Hiki i ke kāne a me ka wahine heterosexual ke loaʻa kahi pilina pili pili akā platonic? I ka hapa nui o nā hihia, he moʻolelo kēia, wahi a ke kaukaʻi psychology Clifford Lazarus. Ma hope o nā mea a pau, ʻoi aku ka nui o nā hana evolutionary o nā kāne ʻelua ma mua o ka hoaaloha.
Mahalo i ke akeakamai a me ka mea kākau ʻo John Gray nāna, i loko o Men Are from Mars, Women are from Venus, i paionia i ka hoʻohālikelike pololei loa o Mars/Venus ma ke ʻano he ʻelua mau hokele like ʻole i noho ʻia e nā kāne a me nā wahine like ʻole.
A inā ʻoi aku ka maʻalahi o ka poʻe e noho ana ma Venus e hoʻokumu a mālama i ka pilina platonic me nā kāne, a laila, ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ka poʻe noho o Mars, ʻaʻole i uhi ʻia e ka makemake moe kolohe, ʻoi aku ka hewa.
A ʻoiai ʻo kekahi mau wahine i ka launa pū ʻana me ka wahine ʻē aʻe i kahi hiʻohiʻona kāne ʻē aʻe - ʻaʻole loa e haʻalele i ka wahine - a ʻoi aku ka makemake o kekahi mau kāne i kahi pilina pili kino, ua hōʻoia ka ʻike he ʻokoʻa wale kēia mau kānaka i ka lula.
ʻOi aku ka noʻonoʻo o ka wahine nāwaliwali, a ʻo ka launa pū ʻana me ka ʻike ʻole ʻia e lilo i ka hoʻokamakama a i ʻole ke aloha.
ʻO ka hapa nui o nā kāne heterosexual subconsciously loiloi i kēlā me kēia wahine o ka makahiki hānau keiki e pili ana i kona nani a me ka makemake.
Hiki i nā wahine ke hōʻike i kēia ʻano moe kolohe, akā makemake lākou i ka nānā ʻana i nā ʻano pili ʻole o ka mea e makemake ai lākou i kahi kāne hou no lākou. ʻO ke kumu o ia ʻano ʻano ʻano ʻano like ʻole aia ma ka ʻokoʻa o nā pahuhopu i hoʻonohonoho ʻia e ke ʻano no ke kāne a me ka wahine.
ʻOi aku ka maʻalahi o ke kino a me ka maʻalahi o ka hoʻohua ʻana o ka spermatozoa kāne. A ʻo ka hoʻohana pinepine ʻana a me ka ikaika o ke kanaka iā lākou, ʻoi aku ka holomua o ka evolutionarily.
Hānau ʻia nā wahine me ka liʻiliʻi o nā follicles i loko o nā ovaries hiki ke hānau i kahi hua. He huahana kūʻai metabolically ʻaʻole hiki ke hoʻopiha ʻia.
Eia kekahi, noʻonoʻo ka wahine i ke kaumaha o ke kino a me ka naʻau e pili ana i ka hāpai ʻana. No laila, evolutionarily, koi ʻia ʻo ia e makaʻala e pili ana i kāna ʻano ovarian, kahi e hāʻawi ai i nā keiki, a ʻoi aku ka koʻikoʻi i ke koho ʻana i nā hoa pili.
ʻOi aku ka maikaʻi o nā wahine i ke kūʻē ʻana i ka leʻaleʻa kino a me ka hoʻopiʻi wahine o ke kāne a mālama i ka pilina ma ke kahua platonic. ʻO kēia ka mea e hiki ai iā lākou ke ʻike maikaʻi i ke kanaka a hoʻoholo iā ia he kūpono (a ʻaʻole ʻole) no nā pilina pili hou aku, kahi e kau ai i ke kuleana ʻoi aku ka nui o ka wahine nāwaliwali ma mua o ka mea ikaika.
ʻO nā kāne, ma ka ʻaoʻao ʻē aʻe, ʻaʻole pono lākou e nānā i ka wā e hiki mai ana, no laila e maʻalahi lākou i nā manaʻo moe kolohe.
ʻO kēia ʻokoʻa koʻikoʻi ma waena o nā kāne ʻelua e kōkua i ka hoʻomaopopo maikaʻi ʻana i ke kumu e ʻike pinepine ai nā kāne i ka manaʻo aloha mai ka wahine ma ke ʻano he hōʻailona o ka hoihoi pili i ka moekolohe, a puʻuhū nā wahine i ka hana ʻana o ka hoaaloha o nehinei.
ʻO kahi ʻano kaiapili hou — «mau hoaaloha me nā pōmaikaʻi» — pili i ka moekolohe ma waena o ke kāne a me ka wahine he mau hoaaloha wale nō
ʻOi aku ka kikoʻī o nā kāne i kēia mea - inā i ka hoʻomaka ʻana ua ʻae lākou he mau hoaaloha wale nō lākou, a laila manaʻo lākou e like me ka wahine. Akā ʻoi aku ka noʻonoʻo o ka wahine nāwaliwali, a ʻo ka launa pū ʻana me ka ʻike ʻole ʻia e lilo i hoʻokamakama a aloha ʻole paha.
Eia kekahi, ma ka hilinaʻi ʻana i kekahi i kekahi me nā mea huna o kou ola pilikino, ʻike ʻoe i kekahi i kekahi, ʻike i nā nāwaliwali, aʻo i ka manipulate, no laila hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻohana subconsciously i kēia ʻike e lanakila ai ma luna o kahi hoaaloha. A piha kēia i nā hopena.
ʻO ke ʻano hou o ka "hoaaloha me nā pōmaikaʻi," kahi i noho mau ai ke kāne a me ka wahine ma mua o nā hoaaloha akā e komo i ka moekolohe i kēlā me kēia manawa, e ʻae ʻia nā ʻaoʻao ʻelua e pale i ka hoʻohālike ʻana ʻaʻole he ʻano hoʻopaʻapaʻa erotic ma waena o mākou. .
Eia nō naʻe, ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ia mau pilina no nā kāne a ʻaʻole ʻoluʻolu no nā wahine. No ka poʻe e noho ana ma Venus, he kuʻikahi kēia, no ka mea, ma muli o ko lākou ʻano, hoʻomohala lākou i kahi pilina pili a lōʻihi me kahi hoa.