Ua lohe nā mākua a pau i ka leʻaleʻa o ka wā ʻōpio. He nui ka poʻe e kali me ka weliweli no ka hola X, i ka wā e hoʻomaka ai ke keiki e hana ma ke ʻano he keiki ʻole. Pehea ʻoe e hoʻomaopopo ai ua hiki mai kēia manawa, a ola i kahi wā paʻakikī me ka ʻole o ka hana keaka?
ʻO ka maʻamau, hoʻomaka nā loli ʻano ma waena o nā makahiki 9 a me 13, wahi a Carl Pickhardt, he psychologist a me ka mea kākau o The Future of Your Only Child and Stop Yelling. Akā inā kānalua ʻoe, eia ka papa inoa o nā hōʻailona ua ulu ke keiki i kahi makahiki hoʻololi.
Inā hana kahi keikikāne a kaikamahine paha i ka hapalua o ka mea i helu ʻia, mahalo - ua ʻike ʻia kahi ʻōpio i kou hale. Akā, mai hopohopo! E ʻae wale i ka pau ʻana o ka wā kamaliʻi a ua hoʻomaka kahi pae hoihoi hou i ke ola o ka ʻohana.
ʻO ka wā ʻōpio ka wā paʻakikī loa no nā mākua. Pono ʻoe e hoʻonoho i nā palena no ke keiki, akā ʻaʻole e nalowale i ka pilina pili me ia. ʻAʻole hiki kēia i nā manawa a pau.
Akā,ʻaʻohe pono e ho'āʻo e mālama i ke keiki ma kahi kokoke iāʻoe, e hoʻomanaʻo i nā lā kahiko, a me ka hoʻohewaʻana i nā loli a pau i loaʻa iā ia. E ʻae i ka pau ʻana o ka manawa mālie ʻo ʻoe ka hoa aloha a me ke kōkua o ke keiki. A e hoʻokaʻawale ke keiki kāne a kaikamahine paha iā lākou iho a ulu.
ʻIke nā mākua o kahi ʻōpio i kahi loli kupaianaha: lilo ke keikikāne i keikikāne, a lilo ke kaikamahine i kaikamahine
ʻO ka makahiki hoʻololi ke kaumaha mau no nā mākua. ʻOiai inā ʻike lākou i ka hiki ʻole o ka hoʻololi ʻana, ʻaʻole hiki ke maʻalahi i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo ma kahi o kahi keiki liʻiliʻi, ʻike ʻia kahi ʻōpio kūʻokoʻa, ka mea kūʻē pinepine i ka mana makua a uhaʻi i nā lula i hoʻokumu ʻia i mea e lanakila ai ke kūʻokoʻa. nona iho.
ʻO kēia ka manawa mahalo ʻole loa. Ua koi ʻia nā mākua e pale i nā waiwai ʻohana a mālama i nā pono o ke keiki, e kūʻē ana i kāna mau pono pilikino, e kūʻē pinepine i nā mea a nā mākua i manaʻo pono ai. Pono lākou e hoʻonoho i nā palena no ke kanaka makemake ʻole e ʻike i nā palena a ʻike i nā hana a nā mākua me ka huhū, hoʻonāukiuki i nā hakakā.
Hiki iā ʻoe ke kamaʻilio me ka ʻoiaʻiʻo hou inā ʻike ʻoe i kēia makahiki ma ke ʻano like me ka wā kamaliʻi - he wā kūikawā a kupaianaha. ʻIke nā mākua o kahi ʻōpio i kahi loli kupaianaha: lilo ke keikikāne i keikikāne, a lilo ke kaikamahine i kaikamahine.