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He mea kupanaha nā mea a pau me lākou, piha lākou i ka ikaika a me nā manaʻo, hoʻohenehene lākou, ʻakaʻaka lākou. Me ka ʻole o lākou, ʻoluʻolu i ka ʻoihana, ua mākaukau lākou e kōkua i ka pilikia. Aloha a mahalo ʻia lākou. Me he mea lā ʻo lākou ka poʻe hauʻoli loa o ka honua. Akā, he hiʻohiʻona wale nō kēia. Ua hūnā ʻia ke kaumaha, ka ʻeha, ka makaʻu a me ka hopohopo ma hope o ka maka o ka ʻoliʻoli. He aha ka hewa iā lākou? A pehea ʻoe e kōkua ai iā lākou?
He paʻakikī ke manaʻoʻiʻo, akā he nui wale ka poʻe i hauʻoli, akā ʻoiaʻiʻo, i kēlā me kēia lā e hakakā lākou me nā manaʻo kaumaha. ʻO ka maʻamau ka poʻe e loaʻa ana i ke kaumaha e like me mākou he pōʻeleʻele, lethargic, mālama ʻole i nā mea āpau. Akā ʻo ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, e like me ka noiʻi a ka US National Institute of Mental Health, ʻoi aku ma mua o 10% o nā kamaʻāina i loaʻa i ke kaumaha, ʻo ia ka 10 mau manawa o ka poʻe i loaʻa i ka maʻi bipolar a i ʻole schizophrenia.
A i ka manawa like, ʻike nā mea a pau i ke kaumaha ma ko lākou ala ponoʻī. ʻAʻole ʻike kekahi poʻe ua loaʻa iā lākou kēia maʻi, ʻoiai inā manaʻo lākou aia lākou i ka mana o ko lākou ola i kēlā me kēia lā. Me he mea lā hiki ʻole i kekahi ke ʻakaʻaka, ʻakaʻaka, hana a mau nō ke kaumaha. Akā, pōʻino, hiki pinepine kēia.
He aha ke ʻano o ka "ʻakaʻaka" kaumaha
"I kaʻu hoʻomaʻamaʻa, ʻo ka hapa nui o ka poʻe i loaʻa i ka maʻi o ka "depression" he haʻalulu i loaʻa wale i ke kaumaha "ʻakaʻaka". ʻAʻole i lohe kekahi i kēia, "wahi a psychologist Rita Labon. ʻO ke kanaka me kēia maʻi me he mea lā hauʻoli i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe, ʻakaʻaka mau a ʻakaʻaka hoʻi, akā ʻoiaʻiʻo, ke kaumaha nui nei.
ʻAʻole ʻike pinepine ʻia ke kaumaha "ʻakaʻaka". Ke ho'āʻo nei lākou e haʻalele iā ia, e hoʻokau i nā hōʻailona i ka hohonu e like me ka hiki. ʻAʻole ʻike ka poʻe maʻi e pili ana i ko lākou maʻi, a makemake paha ʻaʻole e ʻike iā ia no ka makaʻu o manaʻo ʻia he nāwaliwali.
ʻO ka minoʻaka a me ka "facade" alohilohi he mau mea pale wale nō ia e hūnā i nā manaʻo maoli. Makemake ke kanaka ma muli o ka haʻalele ʻana me kahi hoa, pilikia i ka hana, a i ʻole ka nele o nā pahuhopu i ke ola. A i kekahi manawa manaʻo wale ʻo ia ua hewa kekahi mea - akā ʻaʻole maopopo i ka mea pololei.
Eia kekahi, ua hui pū ʻia kēia ʻano puʻuwai me ka hopohopo, ka makaʻu, ka huhū, ka luhi mau, ka manaʻo o ka manaʻolana a me ka hōʻeha ʻana iā ia iho a me ke ola. Loaʻa paha nā pilikia me ka hiamoe, ka nele o ka leʻaleʻa mai ka mea āu i makemake ai, ka emi ʻana o ka makemake moe.
Loaʻa i kēlā me kēia kanaka ko lākou mau hōʻailona ponoʻī, a hiki i ke kaumaha ke hōʻike iā ia iho i hoʻokahi a i ʻole i ka manawa hoʻokahi.
"ʻO ka poʻe e loaʻa ana i ke kaumaha" ʻakaʻaka "e ʻaʻahu lākou i nā masks. ʻAʻole paha lākou e hōʻike i ko lākou manaʻo ʻino, - wahi a Rita Labon. - Hana lākou i ka manawa piha, hana i nā hana hale, nā haʻuki, alakaʻi i kahi ola kaiaulu. Ke peʻe nei ma hope o kahi mask, hōʻike lākou he maikaʻi nā mea āpau, maikaʻi loa. I ka manawa like, ʻike lākou i ke kaumaha, ʻike i ka panic attack, ʻaʻole hilinaʻi iā lākou iho, a i kekahi manawa e noʻonoʻo e pili ana i ka pepehi kanaka.
He pilikia maoli ka pepehi kanaka no ia mau kanaka. ʻO ka maʻamau, hiki i ka poʻe e loaʻa ana i ke kaumaha maʻamau ke noʻonoʻo e pili ana i ka pepehi kanaka, akā ʻaʻole lawa ka ikaika e hoʻokō ai i nā manaʻo. ʻO ka poʻe i loaʻa i ke kaumaha "ʻakaʻaka" ua lawa ka ikaika e hoʻolālā a hoʻokō i ka pepehi kanaka. No laila, ʻoi aku ka pōʻino o kēia ʻano kaumaha ma mua o kāna ʻano maʻamau.
Hiki ke mālama ʻia ke kaumaha o "ka ʻakaʻaka".
Eia nō naʻe, aia ka nūhou maikaʻi no ka poʻe i loaʻa i kēia maʻi - maʻalahi ke kōkua. Hoʻopau maikaʻi ka Psychotherapy me ke kaumaha. Inā manaʻo ʻoe e loaʻa ana kāu mea aloha a i ʻole hoa pili i ke kaumaha "ʻakaʻaka", hiki iā ia ke hōʻole a hana maikaʻi ʻole paha i kou wā e hāpai mua ai i kona kūlana.
Maikaʻi kēia. ʻO ka mea maʻamau, ʻaʻole ʻae ka poʻe i ko lākou maʻi, a ʻo ka huaʻōlelo "depression" ke kani hoʻoweliweli iā lākou. E hoʻomanaʻo, i ko lākou manaʻo, ʻo ka noi ʻana i ke kōkua he hōʻailona ia o ka nāwaliwali. Manaʻo lākou ʻo ka poʻe maʻi maoli wale nō ka pono e lapaʻau.
Ma waho aʻe o ka lāʻau lapaʻau, kōkua nui ia e kaʻana like i kāu pilikia me nā mea aloha.
ʻOi aku ka maikaʻi e koho i ka ʻohana pili loa, hoaaloha a i ʻole kanaka hiki iā ʻoe ke hilinaʻi loa. Hiki i ke kūkākūkā mau o ka pilikia ke hoʻemi i nā hōʻailona o ka hōʻike ʻana o ka maʻi. He mea nui e hoʻopau i ka manaʻo he kaumaha ʻoe. I kekahi manawa poina iā mākou e hauʻoli nā mea aloha a me nā hoaaloha e kākoʻo iā mākou e like me kā mākou kākoʻo iā lākou. ʻO ka manawa kūpono e kaʻana like i nā manaʻo e hāʻawi i ka ikaika e hoʻopau i nā manaʻo kaumaha.
ʻO ka lōʻihi o kou hoʻomauʻana i ka hōʻoleʻana i ka hōʻailona a pale i ka pilikia,ʻo kaʻoi aku ka paʻakikī o ka ho'ōlaʻana i ka maʻi. Ke ʻōlelo ʻole ʻia nā manaʻo a me nā manaʻo kaumaha, ʻaʻole mālama ʻia, ʻoi aku ka ʻino, ʻo ia ke kumu he mea nui e ʻimi i ke kōkua i ka manawa.
4 Nā ʻanuʻu e hoʻomalu i ke kaumaha ʻakaʻaka
Ua ʻōlelo ʻo Laura Coward, he psychologist a he lālā o ka National Alliance on Mental Illness, i ke kaumaha o ka "ʻakaʻaka", me he mea lā ua hauʻoli loa ke kanaka i ke ola, akā ʻakaʻaka ʻo ia i ka ʻeha.
ʻO ka manawa pinepine, nīnau nā poʻe maʻi me kēia maʻi i ka psychologist, "Loaʻa iaʻu nā mea āpau āu e makemake ai. No laila, no ke aha wau ʻaʻole hauʻoli?" Ua hōʻike ʻia kahi noiʻi hou o 2000 wahine he 89% o lākou e loaʻa i ke kaumaha akā hūnā ia mai nā hoaaloha, ʻohana a me nā hoahana. ʻO ka mea nui, ke ola nei kēia mau wahine a pau i ke ola piha.
He aha kāu e hana ai inā loaʻa iā ʻoe nā hōʻailona o ke kaumaha "ʻakaʻaka"?
1. E ae mai ua mai oe
He hana paʻakikī no ka poʻe i loaʻa i ke kaumaha o ka "ʻakaʻaka". "Hoʻohaʻahaʻa pinepine lākou i ko lākou mau manaʻo ponoʻī, hoʻokau iā lākou i loko. Makaʻu lākou e manaʻo ʻia he nāwaliwali ke ʻike lākou i ka maʻi, "wahi a Rita Labon. Akā, ʻo nā manaʻo hoʻomau o ke kaumaha, mehameha, manaʻolana ʻole, a me ka hopohopo hoʻi he mau hōʻailona ia o ke kaumaha o ka naʻau, ʻaʻole nāwaliwali. He mea maʻamau kou mau manaʻo, he hōʻailona ia ua hewa kekahi mea, pono ke kōkua a me ke kamaʻilio.
2. E kamaʻilio me nā poʻe āu e hilinaʻi nei
ʻO kahi pilikia nui no ka poʻe i loaʻa i kēia ʻano puʻuwai ke hoʻāʻo lākou e hūnā i nā hōʻailona mai nā poʻe ʻē aʻe. Ua ʻeha ʻoe, akā hopohopo ʻoe ʻaʻole maopopo nā hoaaloha a me nā ʻohana i kou mau manaʻo, e huhū a huikau lākou no ka mea ʻaʻole lākou e ʻike i ka mea e hana ai. A i ʻole ʻoe maopopo ʻaʻole hiki i kekahi ke kōkua iā ʻoe.
ʻAe,ʻaʻole hiki i nā mea'ē aʻe ke "lawe" i kou mau manaʻo maikaʻiʻole, akā he mea nui e hoʻokomo i nā hua'ōlelo, e kamaʻilio me kahi mea āu i hilinaʻi ai, me ka mea āu eʻoluʻolu ai. He ʻanuʻu nui kēia i ka hoʻōla. ʻO ia ke kumu, e kamaʻilio e pili ana i nā pilikia me kahi psychotherapist, ʻoluʻolu mākou.
"ʻO ka mea mua pono ʻoe e koho i hoʻokahi kanaka: he hoaaloha, he ʻohana, he psychologist - a haʻi iā ia e pili ana i kou mau manaʻo," wahi a Rita Labon. E wehewehe ma ka laulā ua maikaʻi nā mea a pau i kou ola, akā ʻaʻole ʻoe e hauʻoli e like me kou nānā ʻana. E hoʻomanaʻo iā ia a me ʻoe iho ʻaʻole ʻoe e noi e hoʻopau i nā pilikia i ka manawa koke. Ke nānā wale nei ʻoe e ʻike inā e kōkua ke kūkākūkā ʻana i kou kūlana."
Inā ʻaʻole ʻoe maʻa i ke kūkākūkā ʻana i kou mau manaʻo, hiki iā ʻoe ke manaʻo i ka hopohopo, ke kaumaha, ke kaumaha.
Akā e hāʻawi iā ʻoe iho a me kāu mea aloha i ka manawa, a e kahaha ʻoe i ka hopena a me ka lōʻihi o ka hopena o kahi kamaʻilio maʻalahi.
3. E mālama i kou manaʻo ponoʻī
I kekahi manawa he mea maʻamau ka kānalua iā ʻoe iho, akā ʻaʻole i ka wā i hewa loa nā mea āpau. I kēlā mau manawa, "hoʻopau" mākou i ko mākou manaʻo pono'ī. I kēia manawa, ua like ka manaʻo ponoʻī me ka ʻōnaehana pale ʻana i ka naʻau, kōkua ia e hoʻoponopono i nā pilikia, akā pono e hoʻoikaika a mālama ʻia.
ʻO kahi ala e hana ai i kēia, ʻo ke kākau ʻana iā ʻoe iho i leka, a i loko o laila, e minamina iā ʻoe iho, kākoʻo a hauʻoli e like me kou kākoʻo ʻana i kahi hoaaloha. No laila, e hoʻomaʻamaʻa ʻoe i ke kākoʻo ponoʻī, aloha aloha, ka mea i nele i ka poʻe i loaʻa i ke kaumaha "ʻakaʻaka".
4. Ina eha kou hoa, e kamailio mai, e hoolohe.
I kekahi manawa ʻoi aku ka paʻakikī o ka ʻeha o kekahi ma mua o kou ʻeha, akā hiki iā ʻoe ke kōkua inā hoʻolohe ʻoe i kekahi. E hoʻomanaʻo - ʻaʻole hiki ke lawe i nā manaʻo maikaʻi ʻole a me nā manaʻo. Mai ho'āʻo e hōʻoluʻolu a hoʻoponopono i nā mea a pau, e hoʻomaopopo wale i kou aloha i kāu mea aloha, ʻoiai inā ʻaʻole ʻo ia i hemolele e like me kāna makemake. E ʻōlelo wale ʻo ia.
ʻO ka hoʻolohe ʻana ʻo ia ka hōʻike ʻana i kou lohe maoli a hoʻomaopopo i ka mea i ʻōlelo ʻia.
E ʻōlelo ʻoe i ke aloha, e nīnau i ka mea hiki ke hana. Inā ma hope o ke kamaʻilio ʻana me ʻoe e pono e hana i kekahi mea, e kūkākūkā mua me kahi mea aloha i loaʻa i ke kaumaha. E hōʻike i ke aloha, e wehewehe kikoʻī i kāu mea e manaʻo ai e hana a me ke kumu, a hoʻolohe pono i ka pane.
I ka hiki ʻana mai i ke kōkua ʻoihana, e kaʻana like i kahi ʻike maikaʻi i ka lāʻau lapaʻau, inā loaʻa iā ʻoe kekahi, a ʻoliʻoli wale paha. Hele pinepine nā hoaaloha me ka mea maʻi a i ʻole nā mea maʻi e hele mai ma ka ʻōlelo a nā hoaaloha, a laila hui no ka hele wāwae a i ʻole ke kīʻaha kofe ma hope koke o ka lapaʻau ʻana.
ʻAʻole pono ʻoe e kali ma hope o ke kau ʻana a i ʻole e kūkākūkā i ka hopena o ke kamaʻilio ʻana me ke kanaka psychologist. No ka hoʻomaka ʻana, kākoʻo wale i kahi hoaaloha - lawa ia.