"Makemake au a makemake wau": nā ʻāpana mai ka puke a Mikhail Labkovsky

Inā makemake ʻoe e mare, hui a noho pū paha no ʻeono mahina a i ʻole hoʻokahi makahiki a ʻaʻohe mea e hiki, pono ʻoe e hoʻāʻo e hāʻawi iā ʻoe iho. Inā ʻaʻole mākaukau ke kāne e hoʻomaka i kahi ʻohana, a laila ua hiki i ka manawa e haʻi aloha aku iā ia. Ma ke ala maikaʻi, ʻoiaʻiʻo. E like me, mālama au iā ʻoe me ka ʻoluʻolu a e hoʻomau i ka ʻuhane hoʻokahi, akā mamao aku iā ʻoe.

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Manaʻo kekahi i ke koho ʻana i hoa e hoʻoponopono i ko lākou mau pilikia. Material, psychological, hale, reproductive. ʻO kēia kekahi o nā hewa maʻamau a make. ʻO nā hui pono wale nō ke olakino. Hiki ke ola i kēlā mau pilina, maʻalahi ke kumu - e hui pū. No laila, inā moeʻuhane ʻoe i kahi male mau, aloha, aloha aloha, pono ʻoe e hana mua iā ʻoe iho a me kāu «cockroaches».

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Inā makemake ʻoe e mare, ʻo ka mea mua āu e hana ai, ʻo ia ka lawe ʻana i ka manaʻo mai kou poʻo. Ma ka liʻiliʻi loa. Loaʻa i nā kānaka ka mea a lākou e hoʻohaʻahaʻa ai i ka noʻonoʻo.

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ʻO kahi kūlana maʻamau i ka wā e ulu ai ka paio i loko o ka moe kolohe, he maikaʻi ʻole ia. Mai lawe wale. Hoʻopau ia mau pilina me ka hakakā hope, akā me ka ʻole o ka wahine. Inā he wahi mau ka paio o kou ola, ʻaʻole e lanakila hou ka hoʻohaʻahaʻa, ka huhū, ka huhū a me nā mea ʻē aʻe i kekahi lā. E mau ana ka paio, aka, e pau ka wahine a mau loa aku.

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"He aha ke ʻano o nā kāne (wahine) āu e makemake ai?" Ke ninau nei au. A lohe wau e pili ana i ka mea like: e pili ana i ke kāne-wahine, ka lokomaikaʻi-pono, nā maka nani a me nā wāwae nani. A laila ua ʻike ʻia he ʻokoʻa loa nā hoa pili maoli o kēia poʻe mai ka mea kūpono. ʻAʻole no ka loaʻa ʻole o ka mea kūpono, akā no ka mea ʻo ke koho ʻana i kahi hoa ola he hana ʻike ʻole. Ma hope o 5-7 kekona ma hope o ka hālāwai ʻana ua ʻike ʻoe inā makemake ʻoe i kēia kanaka a ʻaʻole paha. A ke hālāwai ʻoe me kahi kanaka lokomaikaʻi me nā maka nani a me nā wāwae, maʻalahi ʻoe e haʻalele iā ia. A hāʻule ʻoe i ke aloha, ma kahi ʻē aʻe, me kahi monster hoʻomāinoino e pili ana i ka ʻona (koho: kahi pēpē pēpē prone i ka shopaholism a me ka ponoʻī).

Ke ulu nei nā mea pili i ka pilina ma waho o kēlā mau keiki i hypertrophied a hilinaʻi ʻehaʻeha i ko lākou mau mākua. Ke ola nei kēlā poʻe me ka makemake hoʻokahi e loaʻa ka pilina, no ka mea, inā ʻaʻohe pili, ʻaʻole ola.

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E nīnau iā ʻoe i kēia manawa: "Ua aloha paha ʻoe?" a e pane ʻoe: "ʻOiaʻiʻo!" A e ana ʻoe i ke aloha ma ke kiʻekiʻe o ka ʻeha. A ua ana ʻia nā pilina olakino e ke kiʻekiʻe o ka hauʻoli.

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ʻOiaʻiʻo, nui ka hilinaʻi ma ka hālāwai ʻana me kā mākou kanaka a ʻaʻole paha. ʻO ia ka hoaaloha a me ka mea aloha (hoaaloha o ke ola / aloha) i ka manawa like ʻo ia ka hui kūleʻa maikaʻi loa a me kahi hōʻoia o ka lōʻihi o ka ʻohana. Ke moeʻuhane nei mākou a pau e pili ana i kēia, mahalo i ka hopena a hoʻopiʻi paha e pili ana iā ia, poina ʻaʻohe mea pōʻino i nā hālāwai hauʻoli. ʻO kā lākou hoa kūpono e hālāwai me nā poʻe i mākaukau no kēia hālāwai: ua hana lākou iā lākou iho, i ko lākou wā kamaliʻi traumas a me nā paʻakikī, ua ʻike lākou a ua ola i nā neuroses paʻakikī, ʻike lākou i ka mea a lākou e makemake ai mai ke ola a me ka wahine ʻē aʻe, a hana lākou. ʻaʻohe hakakā koʻikoʻi me lākou iho. A i ʻole, lilo kēlā me kēia pilina hou i mea hoʻāʻo o ka ikaika no nā mea ʻelua a hiki ke hoʻopau ʻia i ka hoʻohaʻahaʻa like a me nā paʻakikī hou.

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Hiki iā ʻoe, ʻoiaʻiʻo, ke koho pono i kahi hoa. E like me, hilinaʻi, ʻaʻole hoʻonāukiuki, makemake pū i nā keiki ... Akā hoʻomanaʻo mai iaʻu i kahi hoʻāʻo ma ka Pūnaewele: "ʻO wai ka ʻīlio ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi e loaʻa, e pili ana i kou ʻano?" ʻO ka hahai holoholona a i loko paha? E hele pū paha ʻoe me ia i ʻekolu manawa i ka lā no 45 mau minuke a i ʻole e ʻae iā ia e pipi i loko o kahi pā? Hiki! Akā inā ʻaʻole pono ʻoe i nā manaʻo i loko o kahi pilina. Hiki nō hoʻi. ʻIke wau ʻo ke kumu o ka pilina, a ʻoi aku ka nui o ka male, ʻoiaʻiʻo, ʻo ke aloha.

He mea makehewa ka haʻalele ʻana i kekahi a hiki i kou hoʻololi ʻana i loko a hiki i kahi hoa ke ala no ʻoe e hoʻoponopono ai i kou mau pilikia kūloko. E uē, e uē a loaʻa iā ʻoe kahi mea hou e like me ia.

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Ke ʻimi mau nei ka neurotic i kahi mea e kau ai i kona huhū nui i ke ola. ʻAʻole lākou i hilinaʻi i kahi hoa, akā i ka manawa e hōʻeha ʻia e ia. No ka mea, inā hoʻokomo ʻoe i ka huhū iā ʻoe iho, e lilo ia i ke kaumaha.

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Ke mākaukau ʻole ke kanaka no ka male ʻana a i ʻole ka pilina, koho ʻo ia i nā hoa pili me ka mea hiki ʻole ke kūkulu iā lākou.

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Ma ka pilina olakino, holoi ʻia nā kīʻaha ʻaʻole no ka mea "pono", akā, no ka luhi ʻana o ka wahine, ʻo ke kāne, ʻaʻole i hoʻohālike i ke koa, ala aʻe a holoi. Nui kona aloha iā ia a makemake e kōkua. A inā e lele ʻo ia i loko a ʻike ʻo ia ua paʻa loa ʻo ia, ʻaʻole ʻo ia e koi e hālāwai ʻo ia me ia ma ke alanui. ʻAʻole pilikia, lawe kaʻa kaʻa.

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Inā ʻaʻole ʻoe makemake e hoʻohilahila ʻia e ka hoʻopunipuni, a laila, ʻo ka mea mua, mai kūkulu i nā hoʻopunipuni. Mai noʻonoʻo ʻo ke aloha, ka male a i ʻole kekahi kūlana ʻē aʻe e hoʻololi i kou noʻonoʻo a i ʻole ka psychology o kāu mea i koho ai. ʻO ka noʻonoʻo / moeʻuhane / moeʻuhane "i ka wā e mare ai kāua, e pau ʻo ia i ka inu ʻana" he hewa. A hele ʻo ia ma mua o ka male ʻana, a laila lilo koke ʻo ia i wahine kūpaʻa - pū kekahi. Hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻololi iā ʻoe iho.

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ʻOi aku ka kiʻekiʻe o ka pono o ka pilina ma kahi neurotic ma mua o ke kanaka olakino. ʻAʻohe keiki liʻiliʻi ʻo kona mau mākua wale nō, a ma luna o lāua wale nō kona mau manaʻo. A inā he ʻino ka pilina o ka ʻohana, a laila ua hewa ke ola. A ke kauo nei ia ... ʻAʻole hiki i ke kanaka olakino inā pau ka pilina, nalowale loa ke ʻano o ke ola holoʻokoʻa. Aia kekahi mau mea ʻē aʻe. Loaʻa ka pilina ma kāna hierarchy o nā waiwai, akā ʻaʻole pono ka mea mua.

Ma ke kūlana olakino, makemake ke kanaka e noho pū me kāna mea aloha. ʻAʻole ia "e like me kou makemake", akā e like me kēlā. Aloha? No laila, noho pū ʻoe! ʻO nā mea'ē aʻe a pau he pilina piliʻole, neurotic. Inā haʻi lākou iā ʻoe i kekahi mea ʻē aʻe: e pili ana i ka "ʻaʻole mākaukau", e pili ana i kahi malihini a male extraterritorial paha, mai hoʻopunipuni. Inā makaʻu ʻoe i ka noho pū ʻana, a laila e ʻike ʻoe he neurosis kēia.

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ʻO ka hoʻokalakupua i loko o mākou i ko mākou ola a pau e like me ke ʻano like a me ka hoʻonohonoho like o nā ʻano a me nā ʻano. Huli a hāmau paha ka hoihoi i ka wā e ʻike mua ai mākou i ke kanaka a loiloi ʻole iā ia me ka ʻike ʻole. E like me kāu e ʻike ai, hana ke kāne i ka hoʻoholo "makemake - ʻaʻole makemake" i loko o 3-4 kekona, ʻoi aku ka wahine - 7-8. Akā ma hope o kēlā mau kekona he mau makahiki a me nā makahiki o nā ʻike mua. Noho ʻo Libido i nā ʻike āpau o ka wā kamaliʻi a me nā manaʻo ʻōpio, nā kiʻi, nā manaʻo, nā ʻeha. A hūnā ʻia lākou a pau i loko o ka ʻike ʻole, a ma luna o ka ʻili ke waiho ʻia, no ka laʻana, ke ʻano o nā kui, nā pepeiao pepeiao, ka ʻili o ka ʻili, ke ʻano o ka umauma, nā lima ... akā ʻo ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, ʻoi aku ka hohonu o nā mea āpau a ʻoi aku ka hiki ʻole ke hoʻomaopopo.

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Ke kūʻē nei au i ka hoʻokaʻawale ʻana ma ka ikaika. ʻO ka hoʻokaʻawale ʻana i ke ʻano "ʻAʻole au e poina iā ʻoe, ʻaʻole au e ʻike iā ʻoe ..." Ke kīloi ʻana, ka ʻeha, a hele mākou - hana keaka, waimaka, "Aloha wau iā ʻoe, ʻaʻole hiki iaʻu ke ola me ʻoe, akā no ka hana ʻana i kēia iaʻu… «ʻAʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke ola — no laila, mai hoʻokaʻawale! ʻO nā pilina neurotic ke kūpono i ka wā hikiʻole ke kaʻawale, aʻoi aku kaʻino. ʻAʻole ʻo ka hoʻopunipuni ka loaʻa ʻana o ka hemo a i ʻole ka ʻāpana, akā e hoʻōki i ka hoʻowalewale ʻana i ka poʻe e hoʻomāinoino iā ʻoe, e hoʻopilikia iā ʻoe me ka mea ʻole - ka hahau ʻana a me ka nānā ʻole.

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He mea maʻalahi loa ka hele ʻana mai kahi pilina inā ʻike ʻoe ʻaʻole makemake ʻoe i kēia mau mea āpau a ʻaʻole pono ʻoe, ʻaʻole ʻoe i aloha, kahi mea nui o ke kanaka ponoʻī, akā hilinaʻi i nā manaʻo. A me nā manaʻo ʻeha.

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ʻO ka poʻe olakino noʻonoʻo e alakaʻi ʻia e ko lākou mau manaʻo a koho mau iā lākou iho. ʻAʻole pono ka nani a me ke aloha i ka mōhai. A inā koi lākou, ʻaʻole ia kāu moʻolelo. ʻAʻohe pahuhopu e pono ai ke hoʻomanawanui i kekahi mea ma ka pilina.