"ʻAʻohe mea i kōkua iaʻu me ʻoe - a ʻaʻole au e," i ʻōlelo koke ka makuahine i ka pane ʻana i kahi noi e kōkua me ke keiki. Kupanaha ke kani ʻana, akā he kuleana ko ke kupunawahine e hōʻole i ka mālama i kāna moʻopuna.
ʻAʻole nō ʻo nā kūpuna wahine hou i kēia manawa he 15-20 mau makahiki i hala. A laila noho nā moʻopuna i ka hopena pule me lākou no ka hauʻoli: pie, pāʻani pāʻani, huakaʻi hui i nā wahi. Nui ka hauʻoli i ka hānai pēpē ʻana i kā lākou moʻopuna. I kēia manawa aia nō kekahi mau tūtū wahine, akā, ʻoi aku ka liʻiliʻi o lākou. Nui ka makemake o kekahi e pili ana i ke ola pilikino, he ʻoihana kekahi, a he hoʻomaha kūpono kūpono kekahi. ʻO kā mākou mea heluhelu ʻo Zhanna, kahi makuahine ʻōpio, i kū i mua i kēlā ʻano kūlana.
"Ua pono wau e hele e hana ma mua o kaʻu i hoʻolālā ai i ka wā e hele ai i ka wā hānau makuahine. He ʻōpiopio loa koʻu makuahine, a ua manaʻo wau ʻaʻole ia e noʻonoʻo e kōkua iaʻu me kāna keiki. Akā ua ʻōlelo ʻo ia ua liʻiliʻi ʻo ia, a poina iā ia ka mālama ʻana i nā pēpē pēpē. Ua hoʻolimalima wau i kahi nanny, a ua hiki koke iaʻu ke hoʻokomo iā Yegorka i kahi kula hānai. I kēia manawa he 4 mau makahiki o kaʻu keikikāne, akā hōʻole koʻu makuahine e noho manawa me ia. I kekahi manawa kōkua ʻo ia i waho, lawe iā ia i mau hola ʻelua ma nā hopena pule, akā laila ʻōhumu mau ʻo ia no ka luhi nui, ua piʻi aʻe ke koko, a i kēia manawa pono ke ola no hoʻokahi pule holoʻokoʻa. Eia naʻe, ʻaʻole holo. Noho ʻo ia ma ka home i ka lā holoʻokoʻa, nānā i ke kīwī, hui me nā ipo wahine, a i kaʻu mau noi e kōkua iaʻu me kaʻu keiki, ke lilo kaʻu hebedoma hana i ʻehiku lā pule, ua ʻōlelo ʻoiaʻiʻo: "ʻAʻohe mea i kōkua iaʻu me ʻoe, ʻo wau ua loaʻa iaʻu iho, eia ʻoe e hoʻāʻo nei e like me aʻu. ”He aha kēia? Hoʻopaʻi hoʻopaʻi? Huhū huna iaʻu? He manawa kūpono e hoʻihoʻi i kāu wā ʻōpio i hala? “
"I ke ao hou, ʻoi aku ka nui o nā kupuna wahine i koho i ka hope i ke koho ʻana ma waena o nā moʻopuna a me ke ola pilikino. A i nā ʻāina ʻē, ua manaʻo ʻia kēia hana he mea maʻamau. Noho ke kūpuna i ke ola piha, hana i nā mea a lākou e makemake ai, huakaʻi, a ʻaʻohe mea e pili ana i nā makahiki o kēia mau kūpuna, 40 a 80 paha.
ʻOiai, maopopo leʻa a maopopo leʻa ko Jeanne kūlana: makemake kekahi makuahine i ke kōkua a ʻaʻohe kōkua nā kōkua me nā keiki. Akā, mai poina i ka hoʻoholo ʻana i kahi keiki, lawe mākou i kuleana na mākou iho. Ma hope o nā mea āpau, ʻo kēia kā mākou hoʻoholo a me ko mākou makemake. ʻAʻole kōkua ke kōkua ʻana i kahi kupuna wahine, akā he ʻoihana! Ua hānai mua nā mākua i kā lākou keiki. “
Eia nō naʻe, hiki nō ke hoʻohuli i ke kūlana o koʻu makuahine. ʻOi aku ka pololei, hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻāʻo.
1. ʻO ka mea mua āu e hoʻoholo ai iā ʻoe iho i kahi, i ka manawa a i ka manawa hea ʻoe e kōkua ai. A, ʻo ka mea nui, he aha ke ʻano kōkua āu e makemake ai e lawe mai kou makuahine.
2. E hoʻāʻo e hoʻopaʻa me kou makuahine. ʻO kekahi hana a hana ʻole paha a kekahi kanaka i kahi wehewehe, kāna kumu ponoʻī. Noho i lalo i ka papa ʻaina kūkākūkā, e nīnau ākea: ua mākaukau kou kupunawahine e kōkua iā ʻoe, he aha ke kōkua i hiki iā ia ke hāʻawi a me ka nui hea.
3. E haʻi ākea, me ka hoʻokamani ʻole. E haʻi iā mākou e pili ana i kou mau manaʻo, kou naʻau, pehea ʻoe e nele ai i ke kōkua a pehea ka maikaʻi inā ma kahi liʻiliʻi ua kōkua kekahi iā ʻoe.
4. E ʻike i nā mea hiki iā ʻoe ke hana no kou makuahine. Maliʻa paha he mea nui ʻole kēia iā ʻoe, akā nui loa iā ia.
5. E kaha i kahi ʻano aelike me kahi papa kuhikuhi. ʻOiai inā paha ʻoe ʻaʻole pili kou makuahine me kekahi mea, ʻoiaʻiʻo he ʻokoʻa paha ia. E ʻike i kāna hana i kēlā me kēia lā, pule, manawa hiki iā ia ke lawe maoli i kāna moʻopuna iā ia. ʻAe i nā mōlina manawa kikoʻī.
6. E lilo hoʻi i mahalo no nā kōkua mai iā ia, no ka mea, ʻo ka kākoʻo iki he mea nui ia iā ʻoe. Me he mea lā ʻaʻohe mea kupua, akā poina pinepine mākou e pili ana i nā mea maʻalahi, ke lawe nei i ke kōkua mai waho mai no ka mea.
7. E kamaʻilio me ka ʻohana a me nā hoaaloha, e kaʻana like i kou mau manaʻo, a ʻo ka manawa hoʻi, e mākaukau e hoʻolohe iā lākou i kā lākou hoʻihoʻi ʻana. ʻO kā mākou ʻike i ke kūlana a me ka ʻike o nā poʻe ʻē aʻe hiki ke loli nui, a maʻalahi pinepine i ka loaʻa ʻana o kahi kuʻikahi inā kamaʻilio wale mākou.
8. Hoʻopilikia i kou makuahine me nā mea pūʻiwa liʻiliʻi: hiki i kahi pahu o kāna mea momona punahele, a i ʻole ke hele ʻana i ka cafe.
9. E hāʻawi i kou makuahine i manawa hou aku, akā ʻaʻole wale i loko o nā paia o kou home a i ʻole ke keʻena, ke hāʻawi ʻoe iā ia i kahi hana no hoʻokahi lā a hoʻokahi pule. Kono iā ia e holoholo a puni ke kaona, kahi kiʻi ʻoniʻoni, a i ʻole kahi hōʻike. E mahalo ʻo Māmā iā ia.
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Manaʻo ʻoe e mālama kahi kupuna wahine i kāna moʻopuna?
ʻAe, maopopo leʻa. E pōmaikaʻi nā kānaka āpau mai kēia: kupuna wahine, nā keiki, a me nā mākua.
ʻAʻole pono ia. ʻO kāna makemake maoli kēia, ʻaʻole he dute i kau ʻia mai waho.
ʻAʻole oʻu hopohopo e pili ana i kēia pilikia. Inā pono ʻoe e ʻike i kahi no kahi keiki, hiki iaʻu ke hoʻolimalima i kahi nanny a nīnau paha i kahi hoa. ʻOi aku ka pipiʻi o ka hoʻopili ʻana aku iā ʻoe iho. ʻAʻole hiki ke kāohi ʻia ke keiki ma hope o kēlā kōkua.
Hana ʻia ia i nā ʻano ʻokoʻa. I kekahi manawa ʻaʻole hiki iā ia ke kūleʻa me ke kōkua ʻole a manaʻo wau e maopopo i ke kupunawahine kāna hana nui.