“M+F. ʻO nā pilina kahi e lanakila ai lāua

“M+F. ʻO nā pilina kahi e lanakila ai lāua

Pavel Kochkin - kanaka kālepa, kaʻi

Hōʻike ka mea haʻiʻōlelo i ʻehiku mau pae o ka pilina a me nā ʻano kālā ʻeono i hoʻololi ʻia e ke kāne a me ka wahine. ʻO ka ʻike ʻana i kēia mau lula maʻalahi e kōkua i ka hoʻokō synergy i loko o kahi kāne, i ka manawa e loaʻa ai i kēlā me kēia hoa ka manawa e ʻike ai i ko lākou hopena kūlohelohe a hiki i nā kiʻekiʻe kiʻekiʻe.

“Ke aloha, ke aloha, ka hilinaʻi hohonu. He aha ka mea e pale ai iā ʻoe mai ka hauʻoli i ka pilina?

ʻO Yakov Kochetkov - ka psychologist lapaʻau, ka luna o ka Center for Cognitive Therapy (Moscow), alakaʻi alakaʻi ma ke keʻena ʻo Udesroze (Latvia)

No ke aha he mea paʻakikī i nā kānaka ke mālama i ka pilina? Hoʻokahi pane i kēia nīnau, ʻo kā mākou pilina e hoʻopili ʻia e nā schemas mua. ʻO nā papa hana mua he mau manaʻoʻiʻo e pili ana iā ʻoe iho a me nā mea ʻē aʻe ma muli o ka ʻike ʻana i ka wā kamaliʻi, a me nā ala hoʻomanawanui e mālama ai i ka pilina me nā poʻe ʻē aʻe. ʻO ka mea pōʻino, pili pinepine kēia mau manaʻoʻiʻo a me nā ʻano i ke ala o kā mākou pilina. Na ka mea haʻiʻōlelo e kōkua iā ʻoe e hoʻopau i kēia mau ʻano.

"Ka pilina VS Aloha"

ʻO Vladimir Dashevsky - psychotherapist, moho o ka ʻepekema psychological

ʻO Elena Ershova - ke kauka noʻonoʻo, sexologist, aʻoaʻo psychologist, kumu no ka noʻonoʻo

ʻO nā kumu maʻamau no ka ʻimi ʻana i ke kōkua mai nā psychotherapist e pili ana i ka pilina ma kahi kāne. E nānā nā kumu aʻo i ka mea maʻamau o lākou:

• "Ua hahau ʻo ia iaʻu, hoʻomāʻewaʻewa iaʻu a hoʻoweliweli mau iaʻu me ka hemo ʻana. Hiki iā ʻoe ke wehewehe iā ia he nui loa ka hemo ʻana?
• "Pehea wau e haʻalele ai i kahi kanaka aʻu i makemake ʻole e haʻalele?"
• “Makaʻu wau i kaʻu wahine. Makemake au e makaʻu pū ʻo ia iaʻu.
• "He mea hoʻonāukiuki iaʻu ke hoʻoweliweli kaʻu kāne e pepehi iaʻu. Pehea ʻaʻole e huhū?
• "E aʻo pehea e hoʻolei pono ai i nā wahine, inā ʻaʻole makemake lākou i wehewehe no kekahi kumu."
• "Aloha nui au i ke kanaka, akā ʻaʻole iaʻu ... Pehea e hiki ai iā ia ke hoʻopaʻi no kēia?"

"ʻO ke aloha a me ka pilina i loko o kahi kāne: nā loli liʻiliʻi"

Maria Tikhonova — psychologist, psychotherapist, alakaʻi aʻo

Hoʻopilikia pinepineʻia nā hoa e nā kānalua e pili ana i ka ikaika o ka pilina, pehea ka hohonu o ko lākou aloha. He paʻakikī ka hoʻololi ʻana i ka wela o ka pilina ma nā huaʻōlelo helu. A ke manaʻo nei mākou ʻaʻole like ka ikaika o nā makemake i nā pae like ʻole o ka ulu ʻana o ka kāne. Pehea e kūkulu ai i ka pilina hohonu a me ka lokahi i loko o kēia ao pilikua palupalu?

He aha ke ʻano o kāu kāne? Pehea e loli ai ka mahana o ka pilina me ka hoʻololi ʻana i ka pae o ka paʻa ma hope o ka hoʻomaka ʻana o ka moʻolelo? Pehea ka pili ʻana o nā keiki i ka pilina o nā kāne? Pehea e hoʻihoʻi ai i ka hoihoi hohonu a me ke kuko i loko o ka pilina ke ʻike ʻia ka nalo mau loa? E pane ka psychologist i kēia mau nīnau.