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Nā kūpuna ma 40?
Inā mākaukau nā mākua e ʻae i nā mea he nui mai kā lākou mau keiki, ʻo ka hāʻawi ʻia ʻana i ke kūlana o "nā kupuna" i ko lākou mau kanahā hiki ke hoʻonāukiuki i kekahi manawa i nā manaʻo ʻē aʻe… Emilie, 20, makuahine o Noa, 4 makahiki, a me 6 mahina hāpai, hoʻomanaʻo: "Ua loaʻa iaʻu kaʻu keikikāne mua i koʻu 17 a me ka hapa. E haʻi aku i koʻu makuahine ʻo ia ka ʻanuʻu paʻakikī loa no ka mea kahiko loa. Ua lawe mai au i ka makuakāne i ka wā e hiki mai ana i ka hale, hāʻawi aku au i ka kofe i kēlā me kēia kanaka a, ma lalo o ke kīʻaha o koʻu makuahine, ua paheʻe au i ka ultrasound. Ua huhū ʻo Māmā iaʻu no kekahi manawa, ʻaʻole māua i kamaʻilio kekahi i kekahi no 4 mahina. ” ʻO kahi manaʻo i wehewehe ʻia e ke kanaka psychologist ʻo Christophe Martail penei: "ʻO ka makuahine i ʻike ua hāpai kāna keiki ʻōpio, ʻike ʻo ia he wahine kāna keiki i kēia manawa. He mea hoʻokūkū paha… Ua pau ʻo ia i kāna kaikamahine wale nō e lilo i makuahine i kona manawa. Nui nā kaikamahine ʻōpio, ma kahi kokoke i ka hānau ʻana i pēpē, waiho pū ʻia e ko lākou ʻohana, no nā kumu moʻomeheu a hoʻomana. ʻO ka hope, ʻike kekahi mau mākua i ka nūhou ma ke ʻano he hemahema pilikino. ”
Pehea ka lōʻihi o ke komo ʻana o nā mākua i ka noho makuahine o kā lākou ʻōpio?
I nā manawa he nui, noho ka makuahine ʻōpio me kona mau mākua a hānai i kāna pēpē ma lalo o ko lākou hale. A laila, pehea ka manaʻo o nā kūpuna, a ʻo ke kupuna wahine? E hoʻoikaika i kā lākou kaikamahine i ke kūʻokoʻa a i ʻole, e komo i ka hoʻonaʻauao ʻana i kāna keiki?
"E like me ka hiki, ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ke komo ʻana o nā kūpuna," wahi a ka pro. ʻAe, aia mau ka pilikia e pili ana i ka pilina o ka makuahine / pēpē, akā pili ia i ke ʻano o kā lākou hana ʻana. ʻOi aku ka maikaʻi o ka lawe ʻana i kēia pilikia, ma mua o ka haʻalele ʻana o ke kaikamahine ʻōpio i kāna aʻo ʻana, e hōʻino ana i kāna ʻoihana, no ka mea, ua lilo ʻo ia i makuahine i ke kakahiaka nui loa… "
Ua hōʻoia kēia makuahine: "Ua hāpai au i koʻu makahiki he 15 a me ka hapa. Ua ʻae maikaʻi wau, akā i kēia manawa, i ka 28, ʻōlelo wau iaʻu iho ʻaʻohe oʻu mau makahiki ʻōpio. ʻAʻole nō hoʻi koʻu ola ʻoihana, mālama mau wau i kaʻu keiki. Inā hiki iaʻu ke loaʻa ma hope, ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o nā mea a pau… ”