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No ke aha e uwē ai nā mākua i ke keiki: ʻ .lelo aʻoaʻo
Ke hoʻomanaʻo nei kēlā me kēia makuahine ʻōpio i kona mau mākua a i ʻole ke nānā ʻana i nā makuahine huhū mai ke kaiapuni, hoʻohiki hou ʻo ia ʻaʻole e hoʻokiʻekiʻe i kona leo i kahi keiki: aʻo ʻole ʻia kēia, hoʻohaʻahaʻa loa. Ma hope o nā mea āpau, i ka manawa o ka manawa mua ʻoe i hāpai ai i kahi puʻupuʻu hoʻopā āu i komo ai no ʻeiwa mau mahina ma lalo o kou puʻuwai, ʻoiai ʻaʻole i ala aʻe ka manaʻo hiki iā ʻoe ke ʻuwā iā ia.
Akā hala ka manawa, a hoʻomaka ka mea liʻiliʻi e hoʻāʻo i ka ikaika o nā palena i hoʻonoho ʻia a me ka hoʻomanawanui ʻana o ka makuahine me he mea lā palena ʻole.
ʻAʻole maikaʻi ka kamaʻilio i hāpai ʻia
ʻO ka pinepine pinepine a mākou e hoʻōho ai no nā kumu aʻo, ʻo ka liʻiliʻi o ke koʻikoʻi o ke keiki i kā mākou tantrums, a no laila, ʻoi aku ka paʻakikī o ka hoʻohuli ʻana iā ia i ka wā e hiki mai ana.
ʻO ka walaʻau nui ʻana i kēlā me kēia manawa ʻaʻole ia he koho. Eia kekahi, ʻo kēlā me kēia haʻihaʻi ke kumu o ka hewa o ka makuahine aloha i ke kumu o nā manaʻo e hewa ana kekahi mea iā ia, ʻo nā makuahine ʻē aʻe "maʻamau" e noho mālie loa a ʻike pehea e hele ai i kahi ʻaelike me kā lāua kaikamahine a keiki kāne paha i kahi makua. ala. ʻAʻole hoʻohui ka hae iho iā ia iho i ka hilinaʻi iā ʻoe iho a ʻaʻole ikaika i ka mana makua.
Hiki i kekahi huaʻōlelo mālama ʻole ke hōʻeha i ka pēpē me ka maʻalahi, a ʻo nā scandals mau i ka hala ʻana o ka manawa e hōʻino ia i ka hōʻaiʻē o ka hilinaʻi.
Hana pono iā ʻoe iho
Mai waho, ua like ka makuahine ʻuwē me he egoist loko ʻino kaulike ʻole nei, akā wikiwiki wau e hōʻoia aku iā ʻoe: hiki i kēia mea ke loaʻa i kekahi, a he mana ko kēlā me kēia o mākou e hoʻoponopono i nā mea āpau.
ʻO ka hana mua i ka hoʻōla - e hōʻoia i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo ua lilo kou huhū, huhū, akā ʻaʻole ʻoe māʻona i ke ʻano maʻamau o ka hōʻike ʻana o nā manaʻo.
Ka ʻanuʻu ʻelua - e aʻo e hoʻomaha i ka manawa (ʻoiaʻiʻo, ʻaʻole mākou e kamaʻilio e pili ana i nā pilikia i ka wā e pilikia ai ke pēpē). ʻAʻole ia e hana koke, akā e lilo ia mau hoʻomaha i mea maʻamau. Ke kokoke mai nei ka uwa, ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ka hanu hohonu ʻana, e nānā i ke kūlana me kahi detachment a hoʻoholo: e pili ana ke kumu o ka hakakā i ka lā ʻapōpō? A i hoʻokahi pule, hoʻokahi mahina a i ʻole makahiki? He mea pono anei i ka puddle compote ma ka papahele no ka hoʻomanaʻo ʻana o ka pēpē i kona makuahine me kona maka i wili ʻia me ka huhū? ʻO ka mea nui paha, ʻaʻole ka pane.
Pono au e kaohi i ka naʻau?
He paʻakikī ke hoʻokohū e mālie inā aia kekahi ʻino maoli i loko, akā ʻaʻole koi ʻia ia. ʻO ka mea mua, manaʻo a ʻike nui nā keiki e pili ana iā mākou ma mua o kā mākou e noʻonoʻo ai, a ʻaʻole paha e pili ka noʻonoʻo ʻole i kā lākou ʻano. A ʻo ka lua, hiki i ka huhū huna huna ʻia i kekahi lā ke ninini i kahi hekili, i mea e hana ʻino ai ke kaohi iā mākou. Pono e kamaʻilio e pili ana i ka naʻau (a laila e aʻo ke keiki e makaʻala i kāna iho), akā e hoʻāʻo e hoʻohana i nā "I-message": ʻaʻole "ke hana nei ʻoe me ka hoʻowahāwahā", akā "huhū loa wau", ʻaʻole "hou ua like ʻoe me ka puaʻa! “
Pono e leo i nā kumu o kou hōʻoluʻolu ʻole!
I mea e kinai ai i ka huhū o ka huhū ma ke ʻano “eco-friendly”, hiki iā ʻoe ke noʻonoʻo, ma kahi o kāu keiki ponoʻī, keiki a haʻi, ʻaʻohe ou ʻaʻa e hāpai i kou leo i luna. Hōʻike ia no kekahi kumu hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻohana i kāu?
Poina pinepine mākou ʻaʻole ke keiki i kā mākou waiwai a palekana ʻole i mua o mākou. Hōʻike kekahi mau psychologists i kēia ʻano hana: e hoʻokau iā ʻoe iho i kahi o ke keiki e walaʻau ʻia ana, a ʻōlelo hou: "Makemake au e aloha ʻia wau." Mai kahi kiʻi i koʻu maka noʻonoʻo, ua heleleʻi ka waimaka i koʻu mau maka, a ua hoʻopau koke ka huhū.
ʻO ke ʻano kūpono ʻole, ma ke ʻano he rula, he kāhea wale nō ia no ke kōkua, he hōʻailona kēia e ʻinoʻino nei ka pēpē, a ʻaʻole maopopo iā ia pehea e kāhea aku ai i ka maka o nā mākua ma kekahi ʻano ʻē aʻe.
ʻO kahi pilina paʻa me kahi keiki e hōʻike pololei i ka discord me ʻoe iho. I kekahi manawa ʻaʻole hiki iā mākou ke hoʻokaʻawale i ko mākou pilikia pilikino a wāwahi mākou i nā mea liʻiliʻi i ka poʻe i hāʻule i lalo o ka lima wela - ma ke ʻano he mau keiki. A ke koi nui mākou iā mākou iho, mai manaʻo i kā mākou waiwai, mai ʻae iā mākou e haʻalele i ka kaohi o nā mea āpau a me nā mea āpau, hōʻike maʻalahi ʻia o "imperfection" i nā kamaliʻi walaʻau a me ka hana e hoʻomakaʻu e hoʻonāukiuki iā mākou. A, ma ka ʻaoʻao ʻē, maʻalahi e hānai i nā keiki me ka palupalu, ʻae a mehana, code i loko ona i ka nui. ʻO ka huaʻōlelo "hauʻoli ka makuahine - hauʻoli ka poʻe āpau" i ka manaʻo hohonu loa: aia wale nō ma hope o ka hauʻoli ʻana iā mākou iho, mākaukau mākou e hāʻawi hoihoi ʻole i kā mākou aloha i kā mākou mea aloha.
I kekahi manawa he mea nui e hoʻomanaʻo iā ʻoe iho, e hana i ke kī ʻala a noho wale me kou mau manaʻo a me kou mau manaʻo, e wehewehe ana i nā keiki: "I kēia manawa ke hana nei au i makuahine lokomaikaʻi no ʻoe!"