Ke ulu nei mākou, ʻike nui mākou i ka loli ʻana o kā mākou mau maʻamau a me nā pōʻai kaiaulu. Inā ma mua mākou e kamaʻilio maʻalahi a ua mākaukau mākou e hele a hiki i ke kakahiaka, i kēia manawa, ua paʻa loa mākou, pono mākou i kahi kaʻawale. He mea maʻamau kēia - me ka makahiki, nui ka poʻe e lilo i introverts. E nānā inā ua loli ʻoe me kā mākou papa inoa.
Wahi a nā psychologists, ʻo ka introversion a i ʻole ka extroversion nā ʻano kūlohelohe. Aka, he kakaikahi loa na ano «maemae» i ke ola maoli. Hiki iā mākou ke noʻonoʻo i ka introverts a huki i nā kumuwaiwai mai loko mai o mākou iho, akā i ka manawa like e launa a hiki ke hoʻokumu i nā pilina me nā poʻe ʻē aʻe. A hiki iā mākou ke hānau ʻia he extroverts, akā ma muli o nā kūlana like ʻole e pani ʻia.
ʻO ka mea a ka poʻe noiʻi e ʻae nei ʻo ka nui o mākou e lilo i extroverted ma mua i ko mākou wā ʻelemakule. A he mau kumu no ia. ʻO ka mea mua, i ko mākou ulu ʻana, ulu mākou i loko - hōʻiliʻili mākou i ka ʻike ola, ʻike mākou iā mākou iho a me nā poʻe ʻē aʻe. Loaʻa iā mākou ka hoʻokō ponoʻī. Aʻo mākou i nā haʻawina ola - i kekahi manawa nā haʻawina ʻeha. Aʻo mākou e hilinaʻi iā mākou iho.
ʻO ka lua, ʻo ka hana extroverted i ka wā ʻōpio ma muli o ko mākou ʻano. I kēia mau makahiki, ʻo ka hana a kahi ʻelele o ke kanaka ma ke ʻano he ʻano olaola ka loaʻa ʻana o ka hoa kāne a hānau i nā keiki. A no kekahi manawa, ua wehe mākou i ke kamaʻilio a me nā kamaʻāina.
Akā, i nā makahiki, me ka nānā ʻole i ke ʻano o ka ulu ʻana o ke ola pilikino, "e alakaʻi" ke ʻano i ko mākou ikehu mai ka pōʻai o waho a i loko, i ka ʻohana. ʻOiai ʻo ko mākou ʻohana wale nō mākou a, e ʻōlelo, he pōpoki.
No ka ʻike ʻana i ka hauʻoli (ʻaʻole kēia e pili ana i ka wahine, akā e pili ana i ka piʻi ʻana o ka ikaika nui) a me ka hauʻoli, ʻaʻole pono mākou e noho i kahi ʻaha mele walaʻau a i kahi pāʻina i waena o nā poʻe he nui. Aʻo mākou i ka hoʻoponopono ponoʻī a hoʻomaopopo i ka waiwai o nā manawa ke waiho ʻia mākou i kā mākou mau polokalamu ponoʻī. A ʻo nā mea hoʻonāukiuki e like me ke mele nui, ke kani ʻana o nā leo, ke pāʻani kukui a me nā poʻe he nui e hoʻoluhi koke iā mākou.
Nā hōʻailona o ka "huli" i loko o kahi introvert
1. ʻO ka hale āu i hoʻonohonoho ai i nā mea a me ka hōʻoluʻolu, ua lilo ia i "wahi mana". Maanei ʻoe e hoʻihoʻi ai i ka hoʻolako ʻana i ka ikehu ola, ʻaʻole ʻoe e luhi wale iā ʻoe iho. Inā noho ʻoe me kahi ʻohana, pono ʻoe i ka manawa a me ka manawa no ka pilikino i mea e kamaʻilio hou ai.
2. Aia ʻoe ma ka hana a hoʻouna mai kekahi hoaaloha iā ʻoe, e hāʻawi ana e hui a kamaʻilio. ʻO ka mea nui, e hoʻonohonoho hou ʻoe i ka hālāwai a hele i ka ʻohana i ke ahiahi. ʻAe, aloha ʻoe i kāu hoaaloha, akā pono ʻoe e hoʻolohe e hui a kamaʻilio me ia. No laila, makemake ʻoe e hana i nā hoʻolālā ma mua.
3. Akā ʻaʻole pono ʻoe i nā hui i hoʻolālā mua ʻia. No laila, hiki iā ʻoe ke hōʻole i ka hāʻawi ʻana o nā hoahana no ka inu ʻana i ke ahiahi Pōʻalima. He hui maikaʻi kāu, akā i ka hebedoma hana e luhi ʻoe i ke kamaʻilio ʻana me nā hoa hana, no laila koho ʻoe i ka hui o nā hoaaloha, ʻohana a i ʻole kahi ahiahi mālie wale nō.
4. ʻO ka hiʻohiʻona e hiki mai ana, ma ka pāʻina a i ʻole ka hanana gala, e hoʻonui iā ʻoe i ka hopohopo ma mua o ka manaʻo hauʻoli. Ua ʻike ʻoe e luhi koke ʻoe i nā leo a me nā ʻālohilohi o nā maka a e ʻimi ʻoe i kumu e haʻalele ai mai laila mai me ka ʻole e hōʻeha i kekahi.
5. No ke kumu like, ʻo ka hōʻea ʻana mai o nā malihini ʻaʻole ia ka hanana maʻalahi loa iā ʻoe. A i loko o nā makahiki, ua hoʻomaka ʻia kahi "filter" kūloko - ke emi nei ka poʻe āu e makemake ai e ʻike ma kāu teritore.
6. ʻO ke kamaʻilio koʻikoʻi me kahi hoaaloha ʻoi aku ka mea nui iā ʻoe ma mua o ke kamaʻilio haʻahaʻa e pili ana i kekahi mea. ʻOi aku kou ʻelemakule, ʻoi aku ka liʻiliʻi o ka hoihoi ʻana i ke kamaʻilio "ma ka hele ʻana" - ʻoi aku ka waiwai ma mua o nā minuke i hoʻolilo ʻia ma ke kamaʻilio hohonu me nā poʻe koʻikoʻi.
7. Ke hele nei i kahi hoʻomaha, makemake ʻoe e hele me kahi hoa a i ʻole hoʻokahi, ma mua o kahi hui leʻaleʻa walaʻau, e like me ka wā ma mua.
8. ʻAʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻā i ka TV, lekiō, a i ʻole ka mea hoʻokani pila e pono ai ke hāmau. Ua luhi loa ʻoe i kēia mau hōʻike a pau, nā nūhou me kā lākou ʻehaʻeha a me nā papahana scandalous.
9. Ke paʻakikī loa nei ʻoe e kamaʻilio me nā poʻe noʻonoʻo nui loa, ʻoiai inā hoʻomanawanui lākou "i kēia manawa" e hoʻokomo iā ʻoe i kahi kamaʻilio ʻino. A ʻaʻole ke Akua, inā hoʻomaka lākou e hoʻohenehene iā ʻoe ma ke ʻano aloha me nā nīnau: "ʻAe, no ke aha ʻoe i paila ai?"
10. ʻOi aku ka haʻahaʻa o ka hoʻokamakama a me ka pono e ʻoluʻolu i ka wahine ʻē aʻe ma mua o ka wā ma mua. ʻAʻole kēia manaʻo he mea ʻoluʻolu ʻole ka hoʻomaikaʻi a me ka nānā ʻana iā ʻoe. ʻO ia wale nō ʻoi aku ka nui o kou nānā ʻana iā ʻoe iho ma mua o ka ʻike ʻana o kekahi iā ʻoe.
11. Loaʻa iā ʻoe nā hoaaloha, akā ʻoi aku ka liʻiliʻi o ka haʻi ʻana i nā kikoʻī o kāu pilina me kāu mea aloha a ʻohana paha me lākou. A ʻaʻole no kou hilinaʻi ʻole i kou puni - ʻaʻole pono ʻoe e hoʻopiʻi a i ʻole, kaena a loaʻa i ka ʻōlelo aʻo. No ka hana ʻana i kēia, loaʻa paha iā ʻoe kahi psychotherapist.
12. Aia ma kahi hou, ʻaʻole ʻoe e nīnau mua e like me ka wā ma mua i ka poʻe e hele ana i ke ala. A ʻo ke kumu ʻaʻole wale ʻoe e hoʻohana i kahi kelepona me kahi mea hoʻokele. Ua maʻa wale ʻoe i ka hilinaʻi ʻana iā ʻoe iho, a ʻo ka pilina me nā malihini e pono ai ka ikehu āu i aʻo ai e mālama.
13. I nā makahiki i hala iho nei, ua loli nui ka pōʻai o kāu kamaʻilio. ʻO nā kānaka ʻawaʻawa, huāhuā, ʻino a me ka poʻe i kapa ʻia ʻo "energy vampires" e nalo mālie mai ia. ʻO ke kamaʻilio ʻana me lākou hiki ke hōʻeha iā ʻoe, a i kou ulu ʻana, mahalo ʻoe i kou manawa ponoʻī a me kou ikaika noʻonoʻo e hoʻopau ai i ka poʻe e hoʻopōʻino iā ʻoe.
14. Malia paha he liʻiliʻi ka poʻe a puni ʻoe - me ka nui o ka poʻe i kau pū me ʻoe i 10, 15 mau makahiki i hala aku nei, ua lōʻihi kou nalo ʻana. Akā inā hāʻawi ke ola iā ʻoe i nā poʻe hoihoi, congenial, mahalo ʻoe i kahi kamaʻāina. A ʻo ka hiki ke hoʻolohe iā ʻoe iho e kōkua iā ʻoe e hoʻoholo inā ʻo "kou" kēia kanaka a inā paha ʻoe e mākaukau e launa mālie me ia.