Me Christophe Martail, psychologist-psychoanalyst ma kahi kikowaena makuahine a me kahi home o nā keiki me kahi ʻano pilikino.
"Ua hui au me ko'u hoa ma 14, he 17 a me ka hapa kona. Le grand Amour… Me ka wikiwiki, makemake au e hoʻomaka i ʻohana, ʻo ia kaʻu mea nui! ʻAʻole maikaʻi koʻu manaʻo, ua nalo wau i kekahi mea. Mai ka 15 o koʻu makahiki, ua noi au i kaʻu mea aloha i pēpē. ʻAʻole naʻe ʻo ia i mākaukau a loaʻa iaʻu he ʻōpiopio loa: ʻaʻole ʻo ia i hewa. I ka hala ʻana o nā makahiki, loaʻa iaʻu kaʻu Baccalaureate S. I ka wā i hoʻokuʻu ʻia mai kēia pahuhopu, ua ʻōlelo wau iaʻu iho ʻo ia ka manawa e loaʻa ai kēia keiki i makemake nui ʻia. Ua noʻonoʻo nui au. He hana ko kaʻu kāne, no laila ua hele mākou! Ua maikaʻi ka mahina ʻelua o ka hoʻāʻo ʻana.
Manaʻo wau ua hoʻomaka koʻu ola i ka lā i hānau ai kaʻu keiki. Ua hoʻopiha ʻia kēia hemahema aʻu i manaʻo ai no nā makahiki he nui, ke ola wale nei au nona i kēia manawa. Lawe wau iā ia i nā mea a pau aʻu e hāʻawi aku ai iā ia. Aia nō koʻu kāne. Aloha nui kāua i kekahi i kekahi. ” Elodie, 20 makahiki, makuahine o Rafael, 13 mahina.
He aha ka mea e hūnā ai i ka makemake no kahi keiki ʻōpio?
Ka manao o ka emi : Ke noi au i nā kaikamahine ʻōpio e pane i kēia nīnau, wehewehe pinepine lākou iaʻu makemake lākou i kahi keiki e "hoʻoponopono" i ko lākou wā kamaliʻi. ʻO ka hemahema a Elodie i hoʻopuka ai ʻo ia paha ka mea āna i manaʻo ai i kona wā kamaliʻi. Lohe pinepine au mai ka poʻe ʻōpio hāpai aʻu i nīnauele ai: "ʻO kēia pēpē, hiki iaʻu ke hāʻawi hope iā ia i ke aloha a pau ʻaʻole i loaʻa iaʻu." Ma lalo o ka manaʻo, makemake lākou i kahi keiki e "hana maikaʻi" ma mua o ko lākou mau mākua.
ʻO ke kuʻikahi kupaianaha o nā ʻōpio ʻAmelika 18! I Iune 2008, ua haʻi ka nūpepa i kēia ʻike hoihoi: 18 mau kaikamahine kula kiʻekiʻe mai Massachusetts, nā makahiki āpau ma lalo o 16, ua hāpai i ka manawa like a laila hānai pū i kā lākou pēpē! ʻO kahi ala "e loaʻa ai kahi mea aloha iā lākou me ke ʻano ʻole", ua haʻi aku, hauʻoli nui, kekahi o lākou. |