ʻO wau a me koʻu Shadow: pehea e "hoʻomaʻamaʻa" i kou ʻaoʻao ʻeleʻele

"ʻIke wau i kona ala ʻana i loko oʻu. Paʻi koʻu mau lima me ka ʻole. Huli mai ka inaina hihiu ma luna oʻu. Me he mea lā ke ʻimi nei koʻu lima ʻākau i mea kaua. ʻO kēia ka pahi kaua. Makemake au e pepehi i kaʻu kāne me ia. ʻAe, makemake au e pepehi iā ia i kēia manawa. Makemake au e hoʻopaʻi iā ia a hoʻopau iā ia a hiki i ka hanu hope loa! Hoʻopaʻi, hoʻopaʻi no nā mea a pau o ka honua. I kēlā mau manawa, kapa ʻo ia iaʻu he huhū ʻino a haʻalele i ka hale.

I kekahi manawa, i ka wā i paʻi ai ka puka ma hope ona, holo wau i ke aniani a ʻike ʻole wau iaʻu iho. Ua nana mai kekahi kupua ino, wiliwili ia'u. ʻAʻole! ʻAʻole ʻo wau! ʻAʻole pono ʻo ia e ʻike mai iaʻu me kēia! Ua makemake au e wāwahi i ke aniani i hoʻokahi tausani ʻāpana!" — Ua haʻi ʻo Julia i kāna psychotherapist. Ke kamaʻilio nei ke kaikamahine e pili ana i ke ʻano o ka ʻaoʻao malu o kona psyche. Mai kahi wahine mālie, kaumaha me nā maka kaumaha, ua lilo kokeʻo ia i meaʻikeʻole, hysterical, huhū a piha i ka inaina.

ʻOiaʻiʻo, i kēia manawa ua like ʻo Julia me ka huhū. ʻO kēia ke akua wahine Helene kahiko o ka hoʻopaʻi, he wahine ʻino a huhū. ʻO ka ikehu i loaʻa i kēia ʻāpana o ka psyche he mana nui. Ma mua, ʻo ia wale nō ka "haʻihaʻi" i ka hakakā me kona mau mākua a me kāna kāne. I kēia manawa ke aʻo nei ʻo Julia e ʻae a hoʻohana iā ia e hoʻokō i kāna mau pahuhopu.

ʻO ka ʻāpana aka o ka psyche kahi kumu o ka ikaika nui. Ma ka ʻae ʻana, hoʻokuʻu mākou i ko mākou mana a hiki ke neʻe i nā mauna. ʻO wai ka mea i ʻike iā ia iho i ka hoʻololi koke ʻana, e like me kā mākou heroine?

E halawai me kou Aka

Ua hoʻokomo ʻia ka manaʻo o Shadow in psychology e Carl Jung. ʻO ke aka ka "ʻaoʻao hewa" o ka psyche, kona ʻaoʻao ʻeleʻele. ʻO ka mea a mākou i ʻike ʻole ai, ke kāohi nei mākou a hōʻole iā mākou iho. Ma keia wahi o ka psyche, e like me ka "black hole", ka subconscious noʻonoʻo "momi i loko" a hūnā makemake, impulses, hoʻomanaʻo a me ka unpleasant 'ike e pili ana me ke kiʻi pono'ī.

Hoʻopili kēia i nā manaʻo holoholona a me nā ʻano maikaʻi ʻole i maʻa ʻole e hōʻike ʻia ma ka lehulehu. ʻO ka pipiʻi, ka manaʻoʻiʻo, ka lili, ka manaʻo ponoʻī, ka ʻino a me nā mea hou aku. “ʻAʻole, ʻaʻole au kuko, ʻaʻohe oʻu kālā i kēia manawa. ʻAʻole, kōkua au i ka poʻe, akā i kēia lā ua luhi au a ʻaʻole koʻu ikaika.

I ka manawa like, loaʻa iā mākou kahi kiʻi "kūpono" iā mākou iho. "He lokomaikaʻi au, mālama, lokomaikaʻi, akamai." ʻO kēia ka māhele māmā o ka psyche. Kāhea ʻo Jung iā ia ʻo Persona. Ma ko mākou mau maka pono'ī a me nā maka o nā mea'ē aʻe, makemake mākou e nānā maikaʻi. Mālama kēia i ka pono a me ka hilinaʻi iā ia iho.

ʻAʻole makemake ke kanaka, a i ʻole ka ʻāpana māmā, e ʻae i ka Shadow - kona ʻāpana ʻeleʻele. Ināʻaʻoleʻoe e hoaaloha me ka "ʻaoʻao hope" o ka psyche, e "haʻihaʻi" kona mau mea i ka manawa i manaʻoʻoleʻia a hana i kāna hana "pouli".

No ke aha e pōʻino ai ʻo Shadow?

ʻAʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke hūnā mai kou ʻaoʻao ʻeleʻele, ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke hūnā. Hoʻopili pololei nā manaʻo a me nā makemake i ka hana.

Nā laʻana o nā aka mai ke ola

ʻAʻole hana ʻo Natasha me nā kāne. He ʻekolu mahina ka lōʻihi o ka pilina. ʻAe, a paʻakikī ke kapa ʻia he pilina. He mau kāne nawaliwali, kamaliʻi, a laila haʻalele ʻo ia. ʻAʻohe kanaka ikaika ma kona kaiapuni. Ua "hoʻokūkū" ʻo ia me lākou me ka ʻike ʻole. Ho'āʻo ʻo ia e lilo i mea maikaʻi loa ma nā mea a pau āna e hana ai. ʻO ia kāna Amazon-Shadow.

ʻO Anya i loko o kahi pilina e like me ka Snow Queen, anu a haʻaheo. Nānā ʻo ia i lalo, ʻaʻole haʻi i ke kāne e pili ana i kona mau manaʻo, ʻaʻole kākau a kelepona paha ka mea mua. ʻAʻole ʻo ia e hōʻike i ke kāne ma ka ʻōlelo a i ʻole ke ʻano o kona makemake iā ia. ʻOiaʻiʻo, ʻo kāna mau puke a pau "hoʻokuʻu" i ka hoʻomaka. A nīnau ʻo ia iā ia iho i nā nīnau no ke aha e lilo ai nā pilina a pau i mea ʻole.

I ke kaʻina hana therapeutic, ua ʻike ʻo Anya i kāna hana. Ua ʻālohilohi kona mau maka i ka waimaka. Akā ʻo nā ʻōlelo mua: "ʻAʻole. ʻAʻole. ʻAʻole ʻoiaʻiʻo kēia! ʻAʻole wau pēlā. ʻAʻole hiki.

ʻAe, paʻakikī ka ʻae ʻana i kāu Shadow no nā mea a pau. Akā, he mea pono i nā mākua ke hoaloha me ko lākou Shadow. A laila mālama mākou i ko mākou mau manaʻo, manaʻo, hana, kuhikuhi i kēia ikehu i ka mea nui iā mākou.

PEPEHEA E "TAPE" I KOU MAU ALU?

KANAWAI 1. E nana i kona ano. E nānā i hope i kou ola a pane pololei i nā nīnau ʻekolu: "Pehea wau ʻaʻole makemake wau e hōʻike aku i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe?" ?”. E nānā pono i kou mau manaʻo a puni ka lā. Ua loaʻa i kahi hoa hana kahi hoʻolaha - ua hoʻomake ʻia ka lili. Ua noi kekahi hoaaloha i kahi hōʻaiʻē kālā - ua hoʻomake ʻo ia a hōʻole. Ua hauʻoli wau i ka wā i ʻaihue ʻia nā hoalauna. hoʻohewa haʻaheo i kahi hoaaloha. Hōʻike ka aka ma o nā manaʻo a me nā manaʻo.

KaʻAnuʻu 2. Eʻae i ka Shadow e like me ia. E ʻike i nā manaʻo o kou ʻaoʻao aka. "ʻAe, lili au i kēia manawa." "ʻAe, makemake wau e hoʻopaʻi." "ʻAe, hauʻoli wau ʻaʻole ʻo ia." ʻAʻole pono ʻoe e hoʻokolokolo iā ʻoe iho. E hoʻomaopopo wale aia aia ka manaʻo.

KaʻAnuʻu Hana 3: E huli i ka Shadow's Positive Message. Hōʻike mau ke aka i ka mea nui iā mākou. Pono e noʻonoʻo ʻia kēia. Makemake au e hoʻopaʻi - ua hoʻohaʻahaʻa au i kēia mau pilina. Huhū wau - ʻaʻole wau e ʻae iaʻu iho. Hoʻohewa ʻia - makemake wau e pono a ʻae ʻia. Ua hana hoʻokiʻekiʻe wau - makemake wau e kūikawā a pono. I kēlā me kēia hihia, ʻokoʻa ka ʻōlelo a ka Shadow. Akā, aia mau ka manaʻo maikaʻi. ʻO nā manaʻo nā hōʻailona o ka mea e pono ai mākou. Mahalo i kāu Shadow no nā ʻike!

KaʻAnuʻu 4. E kuhikuhi i ka ikehu ma ke ala maluhia. Pehea e hiki ai iaʻu ke hāʻawi iaʻu iho i ka mea nui iaʻu? Huhū wau i ka ulu ʻana o ka ʻoihana - makemake wau i ka hoʻomohala a me ka loli. He aha ke kiʻekiʻe aʻu e makemake ai? He aha kaʻu e hana ai i kēia manawa? He aha nā kumuwaiwai i loaʻa iaʻu?

KaʻAnuʻu 5. E wiwoʻole. Ke ʻike ʻoe i ka mea waiwai iā ʻoe, e hoʻonohonoho i nā pahuhopu maopopo e hoʻoikaika iā ʻoe. A neʻe aku iā lākou i kēlā me kēia pae. E ho'ōki i ka hewa a me ka hahau ʻana iā ʻoe iho. No laila ka nui o ka ikehu e hele i loko o ka hakahaka… E hoaloha me ka Shadow. He hapa keia o oukou. Ma ka ʻae ʻana i nā mea "weliweli" a pau iā ʻoe iho, e loaʻa iā ʻoe kou ikaika. Hoʻopaʻa ʻia.