PSYchology

He kuleana nui ka helehelena i ko mākou manaʻo ponoʻī. Akā inā ʻaʻole ʻoe maopopo iā ʻoe iho, e hoʻomanaʻo he mea nani i kēlā me kēia kanaka. Kokua ʻo Blogger Nicole Tarkoff i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe e ʻike a ʻike i ka nani maoli.

ʻAʻole maikaʻi ka nani. E ala aʻe i ke kakahiaka, e nānā i ke aniani a ʻike ʻoe ʻaʻole ʻoe makemake i kahi kanaka e nānā pololei iā ʻoe. Kūlana kamaʻāina? Hōʻoiaiʻo. Maopopo iā ʻoe ke kumu o kēia hana? ʻAʻole ʻoe e ʻike iā ʻoe maoli. Hōʻike wale ke aniani i ka pūpū.

Ma waho aʻe o ia mea, pono mākou e hoʻomanaʻo i nā mea nui i hūnā ʻia i loko. ʻO kēlā mau mea liʻiliʻi nani a mākou e poina ai. ʻAʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke hōʻike i ke kanaka i ka pumehana o kou puʻuwai, akā hiki iā ʻoe ke hōʻike iā ia.

ʻAʻole hūnā ʻia ka lokomaikaʻi i ka kala lauoho a ʻaʻole hilinaʻi i ka nui o ke kenimika o ka pūhaka. ʻAʻole ʻike ka poʻe ʻē aʻe i ka noʻonoʻo maikaʻi a me ka noʻonoʻo, e nānā ana i kāu kiʻi. Ke nānā a loiloi i ka nani o waho, ʻaʻohe mea e ʻike i ka mea e hoʻokaʻawale ai iā ʻoe mai nā poʻe ʻē aʻe. ʻAʻole kou nani i ka nui o kou kaumaha. ʻAʻole pili mamao i kou ʻano.

ʻOi aku ka hohonu o kou nani ma mua o ka mea i ʻike ʻia. ʻO ia ke kumu, me he mea lā ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke loaʻa iā ʻoe iho. Paʻa ʻo ia i kou maka. Manaʻo ʻoe ʻaʻole loaʻa iā ʻoe. Akā, aia kekahi poʻe e mahalo maoli i kou honua i loko a me nā mea i hūnā ʻia i loko, me ka ʻaoʻao o waho. A ʻo ia ka mea waiwai.

No laila e ʻike ʻoe he mea maʻamau ka nānā ʻana iā ʻoe iho i ke aniani a hoʻopailua ʻia.

ʻAʻohe mea i manaʻo he 100% nani loa. Loaʻa i kēlā me kēia o kākou nā manawa e ʻeha ʻia e nā kānalua.

He mea maʻamau ka manaʻo ʻino ke loaʻa koke ʻoe i kahi pimple ma kou lae. He mea maʻamau ka nāwaliwali ke ʻae ʻoe i ka meaʻai ʻōpala no ka ʻaina awakea.

He mea maʻamau ka ʻike iā ʻoe he cellulite a hopohopo no ia. ʻAʻole kou nani maoli i nā ʻūhā maikaʻi, ka ʻōpū palahalaha, a i ʻole ka ʻili maikaʻi. Akā ʻaʻole hiki iaʻu ke hāʻawi aku iā ʻoe i ke alakaʻi, pono nā mea a pau e ʻimi iā lākou iho.

ʻAʻohe mea i manaʻo he 100% nani loa. ʻOiai inā e kamaʻilio kekahi e pili ana iā ia, ʻoi aku ka hewa o ia. Loaʻa i kēlā me kēia o mākou nā manawa e ʻeha ʻia e nā kānalua. ʻAʻohe mea kupanaha e pili ana ka manaʻo o ke kino positivism i kēia lā. Noho mākou i ke au o ka selfies a me ka nani i nā ʻoihana pūnaewele e hoʻohālikelike i ka ʻike o ka ʻoiaʻiʻo a puni. ʻAʻole ia he mea kupanaha, pili kēia mau mea āpau i ko mākou manaʻo ponoʻī.

Aia kēia mau mea a pau i ka pae hoʻokahi o ka ʻike. He ʻokoʻa mākou a pau. ʻO ko mākou helehelena ka mea e pono ai mākou e ʻae i loko. ʻAʻole hiki iā mākou ke hoʻololi i kekahi mea i ka manawa hoʻokahi.

ʻAʻole kou nani maoli i nā ʻūhā maikaʻi, ka ʻōpū palahalaha, a i ʻole ka ʻili maikaʻi. Akā ʻaʻole hiki iaʻu ke hāʻawi i ke alakaʻi, pono nā kānaka a pau e ʻimi iā lākou iho.

ʻO ka ʻae piha a me ka ʻike iā ʻoe iho e kōkua iā ʻoe e hoʻopau i ka manaʻo ʻeha i ke kakahiaka. Akā maikaʻi ke loiloi iā ʻoe iho a ʻaʻole manaʻo maikaʻi. ʻO ka mea nui, ʻo ia ka hoʻomaopopo ʻana he pūpū wale nō ka ʻili waho.

ʻAʻole maopopo iaʻu ka mea e ala ai ʻoe i ke kakahiaka. ʻAʻole maopopo iaʻu ka mea e hoʻoikaika iā ʻoe e hoʻomaka i kahi lā hou. ʻAʻole maopopo iaʻu ka mea e hoʻoulu ai i kou makemake a me kou makemake e ola. Akā, ʻike wau i hoʻokahi mea: nani ʻoe, nani kou makemake.

ʻAʻole maopopo iaʻu kou manaʻo ʻole. ʻAʻole maopopo iaʻu ka mea e hoʻomaikaʻi ai ʻoe. Akā ʻike wau inā kōkua ʻoe i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe, nani ʻoe. Kamahaʻo kou lokomaikaʻi.

ʻAʻole au i ʻike i kou wiwo ʻole. ʻAʻole maopopo iaʻu ka mea e koi ai iā ʻoe e lawe i nā pilikia a i ʻole e neʻe ai ʻoe. He aha kāu e hana ai i kahi mea ʻaʻole e ʻaʻa ʻia e nā poʻe ʻē aʻe a makaʻu e moeʻuhane e pili ana. Nani kou koa.

ʻAʻole maopopo iaʻu pehea ʻoe e hana ai me nā manaʻo maikaʻi ʻole. ʻAʻole maopopo iaʻu ka mea e kōkua iā ʻoe e pane ʻole i ka hoʻohewa. ʻIke wau inā hiki iā ʻoe ke manaʻo, he nani ʻoe. He mea kupanaha kou hiki ke manao.

ʻAʻole maikaʻi ka nani. Akā e ho'āʻo e hoʻomanaʻo iā ʻoe iho i hea kou kumu o ka nani. E ho'āʻo e loaʻa iā ʻoe iho. ʻAʻole hiki ke loaʻa ka nani ma ka nānā ʻana i ke aniani. E hoomanao i keia.

Puna: Thoughtcatalog.

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