ʻO ka hiʻohiʻona o nā manaʻo palupalu, ka hoʻohiwahiwa ʻana i kahi pili, ʻaʻole naʻe he koko, ʻohana, kaikunāne a kaikuahine paha, e huikau kekahi. Pehea e hana ai me kou mau manao? ʻO ka manaʻo o ka psychotherapist Ekaterina Mikhailova.
"Ke ʻimi nei paha ʻoe i wahi palekana"
ʻO Ekaterina Mikhailova, ka mea hoʻoponopono kino:
Ke kākau nei ʻoe he mau mākua ʻokoʻa ʻoe a me kou kaikuahine a ʻaʻole ʻoe he pili koko, akā i kāu kuleana ʻohana he kaikunāne a me ke kaikuahine. Ke manaʻo nei ʻoe i ka hoʻoulu ʻana i ka moekolohe, huikau ʻoe, makaʻu a hilahila ʻoe i loko o kahi kūlana hiki ʻole ke hoʻomaopopo. Inā ʻaʻole no kēia wehewehe ʻana - «sister», he aha ka mea e pilikia ai ʻoe?
Akā, manaʻo wau he ʻoi aku ka paʻakikī o kēia moʻolelo. Makemake au e nīnau i kēia nīnau i ka wā o kahi kūkākūkā alo a he alo: pehea ʻoe e hoʻomohala ai i ka pilina me nā malihini? Me ka honua waho ma ka laulā? No ka mea, kuhikuhi attraction a hāʻule i loko o ke aloha me ka mea i aloha ai: he hoalauna, classmate, kekahi mea a makou i ike kokoke i ke ola, me ka mea a makou i ulu pu, huli mai ke ao waho i ka kamaaina, keena. ʻO kēia ke ʻano pinepine o ka ʻimi ʻana i kahi wahi palekana, kahi pono no ka hale.
Eia kekahi, ʻo ke aloha canonical e pili ana i kahi mamao, kahi e hiki ai iā ʻoe ke hoʻohālikelike i ka mea o ke aloha, e noʻonoʻo e pili ana iā ia. A laila, ʻoiaʻiʻo, ua emi ka gilding, akā he nīnau ʻē aʻe kēlā.
Hiki ke hōʻike ʻia ke kūlana i wehewehe ʻia penei. ʻO ke kanaka ʻaʻole manaʻo nui i ka honua o waho, makaʻu i ka hōʻole ʻana a i ʻole ka hoʻomāʻewaʻewa, i kekahi manawa e hōʻoiaʻiʻo iā ia iho: ʻaʻohe mea hoihoi iaʻu ma laila, makemake wau i kahi hoalauna a i kahi kaikamahine paha aʻu i noho ai ma kahi pākaukau. he umi makahiki. No ke aha e hopohopo ai a me nā mea i manaʻo ʻole ʻia, inā hiki iā ʻoe ke aloha e like me kēia - me ka mālie a me ka ʻole o ka pīhoihoi?
Ke hōʻike nei kou kānalua he manawa kūpono e aʻo ai i kahi mea hou e pili ana iā ʻoe iho.
ʻOiaʻiʻo, ʻaʻole wau e kāpae i kahi aloha nui maoli ma waena o ka poʻe i ulu pū. A inā, no nā kumu genetic, ʻaʻole i contraindicated iā lākou e lilo i mau kāne, ʻaʻole wau ʻike i ke kumu e pale aku ai i kēlā mau pilina. Akā ʻokoʻa ka nīnau nui: ʻo kāu koho maoli paha, kou mau manaʻo maoli, a i ʻole ʻoe e hoʻāʻo nei e peʻe ma hope o kēia mau pilina? Akā pehea ʻoe e ʻike ai i ka makahiki 19 inā ʻaʻole ʻoe i hoʻāʻo i kekahi mea ʻē aʻe?
E hoʻomaha: mai wikiwiki e hana, mai hoʻoholo wikiwiki. Aia ka manawa nui ma hope o ka manawa e hoʻoholo ai ke kūlana iā ia iho. Iloko o ka manawa nō E ʻoluʻolu e hoʻāʻo e pane pololei i kēia mau nīnau ʻekolu:
- Ke hoʻāʻo nei ʻoe e pani i ka huakaʻi, hele i ka honua me kahi mea maʻamau a palekana? Aia nā hopohopo e hōʻole ʻia e kēia ao ma hope o kēia koho?
- He aha nā mea e pili ana i kēlā mau ʻike erotic āu e ʻike ai? Manaʻo ʻoe i ka hopohopo, ka hilahila, ka makaʻu? Pehea ke koʻikoʻi o kēia kumuhana o ka uhaki ʻana i ke kapu o ka pilina pili i loko o ka ʻohana, "symbolic incest", iā ʻoe, a pehea ʻoe e hana ai?
- Hiki iā mākou a pau ke ʻike i nā manaʻo like ʻole, me nā mea i pāpā ʻia: ka huhū i kahi keiki liʻiliʻi, e hauʻoli ana i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo ʻaʻole i kūpono kekahi mea no ko mākou mau mākua i ke ola. ʻAʻole wau e kamaʻilio e pili ana i nā manaʻo moe kolohe e pili ana i kahi mea kūpono ʻole. ʻO ia hoʻi, hiki iā mākou ke ʻike i kekahi mea i ka hohonu o ko mākou ʻuhane. Kūlike ʻole ko mākou mau manaʻo me ko mākou hānai ʻana. ʻO ka nīnau: he aha ka mea ma waena o kāu mea i ʻike ai a pehea ʻoe e hana ai?
Manaʻo wau e hōʻike ana kāu mau kānalua e loaʻa iā ʻoe kahi manawa e aʻo ai i kahi mea hou e pili ana iā ʻoe iho. ʻO ka hoʻololi ʻana i nā manaʻo i mea no ka nānā ʻana iā ʻoe iho a me ka nānā ʻana ʻo ia paha ka hana nui e pono ai ke hana i kēia kūlana. A ʻo ka hoʻoholo āu e hana ai, ʻaʻole ia he mea nui. I ka hopena, ʻo kēlā me kēia koho a mākou e hana ai he kumu kūʻai.