No ke aha ʻaʻole makemake nā kāne e kamaʻilio e pili ana i ko lākou mau manaʻo?

Ua kākau ʻo Arthur Miller iā Marilyn Monroe i ka wā e haʻihaʻi ai nā kānaka, ʻo nā huaʻōlelo wale nō e koe. ʻO nā huaʻōlelo a mākou i ʻōlelo ʻole ai a i ʻole, hoʻolei i ka huhū. ʻO nā mea i hōʻino i ka pilina, a i ʻole nā ​​mea i hoʻokalakupua. ʻIke ʻia he mea nui loa nā ʻōlelo iā mākou. A me nā ʻōlelo o ke aloha a me ke aloha - ʻoi aku. Akā, no ke aha e ʻōlelo ʻole ai nā kāne?

Hale Hana Palapala"Biography" pana i kahi wikiō hoʻopā e pili ana i ka hana ʻana o nā wahine, ʻaʻole i maʻa i ka haʻi ʻana o nā kāne, i nā ʻōlelo aloha.

ʻO ka mea mua, ua nīnau nā mea kākau o ka wikiō i nā kāne inā kamaʻilio pinepine lākou i kā lākou wahine e pili ana i ke aloha. Eia kekahi mau pane:

• "Ua hui pū mākou no 10 mau makahiki, ʻoi aku ka nui o ke kamaʻilio ʻana e pili ana i ke aloha, a maopopo nā mea āpau."
• “Nā kamaʻilio – pehea? Pono kāua e noho i loko o ka lumi kuke a ʻōlelo aku: Aloha au iā ʻoe, aloha wau iā ʻoe - pololei anei?
• "He paʻakikī ke kamaʻilio e pili ana i nā manaʻo, akā makemake wau."

Akā ma hope o hoʻokahi hola o ke kamaʻilio ʻana e pili ana i ka pilina, ua haʻi nā kāne i nā manaʻo a lākou i ʻōlelo ʻole ai:

• "Aloha au iā ia, ʻoiai ʻo ia e hamo ana i kona mau lima me ka ʻaila ma kahi moe a i ka manawa like me ka leo nui, me ka leo nui" champs "ia.
• "Inā e nīnau ʻia iaʻu inā he kanaka hauʻoli wau, e pane wau: ʻae, a he mahalo wale nō kēia iā ia."
• "Aloha au iā ia inā ʻaʻole ʻo ia i aloha iaʻu."

E nānā i kēia wikiō a kamaʻilio e pili ana i ke aloha.

No ke aha ʻaʻole makemake nā kāne e kamaʻilio e pili ana i nā manaʻo?

Hōʻike ka poʻe akamai i ka mea e pale ai i nā kāne mai ka hōʻike ākea ʻana i ko lākou mau manaʻo a i nā hihia ʻaʻole hiki iā lākou ke hāmau e pili ana i ke aloha.

Ma hoʻokahi hoʻokolohua, ua hāʻawi ʻia nā kāne ʻōpio a me nā kaikamahine i kahi leo o kahi pēpē e uē ana e hoʻolohe. ʻOi aku ka wikiwiki o ka poʻe ʻōpio i ka moʻolelo ma mua o nā kaikamahine. Ua manaʻo mua ka poʻe psychologists no ka haʻahaʻa o ka naʻau. Akā ua hōʻike ʻia nā hoʻāʻo koko ua hoʻonui nui nā keikikāne i kēia kūlana i ke kiʻekiʻe o nā hormones stress.

ʻOi aku ka maʻalahi o ka wahine i kēlā mau manaʻo hoʻonāukiuki, me nā kamaʻilio koʻikoʻi e pili ana i nā manaʻo. Ua hoʻolālā ʻo Evolution i nā kāne no ka pale, ka hōʻike ʻana i ka ikaika, nā hana ikaika a, no ka hopena, no ka hoʻohuli ʻana i nā manaʻo, no ka laʻana, i ke kaua a i ʻole ka hopu holoholona. ʻO ka hopena, ua lilo ia i mea maʻamau no nā kāne. ʻO nā wāhine, akā, ua hoʻomaluʻia i mea e hānau ai lākou i nā keiki, ua nakinakiʻia i ka hale a me nā keiki liʻiliʻi.

He waiwai nui lākou no ka hoʻoweliweli ʻana i ka hakakā no ka ʻāina a i ʻole ka meaʻai, no laila pono nā kāne e lawe i nā pilikia. ʻAʻole i pili ka make ʻana o kekahi mau kāne i ka hiki ke hoʻohua i nā keiki, akā ʻo ka make ʻana o kekahi mau wahine i hoʻoweliweli i ka nui o ka nui o ka ʻohana.

ʻO ka hopena, ua lōʻihi ke ola o nā wahine a ʻoi aku ka liʻiliʻi o ka make i kēlā me kēia manawa o ko lākou ola ma mua o nā kāne. No ka laʻana, ʻoi aku ka nui o ka make ʻana o nā keikikāne hānau mua i ka wā kamaliʻi ma mua o nā kaikamahine ʻōpio. Ke mau nei kēia mau ʻokoʻa kāne i ke ola, a ʻoi aku ka nui o ka make ʻana o nā kāne ʻelemakule ma hope koke o ka make ʻana o kā lākou wahine ma mua o nā wahine i ka wā e make ai kā lākou kāne.

Hōʻike ʻia ka ʻokoʻa o ka hōʻike ʻana o nā manaʻo i nā keikikāne a me nā kaikamahine mai ka wā kamaliʻi. Pono nā kaikamāhine e pili i keʻano a me nā manaʻo ma mua o nā keikikāne, no ka mea, i ka wā e hiki mai ana, pono lākou eʻike i kā lākou keiki, e hāʻawi iā ia i ka mahana a me ke kino, ke aloha, ka hilinaʻi, ka'āpono. No laila, no nā wahine, ʻoi aku ka maʻamau o ke kamaʻilio ʻana e pili ana i nā manaʻo, no nā kāne, ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o nā hana.

He aha kāu e hana ai inā kamaʻilio kāu kāne e pili ana i nā manaʻo?

Ke haʻi mau nei ʻoe i kāu hoa pili e pili ana i nā manaʻo a makemake hoʻi iā ia, akā i ka pane ʻana i ka noho mālie? He aha kāu e hana ai i mea e maopopo ai ka manaʻo o ke kāne iā ʻoe, a me ka wehe ʻana o nā pilina?