ka ʻenehana inā ʻaʻohe mea hou e ʻōlelo ai ma nā helu mua. ʻO ke aloha a me ka mahalo wale nō i koe i loko o ka ʻuhane.
Ke pau nā manaʻo maikaʻi ʻole, hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻomau i ka hana. ʻO ka mua, e nīnau iā ʻoe iho ma ke kākau ʻana i ka nīnau: no ke aha i hana ai ʻo makuahine a makua paha i kēia? Inā hoʻokuʻu maoli ʻoe i ka ʻeha, ma ka pae ʻelua e loaʻa koke iā ʻoe ka pane ma ka ʻuhane o "no ka mea ʻaʻole lākou i ʻike i ka hana ʻē aʻe, ʻaʻole lākou i ʻike, no ka mea, ua makemake ʻole ʻia lākou, no ka mea, ua hānai ʻia lākou. kēlā ala. E kākau a hiki i kou manaʻo me kou puʻuwai a pau: hāʻawi ʻo Māmā a me Pāpā i ka mea hiki iā lāua. ʻAʻohe mea ʻē aʻe iā lākou.
Hiki i ka mea noiʻi ke nīnau i ka nīnau hope loa: no ke aha i hāʻawi ʻia ai kēia kūlana iaʻu? ʻAʻole wau e manaʻo - e loaʻa iā ʻoe nā pane. Manaʻo wau e hāʻawi lākou iā ʻoe i ka ho'ōla hope loa.
A hope loa. ʻAʻole loaʻa ke kala ʻana i ka poʻe nāwaliwali. No ka poe ikaika ke kala ana. Paʻa ka naʻau, ikaika ka ʻuhane, ikaika i ke aloha. Inā pili kēia iā ʻoe, e kala mai i kou mau mākua.