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Me he mea lā, he aha ka hewa o ka leʻaleʻa a hoʻomaha i ke kaumaha? Eia naʻe, e like me kā mākou mea kākau, ʻo ka moekolohe me ka hoʻopaʻa ʻole he pahele pōʻino no nā wahine.
"Ua manaʻo wau ua loaʻa iaʻu kahi manawa ma kahi pilina"
ʻO Holly Riordan, ka mea kākau moʻolelo
Ua moe au me ʻoe no ka mea ʻaʻole wau i manaʻoʻiʻo i nā huaʻōlelo "ʻAʻole wau makemake i kahi pilina." Manaʻo wau ua like ʻoe me ka makaʻu o ke ahi e like me aʻu, a ʻo ia ke kumu āu i hūnā ai ma hope o ka wahaheʻe. Ua maopopo iaʻu inā ʻaʻole ʻoe makemake i ka hoʻokō, e hoʻololi ʻoe i kou manaʻo. ʻO ko kāua pili ʻana i ka wā moe kāne e lawe iā ʻoe a e nānā ʻokoʻa mai ʻoe iaʻu. E hāʻawi aku ʻoe i nā manaʻo e like me kaʻu i hana ai.
Ua moe au me ʻoe no ka mea ʻaʻole hiki iaʻu ke wehe iā ʻoe mai koʻu poʻo. No ka mea ʻaʻole ʻoe makemake i kahi pilina maoli, ʻo ka moe kolohe ka koho maikaʻi loa. Ua makemake au e pili kokoke iā ʻoe, e hoʻopā iā ʻoe.
Ua makemake au e lilo ʻoe naʻu, i hoʻokahi manawa i kekahi manawa. ʻOiai ʻo ʻoe wale nō naʻu i kēia pō
Ua moe au me ʻoe no koʻu manaʻo e hiki iaʻu ke mālama i koʻu mau manaʻo. ʻOiai inā ʻaʻohe mea i loaʻa mai ia mea, e loaʻa iaʻu ka ʻike. E leʻaleʻa wau a hoʻopau i koʻu ola luhi. ʻAʻole au i manaʻo e lilo koʻu mau manaʻo i waho a makemake nui wau e noho pū me ʻoe. ʻO kēia ka mea i ʻoi aku ka paʻakikī o ka hoʻomaopopo ʻana ʻaʻole ʻoe naʻu. ʻO wau wale nō kekahi o nā mea he nui no ʻoe.
Ua moe au me ʻoe, ʻoiai ua hōʻoia ʻoe ʻaʻole ʻoe e ʻimi nei i kahi mea koʻikoʻi: ʻokoʻa kāu mau hana. Ua hōʻike mai kāu mau hana ua mākaukau ʻoe no kahi pilina a makemake ʻoe e noho pū me aʻu.
ʻO kāu mau hana i hōʻoiaʻiʻo iaʻu - i ka hopena e lilo wau i hoaaloha nou, ʻoiai inā he manawa
Ua moe au me oe no kou huikau ia'u me na hoailona kue. Ua ʻōlelo ʻoe ʻaʻole makemake ʻoe e launa pū. A ma hope iho ua hoʻouna ʻo ia i nā leka, apo mai iaʻu a hāwanawana i nā mea huna ma koʻu pepeiao. Pehea e hiki ai iaʻu ke manaʻoʻiʻo he mea ʻole wau iā ʻoe? Pehea e hiki ai iaʻu ke noʻonoʻo iaʻu iho he mea moe kolohe, kāu mea pāʻani? Ua hōʻike kāu mau hana i kou makemake iaʻu e like me koʻu makemake iā ʻoe.
Ua moe au me ʻoe no koʻu huhū iā ʻoe. Manaʻo wau e kōkua ka moe kolohe iā ʻoe. He mea nui ka moe ia'u. ʻAʻole au i manaʻoʻiʻo ua hui pū ko mākou mau kino olohelohe, akā me ka hoʻokomo ʻole ʻana i nā manaʻo i loko ou. Ua manaʻo wau ʻo ka moe ka hopena - e hoʻohuli iā ʻoe mai koʻu hoaaloha i koʻu hoaaloha. Ua ʻae wau i ka moekolohe me ka ʻole o ka hoʻopaʻa ʻana, no ka mea, ua manaʻo wau - loaʻa iaʻu kahi manawa i kahi pilina me ʻoe.
No ke aha mākou e ʻae ai i kēlā pilina?
ʻO Valentin Denisov-Melnikov, psychologist, sexologist
He aha ka moekolohe me ka hoʻopaʻa ʻole? ʻO kēia ka moekolohe me ke aloha ʻole, ka pilina, ka pili pili pili i ka naʻau, ʻo ia hoʻi, kahi hana physiological wale nō, ka ʻoluʻolu o ka makemake moe. Eia naʻe, ʻaʻole loaʻa i nā kānaka ka ʻoluʻolu mai ia mau kāne.
Ke hele ʻole ka hoʻokuʻu physiological me ka naʻau a me ka noʻonoʻo, ma kahi o ka manaʻo o ka ʻoluʻolu a me ka hoʻomaha ma hope o ka pilina, aia kahi manaʻo o ka nele a me ka ʻole o ka mea i hana. He mea maʻamau kēia no nā wahine a me nā kāne.
Eia kekahi, hiki i ka wahine ke manaʻo ua hoʻohana ʻia, kahi e hoʻoulu ai i nā manaʻo maikaʻi ʻole.
I ka manawa like, hoʻokani nui nā manaʻo i ka hoʻoulu wahine. Ke hele pū ʻole ka wahine me ke aloha a me ka mahanahana, paʻakikī i ka wahine ke ʻike i ka leʻaleʻa kino: ʻaʻohe manaʻo kūpono a me nā ʻike leʻaleʻa, ʻaʻohe makemake e hui pū me kahi hoa. Ma ia mau hihia, pilikia paha ka loaʻa ʻana o ka orgasm.
ʻO nā kāne i loko o ka pilina me ke kuleana ʻole e huki ʻia i kēia mau mea:
ʻO ka manawa kūpono e loaʻa ai nā hoa hou aʻe, no ka mea, ʻo ka wahine me ka ʻole o ka pilina ka mea maʻamau i nā manawa he nui.
ʻAʻole pono e hoʻolilo i ka manawa, ka ikaika a me ke kālā i ka hoʻohiwahiwa a lanakila i ka wahine.
Me nā pilina maʻamau, ʻaʻole pono ʻoe e hoʻāʻo ma kahi moe: ʻaʻole ia he mea nui i ke kāne inā makemake kāna hoa kāne i ka moekolohe a makemake paha ʻo ia e hana hou.
No ke kāne, ʻaʻole koʻikoʻi ka manaʻo o ka moekolohe e like me ka physiological, a i ka moekolohe me ka ʻole o ka pilina, loaʻa iā lākou ka mea nui iā lākou.
ʻOi aku nā hoa pili. Pono ke kaikamahine no ka pilina e loaʻa i nā ʻano he nui no ke kāne. Inā hui ka poʻe no ka moekolohe wale nō, hāʻule nui ka pae o nā koi. ʻO ka makemake nui no ka pilina a me ke ʻano ʻae ʻia.
ʻAʻole hiki ke ʻōlelo koke ʻia kēia e pili ana i nā kāne a pau i makemake i ka moekolohe me ka ʻole o ka hoʻopaʻa ʻana, akā ʻaʻole ʻike ka hapa nui o lākou i ke kūkulu ʻana i nā pilina, ʻaʻole mākaukau no ke kuleana a hana i nā hoʻoholo makua, pale i ka pilina a, ʻoi aku paha, ʻaʻole i loaʻa nā pilina mahana i ka wā kamaliʻi. .