Ua hala nā lā ke kali nā makuakāne o ka wā e hiki mai ana ma ke alaloa e waiho ana i kā lākou hoa i ke ola. I kēia lā, ʻoi aku ka nui o lākou e hoʻopili nei i loko o ka hāpai ʻana. Akā ma D-Day, paʻakikī kekahi manawa iā lākou e ʻike a, ma mua o nā mea āpau, e lawe i ko lākou wahi.

Ke hōʻike nei nā kuʻikahi i ka hoʻomaka ʻana o ka hana, ʻo ka hopohopo nui ʻole o nā makuahine e kū nei ʻaʻole paha i hiki i ka manawa no ka hānau makuahine, a i ʻole nā ​​hihia i hiki ʻole ke aʻoaʻo aku i kā lākou hoa. ʻO ka mea nui i ke hoʻokokoke ʻana o ka huaʻōlelo e hiki ke kiʻi paʻa ʻia.

ʻO ke kākau inoa ʻana no ka hale mālama makuahine i hana mau ʻia i mau mahina ma mua, ʻo nā mea i koe ka hāʻawi ʻana i ka kāleka nui a me ka kāleka ʻinikua olakino o ka makuahine, a me kāna faila olakino (ultrasounds, hōʻike a ka wā makuahine. a koho ʻia me ka anesthesiologist ...), a hoʻopiha i kahi palapala. Hiki ke hana ʻia e ka makuakāne a me ka makuahine e hiki mai ana.

ʻAʻole maʻalahi ia no nā makuakāne e hiki mai ana e ʻike i ko lākou wahi i ka wā hānau. ʻAʻohe kōkua o kekahi i ke alo o ka hoʻoliʻiliʻi e wili i kā lākou hoa i ka ʻeha ma loko o ka hana. ʻO ka hele pū ʻana i ka wā hānau a me nā kau hoʻomākaukau makua hiki ke kōkua iā lākou e hōʻemi i ka mana ʻole, ʻo ia hoʻi ka haptonomy a me ka hana Bonapace e aʻo ai iā lākou e pili ana i ka hoʻomaha ʻana i kā lākou hoa. Makaʻu nā poʻe ʻē aʻe e huli i ko lākou mau maka i ka manawa o ke kipaku ʻia. A i ʻole kēia ʻāpana o ka hānau hānau ʻaʻole e hōʻeha i kā lākou libido ma hope. ʻO nā mea ʻē aʻe, ua hoʻopukapuka loa ʻia a hoʻopau lākou, me ka ʻike ʻole, ma ka hoʻonāukiuki ʻana i ka makuahine o ka wā e hiki mai ana a me ka hui kauka. ʻO ka mea ʻoi loa, e hōʻalo i nā hoka, e kūkākūkā pū, me kahi poʻo hoʻomaha, maikaʻi ma mua o ka hānau hānau, ke ala e ʻike ai kēlā me kēia i nā mea. Ma ke ʻano he hoʻomanaʻo, aia wale nō i kekahi kanaka ke kuleana e hele i ka wā hānau. Inā hiki ʻole a makemake ʻole paha ka makuakāne e hiki mai ana, inā makemake ka makuahine e hiki mai ana ʻaʻole ʻo ia e hele, ʻaʻohe mea e pale i ka waiho ʻana i kēia hana i kekahi hoahanau pili ʻē aʻe.

Hōʻike pinepine ka palekeiki a i ʻole ke kauka wahine ʻokiʻoki ka makuakāne hou i ka umbilical cord e hoʻopili mau i ka makuahine i kāna pēpē. Kahi hana ʻeha ʻole a nā kāne he nui e mahalo ai i ke ʻano hōʻailona. Akā inā ʻaʻole ʻoe makemake e hana, mai hoʻoikaika iā ʻoe iho. ʻAʻohe kumu e hewa ai: e loaʻa iā ʻoe nā manawa ʻē aʻe he nui e hoʻopukapuka iā ʻoe iho.

I ka wā ma mua, e ʻauʻau ka pēpē i kāna lumi ʻauʻau mua ma ka lumi hāʻawi a hāʻawi ʻia kēia hana i ka makuakāne hou i ka wā e hoʻomaha ana ka hānau hānau a loaʻa ka mālama kūpono. Akā ʻoi aku ka pinepine a kali pinepine ke kali i 24 a i ʻole 48 mau hola e ʻauʻau ai i ka pēpē. Pēlā ʻo ia e pōmaikaʻi iki ai mai nā ʻano pale o vernix, kahi mea keʻokeʻo a aila hoʻi i uhi i kona ʻili i kahi maikaʻi o ka hāpai ʻana. Aia nō ia i ka makuakāne, inā makemake ʻo ia, i ka hana o ke ʻaukā ʻana i kāna keiki hānau hou, alakaʻi pinepine ʻia i kāna hana e ka mea kōkua mālama keiki. Ma mua, hiki iā ia ke hāʻawi ʻia e hoʻomaʻamaʻa i ka ʻili i ka ʻili me ka pēpē, no ka laʻana inā loaʻa kahi cesarean i kona makuahine.