Hoʻokaʻawale ʻia ma waena o ka ʻiʻo o ka makemake ʻole e hana i nā mea kapu akā e aʻo pū iā ia i nā palena o ka decorum, hiki i nā mākua ke maʻalahi iā lākou iho i ka pilikia ke kū lākou i ka nīnau no ke akahai. ʻO ka mea nui e kōkua i ke keiki e hoʻomaopopo i kona kino hou ʻoiai mahalo iā ia.

ʻElua ʻano nui o ke akahai:

• ʻO ke akahai a ke kino i kapa ʻia, ʻo ia hoʻi ka hilahila o ke keiki i mua o kona ʻōlohelohe, ʻo kona mau hoahānau a i ʻole kona mau mākua;
• ʻO ke akahai a i ʻole nā ​​manaʻo i kapa ʻia he maka, i ke alo o ka mea āna e manaʻo ai a ʻaʻole makemake e kaʻana like me haʻi.

E pili ana i ka mea maʻamau a maʻalahi hoʻi e wehewehe, ʻo ia hoʻi ke akahai o ke keiki, aia kekahi mau makahiki a me nā manawa e ʻikea ai a ulu ikaika hoʻi. Ma mua o 2 a 3 mau makahiki, makemake ka pēpē e noho olohelohe a ʻōlohelohe paha. ʻAʻohe mea i hoʻopaʻa iā ia a ʻike koke ʻo ia iā ia iho me ka ʻole o ka ʻauʻau i ke kahakai, no laila ke ʻoluʻolu nei. A laila, ma kahi o ka makahiki 4 a 5 paha, lilo maoli ke keiki i ka nohona maoli a ʻike i nā ʻokoʻa. Hōʻole nā ​​kaikamahine liʻiliʻi e ʻauʻau me ko lākou kaikunāne a makemake loa e komo i ka pale ma ko lākou umauma ma kahakai a i ʻole i ka wai ʻauʻau. ʻO ia nō hoʻi ka makahiki i ka wā e ʻike ai ka poʻe liʻiliʻi no ka pili i kekahi kāne. Ua lilo lākou i mea maʻalahi a hoihoi hoʻi i nā ʻokoʻa ma waena o ko lākou kino a me nā ʻohana.

I ka wā e pili ana i ka haʻahaʻa haʻahaʻa, ma ka ʻaoʻao ʻē aʻe, ʻoi aku ka paʻakikī o ka ʻike ʻana, a ʻo ka hapa nui o nā mākua i ke ʻano hewa. ʻO ke keiki maʻaleʻale, no ka laʻana, ʻaʻole makemake i nā mea āpau, leʻaleʻa kona mau hoahānau me kāna ipo ma kekahi o kāna mau hoa papa. Eia naʻe ka hapanui o nā mākua e ʻike i kēia mau pilina aloha aloha kamaliʻi "nani." ʻO kēia kā lākou e leʻaleʻa nei e hoʻāla ana i nā manaʻo e kupu mai nei o kā lākou keiki i kā lākou mau hoaaloha, ʻohana a me nā ʻohana ʻē aʻe. Hiki i kēia mau hilinaʻi ke hōʻeha i ke keiki inā haʻahaʻa haʻahaʻa ʻo ia.

Inā akahai kāu keiki a hoʻomaopopo iā ʻoe, he mea nui ia e mahalo iā ia a akahele hoʻi ʻaʻole e hoʻopilikia iā ia. Ma mua o ka makahiki 2 a 3 paha, a keu hoʻi inā ʻoluʻolu ʻole ke keiki, pono e hōʻoki i ka ʻauʻau me ia a ʻauʻau paha i nā kaikaina āpau i ka manawa like. He mea nui kēia i kēlā me kēia e loaʻa i ka pilikino a me ka manawa no lākou iho me ka ʻole e kaʻanalike ʻia me ko lākou mau hoahānau a me ka hilahila ʻole i ko lākou ʻōlohelohe a me ka poʻe kokoke iā lākou.

Mai hoʻomāʻewaʻewa i kāu keiki inā hōʻike ʻo ia i nā hōʻailona hilahila a i ʻole inā noi ʻo ia iā ʻoe no kahi huna pilikino. He mau koho maʻamau loa kēia. No laila he mea nui ia ma aneʻi e mahalo ʻoe iā lākou a e hōʻoia ʻoe e hana like nā mākua ʻē aʻe. E hoʻolōʻihi hoʻi i ka manawa e kamaʻilio pū me ia e hoʻomaopopo i ka mea e hoʻopilikia nei iā ia a kōkua iā ia e ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi e pili ana i kahi kūlana makaʻu ʻo ia, e like me ka wehe ʻana i ka lole i loko o kahi lumi lole, no ka laʻana.

ʻO ka hope loa, pale maoli i ka mea hiki ke alo iā ia me ka ʻōlohelohe o nā poʻe ʻē aʻe. Mai hele a puni ʻōlohelohe a paipai i kāu poʻe keiki ʻē aʻe e hana like. E wehewehe he mea maʻamau ka mea āna e manaʻo nei a ʻaʻole pono ʻo ia e hōʻoluʻolu me kona mau naʻau. Inā he mau nīnau kāna e pili ana i kona kino ponoʻī a me nā poʻe ʻē aʻe, e wehewehe iā ia i nā huaʻōlelo maʻalahi a aʻo iā ia e ʻike i kona anatomia a me kona ʻōlohelohe i kona pilikino.

I kekahi manawa hūnā maoli kēia ʻano haʻahaʻa e hūnā maoli i ka hilahila hohonu o ke keiki. ʻO ka mea hope loa, hoʻohenehene ʻia ma ke kula a i ʻole ma ka home, lilo i mea makaʻala loa i kēia ʻano hoʻomākeʻaka, haʻalele i ona lā a hoʻokaʻawale iā ia iho i kahi akahai ʻaʻole maoli. No laila pono ʻoe e makaʻala, ma ke ʻano he makua, e ʻike i kēia ʻano lawena a komo koke i ke kamaʻilio. E wehewehe e hiki iā ia ke wehe a hilinaʻi iā ʻoe i hiki iā ʻoe ke kōkua iā ia e hōʻino i kahi hanana e hoʻopilikia a i ʻole ʻeha iā ia.

ʻO ke akahai o ke keiki kahi hanana maʻamau i kona ulu ʻana a me kona hoʻohui ʻana i ka honua o nā mākua. Ma o ke kamaʻilio ʻana a me ka mahalo, pono nā mākua iā lākou e kākoʻo iā lākou a hoʻokomo i loko o lākou i nā kumu o ke ola i ke kaiāulu i hiki iā lākou ke ʻike i ko lākou kino i ka maluhia a me ka pilikino.