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I kekahi manawa he mea paʻakikī iā mākou ke hoʻomaopopo i kekahi i kekahi ma muli o ka mākaukau ʻole o nā kāne e kamaʻilio e pili ana i kā lākou mau ʻike a kūkākūkā ākea i nā mea i ʻae ʻole ʻia no lākou i ka pilina. Ua haʻi ko mākou poʻe koa i kā lākou mau moʻolelo a me nā hopena a lākou i hana ai. Nā ʻōlelo a ka poʻe akamai.
He hoaaloha ʻo ia me kāna ex
ʻO ka moʻolelo a Sergey
"Inā kamaʻilio ʻo ia me kahi hoaaloha mua: nā leka, kelepona, ʻaʻole paha i maʻalili kona mau manaʻo," manaʻo ʻo Sergey. "Ua loaʻa wau iaʻu iho i kahi triangle. Ua aloha ʻo ia i kahi kaikamahine a huli makapō i nā mea āpau. ʻOiaʻiʻo, ʻaʻole hiki iā ia ke hoʻomaopopo i ke kākau ʻana o kāna ex iā ia a ua pane koke ʻo ia. ʻAe, a haʻi ākea ʻo ia iaʻu e pili ana lāua. Ua hōʻoia ʻo ia he hoaaloha maikaʻi wale nō ʻo ia. Ua lili au, ʻaʻole naʻe au makemake e hōʻike, me he mea lā he mea hoʻohaʻahaʻa iaʻu.
I kekahi lā, haʻi mai ʻo ia iaʻu ʻaʻole ʻo ia e hālāwai me aʻu i ke ahiahi, akā hele ʻo ia i kahi hui no kona lā hānau.
ʻO ka hoʻomaka kēia o ka hakakā. ʻAʻole hiki iaʻu ke ʻōlelo ākea he lili au. Huhu a pane ʻole i nā memo. A laila, ʻike wau ua luuluu. Ua hui mākou, a ua haʻi mai ʻo ia iaʻu he poʻe ʻokoʻa loa mākou. Paʻakikī ka hoʻomaopopo ʻana i kekahi i kekahi. Ua pane au ua maopopo iaʻu inā ʻaʻole komo nā ʻaoʻao ʻekolu. "Ma ka liʻiliʻi o kēia mau ʻaoʻao ʻekolu ʻaʻole e kamaʻilio mai iaʻu e like me kāu e hana nei," ʻo ia kaʻu i lohe hope ai iā ia.
Ua ʻeha iaʻu ke hoʻohālikelike ʻo ia iaʻu me koʻu ex. A ma hope mai, ma o nā hoaaloha, ua ʻike au ua hui hou lāua. I kēia manawa maopopo iaʻu: inā kamaʻilio kahi kaikamahine me kahi ex, hoʻopunipuni ʻo ia iā ʻoe a iā ia iho. Inā aloha nui ʻo ia iā ia, no ke aha lā lāua i haʻalele ai? Aloha nō paha ʻo ia iā ia. A i ʻole, a ʻo kēia ka koho maikaʻi loa, ke pāʻani nei ʻo ia me ʻoe. Ua mahalo ʻia ʻo ia ʻelua ma hope o nā hiʻohiʻona e hoʻokūkū nei nona. "
ʻO ka mea lapaʻau Gestalt Daria Petrovskaya
"E kala mai iaʻu ua loaʻa iā Sergey kahi kūlana, akā ʻaʻole kēia ka hihia. Hiki ke launa me ka ex inā pau ka pilina. ʻO kēlā gestalt paʻa hoʻokahi, ke ʻōlelo ʻia a uē nā mea a pau, aia ka hoʻomaopopo ʻana i ke kumu i hiki ʻole ai ke kaʻawale a hiki ʻole ke hui hou. Pono kēia i ka hana i loko mai nā mea ʻelua, pinepine therapeutic.
ʻO Sergei, me he mea lā, ua manaʻoʻo ia i ka pihaʻole o kēia pilina. No ka mea paha ua kapae ia mai ia lakou aku. ʻO nā hālāwai o ke kaikamahine me ka mea mua i mālama ʻia me ka ʻole o ia a i kekahi manawa ma kahi o nā hālāwai me ia. Hoʻoulu maoli kēia i ka ʻāʻī, hoʻonui i nā moemoeā. Akā ʻaʻole wau e hana i ka hopena categorical e pili ana i nā kūlana like a pau.
ʻAʻole makemake ʻo ia i kaʻu ʻīlio
Moolelo o Vadim
"He mea nui ka ʻīlio iaʻu," wahi a Vadim. “A ʻaʻohe oʻu manaʻo i ka hana ʻana o kahi mea aloha iā ia. He Irish Setter kaʻu, he lokomaikaʻi ʻo ia i ka poʻe, ʻaʻole koʻikoʻi. I koʻu hoʻolauna ʻana aku i kaʻu hoaaloha iā Barran, ʻike wau ʻaʻole hoʻoweliweli ka ʻīlio iā ia. Ua ʻike ʻia naʻe kona ʻano ʻāwīwī. ʻAʻole au i loko o ka lumi, ʻaʻole ʻike ke kaikamahine i koʻu nānā ʻana iā ia, a ʻike ʻo ia i kāna kipaku ʻana i ka ʻīlio. He mea leʻaleʻa iaʻu. Me he mea lā ke kumakaia nei au i koʻu hoa. ʻAʻole au i makemake e hoʻomau i ka pilina me ke kanaka i aloha ʻole i ka mea aloha iaʻu. ”
ʻO ka mea lapaʻau Gestalt Daria Petrovskaya
"He ʻāpana koʻikoʻi nā holoholona i ko mākou ola. Hoʻopili mākou iā lākou ma ke ʻano he puka a hoʻolaha pinepine i ko mākou aloha ʻole a me ke aloha iā lākou. A inā ʻaʻole ʻae kāu hoa pili he pipi kāu (ʻoi aku ka lōʻihi o ka pilina ma mua o ia), he pilikia maoli kēia. Eia nō naʻe, aia nā kumu physiological, e like me nā allergies, a pono e kūkākūkā ʻia kēlā me kēia kūlana. "
Noho ʻo ia ma ke kelepona
Ka moolelo o Androna
"I nā hālāwai mua, ʻaʻole ʻo ia i hoʻokuʻu i ke kelepona," i hoʻomanaʻo ai ʻo Andron. - Nā kiʻi pau ʻole, selfies, pane ma nā ʻoihana pūnaewele. Ua ʻōlelo ʻo ia e hoʻomohala ana ʻo ia i kahi blog, akā he kumu ia e noho pau ʻole ai ma ka Pūnaewele. Ma ka liʻiliʻi, hoʻomaka wau e hoʻomaopopo i ko mākou ola holoʻokoʻa e ʻālohilohi ana ma kāna instagram (kahi hui extremist i pāpā ʻia ma Rusia). ʻAʻole wau makemake.
I ko mākou hakakā ʻana, hoʻopuka ʻo ia i kāna mau kiʻi kaumaha a hōʻike maopopo ʻo ia i ke kuleana o kona ʻano ʻino. Ua haʻalele mākou. ʻAʻole au makemake hou e noho e like me ke kahua pāʻani. A inā ʻike wau ua hoʻohana nui ke kaikamahine i ke kelepona, ʻaʻole mākou e hele.
ʻO ka mea lapaʻau Gestalt Daria Petrovskaya
"He ʻāpana koʻikoʻi ke kelepona o ko mākou ola a me kā mākou hana, e like me nā ʻoihana pūnaewele. Ua māʻona kekahi poʻe, ʻaʻole kekahi. ʻO ka blogger kahi ʻoihana hou e pono e helu ʻia, me kahi hoa pili. ʻAʻole mākou i ʻike inā ua kamaʻilio ʻo ʻArona i ke kaikamahine no kona mau manaʻo, inā ʻo ia i lohe iā ia. Eia kekahi, ʻo nā huaʻōlelo "e hoʻolōʻihi i ka manawa ma ke kelepona" ua loaʻa i kahi kala kumu. ʻAe iā ia, ʻaʻole iā ia.
Makemake ʻo ia i ka mea ʻole
ʻO ka moʻolelo a Stepan
"Ua hālāwai mua au i kahi kaikamahine hana hana nāna i hoʻonohonoho i kahi hoʻokūkū i ʻōlelo ʻole ʻia ma waena o mākou: ʻo wai ka mea e loaʻa hou aku, e hana ana kāna mau papahana," wahi a Stepan. — Luhi no kaʻu noho ʻana ʻaʻole me ka wahine aʻu i aloha ai, akā me he mea lā me kahi hoa sparring.
Ma kahi pilina hou, makemake wau e hoʻolohe mau ke kaikamahine iaʻu me ka hoihoi, ʻaʻole i koi i kekahi mea ... Luhi i ka nīnau "He aha kāu e hana nei a he aha kāu mau hoʻolālā?" loaʻa nā pane maʻamau "ʻAe, ʻaʻohe aʻu hana."
ʻO ka mea hiki ke hoʻoulu iā ia ʻo ke kūʻai ʻana
Ua manaʻo nui au ʻaʻole ʻo ia i nele i kāna mau pono ponoʻī - me he mea lā ʻaʻohe ona ikaika. Ma hope ona, me he mea lā ua luhi wau i ke ola iaʻu iho. Hoʻomaka ka palaualelo. Ua manaʻo wau e kauo ana ʻo ia iaʻu i hope. I ka hopena, ua kaʻawale mākou. He mea nui iaʻu ke makemake nui kaʻu hoaaloha i kekahi mea. ʻAʻohe pono e hoʻokūkū, akā makemake wau e kamaʻilio ma kahi kūlana kūlike. "
ʻO ka mea lapaʻau Gestalt Daria Petrovskaya
"ʻO nā kūlana ola like ʻole ke kumu o nā hakakā koʻikoʻi. Eia naʻe, hoʻokaʻawale ka hero i nā wahine i ka "hoʻolālā nui" a "ʻaʻole i manaʻo nui." ʻOi aku ka paʻakikī o nā pilina, ʻoi aku hoʻi i ka honua hou, kahi e hiki ai i kahi wahine ke kūkulu manuahi i kahi ʻoihana, a i kekahi manawa ʻoi aku ka loaʻa kālā ma mua o ke kāne.
Ma kēiaʻano, ua kū mai kahi nīnau kū'ē'ē: he aha kahi e noho ai kēlā me kēia kāne i kēia manawa i ka pilina? He kāne anei au inā ʻoi aku ka wahine ma mua oʻu ma ka ʻoihana a me ke kālā? Makemake au i ka mea e noho wale ana no koʻu mau pono a me koʻu home? A ma ʻaneʻi ʻaʻole ia e pili ana i nā wahine, akā e pili ana i ka makemake o ke kāne a me kāna mea e makaʻu ai i ka pilina. Hiki iā ʻoe ke hana i kēia hakakā ma ka psychotherapy pilikino.
Ke hoʻohana nei ʻo ia iaʻu
Moolelo o Artem
"Ua aloha au iā ia a ua mākaukau no kekahi mea," wahi a Artem. — Ua uku au no ko makou lealea a pau, na huakai. Akā naʻe, ʻaʻohe mea aʻu i hana ai, ʻaʻole lawa. Me ka mālie, ua alakaʻi ʻo ia iaʻu i ka pono e hoʻololi pū i ke kaʻa ...
Ua loaʻa iaʻu ka manawa e hana ai i nā makana makamae a hiki i ka hoʻokumu ʻana o kahi hoa ʻoihana iaʻu. Ua komo au i kahi kūlana paʻakikī loa. ʻO ia ka hoʻāʻo koʻikoʻi mua ma ka ʻoihana noʻu. A ʻo ka hoʻāʻo mua o kā mākou pilina. ʻAʻole au i manaʻo i kāna hana kamaliʻi.
I kona lohe ʻana ʻaʻole he kaʻa hou i koho ʻia nona, ua huhū loa ʻo ia.
Ua like ke kamaʻilio ʻana o ke kaikamahine me he kamaliʻi petulant. Ua ho'āʻo wau e wehewehe iā ia i kēia manawa ʻoi aku ka nui o kāna kākoʻo iaʻu. Akā ʻaʻole ʻo ia i kākoʻo wale iaʻu, akā ua hōʻeha pū i koʻu kūlana. Pono wau e ʻae ʻaʻole he kanaka pili kokoke iaʻu. Ua maikaʻi nā mea a pau ke hāʻawi wau i kona hōʻoluʻolu.
Mai ia manawa ua hoʻihoʻi au i ka ʻoihana, ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o nā mea, akā ua haʻalele mākou me ke kaikamahine. A i kēia manawa, makaʻala loa wau e hōʻoia i ka mea aʻu e koho ai he hoihoi iaʻu, ʻaʻole wale i koʻu hiki kālā.
ʻO ka mea lapaʻau Gestalt Daria Petrovskaya
"He ho'āʻo koʻikoʻi ka pilikia kālā no nā kāne. ʻAʻole hiki i nā kānaka a pau, ʻo ia hoʻi nā pilina ikaika loa a palupalu, hiki ke kū i kēia. Maanei pono ʻoe e nānā ponoʻī, no ka mea hiki i kahi hoa i kahi kūlana palupalu ke ʻike i kahi ʻenemi i kekahi. ʻAʻole kēia mai ka hewa, akā mai nā manaʻo hiki ʻole ke hoʻomanawanui.
ʻIke wale mākou i kahi wehewehe ʻaoʻao o kahi kūlana pilikia paʻakikī a ʻaʻole maopopo i ka mea i hana maoli. Ua like paha kona ʻano me he kamaliʻi lā, a i ʻole ua like paha ka meʻe? Pehea ʻo ia i ʻike ai i kāna kākoʻo? ʻO ka huaʻōlelo "hoʻohana" ua loaʻa kahi manaʻo maikaʻi ʻole, akā ʻaʻole maopopo iā mākou inā he ʻoiaʻiʻo kēia.
I loko o kahi kāne, ʻaʻole hiki ke hoʻokahi wale nō e hao i nā mea āpau. A ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi, ʻaʻole hiki ke huki i ka hopena mai kahi pilina e pili ana i ka ulu ʻana o nā mea ʻē aʻe. He ʻōnaehana neʻe ka pilina me ʻelua mau mea hoʻololi, he kāne a he wahine. Hoʻololi mākou a pau a hōʻike i nā ʻano like ʻole e pili ana i ke ʻano o ke ola, ko mākou mau pahuhopu kūloko a me nā mea e hana nei ma waena o mākou.