He mea maʻamau na mākou e hoʻohilahila i nā makuahine. He aha ke kumu? ʻAe, no nā mea āpau. E ʻoluʻolu i nā mea āpau he hana hiki ʻole. Hōʻaʻahu ʻoe i kāu keiki me ka ʻoluʻolu loa a i ʻole ka ʻoluʻolu loa, noho mālie ʻo kāu keiki a leo nui paha, plump a nānā ʻole paha i ka meaʻai ʻole. Pehea, ua piha ʻo ia i hoʻokahi makahiki a me ka hapa, a ʻaʻole ʻoe e lawe iā ia i nā papa ʻo Montessori? ʻAʻole ʻoe he makuahine iki! ʻO Cuckoo!
Manaʻo ʻoe he makuahine hoʻopailua ʻoe? ʻAno maikaʻi, pololei loa ʻoe!
A ʻaʻole kēia no ka mea ua hewa kekahi mea iā ʻoe. E loaʻa wale ka poʻe makemake ʻole i kāu ʻano hana makua. Ma ka manawa like, ʻo kā lākou hānai ponoʻī ʻana (e kala mai no kēia tautology kaumaha) e ʻae mālie iā lākou e hōʻike i kā lākou mau koi iā ʻoe i ke kino.
ʻO "Star kūlana" ʻaʻole ia he amulet e kūʻē i nā loiloi. A ma ka ʻaoʻao ʻē: ua like ʻo ia me kahi ʻulaʻula ʻulaʻula no ka bipi. ʻO nā laʻana hou loa me Anfisa Chekhova, nona nā mea kau inoa i weliweli i ka ʻai ʻana o kāna keiki i ka pasta me kona mau lima. A ʻoiai pū me nā kiʻi paʻi kiʻi! Hana, ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke kala. A i ʻole ʻo Maxim Vitorgan, ka mea ʻaneʻane "ʻai ola" no ka ʻaʻa e komo i nā gymnastics "weliweli" me kāna keikikāne. A ʻo Ksenia Sobchak? Pehea ʻo ia e ʻaʻa ai i ka paomi ma kekahi ʻano hoʻoikaika kino, ke noho ʻo ia ma ka home a hoʻoluliluli i kāna keiki. "He inoa naʻaupō kēlā," kākau ka poʻe ukali iā Anna Sedokova ke ʻike lākou ua kapa ʻo ia i kāna keiki ʻo Hector.
Manaʻo ʻoe he hiʻohiʻona kēia hana i ka noʻonoʻo Rūkia? E hoʻohoka kākou. Hoʻopilikia nā makuahine a puni ka honua i nā "mea makemake maikaʻi". Ua hele mai kēia hanana i ke Komohana me ka inoa "mumshaming" (mai ka ʻōlelo hilahila - hilahila).
ʻO nā mea a nā makuahine i manaʻo ai iā lākou iho no ka manawa lōʻihi i kēia manawa ua hōʻoia ʻia e nā helu helu. Ua mālama ʻia ke aʻo ʻana ma ʻAmelika Hui Pū ʻIa e ke kauoha a ka Haukapila Kamaliʻi ʻo Charles Stuart Mott. Ua nīnauele ʻia nā wahine me nā keiki ma lalo o ʻelima mau makahiki - ʻo kēia, e like me ka mea i hōʻike ʻia, ʻo ia ka mea hoʻolohe nui "palupalu". A eia ʻekolu mau lawe nui ʻana:
1. Ma ka hōʻuluʻulu, ʻelua hapakolu o nā makuahine (a ʻaneʻane he kanalima o lākou i komo i ka ana) ua hoʻopiʻi ʻia e pili ana i kā lākou keiki.
2. ʻO ka hapanui pinepine, hoʻopiʻi ʻia nā makuahine e nā lālā o ko lākou ʻohana.
3. ʻO nā hoʻopiʻi nui ʻekolu ʻo: ka hoʻopaʻi, ka meaʻai, ka hiamoe.
I kēia manawa no nā kikoʻī. ʻO ka hapanui (61% o nā mea pane) hoʻopiʻi ʻia nā makuahine ʻōpio e nā ʻohana: ke kāne, ka makuahōnōwai wahine, a ʻo ka makuahine ponoʻī hoʻi. Ke hoʻohālikelike ʻia i kēia kiʻi, ʻo ka hoʻohewa a nā ipo wahine a me nā hoaaloha, ʻoiai he kūlana ʻelua ia, ke nānā aku nei he aneane hiki ʻole - 14% wale nō. Ma ke kolu o nā wahi "makuahine" mai nā kahua pāʻani. ʻO nā mea ʻike mau i ka hānai ʻana i kahi pēpē ka mea ʻoi loa a mai hoʻokaʻulua e hana i kahi ʻōlelo i kahi malihini. Eia hou, ma nā mea liʻiliʻi - nā mea haʻi ʻōlelo ma nā pūnaewele kaiapili a me nā kauka i nā keʻena lapaʻau.
A ʻo ka hapalua ia o ka pilikia inā hoʻouka hoʻokahi kēia mau hoa āpau. Eia naʻe, ʻo kēlā me kēia makuahine ʻehā i nīnauele ʻia ua ʻae ʻo ia e nā ʻelele o nā hui ʻekolu a ʻoi paha o nā loiloi.
He aha ka mea makemake ʻole ka poʻe ʻenemi? ʻO ka mea mua loa, ʻoiaʻiʻo, ke ʻano o ka pēpē. Ua hoʻomaopopo ʻia kēia e 70 pākēneka o nā mea pane. Nui loa ka leo, walaʻau, haunaele pū kekahi ... ʻO nā kīnā i kāu keiki ua mākaukau e ʻike ʻaneʻane i nā mea āpau.
I ka lua a me ke kolu o ka hoʻopiʻi ʻana i ka papaʻai a me nā hiamoe hiamoe. Ke hoʻohiki nei mākou, ke hele nei nā kupuna wahine ma aneʻi. A laila aia nā "kaua" o nā mea kākoʻo a me nā mea kūʻē i ka hānai ʻana.
He aha nā hana a nā makuahine ke hoʻohewa ʻia lākou? Makemake wau e haʻi iā mākou i ka nānā ʻole ʻia o nā huaʻōlelo hōʻino. Akā ʻaʻole. Pili kā lākou mau ʻōlelo. Hoʻomaka ka hapa nui e ʻimi i ka ʻike ma ke kumuhana iā lākou iho a nīnau paha i kahi kauka i kahi nīnau e hōʻoia he pololei a i ʻole he hoa paio. Ma mua iki o ka hapakolu o nā wahine i ʻōlelo ua koi ka hōʻino iā lākou e hoʻololi i ko lākou mau manaʻo e pili ana i ka hānai ʻana a i ʻole ke ʻano o ke keiki.
I ka manawa like, 42 pakeneka o nā makuahine i nīnau ʻia i ʻae: ua hoʻomaka lākou e hopohopo nui aʻe ma hope o ka hoʻohewa ʻana, ʻoiai inā ʻaʻohe kumu. Ua kū ka 56 pakeneka i ka hōʻino ʻana i nā wahine ʻē aʻe ma hope o ka ʻike ʻana i ke ʻano. A ʻo ke kiʻi hope loa - ua hoʻopau ka hapalua o nā makuahine i ke kamaʻilio pū ʻana me "nā mea makemake maikaʻi" a hoʻāʻo e hōʻalo iā lākou. No laila, inā he ʻike ʻoe i nā mea āpau, e noʻonoʻo e pili ana i ka mea i aloha nui ʻia iā ʻoe: e hōʻike i kou manaʻo a i ʻole mālama i kahi hoa pili.