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"Ke aloha aloha ʻole nā Asexuals akā me ka ʻole o ka moekolohe"
ʻO ka wahine
Noho nā Asexuals i ko lākou aloha a me ko lākou pilina ma ke ʻano naʻau o ka naʻau, akā me ka ʻole o ka moekolohe, no ka mea ʻaʻole lākou i makemake e like me ia a ʻaʻole lākou e noʻonoʻo i ka pono.
E like me ka ʻoluʻolu a maikaʻi hoʻi no ke olakino, he paʻakikī ka poʻe he nui i ka manaʻoʻiʻo ʻole i kēlā noho kekahi poʻe me ka moekolohe ʻole. A ʻaʻole mākou e kamaʻilio e pili ana i ka poʻe i ʻole ka mea e kaʻana like ai i kēlā mau 'manawa liʻiliʻi', akā e pili ana i ka poʻe i hoʻoholo ʻole e hoʻokō i ka moekolohe, inā he hoa paha kā lākou.
A'o ka moekolohe he manaʻo paʻa loa ia: ma ka ʻaoʻao hoʻokahi, hōʻoia ka poʻe sexologists ʻo ia ia a pono e ʻike ʻia ma ke ʻano he ke kauā nui, e like me ka heterosexual, homosexual, a me bisexuality. Ma kahi o, kahi hoʻomoana ʻē aʻe e ʻike iā ia ma ke ʻano he 'libido haʻahaʻa' a i ʻole he ʻano laulā o ka maʻi moe kolohe hypoactive.
Akā ʻo ka mea mua, e like me ke noi a ka psychologist a me ka sexologist ʻo Silvia Sanz, ka mea kākau o ka puke 'Sexamor', pono e wehewehe ʻia ʻo ka huaʻōlelo asexual e pili ana i kēlā poʻe ʻaʻohe ona moekolohe a ʻaʻole lākou i makemake i ka wahine a i nā kāne. ʻAʻole ia manaʻo ʻaʻole lākou e kaʻana like i ko lākou ola me kekahi. «Noho lākou i ko lākou aloha a me ko lākou pilina ma ke ʻano naʻau ikaika, akā me ka ʻole o ka moekolohe, no ka mea ʻaʻole lākou makemake e like me ia a ʻaʻohe o lākou mea e pono ai. Hiki iā lākou ke ʻumeʻume a me ka hoʻāla ʻana i ka moekolohe a ʻaʻole like ia me ka libido haʻahaʻa, ʻaʻole hoʻi ma muli o ka trauma a me nā pilikia olakino, ʻaʻole hoʻi lākou e kāohi i kā lākou mau moekolohe ", wahi a ka loea.
A ʻaʻole pono e huikau me ka abstinence a me ka celibacy paha, kahi e hoʻoholo pono ai e hōʻole i ka moekolohe ma ka hihia mua a ʻaʻole e moekolohe, a male ʻole, a pilina paha i ka lua.
He pilikia paha?
ʻAʻole kūpaʻa ka moe kolohe a he ʻano kūlohelohe ke ʻano e pili ana i ka moekolohe, no laila ʻaʻole ia he mea āu e lawe ai i kēlā me kēia lā a pili mau me ia. ʻAʻohe hemahema ka moekolohe i ka moekolohe, akā hiki iā lākou ke ʻike i kahi ʻano aloha. ʻO kēia ka manaʻo ʻaʻohe o lākou mau manaʻo moekolohe, akā makemake kekahi o lākou e ʻimi i ke aloha.
Hiki i ka poʻe moekolohe ke moekolohe ma o ka masturbation a i ʻole me kahi hoa. ʻAʻole lākou e noʻonoʻo i ka moekolohe i ka poʻe, ʻaʻohe o lākou makemake. He moe kolohe a i ʻole hemahema paha ia. Hiki i nā kekelē like ʻole o ka moekolohe, mai nā mea kūpaʻa a hiki i ka poʻe i moekolohe me ke aloha ", ho'ākāka ʻo Silvia Sanz.
ʻOiai he mea ʻoluʻolu a makemake ʻole nā asexuals kūlohelohe no ka mea ʻaʻole lākou i ʻike he nani ia, he poʻe moe kolohe wale ka moekolohe hauʻoli lākou iā ia me kahi manaʻo naʻau i ka wahine, kahi hana kino e like me nā mea ʻē aʻe. "Noho lākou ma ke ʻano he pilina aloha no lākou," wahi a ka psychologist.
A nīnau ʻoe iā ʻoe iho, ʻaʻole pilikia kēia inā makemake kā mākou hoa i ka moekolohe a ʻaʻole mākou? Ua wehewehe ʻo Silvia Sanz ʻaʻole ia he pilikia inā ʻaelike ʻia me ka mea nona ke ʻano o ka pilina: «I ka wā e moe kolohe ai mākou, kūpono ia e komo pū me kā mākou hoa i ke alapine a mākou e makemake ai e hoʻomaʻamaʻa. moekolohe a i ʻole he libido like e hele ʻole ai i loko o ke kaulike ʻole, ma waena o nā pilina asexual e pono ke ʻaelike ka wā e kaʻana like ai i ko lākou aloha, kā lākou hui, kā lākou papahana a me nā hana ʻē aʻe i ko lākou ola me ka ʻoluʻolu ʻole iā lākou iho ma o ka moekolohe.
Inā ʻāpana like nā lālā ʻelua o ka wahine a ʻae, ʻae iā ia a ʻike ʻole he pilikia a pilikia paha ia, he pilina olakino a kaulike ia. "ʻOiaʻiʻo, ʻoi aku ka maʻalahi ma mua o ka asexual a ʻo kekahi ʻaʻole," i hōʻoia ʻo Silvia Sanz.
ʻOiai, ke kū ʻole kēia kaulike, hiki iā ia ke hoʻoulu i kahi hakakā inā ʻaʻole ʻae ʻia a uku ʻole ʻia i kēlā me kēia ʻano.
I mea e ʻike ai i ke kaulike, e like me ka loea, he mea nui ke kamaʻilio ʻana, ka hoʻomaopopo ʻana i ka mea ʻē aʻe a me ka ʻike ʻana i nā palena i hiki ai i kēlā me kēia ke hele i loko o ka pilina. "Ke asexual ke kanaka, ʻo ia hoʻi ka hemahema o ka moekolohe, ʻaʻole na ka lālā ʻē aʻe o ka wahine ʻelua e hoʻohihi. ʻO ka hapa nui o ka poʻe asexual, ʻike a hoʻokaʻawale i ka wahine mai ke aloha, "hoʻopau ʻo ia.