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"Makemake au i ka manipulator"
ʻO Julian ka mea i loaʻa ʻoki i ke kaula ʻōpū. A laila, haʻaheo pinepine ʻo ia i ka lawe ʻana iā Gwendolyn i ka honua. I kēlā lā, ua uē ʻo ia me he kanaka paʻakikī a pōʻino ʻole. Eia naʻe ma hope ua hoʻoweliweli ʻo ia iā mākou. He 11 makahiki o ka'u kaikamahine i keia la, aka, ua lawe ia a marathon hoʻokolokolo e komo i ko kakou kuokoa. I ka hoomaka ana o ko kakou moolelo, ʻAʻole hiki iaʻu ke ʻōlelo he ʻulaʻula nā mea a pau ma waena o Julian me aʻu. Ua ʻike au iā ia he mea ʻē loa i kona lawe ʻana iā ia iho me ka haʻahaʻa ʻole no ka mea mele-kaula a i ʻole hoʻohālikelike iā ia iho me Bob Dylan, i ka wā i hana ʻole ai ʻo ia a ʻaʻohe lanakila nui. kulina Ua aloha au ʻO kēia mele hoʻohiwahiwa weliweli, a ua hoʻolilo au i kāna makemake mele ma ka uku ʻana i ko mākou hale noho a hana ʻelua, a laila hāpai wau. Ua loaʻa iaʻu ʻoi aku ka neʻe ʻana, aka, ua hoole au i ka manaoio ia ia. E hoʻomanaʻo wau i koʻu ola a pau i kēlā lā i ka wā i hāpai ai au i ʻewalu mahina, ua hoʻolei au i kahi pāpale huluhulu ma luna o kona poʻohiwi i kona hoʻolohe ʻana i kahi mele āna i hoʻopaʻa ai ma o nā headphone ... ʻO kona huhū, kona ʻinoʻino, kona ʻino i kēlā manawa, kūʻē iaʻu, ka mea i puʻuhonua i loko o ko mākou keʻena, e mau ana koʻu koko. Ua hoʻolei aku au i kēlā beanie me ka ikaika loa iā ia a ua ʻeha ʻo ia! Ua koi ʻo ia i kahi kalahala! Me ka makaʻu, ua loaʻa iaʻu ka manaʻo e haʻi aku iā ia he pupule ia a he pono iaia ke imi i ka lapaau. Ua ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o koʻu holo ʻana.
ʻAʻole hiki iā ia ke kūpaʻa ʻo wau me kaʻu kaikamahine
I ka hānau ʻana o kā mākou kaikamahine, loaʻa nā mea ua hoʻonui nui ʻia. Ua makemake ʻo Julian e lilo i kāna kaikamahine hoʻokahi mea hoihoi, a ʻo ia ʻaʻole i kākoʻo nui i ka pilina kūlohelohe ʻo ia ka mea i hoʻohui iā ia a me aʻu, a ʻo ia ka hopena o ka lili. ʻO ka hānai ʻana, no ka laʻana, ʻaʻole hiki ke hoʻomanawanui iā ia. Ua hiki mai e lawe aku iā Gwendolyn mai oʻu aku nei a mālama iā ia i loko o kāna keena hoʻopaʻa leo, ʻoiai ʻo kona ʻuā ʻana o ka pōloli. A no ka hiki ʻole iā ia ke hānai iā ia iho, ua makemake ʻo ia e hoʻonele iā ia. Ua kipaku mau ʻo ia iaʻu i waho o ka ʻauʻau e pani i koʻu wahi me ka liʻiliʻi. ʻOi aku ka nui o nā hakaka a ʻoi aku ka ikaika.
No laila ua loaʻa iaʻu ua hoʻoholo e hoʻokaʻawale iaʻu mai iā ia. I kekahi ahiahi, ua pahu mai ʻo ia iaʻu, ua paʻa koʻu poʻo i ka paia. Ua hoʻopiʻi au no ka hoʻokūkū i loko. Ua hoʻopaʻa ʻia ʻo Julian akā ma mua o ka loaʻa ʻana o ka manawa e uhae i ko makou hale noho a e waiho i laila i kekahi mau hōʻailona weliweli iaʻu i ʻike ʻaʻole e mau ana kāna mālama i ke ola a pau. "E mihi ana ʻoe," i hoʻolaha ai kahi leka i kākau lima ʻia. He mea weliweli ka kaawale ana: ina he mea hoomaha ia'u ka noho ana me ia. e hāʻawi i kā kāua kaikamahine iā ia i ka wā i mālama ʻia ai ʻo ia ka hoʻomāinoino.
I ka makahiki 3 o Gwendolyn, ua heluhelu au ma kona mau maka maka'u i ka mea āna i kapa ai "Papa ino” e like me kāna i ʻōlelo mai ai iaʻu, hoopa aku ia ia. Ua waiho au i ka hoʻopiʻi a ua hoʻohuli koke ka loio ʻo Julian i ke kūlana, me ka hoʻopiʻi ʻana iaʻu no PAS (Parental Alienation Syndrome). Ua hoʻokolokolo ʻia au hewa no ka hoohewa ana i ka'u keiki me kona makuakane, e hooponopono. ʻO ia ke ʻano o nā makua kāne ma ʻAmelika Hui Pū ʻIa, a me nā mea hou aʻe ma Farani, e pale aku iā lākou iho ma kēia ʻano ke hōʻole ka makuahine i ka hana ʻino makua. ʻO kēia maʻi hoʻopunipuni, ʻaʻole i ʻike ʻia e ka WHO ka mea kaua a ka poe kolohe. Ua uē kaʻu kaikamahine i kēlā me kēia manawa e launa pū me kona makuakāne, peʻe ʻo ia ma lalo o kona wahi moe, hōʻole ʻole iaʻu e ʻaʻahu iā ia.
Ke hoʻohuli nei i ke kūlana, ʻae i kā mākou lohi, ua hoʻopiʻi ʻo Julian iaʻu no ka haki ʻana i kona lolo, a no ka ka mea keakea i ko laua pilina. A laila hui ʻo ia me Alicha. Manaʻolana wau e hoʻohuli ʻia ka noho ʻana o kēia wahine mai kēia hoihoi ʻana i kāna keiki. ʻO ka nui aʻe o koʻu hoʻāʻo ʻana e pale iā Gwendolyn, ʻoi aku ka nui o koʻu pilikia i ka lilo ʻana o ka mālama. Pono e ʻōlelo ʻia ua makana ʻia ʻo Julian me ka charisma o narcissistic perverts. Hiki iā ia ke hōʻike iā ia iho, wehewehe iā ia iho me kahi ʻOlumepika mālie, me ka ʻole o ka hoʻokuʻu ʻana i kekahi mea e hōʻike i nā huhū i ʻike ʻia iā ia i ka wā e hālāwai ai mākou he alo a he alo.
Ua manaʻo wau ua pilikia ke ola o kaʻu kaikamahine
ia manawa, Ua nalo ʻo Gwendolyn, inaina e keia makuahonowai hou nana i ike iaia ma ke ano o ko'u kii, nolaila he hoa paio mai ka wa i hala. E like me ka wili e like me Julian, makemake ʻo Alicha e lawe i ka mana ma luna o kaʻu kaikamahine, oki i kona lauoho me ka ninau ole mai i ko'u manao, a holoi ia ia i kona hiki ana i ko lakou wahi e hoopau ai i ka'u mea ala noonoo. I kekahi lā, ua ʻōlelo aku au i ka mea hoʻoponopono ʻo Gwendolyn he kelepona hele e hōʻoluʻolu iā ia. Ua uē kona makuakāne i ka makahiki 7 hiki iā ia ke hōʻino i kona ʻōpū! ʻAʻole i loaʻa i ka mea uwao kahi mea e hoʻopiʻi ai. Hoʻi mai kaʻu kaikamahine i ka home i kekahi manawa maʻuʻu, mau ka waimaka, paulele. A i kekahi lā, haʻi mai ʻo Gwendolyn iaʻu mākaukau e lele i waho o ka puka makani ʻaʻole e hoʻi i kona makua kāne. Ua hele au i Palani me Gwendolyn i nā lā hoʻomaha kauwela, kahi aʻu i lawe ai iā ia e nīnau i kahi psychologist nāna, i makaʻala ʻia e nā ʻōlelo a Gwendolyn, ua hana ʻo ia. hōʻike i ka luna kānāwai mai Quimper mai. Ua noi ka hope iā mākou e noho ma ka ʻāina Farani i ka manawa o ka hoʻokolokolo. ʻo Julian hoʻopiʻi mai iaʻu no ka ʻaihue honua ma lalo o ka Convention on the Civil Aspects of International Child Abduction. Ua pau wau e holomua mahalo i ke kōkua o kahi loio maikaʻi loa. Hoʻopakele ʻia ʻo Gwendolyn a ʻaʻole hoʻoweliweli hou ʻo Julian iā mākou. Noho pū mākou hauʻoli a maluhia, ma Beretania kahi e hoʻolohe pinepine ai mākou i ka hili ʻana o nā nalu. Akā he a hakaka aloha ole pono e hāʻawi ʻia i hiki ai iā mākou ke lohe hope i ka uē ʻana o kaʻu keiki. ”
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