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He mea maʻamau ka moe ʻana o ke keiki me kona mau mākua?
I mea e pilikia ʻole ai i ka wā e hiki mai ana, pono ʻoe e kau pololei i nā accents mai ka manawa i ʻike ʻia ai ke keiki hou i loko o ka hale. ʻOi aku ka maikaʻi ma mua o kona hānau ʻana e kūʻai i kahi moena no ka pēpē a hoʻokomo iā ia ma kahi kūpono. Eia nō naʻe, ʻoiai me kahi moena maikaʻi, waiho mau ka makuahine i ke keiki me ia ma kahi moe. A ʻoi aku ka maʻalahi o ka hānai ʻana - ʻaʻole pono ʻoe e ala aʻe, a ma ke ʻano nui - aia ka ʻuhane. Akā ʻo ka mea nui ʻaʻole ia e waiho i nā maʻamau.
- Hiki ke moe maʻamau a hiki i 2 mau makahiki. A ma ke ala, ʻoi aku ka maʻalahi o ka hoʻopanee ʻana i kahi keiki a hiki i 2 mau makahiki ma mua o ka hana ʻana ma hope keiki psychologist, neuropsychologist Natalia Dorokhina. - Inā hoʻopaneʻe ʻoe i ka manawa, hoʻomaka nā pilikia like ʻole. No ka laʻana, inā hoʻolōʻihi ʻia ka moe hui i kahi makahiki ma hope, e ulu ana ke keiki, e like me ka mea i kapa ʻia i loko o ka psychology, he libidinal attraction, a i ka wā e hiki mai ana e loaʻa iā ia nā pilikia i ka moe kolohe. Eia naʻe, inā lohi ka hiamoe hui, a laila hiki ke hoʻonui ʻia ka pilikia o ka kaʻawale, ʻo ia hoʻi, ka kaʻawale ʻana o ke keiki mai nā mākua.
No laila, inā loaʻa i ke keiki kahi moena no nā keiki hānau hou, pono e hoʻololi ʻia me kahi moena e like me ka makahiki. A inā ʻaʻole loa a moe ka pēpē me kona mau mākua mai ka hānau ʻana mai, a i ʻole he wahi moe keu, a laila ma ka piha ʻana o nā makahiki ʻelua e pono ke keiki i kona wahi moe ponoʻī.
"ʻAʻole pono ʻoe e loaʻa i kou lumi ponoʻī - ma hope o nā mea a pau, ʻaʻole i loaʻa i kēlā me kēia kanaka ke kūlana noho, akā pono i ka pēpē ke loaʻa i kona moena ponoʻī," wahi a kā mākou loea.
Ka waiu keiki e moe me na makua
Inā moe ka pēpē ma lalo o ka pale like me kona makuahine mai kona hānau ʻana, hiki i nā loli koke ke lilo i mea kaumaha. Pehea e wikiwiki ai a ma ka manawa like ʻole e wean i kahi keiki mai ka hiamoe ʻana me kona mau mākua?
- Hoʻopilikia ia i ke ʻano o nā mākua. Pono lākou e manaʻoʻiʻo i ka waiwai o ke keiki, hiki iā ia ke hiamoe maikaʻi wale nō, wahi a Natalya Dorokhina. - A ma keʻano laulā, he mea nui ka ʻōnaehana ʻohana holoʻokoʻa: pili ke keiki me nā mākua i ka lā, ʻapo ka makuahine i ke keiki, ua hāmama ka naʻau iā ia. Inā ʻaʻole lawa kēia a ʻaʻole lawa paha, a laila hiki i ka hiamoe ke lilo i mea koʻikoʻi no ke keiki, ke loaʻa ʻo ia i kahi pili pono me kona mau mākua, loaʻa iā ia ka mea i nele i ka lā. No laila, ʻo ka mea mua, no ka palekana a me ka wikiwiki e wean i kahi keiki mai ka hiamoe ʻana me nā mākua, pono ʻoe e nānā i kēia mau helu: ua mākaukau ke keiki psychologically a loaʻa iā ia ke aloha a me ke aloha i ka lā.
Hoʻomaʻa mākou i ke keiki i kona wahi moe
Pehea e hana ai i nā ʻanuʻu ʻelua?
Pani 1: E kūʻai i kahi moe, e hoʻokomo i loko o ke keʻena a hāʻawi i kāu pēpē i manawa e maʻa ai. Pono e haʻi aku i ke keiki ʻo kona wahi moe kēia, kona wahi moe, kahi e moe ai.
Pani 2: E lawe a hoʻokomo i ke keiki ma kahi moe kaʻawale.
"I ka wā mua, hiki i ka makuahine ke kokoke, e hahau ana i ke keiki, me ka ʻōlelo ʻana ua maikaʻi nā mea āpau," wahi a ke keiki psychologist. “I kēia manawa, ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke haʻalele i kahi, haʻalele. ʻO ka hana a ka makuahine ke hoʻopaʻa i nā manaʻo o ke keiki, ʻo ia hoʻi, e kōkua iā ia e hoʻoponopono i nā manaʻo maikaʻi ʻole, no ka mea hiki iā ia ke hopohopo, makaʻu. Akā inā hana pololei nā mākua, e hoʻomākaukau i ka pēpē ma mua no kona wahi moe, hāʻawi i ka meaʻai pono a me ke kino, ʻaʻohe pilikia. Hiki mai nā pilikia ke loaʻa nā pilikia i loko o ka ʻohana: no ka laʻana, inā haʻalele ʻia ka makua kāne mai kēia ʻōnaehana, ua anuanu ka manaʻo o ka makuahine a paʻakikī paha ke ʻike i nā manaʻo o ke keiki.
E hana i nā hewa: moe hou ke keiki me nā mākua
Me he mea lā ʻaʻohe mea paʻakikī. A, ʻoi aku paha, e maʻa koke ke keiki i nā kūlana hou. Akā pinepine nā hewa e alakaʻi i nā pilikia.
- ʻO ka hewa nui, ʻaʻole mākaukau ka makua no ka hoʻokuʻu ʻana i ke keiki, a i ka wā e ʻike ai ʻo ia i ka huhū mua o kāna keiki, hoʻihoʻi koke ʻo ia iā ia i kona wahi moe. I ka wā e hiki mai ai kēia, hana ka mīkini: hoʻomaopopo ke keiki inā e hoʻokaʻawale hou ʻia ʻo ia, a hōʻike ʻo ia i ka ʻoluʻolu, ʻoi aku paha, e hoʻihoʻi kona makuahine iā ia i kona wahi moe. ʻO ka hiki ʻole a me ka like ʻole kekahi o nā hewa maʻamau a nā mākua, wahi a kā mākou loea. - ʻO ka lua o ka hewa maʻamau i ka wā e huki ai nā mākua a hiki i ka makahiki o ke keiki, ke manaʻo ʻole ʻo ia e hiki iā ʻoe ke moe kaʻawale mai kou mau mākua. I loko o kāna ʻike honua aia kahi ʻōnaehana i hiki ʻole ke kaʻawale kona makuahine iā ia. ʻO kēia kahi e komo ai nā pilikia kaʻawale.
ʻOiaʻiʻo ma waena o kā mākou poʻe heluhelu e ʻōlelo ana: ʻo kaʻu keiki ponoʻī i hōʻike i ka makemake e moe kaʻawale. A ma muli o ka haʻi pinepine ʻana o nā mākua i kā lākou ʻike i kekahi i kekahi ma nā ʻaha kūkā a me nā kahua pāʻani, hānau ʻia kahi stereotype e hoʻoholo ai kahi keiki i kekahi mau makahiki nona iho ua mākaukau ʻo ia e hiamoe kaʻawale. Akā, pololei anei?
"ʻO kaʻoiaʻiʻo, aia nā keiki i ka makahiki 2 e hōʻike nei i ka makemake e moe kaʻawale, akā pinepine ka hoʻololi ʻana i ke kuleana i ke keiki," wahi a Natalia Dorokhina. – A hiki i nā keiki he 12 makahiki e moe kokoke ana i ko lākou mau mākua. Akā, he pilikia nui loa kēia. Ma keʻano laulā, ʻoi aku ka nui o ka psychology i ka moe pū ʻana ma mua o ka mea i ʻike mua ʻia. ʻAʻole maikaʻi ka ʻoki ʻana i ke keiki e moe i ka moena o ka makua inā ʻaʻole mākaukau ka makua i loko. A inā ʻoe e wean aggressively, mai ʻae i nā manaʻo o ke keiki, e haʻalele i kona mau makaʻu, hiki ke hōʻeha kēia. Akā inā hoʻokuʻu ka makuahine i ke pēpē a aia ma laila, kākoʻo iā ia, hāʻawi iā ia i kahi kokoke e pono ai i ka lā, pono e holo pono nā mea a pau.