ʻO ka makuahine a me ke keikikāne: kahi pilina kūikawā

He ʻike ʻokoʻa loa mai ka makuahine

ʻO ka lawe ʻana mai i kahi keiki kāne i ke ao nei he mea hoʻoikaika nui no ka makuahine. Mahalo i ke keiki liʻiliʻi, e hūnā ʻo ia i loko o kona kino i ka "mea ʻē aʻe", ke kāne, ʻaʻole ia i ʻike. No ka makuahine, ʻo ke keiki ka gladiator liʻiliʻi nāna e lanakila i ka honua nona… E hoʻoponopono ʻo ia i ka mea hiki ʻole iā ia ke hana. pōkole, ʻo ke ola hou ʻana o ia ma ke ʻano he kāne. Ma ka hānau ʻana i kahi keiki kāne, komo ka makuahine i kahi honua ʻē aʻe, i loko o ke ao o nā kāne ... He mea kupanaha loa ka loaʻa ʻana o kou mau lima i kahi "holoholona liʻiliʻi" ʻaʻole mākou i ʻike i nā kuhikuhi no ka hoʻohana ʻana! Pehea e hoʻonaʻauao ai, aloha, a hoʻololi paha? I loko o ka hale hānai, he nui nā nīnau e pili ana i ke kumuhana o ka halepaku, ka retracting kaulana.

Pono ka makuahine a me ke keiki kāne

ʻAʻole hele ka pilina makuahine me ke keiki kāne mai ka intuition, e like me ke kaikamahine, akā pono ka hoʻoluhi mālie. Pono nā makuahine e haku, hoʻomaʻamaʻa ʻole me ka helu ʻole, a mālama i kēia pōpō o ka ikehu a me ka testosterone. ʻO ka hopena, no ka mea ʻaʻole mākou i ʻike iā ia a priori, ua hoʻowalewale ʻia mākou e noʻonoʻo hou no kāna "keiki". A no laila, mai nā lā mua, ke hele nei ka "hen makuahine". ! Hōʻike nā haʻawina a pau e ʻoi aku ka "ʻoi aku ka paʻa o ka umauma" me kahi keikikāne. Hoʻololi maʻalahi nā makuahine i kā lākou puʻupuʻu ala-moe ola a ala aʻe i ka pō, me he mea lā e nānā nui ana lākou i kēia mea liʻiliʻi i pakele iā lākou!

He pilina hoʻopunipuni ma waena o ka makuahine a me ke keiki kāne

He ʻoiaʻiʻo, kala nā makuahine i kā lākou aliʻi kāne liʻiliʻi i nā mea āpau. Hoʻopiʻi ʻo ia iā lākou, hoʻowalewale iā lākou, hoʻohiwahiwa iā lākou! Kāhea lākou iā ia "ʻo koʻu kanaka liʻiliʻi". Mai ka loaʻa ʻana o Freud a me ka "Oedipus complex", ʻike mākou ʻo ka pilina ma waena o ka makuahine a me ke keiki e hōʻailona ʻia e kekahi "eroticization" e like me ka ʻōlelo ʻana. Ke ʻike lākou iā ia i mua o lākou, hoʻopunipuni loa lākou no ka mea ʻike pinepine lākou i ko lākou makuakāne ponoʻī ma ke ʻano o ka flashback. ʻIke ʻia kēia ʻano "Oedipus i hoʻohuli ʻia" ʻoiai ʻo kekahi mau hiʻohiʻona (ka hānau hānau, kahi o ka mole, ka waihoʻoluʻu o ka ʻili a i ʻole nā ​​​​maka, a me nā mea ʻē aʻe) e lele pinepine i kahi hanauna. ʻO ka ka hoala hou ana o Oedipus 'Oia'i'o ka hopena o ka pilina makuahine-keiki: hānai pū ke keiki i a aloha pau ʻole no kona makuahine, ka mea e noho ana, i kona ola a pau, kana mea aloha mua, kona akua wahine. ʻAʻohe mea pilikia e pili ana i ia mea: no ke keiki liʻiliʻi, ʻo ka male ʻana i kona makuahine he moeʻuhane, ka manaʻo o kahi kūpono. ʻIke pono nā Māmā, ʻo ka poʻe e ʻeha, ʻaʻole me ka haʻaheo, micro-lili i loko o nā panties pōkole!

E heluhelu i ka ʻatikala "Oedipus: he aha ia?"«

ʻAʻole aloha nui ka makuahine i kāna keiki

ʻO kēia mau pilina ikaika, ʻoi aku ka nui i kekahi manawa, hoihoi akā hoʻoweliweli i nā makuahine. Ma muli o ka manaʻo o Oedipus, ua pāpā lākou iā lākou iho e aloha nui i kā lākou keiki liʻiliʻi no ka mea makaʻu lākou, ma ka noʻonoʻo nui ʻana iā ia, e ʻike iā ia e "huli" wimpy, a no ke aha ʻaʻole "gay"! He lōʻihi ke ola o nā Clichés a he mea hilahila. ʻAʻole pono nā makuahine e kaupalena i ko lākou aloha i kā lākou keikikāne, e pale aku iā ia iho mai ka ʻoluʻolu, palupalu, aloha, ma kekahi hihia, nā makahiki mua. Mai hoonui kakou! ʻAʻole pāpā ʻia ka lawe ʻana i kahi keiki maʻi ma kona wahi moe, i kekahi manawa… ʻO ka hana ʻana i kēlā me kēia lā he mea ʻoi loa. ʻO ka mea nui e kau i nā palena a hōʻike i ka mana. ʻO ka makuahine "maikaʻi", hōʻoluʻolu me ka ʻole o ka ʻeha, hiki iā ia ke hāʻawi i kāna keiki a palekana paʻa kumu.

Mai 2 mau makahiki, pono ke keiki i ka mana kūʻokoʻa

Makemake ke keikikāne e ho'āʻo i kona kūʻokoʻa ma mua o ke kaikamahine. Mai ka makahiki 2, hoʻāʻo ʻo ia e pakele, ma mua o kona makuahine, ʻoiai e nānā ana iā ia ma waho o ke kihi o kona maka, e hōʻoia ʻo ia aia ma laila. Hiki iā mākou ke pilikia i ka hilinaʻi iā ia, pono mākou e hoʻomaopopo kona makemake e ulu koke… A hoʻokuʻu iki. Inā nui ka pono o nā keikikāne e hoʻokolohua, e piʻi, e ʻimi i nā ʻāina hou, ʻo ia ka nui o ka hoʻolilo ʻana i ko lākou ikaika e like me ka e hoao i ka mamao.

Pono ka makuahine e lohe i ke akahai o kana keiki, ma kahi o 5/6 makahiki. I kēia manawa paʻakikī i ka wā e hiamoe ai nā manaʻo, pono ʻoe e makaʻala ʻaʻole e apo nui iā ia, honi iā ​​ia. Paʻakikī kekahi mau makuahine i ka ʻike ʻana i kā lākou pēpē mua e hōʻole ikaika i kā lākou ʻapo. Manaʻo lākou: ʻaʻole ʻo ia i aloha hou iaʻu. He aha kaʻu i hana ai iā ia? No ke aha ʻo ia e inaina mai ai iaʻu ?. ʻOiai he mea kū'ē loa ia! No kona aloha nui iā ia i hoʻāʻo ai ke keiki liʻiliʻi e hoʻokaʻawale iā ia iho, e pakele ai mai kona mau lima aku.

 He mea nui ka waiho ʻana i kahi no ka makua kāne

Mākaukau nā keiki kāne e pani i ko lakou makuakane, e lilo i "hoopalau liʻiliʻi" na ko lākou makuahine. ʻOi aku ka nui o kēia pilikia ma nā ʻohana makua hoʻokahi, akā ʻaʻohe pūʻulu ʻohana i pale ʻole. He mea nui ka waiho ʻana i wahi no ka makua kāne, a i ʻole no ka makua kāne. Pono pono. Mai kekahi mau makahiki, 4 a 5 paha makahiki, inā hōʻole ke keiki liʻiliʻi i kona makuahine e aloha i kona makuakāne ("ʻaʻole, ʻo ka makuakāne ke kāhiko iaʻu! Makemake wau e hele me ka makuakāne, ʻaʻole ʻoe") e ʻae. Loaʻa i nā keiki a pau kekahi ʻano "passport" i ke kāne a i ʻole ka wahine i hoʻopaʻa ʻia e ka makua o ka wahine hoʻokahi. ʻAʻole hiki iā mākou ke pakele, ua hoʻoili ʻia ka wahine mai ka makua a i ke keiki kāne. Ma ke aʻo ʻana i kāna keiki e lilo i kāne, e hoʻohālikelike ka makua kāne i ke aloha makuahine.

Māmā / keiki: e ʻimi i ka mamao kūpono

ʻO ka makana maikaʻi loa i hiki i ka makuahine ke hāʻawi i kāna keiki, ʻo ia ke aloha iā ia i kēlā me kēia manawa ma kahi kokoke, mai kēlā me kēia manawa "ma kahi mamao", e hoʻolohe i nā makemake o kāna keiki, e pono ai ʻo ia e kipa i ka honua ākea. ʻOi aku ka maikaʻi o kona aloha iā ia a e lilo ʻo ia i a kāne hauʻoli. No laila, ʻo kēlā me kēia hoʻonaʻauao a lākou e hāʻawi ai, ʻo ka mana o nā makuahine ma luna o kā lākou mau keikikāne he mea nui no nā makahiki e hiki mai ana. ʻO ka icing ma ka keke ka mea e hoʻoholo lākou i ke koho o ... ka wahine e hiki mai ana ! Manaʻo, koi, paʻa? ʻO ka manawa pinepine, e nānā ke keikikāne i ka wahine e like me kona makuahine ... A i ʻole ʻo wai ka mea ʻē aʻe, ʻo ia ka mea like. Inā aloha ʻoe i kāu keikikāne me ka ʻole o ka hoʻonui ʻana, e hoʻolilo ʻoe iā ia i kanaka hoʻokō i kona ola manaʻo. Ma hope ua lilo ʻo ia i mea hoʻopunipuni hilinaʻi a mahalo nui ʻia e nā wahine. Me he mea lā, i ka hopena, ke ʻimi nei lākou iā ia no kēia makuahine kupanaha nāna i hānai maikaʻi iā ia a aloha iā ia ...