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Kākau i ke kauwela: nā keu pono o ka haʻi ʻana i ko mākou manaʻo
ʻike manaʻo
Waiho ʻoe i kahi moʻolelo o nā ʻike a me nā noʻonoʻo e kōkua iā mākou e hoʻomaopopo pono i ko mākou naʻau
Ke waiho nei i nā huaʻōlelo a mākou e manaʻo ai, ʻaʻohe mea paʻakikī, he mea maikaʻi ia. ʻOiai manaʻo mākou ʻaʻohe kālena no ia, ʻo ka ʻoiaʻiʻo wale nō o ke kākau ʻana, na mākou, me ka ʻole o ka hana noʻeau, hoʻopiha iā mākou i nā ʻano maikaʻi. ʻOiai ma ke ʻano metaphorical ʻōlelo mākou "e loaʻa iā mākou ka mea mai loko mai," he ala maoli ia e wehe iā mākou iho a hōʻike i nā mea a mākou e hakakā pinepine ai, a i ʻole, ʻaʻole hiki iā mākou ke hiki.
A, ʻoiai ʻoiai, maikaʻi kekahi manawa nona, lilo ke kauwela i manawa kūpono e kākau ai. ʻO ka psychologist Marta Ballesteros, mai ka TAP Center, ʻōlelo i ke kauwela, keu hoʻi i nā lā hoʻomaha, he nui aku kā mākou manawa manuahi hiki ke hoʻolaʻa iā ia iā mākou. "ʻO kēia
ʻO nā lā hoʻomaha kahi manawa kūpono e ʻike ai i kahi e noʻonoʻo hou ai; kālele ana iā mākou iho a me nā mea e pono ai, a me nā manaʻo ”, wehewehe i ka ʻoihana. Ma kēia ala, e ʻike paha mākou i ka mea e pono ai mākou e "hoʻololi" i mea e maikaʻi ai ka manaʻo. "He mea maikaʻi ke kākau ʻana e hāʻawi iā mākou i ka manawa kūpono e hōʻike ai i kā mākou mau pono, e kōkua i ka hoʻonohonoho ʻana a hāʻawi i ke ʻano i kēlā mau manaʻo, ʻike a i ʻole nā manaʻo, a hiki ke hoʻokele i kēlā mau hiʻohiʻona a me nā manaʻo i kahi ala i hoʻonohonoho ʻia," wahi a ka mea kālaimeaola.
Kākau ma ke ʻano he therapy
Ke hoʻomau nei ʻo Marta Ballesteros e ʻōlelo i ke kākau ʻana, ma ka laulā, hiki ke noʻonoʻo ʻia he mea kōkua therapeutic ikaika loa, ʻoiai he mau pono olakino kona. keu hoʻi i ka pae noʻonoʻo a me ka naʻau. ʻO nā mea ʻoihana ʻoihana i waena o kēia mau kōkua āna e hāʻawi ai iā mākou ke pili ana i ke kauoha ʻana i ko mākou mau manaʻo, a me ka lawe ʻana i ka malamalama i kahi ʻike maikaʻi ʻole a i ʻole ka palena ʻana, no laila kōkua ʻo ia iā mākou e lanakila iā lākou. “Pēlā hoʻi, hoʻonui a paipai i ka hoʻomanaʻo, makakū a me ka hiki ke aʻo; kōkua iā mākou e hōʻike a kamaʻilio hou aku me ka maopopo a me ka concise ma mua o ka waha; hana mākou i ka ʻike iā ʻoe iho, ʻoiai mākou e ʻike pono ai i ko mākou mau manaʻo ponoʻī a hana pū ia iā mākou e hoʻopaʻa inoa i kā mākou mau ʻike, kahi e hoʻokuʻu nei a hoʻolilo iā mākou i ke kanaluna kaumaha », hoʻomau ka psychologist.
Ma waena o nā pono e hoʻopuni ʻia e ke kākau ʻana, aia kekahi mau kikoʻī kikoʻī, ke kamaʻilio nei mākou e pili ana i ka mālama ʻana i kahi puke pai. ʻ commentslelo ʻo Marta Ballesteros ma ke kākau ʻana i kahi diary me kekahi mau maʻamau, hana mākou i kahi ʻike i ko mākou maoli, a laila hāʻawi i nā manaʻo hou aʻe i nā mea e hana ana i ko mākou kaiapuni. «Ma kekahi ʻano, aʻo mākou e relativize kēlā mau manaʻo maikaʻi ʻole pili pū me kēlā mau ʻike i ola, e kia ana maoli i ka mea a mākou e pono ai. Ma muli o kēia kumu, ke kōkua nei i ka diary a me ka diary Experiential e kōkua iā mākou e hoʻokuʻu i nā manaʻo, hoʻokumu i nā mea nui a hoʻoholo pono i nā hoʻoholo, "wahi a ka ʻoihana.
Pēlā pū me ka fiction?
Inā ma kahi o ke kākau ʻana e pili ana i kā mākou ʻike, hana mākou i nā ʻano fiction, ʻo kēia, ʻoiai ʻaʻole mākou i ʻike, pili pū kekahi i nā pono, e like me ka wehewehe a ka psychologist «he ala maʻalahi a ʻoi aku hoʻi ia o hōʻike i ko mākou mau manaʻo hohonu, ka mea a mākou e ʻaʻa ʻole ai e hana ma ke ala pololei loa ». "Lawe mākou i ke kumuwaiwai o ka manaʻo e kōkua iā mākou e hoʻokuʻu i ko mākou makaʻu a me ka wiwo ʻole, e hoʻokuʻu ana i kēlā mau manaʻo ma o nā mea a i ʻole nā moʻolelo i haku ʻia," i ʻōlelo ʻo ia.
ʻO ka mea hope loa, kamaʻilio pū mākou e pili ana i nā pono o ka heluhelu ʻana i nā mea a mākou i kākau ai iā mākou iho i ka wā i hala. Ke nānā hou nei i nā huaʻōlelo, ʻike hou mākou i ko mākou manaʻo i kēlā manawa. Eia kekahi, wahi a ka psychologist Marta Ballesteros, kōkua ia iā mākou e hāpai i ka hoʻomanaʻo, a noʻonoʻo i ka mea a mākou e noʻonoʻo nei i kēlā manawa. "Ke heluhelu hou ʻana ma hope, kōkua iā mākou e kuhikuhi i kēlā kūlana: hiki iā mākou ke ʻike iā ia mai kahi prism maoli aʻe, relativizing a kamaʻilio e pili ana i kēlā ʻike me ka makaʻu ʻole", ʻōlelo ʻo ia a hoʻopau: "ʻO kēia mau ʻike ua ulu mākou a aʻo, a no laila hiki iā mākou manaʻo nui aʻe e hoʻomau i ka hele.