I ko mākou manawa, i ka wā e makemake ai nā mea a pau e loaʻa koke i nā minuke 15 i hoʻohiki ʻia a paʻi i ka honua, kākau ʻo Mark Manson i kahi mele i ka mediocrity. No ke aha he paʻakikī ke kākoʻo ʻole iā ia?
He hiʻohiʻona hoihoi: ʻaʻole hiki iā mākou ke hana me ka ʻole o nā kiʻi o nā superheroes. He moʻolelo ko nā Helene a me nā Roma kahiko e pili ana i nā kānaka e hiki ke hoʻokūkū i nā akua a me nā hana hana. I ka wā kahiko o ʻEulopa, aia nā moʻolelo o nā naita me ka makaʻu ʻole a me ka hōʻino ʻole, e pepehi ana i nā ʻīlio hihiu a hoʻopakele i nā aliʻi wahine. Loaʻa i kēlā me kēia moʻomeheu kahi koho o ia moʻolelo.
I kēia lā, hoʻoulu ʻia mākou e nā superheroes puke komikika. Lawe iā Superman. He akua kēia i ke ʻano o ke kanaka i loko o nā puʻupuʻu uliuli a me nā puʻupuʻu ʻulaʻula, i ʻaʻahu ʻia ma luna. He mea lanakila ʻole ʻo ia a make ʻole. Ma ka noʻonoʻo, ua kūpono ʻo ia e like me ke kino. I kona ao, ʻokoʻa ka maikaʻi a me ka hewa e like me ke keʻokeʻo a me ka ʻeleʻele, a ʻaʻole hewa ʻo Superman.
Makemake wau e ʻōlelo pono mākou i kēia mau koa e hakakā i ka manaʻo o ka nele. Aia he 7,2 biliona kanaka ma ka honua, a ma kahi o 1000 wale nō o lākou ka mana honua i kēlā me kēia manawa. 'O ia ho'i, he mea 'ole ka mo'olelo o na kanaka 7 i koe, a 'a'ole ma'alahi kēia e 'ae.
No laila makemake wau e hoʻolohe i ka mediocrity. ʻAʻole ma ke ʻano he pahuhopu: pono mākou a pau e hoʻoikaika i ka mea maikaʻi loa, akā ma ke ʻano he hiki ke hoʻokō me ka ʻoiaʻiʻo e noho mau mākou i ka poʻe maʻamau, ʻoiai ʻo ka ikaika o kā mākou hoʻāʻo. He kuʻikahi ke ola. Hoʻomaikaʻi ʻia kekahi me ka naʻauao kula. He ikaika kino kekahi, he mea hana kekahi. Sexy kekahi. ʻOiaʻiʻo, pili ka kūleʻa i ka hoʻoikaika ʻana, akā ua hānau ʻia mākou me nā mana like ʻole a me nā hiki.
No ka maikaʻi loa i kekahi mea, pono ʻoe e hoʻolaʻa i kou manawa āpau a me kou ikaika iā ia, a ua kaupalena ʻia kēlā.
Loaʻa i kēlā me kēia kanaka ko lākou mau ikaika a me nā nāwaliwali. Akā, hōʻike ka hapa nui i nā hopena maʻamau ma ka hapa nui o nā wahi. ʻOiai inā he akamai ʻoe i kekahi mea - ka makemakika, ke kaula lele, a i ʻole ke kālepa lima ma lalo o ka honua - inā ʻaʻole, ʻoi aku ʻoe ma lalo o ka awelika.
No ka holomua i kekahi mea, pono ʻoe e hāʻawi i kou manawa āpau a me kou ikaika a pau iā ia, a ua kaupalena ʻia lākou. No laila, he liʻiliʻi wale nō ka mea ʻokoʻa i kā lākou ʻoihana i koho ʻia, ʻaʻole e haʻi i kekahi mau wahi i ka manawa hoʻokahi.
ʻAʻole hiki i kahi kanaka hoʻokahi ma ka Honua ke kūleʻa i nā wahi āpau o ke ola, hiki ʻole i ka helu helu. ʻAʻole loaʻa nā Superman. ʻAʻole pinepine ka poʻe ʻoihana kūleʻa i ke ola pilikino, ʻaʻole kākau nā poʻokela honua i nā pepa ʻepekema. ʻAʻohe wahi pilikino ka hapa nui o nā hōkū ʻoihana hōʻikeʻike a maʻalahi lākou i nā addictions. ʻO ka hapa nui o mākou he poʻe maʻamau loa. Ua ʻike mākou, akā ʻaʻole kakaʻikahi e noʻonoʻo a kamaʻilio paha.
ʻAʻole loa e hana ka hapa nui i kekahi mea koʻikoʻi. A maikaʻi kēlā! Nui ka poʻe makaʻu e ʻae i kā lākou mediocrity, no ka mea, manaʻo lākou ma kēia ʻano ʻaʻole loa lākou e hoʻokō i kekahi mea a nalowale ko lākou ola.
Inā ʻoe e hoʻāʻo e lilo i mea kaulana loa, e hauʻoli ʻia ʻoe e ka mehameha.
Manaʻo wau he ʻano noʻonoʻo weliweli kēia. Inā manaʻo ʻoe he ola nani a maikaʻi wale nō ke ola, aia ʻoe ma ke ala pahee. Mai kēia manaʻo, he mea ʻole kēlā me kēia mea hele a ʻoukou e hālāwai ai.
Eia naʻe, ʻokoʻa ka manaʻo o ka hapa nui. Ke hopohopo nei lākou: "Inā pau wau i ka manaʻoʻiʻo ʻaʻole wau e like me nā mea ʻē aʻe, ʻaʻole hiki iaʻu ke hoʻokō i kekahi mea. ʻAʻole au e hoʻoikaika e hana iaʻu iho. ʻOi aku ka maikaʻi e noʻonoʻo ʻo wau kekahi o nā mea liʻiliʻi e hoʻololi i ka honua.
Inā makemake ʻoe e ʻoi aku ka naʻauao a ʻoi aku ka lanakila ma mua o nā poʻe ʻē aʻe, e manaʻo mau ʻoe e like me ka hemahema. A inā ʻoe e hoʻāʻo e lilo i mea kaulana loa, e hauʻoli ʻia ʻoe e ka mehameha. Inā moeʻuhaneʻoe i ka mana palenaʻole, e hoʻopilikiaʻiaʻoe e keʻano o ka nāwaliwali.
ʻO ka ʻōlelo "He nani nā mea a pau ma kekahi ʻano" hoʻomāliʻi i ko mākou lapuwale. He meaʻai wikiwiki ia no ka noʻonoʻo - ʻono akā maikaʻi ʻole, nā calorie ʻole e hoʻohūhū ai ʻoe.
ʻO ke ala e hele ai i ke olakino noʻonoʻo, a me ke olakino kino, hoʻomaka me ka meaʻai olakino. ʻO ka saladi māmā "He kanaka maʻamau wau o ka honua" a me kahi broccoli liʻiliʻi no nā kāne "Ua like koʻu ola me nā mea ʻē aʻe." ʻAe, ʻono ʻole. Makemake au e kuha koke.
Akā inā hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻoheheʻe iā ia, e lilo ke kino i ʻoi aku ka leo a me ka wīwī. E hoʻopau ke kaumaha, hopohopo, makemake no ka perfectionism a hiki iā ʻoe ke hana i kāu mea e aloha ai me ka ʻole o ka hoʻohewa ʻana iā ʻoe iho a me nā manaʻolana hoʻonui.
E leʻaleʻa ʻoe i nā mea maʻalahi, e aʻo e ana i ke ola ma kahi ʻano ʻokoʻa: hālāwai me kahi hoaaloha, heluhelu i kāu puke punahele, hele i ka paka, kahi ʻakaʻaka maikaʻi…
He mea hauʻoli, ʻaʻole? Ma hope o nā mea a pau, loaʻa iā mākou kēlā me kēia. Akā, he mea maikaʻi paha ia. Ma hope o nā mea a pau, he mea nui kēia.