Ua ʻae kekahi hoaaloha ua aloha ʻo ia i ʻelua keikikāne i ka manawa hoʻokahi. ʻOiai ke kaikunāne ke nānā nei i nā kaikamahine, a i ka makahiki 14-16 maopopo ʻoe ʻaʻohe mea hoihoi iā ʻoe. He mea maʻamau? Wehewehe ka mea akamai.
ʻAʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke hāʻule i ke aloha ma ke kauoha. ʻAʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke lawe ʻia me kekahi no ka mea e hana ana kēlā me kēia. No laila, ʻaʻohe hewa o ka makemake ʻole i kekahi. I ka manawa like, hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻololi iki i ke kihi o ka ʻike a ʻike maikaʻi i nā kānaka.
He aha kāu e hoʻolohe pinepine ai ke kamaʻilio ʻoe me kekahi? ʻO ke ʻano, ke ʻano? ʻO ke ʻano o kāna kamaʻilio ʻana a me kāna ʻakaʻaka? I ke kani o ka leo, ka hana, ka helehelena? He mea maikaʻi ke ʻike ʻoe i kekahi mau ʻano, nā ʻano, nā kālena e hauʻoli, kāhāhā a hauʻoli iā ʻoe.
E aʻo e ʻike i ka maikaʻi o nā kānaka
ʻO ka hiki ke ʻike i ke aloha he akamai, i mālama ʻia i loko o kākou mai ka wā kahiko: ʻaʻole e ola ko kākou poʻe kūpuna inā ʻaʻole i loaʻa iā lākou kekahi mea hoihoi i kekahi i kekahi. A hiki ke hoʻomohala ʻia kekahi akamai. No laila e aʻo wale e ʻike i ka maikaʻi o nā kānaka.
Hiki ke loaʻa kahi mea ʻoluʻolu i loko o ke kanaka i manaʻo ʻia ʻaʻole maikaʻi? ʻAe, hiki iā ʻoe, akā no kēia pono ʻoe e hoʻomaopopo pono i ka mea āu e waiwai ai i nā kānaka. Malia paha ʻo ka mea āu e makemake ai i ka mea e hoʻohalahala ai kekahi.
Hiki paha ke ʻike ʻole i kekahi mea ʻoluʻolu i loko o ke kanaka? ʻOiaʻiʻo, ʻoi aku inā ʻaʻole ʻoe e hoʻāʻo. Akā ke aʻo aku nei au iā ʻoe: e ʻae wale aku aia kekahi mea waiwai i loko o kahi mea aloha ʻole iā ʻoe, ʻaʻole ʻoe e ʻike. ʻAʻole kēia manaʻo e hele pū ana ʻoe i ka lā ʻapōpō i kahi hauʻoli e hiki mai ana. Akā, ma kāu kahua o ka hihiʻo, e emi ana kekahi kanaka "ʻaʻole" a hoʻokahi kanaka hoihoi.
Eia kāu mea pono ʻole e hana:
E hilahila ʻaʻole ʻoe e aloha i kekahi
ʻO kēia kou mau manaʻo, ʻo ʻoe ko lākou haku hoʻokahi a me ke aliʻi. ʻAʻole pono e mālama kekahi i nā manaʻo a me ka mea i loaʻa iā ʻoe a ʻaʻole paha.
E hōʻike i ke aloha a me ka hoihoi
ʻOiaʻiʻo, he hale kiʻiʻoniʻoni ke ao holoʻokoʻa, a he mau mea keaka liʻiliʻi mākou i loko, akā i ke ola he mea ʻino ke hoʻopunipuni iā ʻoe iho a me kou lolo. Inā hoʻokipa ʻia ʻoe e kekahi mea āu i makemake ʻole ai, e hoʻomaha a hoʻolohe iā ʻoe iho. Inā makemake ʻoe, e nānā pono i kēia hoa. Inā ʻaʻole, e hoʻouna maikaʻi i ka wahi hoaaloha.
No ka hoʻopunipuni i loaʻa nā manaʻo o kekahi mai nā hoa pili iā ʻoe
Ma ka haku ʻana i ia mau moʻolelo, ke hoʻohana nei ʻoe i kahi kanaka hala ʻole no kāu mau hana ponoʻī. ʻAʻole pono ʻoe e hana pēlā. Inā pono ʻoe e wahaheʻe, ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi e koho i kahi mea ʻole. ʻO kahi hoʻonā like ʻole, akā ma ka liʻiliʻi ʻaʻole ʻoe e hōʻeha i kekahi akā iā ʻoe iho.
E huli i kahi hui hoihoi
I mea e aloha ai i kekahi, pono ʻoe i kahi pilina liʻiliʻi me nā kānaka. Inā ʻaʻole ʻoe e kamaʻilio me kekahi ma ke kula, a holo koke i ka home ma hope o ke kula a noho i loko o kou lumi a hiki i ke kakahiaka aʻe, ʻaʻole paha ʻoe e loaʻa ka manawa e loaʻa ai kahi mea āu e makemake ai.
E noʻonoʻo e pili ana i ka mea hoihoi iā ʻoe ke komo i loko: kahi pōʻai hou a hui paha, ʻāpana, hele wāwae, piʻi (ʻo wau wale nō ke aʻo ikaika iā ʻoe e koho ma waho). Ma o kahi pūnaewele kaiapili a i ʻole fandom, ʻaʻole ʻoe e ʻike maikaʻi i kahi kanaka a nalo maʻalahi i nā mea ʻoluʻolu āu e makemake ai.
A hoʻokahi hoʻopunipuni: ʻoi aku ka maʻalahi o ka ʻike a loiloi i ke kanaka inā makemake ʻo ia i ka mea like me ʻoe. No laila e hoʻāʻo e ʻimi i kahi hui e kaʻana like i kāu mau makemake. No laila e ʻike ʻoe iā ʻoe iho i loko o kou kaiapuni ponoʻī, kahi e waiwai ai nā poʻe ʻē aʻe e like me ʻoe.
Ma ke ala, he aha ka "like"? Pehea ʻoe e ʻike ai makemake ʻoe i ke kanaka? E hana i ka papa inoa o 10 mau hōʻailona hiki, no ka laʻana:
makemake mau ʻoe e noho pū
makemake ʻoe i ka mea like
he mea kāu e kamaʻilio ai
hauʻoli ʻoe i ka hoʻopā ʻana i kekahi i kekahi…
I kēia manawa e noʻonoʻo e pili ana i kēlā me kēia helu. No ka laʻana, makemake mau ʻoe e hui pū. Akā ʻo ka poʻe pili loa i kekahi manawa pono e hoʻomaha mai kekahi i kekahi. Ma hope o ka hele mālie a i ʻole ke hele ʻana i nā kiʻiʻoniʻoni me kahi kanaka āu i makemake nui ai, makemake ʻoe e pani koke iā ʻoe iho i loko o kou lumi a noho hoʻokahi.
A i ʻole: makemake ʻoe i ka mea like. Akā ʻaʻole pono kēia! Makemake ʻo Pāpā i ka hockey a me nā kaʻa kaʻa, makemake ʻo Māmā i nā mele Palani a me nā pā momona. A ua hui pū lākou.
No laila he aha ka manaʻo o ke aloha kūikawā no kekahi i kekahi? ʻAʻohe aʻu pane mākaukau. A ʻaʻohe mea i loaʻa. Akā, aia ka manaʻolana e hoʻoholo ʻoe i ka pane nou iho.