PSYchology

He hau kona puʻuwai, a ua like kona ʻano anu me he hau hau. Me he mea lā ʻaʻole ia i manaʻo i kekahi mea: hiki iā ia ke hōʻoia iā ʻoe e like me ka theorem, akā ʻaʻole hiki iā ia ke hōʻike i ke komo ʻana. Kāhea ʻo Coach Leonid Krol i kēlā poʻe Kayami a manaʻoʻiʻo ʻaʻole lākou he pahū. He aha lākou?

Hoʻomanaʻo mākou a pau i ka moʻolelo moʻolelo e pili ana i ke keiki ʻo Kai, nona ka puʻuwai i "paʻakikī a hau" no nā ʻāpana o ke aniani o ka diabolo. Ua hiki iā ia ke hoʻihoʻi hou i nā manaʻo a lilo iā ia iho no ke aloha o Gerda. A pehea ʻo Kai, ka mea hiki iā mākou ke hālāwai ma ke ola maoli? Hiki iā ʻoe ke aʻo iā ia i ka manaʻo?

He aha kā mākou ʻike no Kai?

  • Pili koke ʻo ia i nā kānaka. ʻAʻole manaʻoʻiʻo ʻo Kai i kona hauʻoli a me ke kūpaʻa o nā manaʻo o kekahi kanaka, no laila e nānā mau ʻo ia i kona ikaika a hauʻoli i kēlā me kēia manawa i ka hopena, akā ʻaʻole ia e hōʻike i nā manaʻo. I ka manawa like, ua hōʻike ʻia ʻo ia e ka hoʻololi ʻana mai "makemake wau e mālama" i ka mālama ʻana i ke kūʻokoʻa a me ke kūʻokoʻa. E hōʻike iā ia i ka manaʻo like, mālie, mau, akā i kekahi manawa e lawe iā ia ma kou mau lima, no ka mea, "he kanaka makua a liʻiliʻi loa."
  • Makaʻu i kona manaʻo. Ua makaʻala ʻo Kai i ka ʻae ʻana he "ʻino" ʻo ia a hōʻole i ka hiki ke inaina. A ma ka laulā, mālama ʻo ia i nā manaʻo ikaika a pau: makemake ʻo ia a makaʻu iā lākou.
  • Nui kona mau makaʻu liʻiliʻi. Aia nā makaʻu nui - no ka laʻana, e make a hele pupule. Ma ʻaneʻi, mālama ʻo Kai iā lākou me ka mālie. Makaʻu ʻo ia i ka hōʻole ʻia, nāwaliwali, kūpono ʻole, no laila ke nīnau mau nei ʻo ia iā ia iho i ka nīnau: "He ikaika a nāwaliwali paha."
  • Hoʻokaʻawale i nā manaʻo āpau i nā ʻāpana a hui hou i kāna mana. ʻO nā mea a pau a Kai e hoʻopā ai e lilo i «na» - me he mea lā e kau ana ʻo ia i kāna hōʻailona a sila paha.
  • ʻO kona kūlana ʻino - nele i ka makemake, ka hoʻoikaika a me ka ikaika. ʻAʻole hiki iā Kai ke hana ke loaʻa ʻole iā ia nā mea a pau e hoʻomau mau iā ia e neʻe i mua. Ma kēia moku'āina, e ʻike ʻia i ka interlocutor ʻaʻole e hoʻohuli ʻia nā kāʻei o Kai - i mua ona he log inert maʻalahi.
  • Hōʻike i nā manaʻo polarized i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe. ʻAʻohe kumu gula: he mea kiʻekiʻe loa ia, a i ʻole - stiffness a me ke anuanu, no ka mea ʻaʻole hiki iā ia ke nānā pono i nā ʻike o ka interlocutor.
  • Kakaikahi wale no. ʻO ka pinepine, hiki ke loaʻa ʻo Kai i kahi hui aloha a mehana. Ua ʻimi ʻo ia i nā mea like a hana iā lākou iho, akā nalowale koke ka pilina me nā mea komo.

Ke aʻo me Kai

I ka hana pū ʻana me Kai, he mea nui ka mālie a me ka paʻa ʻana, inā ʻaʻole hiki ke hoʻihoʻi hou ʻia a me nā regressions. He mea nui hoʻi ka manaʻo o ke aloha a me ka hilinaʻi, ke mele a me ka leo, i nele ʻo ia, akā mahalo ʻo ia i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe.

  • Hoʻopili mau i kona kino. Ponoʻoe eʻimi i nā kumu likeʻole no kēia, akā hiki iāʻoe ke hoʻomaka me nā hana kino, a me nā mea pōkole. Hoʻomanaʻo lākou i ka paʻa o ke kino, ʻo ia ka mea e hāʻawi iā Kai i ka manaʻo o ke ola ʻana. "I ka wā e hiki mai ana, ʻaʻohe mea e ʻai iaʻu," ʻoliʻoli ʻo ia.
  • E aʻo iā ia ma kahi kālepa. E lilo i mea hana kāma'a, humuhumu, wili, kamamana… Ho'āla a hoʻomaʻamaʻa ʻo Kai. Eia kekahi, ʻoi aku ka nui o ka hana, ʻoi aku ka liʻiliʻi o kāna ʻōhumu ʻana iā ia iho.
  • E kūkākūkā me Kai. ʻO ka mea mua, pono e hana abstractly: i nā kūlana, na wai a pehea lākou e hōʻike ai iā lākou iho, no ka laʻana, i nā puke a me nā kiʻiʻoniʻoni. A laila hoʻolauleʻa iā lākou i ke ola. E aʻo ʻo ia e hoʻoponopono i kona mau manaʻo ponoʻī, a laila ʻo nā poʻe ʻē aʻe: "E noʻonoʻo ʻoe i koʻu manaʻo i kou haʻi ʻana mai iaʻu i kēia ʻano leo."
  • Mai hoʻokuʻu iā ia i waho o kona mau maka. Pono ʻo ia e hana ma kāna iho a me kona makemake ponoʻī. ʻAʻole maloʻo ka makemake a me nā manaʻo i lalo - aia mau kahi mea i koe, no laila ʻaʻole pono ʻoe e huki iā lākou i waho ma o ka "e hele mai, hoʻokahi, ʻelua."
  • Mai haʻalele ʻoe iā Kai i kāna ʻike noʻonoʻo. Nui, maʻalahi iā ia i loko, ʻoi aku ka maʻalahi ma mua o ka mea maoli. Mai hāʻawi i kāna "maikaʻi mākou ma ʻaneʻi, ua like mākou me ka ʻōpū o ko mākou makuahine, no ke aha mākou e makemake ai i kahi ʻano honua ma waho?". Mai hoʻopunipuni ʻia e nā kamaʻilio theoretical maʻamau, e kauo iā ia i ke ola - me ka mālie a me ka hoʻomau.

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