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Me ka hoʻonā ʻana o nā pilikia o kēlā me kēia lā a me nā hana ʻoihana, ʻoi aʻe a ʻoi aku ka liʻiliʻi o nā mea āpau - ua aʻo mākou nā wahine e kamaʻilio e pili ana i kā mākou makemake. Akā ma kekahi wahi poina naʻe mākou e haʻi i ko mākou makemake. He wahine kēia wahi. No ke aha kēia hana a he aha ka mea e hana ai?
E hoʻomaka wau me nā mea ʻelua. ʻO ka mea mua, ʻaʻohe kumu aʻo a i ʻole palapala ʻāina i hoʻopili ʻia i ko mākou kino. No laila, no ke aha mākou e manaʻo ai e hoʻomaopopo kā mākou hoa i nā mea āpau me ka ʻole o nā huaʻōlelo? ʻO ka lua, ʻaʻole like me nā kāne, pili pono ka makemake o ka wahine i ka noʻonoʻo a me nā noʻonoʻo, no laila pono mākou i ka manawa hou e hoʻolohe ai i ka moekolohe.
Eia naʻe, ke hoʻomau nei ka nalo ʻana o nā wahine a ʻike i ka hiki ʻole ke kamaʻilio e pili ana i ia mau mea. ʻO ia hoʻi, ʻoiai inā hoʻomaka kahi hoa i kahi kamaʻilio pilikino me ʻoe, e noʻonoʻo paha ʻoe i nā pono a me nā pōʻino ma mua o ka haʻi ʻana i kāu mau makemake āpau. ʻOiaʻiʻo, he nui nā kumu e pale ai iā mākou mai ka ʻōlelo pololei.
KE MANAʻO NEI MAKOU HE PONO KANE
I kēia ao, ua manaʻo ʻia ka makemake o ka wahine ma ke ʻano he lua. Makaʻu nā kaikamāhine e kū i luna no lākou iho, akā ʻo ka hiki ke pale aku i ko lākou makemake ma kahi moe he ʻāpana ia o ka pilina. He aha kāu makemake? E ʻōlelo leo nui.
Mai noʻonoʻo wale i kāu hoa: i mea e ʻoluʻolu ai iā ia, pono ʻoe e aʻo pehea e hauʻoli ai i ke kaʻina hana. E kāpae i ka haku ʻana i ka ʻaoʻao ʻenehana, hoʻomaha, mai noʻonoʻo e pili ana i nā hemahema o kou kino, e nānā i nā makemake a hoʻolohe i nā manaʻo.
WE'U MAKOU I KA PAU I KA PONO O KO MAKOU HOA
Mai hoʻomaka me kekahi o nā ʻōlelo hoʻoweliweli loa: "Pono mākou e kamaʻilio e pili ana i kā mākou pilina!" E like me ia a ʻaʻole paha, he mea hoʻoweliweli, a ma waho aʻe, e hōʻike ana i ka interlocutor ʻaʻole ʻoe mākaukau e hoʻoponopono i ka pilikia, akā e kamaʻilio me nā leo hoʻokiʻekiʻe.
Manaʻo mākou ʻo ke kūkākūkā ʻana i nā pilikia ma kahi moe he mea hewa ʻole i ka pilina. I mea e hōʻeha ʻole ai i kāu hoa, e hoʻomaka i ke kamaʻilio e like me ka hiki: "Makemake wau i ko mākou ola wahine, makemake wau i ka moekolohe me ʻoe, akā makemake wau e kamaʻilio me ʻoe e pili ana i kekahi mea ..."
Mai hoʻomaka me ka hoʻohewa: e kamaʻilio e pili ana i kāu mea makemake, lawe mai i ka leʻaleʻa
Hiki i ka negativity ke hōʻeha i kahi hoa, a ʻaʻole ʻo ia e ʻae i ka ʻike āu e hoʻāʻo ai e haʻi aku iā ia.
I kekahi manawa o ka pilina, hiki i ia mau kamaʻilio pololei ke hoʻokokoke aku iā ʻoe, a ʻo ka lanakila ʻana i nā pilikia hui e hāʻawi i kahi manawa e wehe ai iā ʻoe iho a nānā hou i kāu hoa. Eia kekahi, e hoʻomaopopo ʻoe i kāu mea e hana ai ma kahi pilina, a mākaukau no kēia.
WE'U MAKOU I KA HOOKAWALE KANAKA
ʻAʻohe mea kikoʻī a mākou e ʻōlelo ai i kahi hoa pili, hopohopo mākou e hōʻole ʻia ma ke kino a i ʻole ka manaʻo. Aia mau ka manaʻoʻiʻo i loko o ke kaiāulu ʻaʻole noi nā wahine i ka moekolohe, loaʻa wale lākou. ʻO nā mea a pau e pili ana i ka manaʻo e pili ana i nā kaikamahine "maikaʻi" a me nā "ʻino", kahi e manaʻo ai nā kaikamāhine e hana hewa ana lākou i ka wā e kamaʻilio ai lākou e pili ana i ko lākou makemake moe kolohe.
Inā manaʻo ʻoe hiki i nā kāne ke heluhelu i ka naʻau, a laila ua hewa ʻoe. E poina e pili ana i ka telepathy, e kamaʻilio pololei i kāu mau makemake. E ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o nā ʻōlelo awkward ma mua o ke kamaʻilio pololei a pololei. Akā, e mākaukau no ka ʻoiaʻiʻo e hoʻomanaʻo ʻia ʻoe i ka mea i ʻōlelo ʻia. ʻAʻole ia he manaʻo ʻole ʻo ia - hiki i kahi kanaka hauʻoli ke poina e pili ana i nā nuances āu i ʻike ai i kahi makemake.
Pono e ho'ōki ka moekolohe i kumuhana kapu, kapu no ʻoe. Mai makaʻu i ka makemake o kou kino! ʻO nā mea a pau āu e makemake ai e hoʻomaka e kamaʻilio. A e hōʻoia ʻoe ʻaʻole e ʻokoʻa nā ʻōlelo mai nā hana. Ma hope o ke kamaʻilio ʻana, hele koke i ka lumi moe.
E pili ana i ka mea kākau: ʻO Nikki Goldstein he kanaka sexologist a me ka loea pili.