15 mau hōʻailona o kahi pilina ola (ʻaʻole e nalo)

15 mau hōʻailona e ʻōlelo ana ua loaʻa iā ʻoe kahi hoaaloha ʻoiaʻiʻo

Ua ʻike paha ʻoe hiki iā mākou ke ʻike he pilina maoli ma muli o nā hōʻailona?

I ke ola, ʻo nā hoaaloha ʻoiaʻiʻo ka hapa nui o nā manawa āu i manaʻo ʻole ai.

Ua haʻi ʻia paha iā ʻoe he nui nā mea like o nā hoaaloha ʻoiaʻiʻo, ʻaʻole hewa ia. Akā ʻoi aku ka nui o ka ʻike ʻana i nā "hoaaloha maikaʻi loa no ke ola" ma mua o kēlā. ʻO wai lākou?

ʻO nā laina e hiki mai ana e haʻi nui iā ʻoe e pili ana i kēia kumuhana, akā ʻoiaʻiʻo, ʻaʻole hiki iā mākou ke komo i kēia me ka ʻole o ka wehewehe liʻiliʻi ʻana i ka huaʻōlelo “hoaloha”.

He aha ka pilina?

Ma ke ʻano etymologically, ʻo ka huaʻōlelo hoaaloha mai ka mea i kapa ʻia ʻo vulgar Latin "amicitatem" a me ka Latina "amicitia".

Ma ka wehewehe ʻana, ʻo ka hoaloha he ʻano aloha like ʻole ma waena o 2 a ʻoi aʻe paha ka poʻe ʻaʻole o ka ʻohana hoʻokahi.

ʻO ia ka manaʻo o ke aloha a me ke kuʻikahi aloha i hoʻokumu ʻia ʻaʻole ma luna o ka paʻa ʻohana a i ʻole ma luna o ka hoʻokamakama, akā ma ka hānau ʻana o nā paʻa paʻa ʻole ma waena o ʻelua a ʻoi aku paha.

Ua hōʻoia naʻe ʻo Ignace Lepp he mea hiki ke hānau ʻia kahi pilina maoli ma waena o nā kaikunāne a me nā kaikuahine, akā naʻe, he mea maʻamau ka ʻōlelo ʻana ʻaʻole mai ke koko i loaʻa iā lākou, akā mai ia. ke ola nei me keia koko.

15 mau hōʻailona e hōʻike ana i ka hala ʻole o kou pilina

Ke hālāwai ʻoe me kekahi, ʻaʻole loa e manaʻo ʻoe makemake ʻoe e lilo i hoaaloha maikaʻi loa no lākou.

ʻAʻole, hele maoli mai. Akā, e ʻimi ʻoe i nā ʻano i loko ona, no nā mea like ma waena o ʻoe a me ia.

Mai hoʻoikaika i kahi hoaaloha, aia nā hōʻailona maopopo ke hoʻopaʻa ʻia ʻoe e like me ke koko.

1- ʻo ia ka mea mua e noʻonoʻo ai i ka wā e hewa ai kekahi mea

Ua hele mākou i kahi manawa o ko mākou ola kahi i makemake ai mākou e hoʻopiʻi i nā mea āpau a me nā mea āpau. A i ʻole e pau i ke kaumaha no kekahi kumu ʻaʻole maopopo i ka mea e hana ai.

A ma laila, ʻo ia ka hoaaloha maikaʻi a mākou e kamaʻilio ai no ka mea ua ʻike mākou ua mākaukau ʻo ia e haʻalele no ka hoʻolohe wale ʻana iā mākou i ke kaumaha, a ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ke kaumaha me mākou. (1)

2- Mālama mau ʻo ia e ʻakaʻaka iā ʻoe i loko o nā kūlana pōʻino loa

ʻO wau iho, ua ʻike au i nā lā ʻaʻole hiki iaʻu ke hoʻomanawanui hou a ʻo ka uē wale nō koʻu kumu. ʻAe, he pupule, akā ua ʻike mua ʻoe i kēia.

Akā, laki kou hoa aloha. ʻO ka ʻike ʻana iā ia mai kahi mamao aku e ʻakaʻaka ʻoe. Hōʻoluʻolu ia iā ʻoe a hāʻawi hou iā ʻoe i kahi minoʻaka.

3- E hoʻokō i nā mea āpau a me nā mea āpau

E ʻike ʻoe ʻo ia ka mea kūpono ke nīnau ʻoe iā ia ma mua o ka hana ʻana i kahi hoʻoholo koʻikoʻi. (1)

4- ʻOiai inā ʻaʻole ʻoe e kamaʻilio kekahi i kekahi no nā lā, ʻaʻohe mea e makaʻu ai i kāu hoaaloha

E like me nā mea ʻē aʻe, loaʻa iā ʻoe kou ola e ola ai, ʻoiai me kāu hoaaloha. A ʻike maopopo ʻoe ʻo ka launa ʻole ʻana no kekahi mau lā, ʻaʻole ia e hana i kou hoaaloha.

Hoʻomaopopo pū ʻo ia e like me ʻoe, ʻoiai inā ʻaʻole ʻolua i ka lono o kekahi i kekahi no nā lā, ke ʻike ʻoe kekahi i kekahi, a i ʻole e kamaʻilio hou ʻoe, ʻaʻole e loli ka pilina ma waena o ʻolua.

5- Aia ʻo ia ma kou ʻaoʻao a kū mau no ʻoe

Aia kekahi mau HOA ma laila ʻaʻole manaʻo nui i ka hana a nā kānaka iā ʻoe a kamaʻilio paha e pili ana iā ʻoe. ʻO ia ke kumu he mau HOA, ʻaʻole ka maikaʻi.

ʻO ia, hiki i ke ao holoʻokoʻa ke kūʻē iā ʻoe, e noho mau ʻo ia ma kou ʻaoʻao. Ua hewa paha ʻoe, e kū ʻo ia no ʻoe i nā koina āpau. (1)

6- inaina oe i na kanaka hookahi

"Ke inaina nei au ..." ʻO kēia huaʻōlelo kekahi o nā huaʻōlelo i ʻōlelo pinepine ʻia i loko o kahi kamaʻilio hoaaloha maikaʻi loa.

A ʻo ka mea maʻamau inā ua hana hewa ke kanaka i hoʻokahi wale nō o ʻoukou, e inaina aku kekahi iā lākou ma muli o ka maʻamau a me kahi hōʻailona o ka lokahi. A ʻo ka mea maʻamau e pau kēia mau kūkākūkā me ka ʻakaʻaka nui. (1)

7- ʻO ia ke kākoʻo nui loa iā ʻoe

Aia ʻo ia i kou manaʻo a aia ʻo ia i ka wā e pono ai ʻoe iā ia. ʻAʻole mālama ʻo ia i kāu mea e kāhea nei iā ia.

He hanana koʻikoʻi paha ia i kou ola a i ʻole he ʻōlelo aʻo wale nō, aia kāu hoaaloha maikaʻi ma ʻaneʻi.

ʻAʻole maikaʻi ka ʻike ʻana aia kekahi e hiki iā ʻoe ke huli i kēlā me kēia manawa me ka ʻike ʻaʻole lākou e haʻalele iā ʻoe? (1)

8- He ʻoiaʻiʻo kāu "aloha wau iā ʻoe".

ʻO nā kaikamahine a pau e kau ana i kā lākou kelepona e ʻōlelo "Aloha wau iā ʻoe" i kekahi i kekahi. ʻAʻole kēia mau ʻōlelo he mau ʻōlelo pono e ʻōlelo ʻia a i ʻole i puka mai i ka waha no ka maʻamau, ʻaʻole, ʻike maopopo ʻolua i ke ʻano o ia mau ʻōlelo, no loko mai o ko ʻolua puʻuwai. (1)

9- ʻO ia wale nō ka mea hiki iā ʻoe ke ʻakaʻaka i ka nui a me ka lōʻihi

He ʻoiaʻiʻo hiki i kekahi ke haʻi i nā mea ʻakaʻaka e ʻakaʻaka ai ʻoe, akā ʻaʻohe mea e like me kāu ipo. ʻO ia wale nō ka mea hiki iā ʻoe ke ʻakaʻaka nui a hiki i ka waimaka iā ʻoe, a no ka manawa lōʻihi. (1)

10 - nā kiʻi ʻē aʻe a hoʻopailua

ʻAʻole ʻoe he mau hoaaloha maikaʻi loa inā ʻaʻole ʻoe i hoʻouna i kekahi i kekahi i nā kiʻi weliweli i hiki ke hoʻohana ʻia no ka blackmail i kekahi.

11- Ua oluolu oe i kona alo

ʻO ka hapa nui o ka manawa, ke noho pū ʻoe me kekahi, a inā ʻoe e ʻike iā ia, aia nō kēia manaʻo ʻole e hoʻomau. Me kāu "maikaʻi", nalowale kēia hilahila. Hiki iā ʻoe ke pupule, ʻaʻohe mea hiki ke keakea i kou ala ʻoiai ʻo ia ma laila. (1)

12- Hana pū ʻoe i nā mea āpau

I kekahi manawa, ua maʻa loa ʻoe i kona noho ʻana a i ka wā ʻaʻole ʻo ia ma laila, me he mea lā ua nalowale kekahi mea. Lawe pū ʻoe i kāu ʻaina awakea, hele pū ʻoe i ke kūʻai ʻana… hele pū ʻoe i ka lumi ʻauʻau. (1)

13- Hoʻomaopopo ʻo ia i kou ʻano ʻano

Aia nā lā ʻaʻohe mea e like me kou makemake i kou ola. A ke lawe mai nei i nā pahū i kou ola, nā loli koke i kou ʻano. A i kēia mau manawa, hoʻomaopopo ʻo ia iā ʻoe a kōkua iā ʻoe e hoʻokō.

14- Aloha ʻo ia iā ʻoe e like me ʻoe

ʻAʻole anei ʻoe i manaʻo koʻikoʻi i ka ʻike ʻana he aloha ʻē aʻe kekahi, ʻokoʻa kou mau mākua, iā ʻoe me ko lākou puʻuwai a pau? ʻO kēia ka hihia me kahi hoaaloha maikaʻi loa. (1)

15- He lālā piha ʻo ia o kou ʻohana

He ʻoiaʻiʻo ʻaʻole mākou e koho i ko mākou mau kaikunāne a me nā kaikuahine, akā hiki iā mākou ke koho like i kā mākou mau hoaaloha i hiki ke lilo.

Ua pili loa ʻoe i kou mau mākua e like me ia e noʻonoʻo iā ʻoe kekahi o kā lāua mau keiki ʻoiai ʻoe e hoʻopau kokoke i kou manawa āpau ma ka home a ma kona wahi. (1)

ʻAʻole ʻoe ʻo ʻoe wale nō, aia mau kahi hoaaloha ma kahi, ʻoiai inā ʻaʻole pono ʻo ia ma kou ʻaoʻao pinepine. Aia kekahi kanaka e hana i kekahi mea no ʻoe a hoʻoweliweli i ko lākou ola inā no ʻoe. Kapa ʻia kēia kanaka he hoaaloha maikaʻi loa.