ʻO ka makuahine e like me ke aʻo ʻepekema pono e hoʻopaʻa ʻia. ʻO Montessori, Makarenko, Komarovsky, nā kumumanaʻo o ka hoʻomohala mua a me ka hope, nā ʻōnaehana o nā mākau hoʻonaʻauao a me nā hana hānai. Kindergarten, papa hoʻomākaukau, papa mua ... Ballet, mele, wushu a me yoga. ʻO ka hoʻomaʻemaʻe, ka ʻaina ʻelima papa, ke kāne ... Pono ke kāne e aloha ʻia a aloha ʻia e like me nā ʻano wahine. No laila, aia nā wahine maikaʻi loa e hiki ke hana i kēia mau mea i ka manawa like?
ʻO Supermom ke ʻano o ka mea i makemake ʻia e nā mea a pau, akā ʻaʻole i ʻike ʻia e kekahi. He ʻano semi-mythical ia, akā hoʻokomo ʻo ia i loko o kekahi makuahine kanaka ola i ka pūʻulu paʻakikī. Eia kekahi laʻana, eia nā mea a nā makuahine e hōʻike ai ma nā ʻaha kūkā:
Olga, 28 makahiki, makuahine o na keiki elua: “Hilahila au e ae aku, aka, ma mua o ka hanau ana o ka'u mau keiki, ua manao au ia'u iho he makuahine maikai. A i kēia manawa hoʻonāukiuki wale kēia mau supermoms iaʻu! Ke nānā nei ʻoe i kēia mau kiʻi a pau ma Instagram: hui ʻia, nani, me kahi keiki ma kona mau lima. A he ʻelima papa ʻaina kakahiaka me nā blueberries i waiho ʻia ma ke ʻano o ka puʻuwai. A me ka pūlima: "Ua hauʻoli kaʻu mau keikikāne!" A ʻo wau ... i loko o ka lole moe. Aia ka huelo lauoho ma kekahi ʻaoʻao, ma ka pālule he semolina porridge, ʻaʻole ʻai ke kaikuaʻana i ka omelet, ʻo ke kāne ke hao i ka pālule ponoʻī. A pono au e hele i ke kula… Ha'ule nā lima, a makemake au e uē. “
ʻO Irina, 32 mau makahiki, makuahine o Nastya 9 makahiki: "Ua luhi wau i kēia mau makuahine hehena! I kēia lā ma ka hālāwai, ua pāpā ʻia au no ka lawe ʻole ʻana i nā tangerines i ka ʻaha mele aloha, no ka hoʻomākaukau ʻole ʻana i kaʻu kaikamahine i ka hana cone, a no ka nānā ʻole ʻana i ke ola o ka papa. ʻAe, ʻaʻole au i hele pū me lākou i ka planetarium a i ʻole circus. Akā he hana kaʻu. Hoʻopailua wau. He makuahine ino au? Pehea lākou e mālama ai i kēia mau mea a pau? A he aha, ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o kā lākou mau keiki? “
A holo pinepine lakou i ka papa.
Ekaterina, 35 makahiki, makuahine o na kaikamahine elua: “E hooki i ka uwē! ʻAʻohe manawa e hana ai, nou ponoʻī! Pono ʻoe e noʻonoʻo i kou poʻo. E helu i ka lā, e hana pū me nā keiki, a mai hoʻolei iā lākou i nā kindergarten a me nā kula me nā hola kula lōʻihi. No ke aha la i hanau ai? ʻO ka makuahine maʻamau e hana i nā mea a pau no kāna mau keiki. A nani kāna kāne, a akamai nā keiki. He poe palaualelo wale oukou a pau! “
Ma hope o kēia mau hakakā pūnaewele, ua hōʻiliʻili ʻo Woman's Day i 6 mau moʻolelo nui e pili ana i nā supermothers. A ʻike au i ka mea ma hope o lākou.
Manaʻo 1: ʻAʻole ʻo ia e luhi.
ʻOiaʻiʻo: luhi ko mama. I kekahi manawa a hiki i nā kuli haʻalulu. Ma hope o ka hana, makemake wale ʻo ia e kolo i kahi moe. A pono mākou e hānai i nā mea a pau me ka ʻaina awakea, e hana i nā haʻawina home me ke keiki. He capricious ke keiki a ʻaʻole makemake e aʻo, kope mai kahi kikoʻī, paʻi i ka leka "U". Akā, pono e hana kēia. A hiki mai ka ʻike e ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ka hana ʻana i nā haʻawina home me kahi makuahine mālie. Huhū a luhi nā haumāna i ka makua. ʻO kēia ka mea huna o ka "makuahine luhi ʻole" - nā manaʻo i lawe ʻia e ka luhi, hūnā wale ka wahine i mea e hoʻokō koke ai i nā hana o ka hale. A ʻo ka noʻonoʻo ʻana i kona makemake e hāʻule i kona alo i ka uluna, ʻaʻole i haʻalele i kona poʻo.
Manaʻo 2: Pono mau ʻo Supermom
ʻOiaʻiʻo: inā loaʻa iā ʻoe ka pūʻulu o nā mea e hiki ʻole ke kūpono i ka lā, he aha kāu e hana ai? Pololei, ke hoʻāʻo nei ʻoe e hoʻonohonoho i kāu mau hana. E hoʻonohonoho i ka hana maʻamau i kēlā me kēia lā. I ka hoʻoponopono ʻana i nā pilikia makuahine, kōkua pū kēia ala. ʻAʻole hōʻole ka makuahine naʻauao i ke kōkua, hoʻohana i nā mea i hoʻokō ʻia o ka ʻenehana hou (e uku i ka multicooker i ke ahiahi e kuke ai ʻo ia i ka porridge no ka ʻaina kakahiaka, no ka laʻana), noʻonoʻo i ka papa kuhikuhi no hoʻokahi pule a kūʻai i nā huahana e pili ana i ka papa inoa, kau i ka hale e like me kekahi ʻōnaehana (no ka laʻana, ka hoʻokaʻawale ʻana i nā lā hoʻomaʻemaʻe). A i kekahi lā, ʻike ʻo ia he manawa liʻiliʻi kona no ka hoʻoikaika kino, ka ʻauʻau, ka yoga a me ka hula.
Myth 3: Hoʻomanaʻo nā Supermoms i nā mea āpau.
ʻOiaʻiʻo: ʻaʻole, ʻaʻohe ona lolo kopa. Mai waho mai, ʻike ʻia ʻo ia i nā kikoʻī āpau o nā mea e hana nei i ke ola o kāna keiki: ʻike ʻo ia i ka wā i haku ʻia ai nā mele ma ke kumumanaʻo "Winter" a me "ʻO wai ka luna o ka nahele", hoʻomanaʻo i nā mea āpau. i ka lā hoʻokahi, mai ka lā hānau o ke kumu papa a hiki i ka lā o ka ʻOlumepika Pelekane, a pēlā aku. ʻOiaʻiʻo, mālama kēia makuahine i kahi diary. A i ʻole ma mua o hoʻokahi. Hoʻopaʻa ʻia nā papa manawa o nā papa a pau ma ka friji. Hoʻopiha ʻia ke kelepona me kahi polokalamu ʻike a me ka hoʻomanaʻo. I ka "alarm" leo nui.
Myth 4: Loaʻa iā Supermom ka makana o ke ahonui pau ʻole.
ʻOiaʻiʻo: He kanaka mākou a pau, he ʻokoʻa ko mākou hoʻomanawanui - e pahū kekahi i ka hapalua minuke, pono e lawe ʻia kekahi i kahi ʻeha no nā hola. Akā, ʻaʻole kēia manaʻo ʻaʻole hiki ke hana ʻia. Hiki ke hoʻoikaika a hoʻohana ʻia ke ahonui. No ka laʻana, hiki iā ʻoe ke koi i ke keiki e waiho i kāna mau mea pāʻani i loko o kahi lumi ma nā ʻano like ʻole: i kēlā me kēia manawa me ka hoʻōho ʻana, a i ʻole ka paʻi ʻana, a i ʻole ke ahonui no hoʻokahi pule a me ka mālie a me ke aloha e hōʻiliʻili i nā mea pāʻani me ke pēpē. ʻO ke aʻo ʻana i ke keiki i kekahi mau lula ʻo ia ka mea e hāʻawi ai i ka makuahine i ke ahonui.
Manaʻo 5: He kāne maikaʻi loa nā Supermoms (mama, ʻohana, kamaliʻi, home)
ʻOiaʻiʻo: ʻAʻole hiki iā mākou ke hoʻololi i ko mākou wā kamaliʻi, akā hiki iā mākou ke hoʻololi i ko mākou manawa. ʻO nā kaikamāhine i loaʻa ʻole ka pilina maikaʻi i loko o ka ʻohana, ua lilo hoʻi i supermoms. A ʻo nā kiʻi ʻālohilohi o "My Ideal Family" i loko o nā ʻoihana pūnaewele ʻaʻole no ka mea ʻo koʻu makuahine e hāʻule i ka makemake e kaʻana like i kona hauʻoli. Akā, no ka mea, ʻaʻole mālama pono nā mea aloha (ʻo ke kāne hoʻokahi) i ka wahine. Ua lilo nā makemake i kākoʻo no lākou, ʻaʻole i loaʻa iā lākou i loko o ka ʻohana, a ʻo ka hoʻomaikaʻi ʻana mai ka poʻe kākau inoa e lilo i mea ʻike i nā pono a me nā hana i mahalo ʻole ʻia e ke kāne a me nā keiki.
Manaʻo 6: He mau keiki maikaʻi nā Supermoms.
ʻOiaʻiʻo: Ke manaʻoʻiʻo nei ʻoe i nā keiki kūpono? ʻAe, hiki iā lākou ke loaʻa nā mekala, nā palapala hōʻoia a me nā māka maikaʻi loa, e ʻōlelo ana i nā hana nui a nā mākua. Akā, hele nā keiki a pau i nā pae like o ka ulu ʻana. Loaʻa i kēlā me kēia kanaka ka makemake, ka hoʻolohe ʻole a me ka haki. Ma ke ala, aia kekahi mea koʻikoʻi ma ʻaneʻi, ke hoʻāʻo nei nā makuahine e hoʻokō i kā lākou mau moeʻuhane i hoʻokō ʻole ʻia ma o ke keiki. A hoʻomaka ke keiki e loaʻa i nā mekala pono ʻole a me nā palapala hōʻoia a hele i ke aʻo ʻana e lilo i loio, ʻoiai ua moe mau ʻo ia e lilo i mea hoʻolālā.
No laila ʻo wai ka makuahine super? A ke ola nei anei?
ʻO ka mea i hala koke aku nei, ua lawe ʻia ke kiko o ka "mom maikaʻi" maʻamau i ka lewa, kahi i hiki ʻole ai ka rocket. Ke hoʻāʻo nui nei nā makuahine ʻōpio e ʻimi i nā kūlana: "ʻEhia ka manawa e lilo ai me kahi pēpē e lilo i makuahine maikaʻi?", "I ka manawa hea e hiki ai i ka makuahine ke hoʻi i ka hana?" kou mana naʻauao? “
E hoʻomanaʻo: ʻaʻole pono ʻoe e hāʻawi i kou ola holoʻokoʻa i ka hoʻoikaika ʻana e lilo i hemolele. Inā ʻaʻole ʻoe makemake, ʻoiaʻiʻo, e kapa ʻia ʻo "makuahine pupule", "Yazhmat", "E uhaʻi wau". ʻAʻole kūpono ka makuahine i nā ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo, nā lula kūpono a me nā kuleana o ka hana - ʻaʻole pehea e hoʻāʻo ai kekahi e kuhikuhi i nā lula o ka ʻano no nā makuahine.
Ua hōʻoia lōʻihi ka poʻe ʻepekema ʻo ka fanaticism a me ka makuahine he mau mea like ʻole. Inā ho'āʻo huhū ka wahine e lilo i supermother, he mau hōʻailona kēia o neurasthenia, ʻoluʻolu ʻole i ke ola pilikino, loneliness. ʻO ka makuahine mālama ʻole i kekahi manawa e pōmaikaʻi ke keiki ma mua o ka makuahine super me kāna mau hoʻoikaika ʻana e ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi ma mua o nā mea āpau, ʻoiai ma o kāna mau keiki. ʻO kēia nā mea ʻelua i ʻae ʻia - ʻelua.
Ua ʻōlelo pinepine nā psychologists: “ʻAʻole hiki ke lilo i makuahine kūpono. ʻO ka maikaʻi wale nō ua lawa. ” ʻO ke ʻano gula e pili ana iā mākou.