ʻOedipus: ʻO kaʻu kaikamahine wale nō ia no kona makuakāne!

ʻO ka pilina o ke kaikamahine a me ka makua kāne

Pāpā, papa, papa… ʻO Lucie, 4 makahiki, ʻaʻohe mea i koe akā no kona makuakāne. No kekahi mau mahina i kēia manawa, ua hōʻike ʻo ia i ka manaʻo ʻole i kona makuahine. ʻO kona makuakāne wale nō ke aloha i kona mau maka. Me ia, hana ʻo ia i ka nui o ia mea: nā maka, nā ʻakaʻaka hoʻokalakupua ... Makemake ʻo ia e ʻai wale inā ʻo ia ka mea e noho i lalo i ka papaʻaina a hoʻopaʻa i kāna kāwele. A ʻōlelo ʻo ia me ka leo nui a me ka maopopo: ʻo ia me ia e mare ai. A ʻoiai ʻo Jade, 3, e noi ana i kona makuakāne e ʻaʻahu i ke kakahiaka a i ka pō no ka wā e moe ai, ʻo Emma, ​​​​5, ma kāna ʻaoʻao, e hoʻāʻo i kēlā me kēia pō e hoʻomoe ma waena o kona mau mākua ma ka moena male. A ʻōlelo hou ʻo Laïs, 6 makahiki, "E papa, ua ʻoi aku kou aloha iaʻu ma mua o mama?" “

ʻO Oedipus a i ʻole Electra complex he aha ka wehewehe? He aha kāu e kapa ai i ke kaikamahine aloha i kona makuakāne?

Akā he aha ka hewa iā lākou? ʻAʻohe mea ʻē aʻe wale nō: ke hele nei lākou i ka wā o ka complex Oedipus. Hoʻoulu ʻia e ke ʻano o ka moʻolelo Helene nāna i pepehi i kona makuakāne a mare i kona makuahine, ʻo kēia manaʻo mai kahi moʻolelo kahiko e pili ana i ʻo ka manawa e ʻike ai ke keiki i ke aloha kūpaʻa ʻole i ka makua o ke kāne ʻē, a me ka manaʻo lili i ka makua o ka wahine hoʻokahi.. I ka hihia kahi o ka Oedipus complex i loko o ka pilina makua kāne / kaikamahine, ua kapa ʻia ʻo ia ka paʻakikī Electra.

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ʻO ke ʻano: No ke aha i makemake ai nā kaikamahine liʻiliʻi i ko lākou makuakāne?

ʻAʻole pono e hana keaka. Ma waena o nā makahiki 2 a me 6, ʻo ka Electra complex kahi pae maʻamau o ka hoʻomohala ʻana a me ke ʻano o ke kino. "I ka hoʻomaka ʻana o kona ola, mālama ke kaikamahine liʻiliʻi i kahi pilina pili me kona makuahine. Akā liʻiliʻi, e wehe ʻo ia i ka honua a hoʻomaopopo aia aia, e like me kona makuakāne, ʻo kahi moe kāne ʻē aʻe a laila e ulu ai ʻo ia i ka ʻike maoli ", wehewehe psychologist Michèle Gaubert, mea kākau o" Ke kaikamahine a kona makuakāne ", ed. o ke kanaka.

Mai ka makahiki 3, hōʻike ke kaikamahine i kona ʻano pilikino. ʻO kāna kumu hoʻohālike kona makuahine. Hoʻomaopopo ʻo ia me ia a makemake ʻo ia e pani i kona wahi. No laila e hoʻowalewale i kona makuakāne. A laila ʻike ʻo ia i kona makuahine he mea hoʻokūkū a hoʻāʻo e hoʻokuke iā ia, i kekahi manawa me ka ʻino. Akā i ka manawa like, aloha nui ʻo ia iā ia a manaʻo hewa i kāna mau manaʻo koʻikoʻi. Ke hele nei nā keiki a pau mai ka makahiki 3 a hiki i ka 6 i kēia wā ʻino. Pāʻani nā keikikāne liʻiliʻi me ko lākou makuakāne a pūliki i ko lākou makuahine. Hoʻonui nā kaikamahine liʻiliʻi i nā hana hoʻowalewale i ko lākou makuakāne. Mai ka ambivalence o ko lākou mau manaʻo, ala mai ka haunaele, kahi huikau e hiki ai i nā mākua wale nō, ma ko lākou ʻano kūpaʻa akā hoʻomaopopo, hiki ke haʻalele.

ʻO ka pilikia ʻo Oedipus i ke kaikamahine liʻiliʻi: ʻo ke kuleana o ka makuakāne ke hoʻoholo

"Ma keʻano laulā, manaʻo ʻia ka makua kāne e kau ʻia ma ke alo o ka hiʻohiʻona", wahi a Alain Braconnier, psychiatrist a psychologist ma Center Philippe Paumelle, ma Paris. "Akā inā ʻaʻole ʻo ia e kau i nā palena, hiki i kāna kaikamahine liʻiliʻi ke manaʻoʻiʻo e hiki ke hoʻokō ʻia kāna mau makemake, a hoʻomau i kāna hoʻāʻo ʻana i ka hoʻowalewale. ” No laila ke koʻikoʻi o ka waiho ʻana i kona wahi a hōʻike iā ia aia ka male ma waho ona. ʻAʻole mākou e hoʻokaʻulua e hoʻoponopono hou iā ia, me ka ʻole o ka hōʻino ʻana a i ʻole ka manaʻo hewa. "Ma ke kipaku ikaika ʻana iā ia, hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻohauʻoli iā ia a pale iā ia, ma ke ʻano he kanaka makua, mai ka hoʻokokoke ʻana i ke kāne," wahi a ka psychiatrist. ʻO ke kiʻi e loaʻa iā ia iho, ʻo kona ʻano wahine a me kona mana hoʻowalewale i ka wā e hiki mai ana e hilinaʻi ʻia ma ka nānā mahalo a me nā hoʻomaikaʻi a kona makuakāne e hoʻouna aku ai iā ia. Akā ma luna o nā mea a pau, ʻaʻole mākou e pāʻani i kāna pāʻani, ʻaʻole mākou e ʻae iā ia e manaʻoʻiʻo e ko mākou ʻano hiki ke hoʻowalewale ʻia ma kahi papa inoa i mālama ʻia no nā pākeke.

Pehea e mālama ai i ka pilina oedipal: ka pilina o ka hakakā ma waena o ka makuahine a me ke kaikamahine

Ke haʻalele nei kā mākou kaikamahine iā mākou me ke aliʻi? Paʻakikī i ka makuahine ke ʻae. "Ma kahi paʻakikī Electra, mālama pinepine ka makuahine, i kēia manawa, manaʻo hoʻokaʻawale ʻia », Wahi a Alain Braconnier. ʻAʻohe nīnau e holoi iā mākou. "No ka hoʻomohala ʻana i ka harmoniously, pono ke keiki e ulu i loko o kahi pilina triangular", underlines the psychiatrist. No ka hoʻoponopono hou ʻana, manaʻo mākou e mālama iā mākou iho i nā manawa kūikawā, me ia wale nō. E kōkua iā ia e ʻike me mākou ma nā wahi ʻē aʻe. Ke hoʻomanaʻo nei hoʻi mākou he keiki wale nō kā mākou "hoʻokūkū", ʻo kā mākou aloha iā mākou a hilinaʻi iā mākou e alakaʻi iā ia. No laila, ʻaʻole mākou e ʻakaʻaka iā ia, ʻaʻole mākou ʻakaʻaka i kāna hana palaka e hoʻohauʻoli i kona makuakāne. Akā, hōʻoluʻolu mākou iā ia, ʻoiai e kūpaʻa ana: "ʻO wau hoʻi, i koʻu mau makahiki, ua moeʻuhane wau e mare i koʻu makuakāne. Akā ʻaʻole hiki. I koʻu lilo ʻana i wahine, ʻike wau i kou makuakāne, aloha kāua a pēlā ʻoe i hānau ʻia ai. “

ʻaoʻao makuahine

ʻO kāna mau nānā ʻana i kona makuakāne e hoʻonāukiuki iā mākou? Ma luna o nā mea a pau, pale mākou i ke komo ʻana i ka hoʻokūkū. Hoʻomanaʻo mālie ʻia ʻaʻole nona kona makuakāne. Akā hoʻomau mākou i ke aloha… a me ke ahonui. E lilo koke ana ʻo Oedipus i mea hoʻomanaʻo mamao.

Oedipus complex: a i ka wā o ka hemo

I loko o kēia manawa koʻikoʻi, "i ka wā e kaʻawale ai nā mākua, pono e pale aku i nā koina āpau e ola ka makua kāne a i ʻole ka makuahine i mālama ʻia no ke keiki a hoʻokumu i kahi" kāne liʻiliʻi "me ia. Maikaʻi ke keikikāne a me ke kaikamahine pili mau me kekahi ʻaoʻao ʻekolu - he hoaaloha, he ʻanakala - e uhaki i ka pilina hui. Inā ʻaʻole, pilikia ka hana ʻana i ka nele o ka mana kūʻokoʻa ma nā ʻaoʻao ʻelua. »Hoʻopau i ke kanaka psychologist ʻo Michèle Gaubert.