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- 1. Nānā haʻahaʻa ʻo ia iā ʻoe.
- 2. Ua pani koke ʻia kāna mau ʻōlelo aloha i ka manaʻo ʻole.
- 3. ʻAʻole ʻo ia i ʻike i ka ʻae ʻana i kona hewa iho
- 4. Hoʻohana ʻo ia i ka manipulation e lanakila ai iā ʻoe.
- 5. ʻAʻole lawa ka hoa hoʻokahi nona.
- 6. Hoʻopaʻa ikaika ʻo ia i nā ʻōlelo hoʻohewa.
- 7. He mea nui iā ia ke manaʻo he lanakila ma nā mea a pau.
- 8. Ma hope ona e nalowale ana ka hiki ke noonoo.
- 9. Makemake ʻo ia e noho aliʻi
- 10. Huna pinepine oia i ka oiaio
- 11. Aole ona pono
- 12. ʻAʻole hiki iā ia ke manaʻo hohonu.
- 13. Ua haʻi ʻo ia iā ia iho he pōʻino
- 14. He malihini ia ia ka lokomaikai a me ka mahalo
- 15. Manaʻo ʻoe ʻaʻole ʻoe e lawa pono.
I kekahi manawa ua nalowale mākou i ka manaʻo: he aha ka mea i aloha ʻia - no ke aha i lilo ai ʻo ia i mea ʻino, huhū a anuanu? Ma hope o nā mea a pau, ua hoʻomaka maikaʻi ka moʻolelo ... Aia paha ke kumu i kona ʻano. He aha ka hewa iā ia?
I ke ola o kēlā me kēia lā, kapa ʻia nā psychopaths he poʻe me kahi ʻano pahū a i ʻole eccentric wale nō. Akā ʻo ka ʻōlelo koʻikoʻi, ʻo ka psychopathy kahi maʻi pilikino. A ma ka helu helu, ʻo ka hapa nui o nā psychopaths he kāne.
Hiki iā lākou ke ʻoluʻolu, ʻoluʻolu, a me ka launa pū ma ka ʻili, akā ʻo ka pilina lōʻihi me lākou he mea ʻawaʻawa loa i kā lākou mau hoa.
Pehea e maopopo ai ke alo nei mākou i kahi psychopath, ʻaʻole wale ke kanaka me kahi ʻano paʻakikī? ʻOiaʻiʻo, hiki i kahi loea ke hana i kahi hōʻailona, akā eia kekahi mau hōʻailona weliweli e pono e hoʻolohe.
1. Nānā haʻahaʻa ʻo ia iā ʻoe.
ʻO kahi psychopath pololei a i ʻole ke kuhikuhi ʻana i kona kūlana kiʻekiʻe ma luna o kahi hoa i ʻōlelo ʻia e hāʻule i kona pae: "He naʻaupō ʻoe a ʻaʻole hoʻonaʻauao", "He manaʻo nui ʻoe", "He momona a kaulana ʻoe."
Ma hope o kahi ʻano psychopathic, manaʻo ka hoa e like me ka "junior ma ke kūlana", pono ʻole a pono ʻole, nona ka hana e ʻoluʻolu a hoʻomaha i kāna kiʻi.
2. Ua pani koke ʻia kāna mau ʻōlelo aloha i ka manaʻo ʻole.
Hiki iā ia ke mālama maikaʻi iā ʻoe, a e ʻoluʻolu loa kāu mahina meli… Akā, ua maʻalili koke ʻo ia a hoʻomaka ʻo ia e hana hoʻowahāwahā iā ʻoe. ʻO ka pilina me kahi psychopath e like me ka roller coaster: makemake ʻo ia a inaina paha, hoʻopaʻapaʻa ʻia me ka hoʻoponopono ʻino. Huli koke ka mahalo ʻole i mea hōʻino.
No kāna mea i hōʻeha ʻia, ʻo kēia kūlana he traumatic maoli a piha i ke kaumaha, neurosis, lāʻau lapaʻau a i ʻole ka ʻawaʻawa. A ma kekahi hihia - post-traumatic syndrome.
3. ʻAʻole ʻo ia i ʻike i ka ʻae ʻana i kona hewa iho
ʻAʻole ʻo ia ke kuleana no ka mea e hana nei a no kāna mau hana - ʻo nā poʻe ʻē aʻe ka hewa mau. ʻOiai ke ʻike ʻia kona hewa, hoʻololi ʻo ia a hōʻike i ka mea i hana ʻia ma ke ʻano he kuhi hewa ʻole a he hoʻohenehene paha. A i ʻole e hōʻoiaʻiʻo ua kuhi hewa ʻo ia. A i ʻole he paʻakikī loa ka hoa. Ma kahi huaʻōlelo, hana ʻo ia i nā mea āpau e hōʻemi i kāna kuleana.
4. Hoʻohana ʻo ia i ka manipulation e lanakila ai iā ʻoe.
No ka psychopath, he pāʻani a haʻuki wale nō ka hoʻopalau: hoʻowalewale ʻo ia me nā hoʻopunipuni manipulative ʻaʻole wela a ʻoiaʻiʻo. ʻO ka lokomaikaʻi, ka noʻonoʻo, ka mālama, nā makana, ka huakaʻi he ala wale nō ia e loaʻa ai kāna makemake. Manaʻo ʻo ia ma hope aku, i ka pau ʻana o ka manawa candy-bouquet, e uku ka hoa i kēia me ka hoʻolohe.
5. ʻAʻole lawa ka hoa hoʻokahi nona.
ʻAʻole ʻike ka psychopath i ke kūkulu ʻana i nā pilina pili, ʻoiaʻiʻo, wikiwiki ʻo ia e hānai a hoʻomaka e ʻimi i nā mea hou. ʻAʻole kēia manaʻo e haʻalele koke ʻo ia i ka mea hoʻonāukiuki - ʻike kēlā poʻe pehea e hui pū ai i kekahi mau puke i ka manawa hoʻokahi.
6. Hoʻopaʻa ikaika ʻo ia i nā ʻōlelo hoʻohewa.
Ma waho, hāʻawi ʻo ia i ka manaʻo o kahi kanaka imperous, narcissistic a me ka ʻuhane ʻole i mālama ʻole i nā ʻike o nā poʻe ʻē aʻe. Akā, pehea ka ʻoi loa a me kona huhū i ka wā e hoʻohewa ʻia ai, nīnau ʻia a mālama ʻole ʻia paha!
ʻO ke kumu ʻaʻole ʻo ia ʻaʻole hilinaʻi iā ia iho a pono ʻole i ka ʻae ʻia e nā poʻe ʻē aʻe. ʻAʻole, ʻo ka manaʻo holoʻokoʻa ʻo ia ka manaʻoʻiʻo i kona kiʻekiʻe a me kona mana ma luna o nā poʻe ʻē aʻe. A no laila, ʻaʻole hiki iā ia ke kūpaʻa inā hōʻike kekahi i kona mau nāwaliwali a i ʻole ke kamaʻilio "hewa" me ia.
7. He mea nui iā ia ke manaʻo he lanakila ma nā mea a pau.
I kona manaʻo, ua māheleʻia ka honua i nā mea lanakila a me nā mea pio. A he mea nui iā ia ke lilo i mea mua ma nā mea āpau, ʻoiai ma nā mea liʻiliʻi. ʻAʻole kūpono kēia ʻano me nā pilina olakino e pili ana i ka launa pū ʻana, ka ʻae ʻana, a me ka hiki ke mihi.
8. Ma hope ona e nalowale ana ka hiki ke noonoo.
Me kahi pilina lōʻihi, hoʻomaka ka hoa o ka psychopath e ʻike i ka naʻau impairment: hiki iā ia ke pilikia me ka hoʻomanaʻo, ka noʻonoʻo, ka nānā ʻana, ka hoʻoikaika ʻana, a me ka hoʻonohonoho ponoʻī. Hoʻopilikia ʻia ʻo ia, liʻiliʻi ka maikaʻi, a hoʻonui ka hopohopo iā ia.
9. Makemake ʻo ia e noho aliʻi
Makemake ka psychopath e hoʻohaʻahaʻa, hoʻomalu a hoʻohaʻahaʻa i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe - ʻo ia ke ʻano o kāna ʻōlelo ʻana i kona mana ma luna ou. Akā, ʻaʻole hiki iā ia ke kūpaʻa inā hoʻāʻo lākou e kuhikuhi i kāna ʻano iā ia, a hāʻule i ka huhū. Eia kekahi, ho'āʻoʻo ia e hoʻopaʻi i ka "hewa".
10. Huna pinepine oia i ka oiaio
ʻO kēia kahi hōʻike ʻē aʻe o kāna mau hana manipulative. Hiki iā ia ke hāmau i kekahi mea a i ʻole hoʻopunipuni i kona alo. Eia kekahi, hiki i ka wahaheʻe ke pili i nā mea liʻiliʻi a me nā mea koʻikoʻi - ke keiki ma ka ʻaoʻao, kahi hoa paʻa a i ʻole ke kūlana male.
11. Aole ona pono
Hoʻokuʻu ka psychopath i nā loina kaiapili a me nā lula moʻomeheu a maʻalahi hoʻi ma luna o lākou. ʻO ka hoʻopunipuni o nā ʻano a pau, ka ʻaihue, ka hoʻomāinoino, ka hoʻoweliweli, ka hoʻopaʻi ʻana i ka poʻe e kū kūʻē ana i kona ala - ua maikaʻi nā mea a pau iā ia.
12. ʻAʻole hiki iā ia ke manaʻo hohonu.
Me kahi kamaaina haʻahaʻa, hiki iā ia ke hoʻonani a hōʻike i ke aloha, ʻaʻole hiki iā ia ke hana. Ma ke kamaʻilio ʻana me kahi malihini, hiki i kahi psychopath ke hōʻoia i ka ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi ma mua o kona maʻamau i ka hana ʻana me kahi hoa - ʻoiai inā pono ʻo ia e hoʻohiwahiwa i kahi kanaka ikaika a i ʻole e huāhuā.
13. Ua haʻi ʻo ia iā ia iho he pōʻino
He ʻano hana maʻamau kēia i ka wā e kamaʻilio ai nā psychopaths me kahi kanaka maʻamau i loaʻa ka empathy. Hoʻohana lākou i ko mākou mana no ke aloha a me ke aloha, e hōʻike ana iā lākou iho he poʻe pōʻino - a loaʻa ke kala ʻia no nā lawehala. ʻAe kēia iā lākou e pale i ka hewa a me ke kuleana a hoʻokō i kā lākou mau pahuhopu.
14. He malihini ia ia ka lokomaikai a me ka mahalo
ʻAʻohe o lākou manaʻo aloha, no laila koi ʻia ka hoa hana i kēlā me kēia manawa e wehewehe hou iā ia i ke ʻano o ka hana kanaka ʻana i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe a me kāna mea e manaʻo ai e pili ana iā ia iho: “Mai kamaʻilio mai iaʻu pēlā! E ʻoluʻolu e hoʻōki i ka hoʻopunipuni! No ke aha lā ʻoe i ʻino ai a ʻino mai iaʻu?”
15. Manaʻo ʻoe ʻaʻole ʻoe e lawa pono.
Hoʻohewa ka psychopath, hoʻohewa, a no laila e hoʻohaʻahaʻa i kāna hoa: "Ua ʻaʻahu ʻoe e like me ka mea hele! ʻAʻole ʻoe i hoʻomaʻemaʻe maikaʻi i ka hale! ʻAha loa ʻoe! Mai ʻōlelo ʻoe iā ʻoe! E noʻonoʻo i ka nāwaliwali! Nani ka hoʻonāukiuki!" Wehewehe ʻo ia i nā noi a i ʻole koi ʻana o kahi hoa e hoʻāʻo e hoʻomalu iā ia a ʻike me ka huhū.
E pili ana i ka mea kākau: ʻO Rhonda Freeman kahi neuropsychologist.