Ua hōʻuluʻulu ka makuahine o nā keiki ʻeono i 10 mau lula e kōkua i ka lawe ʻana i kahi kanaka kūpono.
Ua loaʻa pono i ka Blogger Erin Spencer ka inoa ʻo "makua ʻoihana". ʻOiai ʻo kāna kāne e hana nei, ke hānai nei ʻo ia i ʻeono keiki wale nō. Mālama pū kekahi ʻo ia i nā kolamu me nā ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo no nā makuahine ʻōpio. Eia naʻe, ʻae ʻo Erin i ke kaua no ke poʻo inoa "makuahine kūpono" a ua lanakila ʻo ia.
"Aloha e ka hanauna hou o nā egotists mahalo ʻole! ʻLelo ʻo Erin. "I kekahi mau makahiki i hala aku nei ua ʻike wau e hānai ana wau i nā mea like."
ʻO ka Mele Kalikimaka ia Erin e hoʻolālā ana i ka moʻohelu kālā o ka lā nui, e haʻohaʻo ana i kahi e mālama ai i kahi kālā keu no nā makana no nā keiki.
"Aia ka ʻuhane Kalikimaka i ka lewa, a noho wau i kuʻu ʻāʻī i nā bila, e hoʻoholo ana i kahi ʻōlani e kūʻai aku iaʻu e loaʻa nā makana," wahi a kahi makuahine me nā keiki he nui. "A hiki koke mai kahi keiki makua i oʻu nei a ʻōlelo mai:" Mama, makemake au i nā sneakers hou, "a ʻoiai kēia ʻoiai ua kūʻai aku mākou i nā hui hope nona ʻelima mau mahina i hala."
Me ke ʻano hanohano a me ka mālie hoʻi, ua wehewehe ʻo Erin i kāna keiki ʻaʻole hiki i kona mau mākua ke kūʻai mau iā ia i nā kāmaʻa momi pipiʻi.
"ʻO kāna hopena ka mea i haʻohaʻo ai iaʻu: ma hea wau i pīhoihoi ai ma ke ʻano he makua? Kākau ʻo Erin. "Ua uē nui ke keiki a hele i ke aupuni o kahi egoist kūlike ʻole."
“Ke hoʻāʻo nei ʻoe e hoʻopilikia i ke ola iaʻu i nā manawa āpau! - huhū ke keiki. - Makemake ʻoe e ʻakaʻaka nā mea āpau iaʻu?! Ke inaina nei au i nā mea āpau! ʻAʻole wau e komo i nā kāmaʻa kāmaʻa Velcro naʻaupō! “
"He aha kāu e noʻonoʻo ai e kūʻai aku lākou iā ʻoe i nā sneakers Velcro? ʻElua ou mau makahiki, a i ʻole 82 paha? ”- huhū ka makuahine o ka ʻōpio.
"ʻO kēia hanana ka mea i noʻonoʻo hou i kaʻu hana ma ke ʻano he makua," wahi a ka mea kākau blog. - Nānā wau a ʻike i nā keikikāne me nā jeans paʻa, e ʻokiʻoki ana i nā latte, a ʻo ka ʻīpuka i mua o kou alo ʻaʻole e paʻa, a ʻoi aku ka hāʻawi ʻole e lawe i nā ʻeke kaumaha. E hoʻokuʻu wau i ka mea aʻu e ʻōlelo aʻe ai i ke kūlana o nā lūlū pepa kahiko, akā ʻo ka poʻe ʻōpio i kēia mau lā he ʻano maikaʻi ʻole ko lākou ʻano! “
Ma hope o ka hanana i kau ʻia e ke keiki a Erin, ua hoʻoholo ʻo ia e hoʻololi i ka nohona o kona ʻohana. Eia kāna mau lula, ka mea, e like me ka manaʻo o ka mea blog, e kōkua i nā mākua ʻōpio e hānai i kahi kanaka kūpono.
1. E hōʻoki i ka hāʻawi ʻana i kāu poʻe keiki i nā koho a noi i ke kōkua. Lawe ʻoe iā ia a hala nā mahina ʻeiwa, uku ʻoe i nā bila, ʻo ia hoʻi ua hoʻonohonoho ʻoe i nā lula a haʻi iā lākou i ka mea e hana ai. Inā makemake ʻoe e hāʻawi i kāu keiki i kahi koho, e koho ʻo ia: e hana paha ʻo ia e like me kāu e ʻōlelo ai, a i ʻole ʻaʻole maikaʻi ʻo ia.
2. E hōʻoki i ka hoʻokele ʻana iā ʻoe iho i ka hōʻaiʻē e hoʻāʻo nei e kūʻai i kāu keiki i kahi mea maikaʻi aʻe mai ka hōʻiliʻili hou loa.
3. E hoʻoulu i nā keiki i ka mea a lākou e makemake ai. ʻAʻole ʻeha iki kahi hana iki.
4. E aʻo iā lākou i nā ʻano: e ʻōlelo ʻoluʻolu, mahalo, e wehe a paʻa nā puka no nā poʻe ʻē aʻe. Inā ʻoe e hānai i kāu keiki, hele i kahi lā me ia a noi iā ia e uku no ka ʻaina awakea me ka hoʻohana ʻana i ke kālā i loaʻa iā ia ma ke ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo i ka paukū ʻekolu. He mea ʻole ka mea a kekahi e ʻōlelo ai, ʻaʻole hele ke ʻano kāne pēlā.
5. E kipa pū i kahi puʻuhonua home ʻole a i ʻole lilo manawaleʻa ma laila. E hoʻomaopopo i ke keiki i ka manaʻo o ka huaʻōlelo "noho maikaʻi ʻole".
6. Ke kūʻai ʻana i nā makana, hāhai i nā kānāwai ʻehā. Hāʻawi i kahi mea: 1) makemake lākou; 2) pono lākou; 3) e komo lākou; 4) e heluhelu lākou.
7. ʻOi aku ka maikaʻi, e hoʻokomo i nā keiki i ke ʻano maoli o nā lā nui. E aʻo iā lākou e hāʻawi, kōkua e maopopo he leʻaleʻa loa ia ma mua o ka loaʻa ʻana. ʻAʻole hiki iaʻu ke hoʻomaopopo i ke kumu o ka lā hānau o Iesū, akā loaʻa iā mākou nā makana?
8. E kipa aku me ke keiki i nā koa koa, nā kūpuna, nā hale makua ʻole, ma hope o nā mea āpau. Hōʻike i ka manaʻo maoli ʻole maoli.
9. E aʻo iā lākou e hoʻomaopopo i ka ʻokoʻa ma waena o ka maikaʻi a me ka nui.
10. E aʻo iā lākou e hoʻolōʻihi i ko lākou aloha a me ko lākou aloha i ka poʻe a puni lākou. E aʻo i kāu poʻe keiki e aloha kekahi i kekahi, e noʻonoʻo lākou i ka hopena o kā lākou koho ʻana, a e ulu aʻe lākou i poʻe maikaʻi.
Psychologist o nā keʻena lapaʻau o nā keiki "CM-Doctor" ma Maryina Roshcha
Ke maopopo ʻoe i kahi keiki, e kāna huaʻōlelo a hana paha, hoʻonāukiuki iā ʻoe me ka lawehala, nā ʻeleʻele ʻeleʻele ("ʻaʻole ʻoe e aloha iaʻu!") ʻO kēia ka hewa nui o nā mākua. ʻAʻole hiki iā lākou ke kūkulu pololei i kahi hierarchy ʻohana, e alakaʻi ʻia i kēlā mau pilikia e pono ai. A ʻo ke keiki i hala i nā makahiki e kūpīpī i kēlā me kēia i kekahi manaʻo i kēia nāwaliwali - e hele a kūleʻa i kahi kūlana iā ia ke ʻaiʻē nā mea āpau iā ia, akā ʻaʻole ʻaiʻē i kekahi.
ʻAʻole kau palena ʻia nā maʻalea o ka manipulator i ka tantrums a me ka blackmail. Hiki paha iā ia ke maʻi, a me ka ʻoiaʻiʻo - hana nā psychosomatics i mea e maʻi ai ke keiki i mea e ʻike ai nā mākua. Hiki i kahi keiki ke aʻo e hoʻomāliu masterly - hiki kēia i ka wā o ka makuahine a me ka makuakāne e pāʻani ai i nā mākaʻi maikaʻi a maikaʻi ʻole. A i ʻole hoʻoweliweli paha ʻoe, e hoʻoweliweli nei e haʻalele i ka home a hana paha i kekahi mea iā ʻoe iho.
I kēlā mau hihia, kōkua wale kou makemake ponoʻī: pono ʻoe e mālama i ka pale kaua, ʻaʻole e pio i nā hoʻonāukiuki. Akā i ka manawa like, pono i ke keiki ke loaʻa ka nānā kūpono kūpono i mea e manaʻo ʻole ai ʻo ia e hoʻonele a hōʻāhewa ʻia.
E aʻo pehea e XNUMX% ʻike pono ai i kahi manipulator liʻiliʻi, e heluhelu