ʻO ka mea solo o ka hui hoʻomana "Mirage" ʻo Margarita Sukhankina i kēia manawa ʻike i ke ʻano maoli o ke ola. Ua lilo i makuahine. Ua ʻike ʻo Margarita i kona kaikuahine a me kona kaikunāne mai Tyumen - 3 makahiki ʻo Lera a me Seryozha 4 makahiki ma ka lewa o ka papahana "ʻOiai aia nā mea āpau ma ka home". Ua ʻike koke ʻo Marguerite ua loaʻa iā ia ka poʻe āna i moeuhane ai. A me nā keiki hānai. Ua ʻōlelo ka mea mele e noʻonoʻo ʻo ia i ka mea nui i ka hānai ʻana i nā keiki, pehea i hoʻololi ai nā keiki iā lākou iho a hoʻololi iā ia, a hiki i kēlā me kēia ke kōkua i nā keiki makua ʻole.
He aha kou manaʻo, ke hoʻomaka ka poʻe e noʻonoʻo e pili ana i nā waiwai o ka ʻohana, e pili ana i nā mea a lākou e haʻalele ai?
Hana ʻia kēia i ka wā makua, ma hope o 30 mau makahiki, ke ʻike mua ke kanaka ma hope ona, aia nā kūleʻa a i ʻole kūleʻa o ka hānau keiki ʻana. Manaʻoʻiʻo wau inā pili ke kino, ka pono a me ke kālā i ke kanaka, a laila hiki iā ia a kōkua i ka poʻe no kekahi kumu ke ola ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi.
Mahalo i ke Akua no ka mea ua maʻalahi ka lawe ʻana i keiki i ko mākou ʻāina. Ma hope o nā mea āpau, he ʻano ʻano pohihihi paha ia i uhi ʻia i ka pouli. I nā makahiki i hala aku nei, ua hoʻoholo kuʻu hoaaloha - ʻaʻole wau e haʻi i kona inoa - e hānai i kahi pēpē. Ua lanakila ʻo ia i ka nui o nā ālaina, uku ʻo ia i ke kālā pupule i kekahi. I kēia manawa ʻaʻole wahaheʻe ka ʻāina e pili ana i nā mea kanu a kāua, akā ʻōlelo mai he pilikia ʻē aʻe ko kāua, aia nō nā keiki haʻalele.
No ke aha mākou i loaʻa ai i nā vermin a me nā ʻoihana he nui?
Hoʻomaopopo maikaʻi wau i nā mea āpau i ka poʻe ponoʻī. Mai iā kākou āpau. Mālama ka poʻe maʻamau i nā keiki, hānai iā lākou, a i nā ʻano ʻano like ʻole. ʻO ka mea nui, aia ke aloha, aia ka makemake. A i nā kūlana kālā ʻokoʻa loa, ulu aʻe nā kānaka. Kū'ē i kēia kāʻei, aia kekahi mau mākua ʻē aʻe. Inu lākou, hoʻohana i nā lāʻau. ʻAʻole mālama lākou i kekahi a i kekahi mea paha. Eia ka makuahine ola o kaʻu mau keiki e hānau nei i nā pēpē a haʻalele iā lākou i ka haukapila. A pēlā ia i mau manawa.
A ʻike ʻoe he poʻe keiki haʻalele, keiki makua ʻole, a laila aia nā manaʻo a me ka makemake e kōkua iā lākou. Ua kamaʻilio wau i nā mākua hānai, ua kamaʻilio mākou e pili ana i ia. Ke ʻike ʻoe aia kekahi mau keiki e makemake e noho i kahi ʻohana, ʻakaʻaka, hauʻoli, ʻike he aha ka makuahine a me ka makuakāne, he aha ka hōʻoluʻolu, kahi moena maʻemaʻe - makemake maoli lākou e kōkua i nā keiki i kēia kūlana, e mālama a hōʻoluʻolu.
ʻO kāu ʻike pilikino: pehea ʻoe i hoʻoholo ai e lawe ʻoe i keiki? Pehea i hiki mai ai kēia makemake a i ka manawa hea ʻoe i hoʻoholo ai e hoʻokō.
Ua noʻonoʻo wau e pili ana iā 10 mau makahiki i hala. Ua manaʻo wau i kekahi mea e like me kēia: “Maikaʻi nā mea āpau iaʻu, ke ulu nei kaʻu ʻoihana, he hale koʻu, he kaʻa. A laila he aha? No wai lā wau e hāʻawi aku ai i kēia mau mea a pau? Akā ua loaʻa iaʻu nā pilikia olakino - ua hana nui wau i ʻelua mau makahiki i hala. I kēia mau manawa āpau wau i noho ai ma luna o nā painkillers, ua kaumaha loa wau.
A laila ua hele wale wau i ka hale pule a i koʻu kū ʻana ma ke kiʻiona ma mua o ka hana, hoʻohiki wau inā e ola wau, e holo pono ka hana, lawe wau i nā keiki. Ua makemake lōʻihi wau i nā keiki, akā ʻike wau ʻaʻole hiki iaʻu ke kū - ua ʻeha loa wau. A ma hope o ka hana, ma hope o kāna hoʻohiki ʻana, ua ola ʻo ia me ka hiki ʻole.
Ua holo maikaʻi ka hana, ua hoʻomaka koke wau e hana pili i ka hānai. Ua kamaʻilio mākou me Mama, a laila haʻi mākou iā Pāpā. Me ka ʻole o koʻu mau mākua, ʻaʻole hiki iaʻu ke hana hoʻokahi wale nō. Aia mau mākou a pau ma laila. ʻ Manylelo ka poʻe he nui iaʻu: e hoʻolimalima koke ʻoe i nā nannies, a ʻaʻohe ala ʻē aʻe e hele ai i ka huakaʻi. Akā mālama koʻu mau mākua i nā keiki i koʻu hele ʻole ʻana. A i kēia manawa, ʻaʻole wau i mākaukau e waiho i nā malihini i loko o koʻu home, i koʻu ʻohana. Mahalo i ke Akua, aia nā mākua, kōkua lākou iaʻu.
Ua hana paha kāu mau hoaaloha a mea pili paha i kāu hana i kekahi ʻano?
I ka wā i ʻike ʻia ai he ʻelua aʻu pēpē, nui ka poʻe kaulana i kāhea iaʻu. A i waena o lākou he nui nā mea pena kiʻi kamaʻāina i ʻōlelo: "E Margarita, maikaʻi, i kēia manawa ua hōʻea i kā mākou regiment!". ʻAʻole wau i ʻike aia aia kekahi mau mea pena kiʻi e hānai i nā pēpē a hānai iā lākou e like me kā lākou keiki ponoʻī. A hauʻoli loa wau i ka nui o lākou, ua kākoʻo lākou iaʻu. Ua hauʻoli loa wau i ka ʻike ʻana i ka ola o kā mākou ʻoihana hōʻike ʻaʻole wale me nā ʻahamele, nā huakaʻi a me nā kiʻi paʻi kiʻi.
Hoʻomaopopo nā mea pena kiʻi e hala kēia ola ʻahamele āpau, nānā ʻoe i hope-ʻaʻohe mea ma laila ... A weliweli hoʻi! ʻAʻole wau makemake i kekahi poʻe kamaʻāina e kaʻana like i kāu mau mea nani ma hope o kou make ʻana, e like me Lyudmila Zykina i make. ʻAʻole nā waiwai i kēia - ʻaʻole i ke gula, ʻaʻole i ke kālā, ʻaʻole i nā pōhaku.
ʻO kāu mau keiki - pehea lākou i loli ai ma hope o kou lilo ʻana i makuahine no lākou?
Ua noho pū lākou me aʻu no 7 mau mahina - ʻokoʻa loa lākou, he mau keiki hana ʻia e ka home. ʻOiaʻiʻo, hewa lākou a pāʻani hoʻi, akā ʻike lākou i ka mea maikaʻi a me nā mea maikaʻi ʻole. I ka manawa mua, i ka wā i loaʻa mua ai iā lākou, ua lohe wau i nā huaʻōlelo "E haʻalele wau iā ʻoe", "ʻaʻole au e aloha iā ʻoe".
ʻAʻole ia ma laila ma laila. Hoʻomaopopo ʻo Seryozha lāua ʻo Lera i nā mea āpau, e hoʻolohe iaʻu a me koʻu mau mākua. ʻO kahi laʻana, ʻōlelo wau iā Seryozha: “Mai hoʻokau iā Lera. Ma hope o nā mea āpau, ʻo kou kaikuahine ʻo ia, he kaikamahine ʻo ia, ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke hōʻeha iā ia. Pono ʻoe e pale iā ia. ” A maopopo iā ia nā mea āpau - hāʻawi ʻo ia i kona lima iā ia a ʻōlelo: "E kōkua wau iā ʻoe, e Lerochka!".
Huki mākou, kālai, heluhelu, ʻauʻau i ka wai ʻauʻau, holo paikikala, pāʻani me nā hoa aloha. Kūkākūkā mākou me nā keiki a me nā mākua. E aʻo nā keiki hiki iā ʻoe ke hāʻawi i nā makana i kekahi i kekahi, kaʻana like me nā hoaaloha, hoʻololi i nā mea pāʻani. A inā ma mua o ka hoʻokaʻawale ʻana, ua aʻo lākou e hāʻawi, hoʻolohe, hāʻawi i kahi hopena, kūkā kūkākūkā pū.
A he aha nā loli i hiki iā ʻoe iho?
Ua lilo au i pahee, ʻoluʻolu hoʻi. ʻLelo ʻia wau ke ʻakaʻaka nei au i kēia manawa. Pēlā wau e aʻo ai i nā keiki, a aʻo nā keiki iaʻu. He hana like kā mākou. ʻ Mylelo koʻu mau mākua he poina kamahaʻo nā keiki, ʻoluʻolu nā puʻuwai. I kekahi manawa hoʻopaʻi wau iā ʻoe, a laila kamaʻilio pū kāua, wili koke lākou i nā mea āpau. A laila holo lākou e ʻapo a honi, me ka ʻōlelo ʻana he aloha nui lākou iaʻu, a me koʻu kupuna wahine, a me koʻu kupuna kāne, a me kekahi. ʻAʻohe o mākou ʻōlelo hoʻoweliweli. ʻLelo mau wau iā lākou hoʻopaʻi wale wau iā lākou no ka mea aloha wau iā lākou. No ka mea makemake wau e hoʻomaopopo maoli lākou i ka wā e nui ai lākou, e kamaʻilio lākou me nā poʻe ʻokoʻa-ʻē aʻe. ʻAʻole lākou e minamina i kekahi, ʻaʻole hoʻi e kū ma ka ʻaha. A pono mākou e mākaukau no kēia. A aʻo pū wau iā ʻoe e kuleana ʻoe no kāu hana ponoʻī.
He aha ka mea paʻakikī loa i ka hānai ʻana i kahi keiki, i kou manaʻo?
ʻO ka mea paʻakikī ka loaʻa ʻana o ka hilinaʻi - makaʻu loa wau i ka loaʻa paha o nā mea huna a nā keiki mai iā mākou. Manaʻo wau he aloha ke aloha i nā keiki, a laila hilinaʻi. A he mea nui loa kēia.
He aha, i kou manaʻo, ke kumu nui a me ka hopena i ka pilikia o ka makua ʻole i Lūkia?
Pono pono e hoʻonā i ka pilikia o ke keiki makua ʻole i ke ala like me nā makahiki paʻakikī: e hoʻolei i ka uē. Kāhea i ka poʻe i nā hale makua ʻole, i lawe ʻia nā keiki i nā ʻohana. Ma hope o nā mea āpau, ʻaʻohe mea i ʻoi aku ma mua o ka ʻohana. ʻOiaʻiʻo, aia kekahi mau freaks pono e lawe i nā keiki, a laila hahau iā lākou iho, e lawe i kā lākou mau complexes ma luna o lākou. Akā ʻo ia mau mākua ʻāpana weliweli e hoʻopau koke ʻia e nā psychologists a me nā limahana hana kaiaulu.
I kēlā me kēia hihia, mai makaʻu i ka maikaʻi ʻole o ke keiki, e hoʻolei iā ʻoe me kahi pahi a mea ʻē aʻe paha. Ke nānā nei i kaʻu mau keiki, maopopo iaʻu ʻaʻohe keiki maikaʻi ʻole. Aia kekahi wahi e ulu ai lākou. A i ka wā a nā mākua hānai i ʻōlelo ai: lawe mākou i ke keiki, a hoʻolei ʻo ia iā ia iho iā mākou, ʻo ia hoʻi ua hala kekahi mea iā lākou. Hana nā keiki i kēia mau mea ke pale aku iā lākou iho.