Ke hōʻike ke keiki i kona mau manaʻo ma ke ʻano nui. Inā ʻaʻole hiki i ke kanaka makua i mua ona ke makemake a hoʻomaopopo ʻole paha iā lākou, e mālama ke keiki iā lākou, ʻaʻole e hōʻike hou iā lākou a hoʻololi iā lākou i ka huhū a i ʻole ke kaumaha nui. ʻO Virginie Bouchon, psychologist, kōkua iā mākou e wehewehe i ke ʻano o ka naʻau o kāna keiki i mea e hoʻokele maikaʻi ai iā lākou.

Ke walaʻau ke keiki, huhū a ʻakaʻaka paha, hōʻike ʻo ia i kona mau manaʻo, maikaʻi (hauʻoli, mahalo) a maikaʻi ʻole paha (makaʻu, hoʻowahāwahā, kaumaha). Inā hōʻike ke kanaka i mua ona ke maopopo a kau i nā huaʻōlelo i kēia mau manaʻo, e emi ana ka ikaika o ka naʻau. Inā, i ka mea kūlike ʻole, ʻaʻole hiki i ke kanaka makua a makemake ʻole paha e hoʻomaopopo i kēia mau manaʻo, āna i manaʻo ai i ka makemake, ʻaʻole e hōʻike hou ke keiki iā lākou a lilo i kaumaha, a i ʻole ma ka ʻaoʻao e hōʻike hou aku iā lākou me ka ikaika.

Manaʻo kōkua # 1: ka hoʻomaopopo ʻana i ka hoʻomaopopo

E lawe i kahi laʻana o kahi keiki e makemake ana iā mākou e kūʻai i puke ma kahi supermarket a huhū no ka mea ua haʻi ʻia ʻo ia ʻaʻole.

ʻO ka hopena maikaʻi ʻole: waiho mākou i ka puke a haʻi mākou iā ia he wili wale ia a ʻaʻohe ala e kūʻai ai mākou. ʻO ka ikaika o ka makemake o ke keiki e ikaika loa. Malia paha ʻo ia e ʻaʻole no ka maopopo iā ia ke ʻano o kona naʻau akā no ka makaʻu i ka hopena a nā mākua a i ʻole no ka mea ʻike ʻo ia ʻaʻole e lohe ʻia. Hoʻopau mākou i kona mau naʻau, e hoʻomohala ʻo ia i kekahi ʻano hoʻoikaika i mea e hiki ai ke hōʻike i kona mau manaʻo i ka ikaika, i kēlā me kēia ʻano, a i kēlā me kēia ala. Ma hope, kanalua ʻole ʻo ia e nānā iki i ka naʻau o nā poʻe ʻē aʻe, ke aloha iki, a i ʻole ka ʻaoʻao ʻē aʻe i kahaha nui ʻia e nā manaʻo o haʻi, a ʻike ʻole pehea e hoʻokele ai iā lākou.   

ʻO ka hopena kūpono: e hōʻike ua lohe mākou iā ia, ua maopopo iā mākou kona makemake. « Maopopo iaʻu makemake ʻoe i kēia puke, nani loa kona uhi, makemake pū wau e hele i loko ". Hoʻokomo mākou iā mākou iho i kona wahi, ua ʻae mākou iā ia i kona wahi. Hiki iā ia ke waiho iā ia iho i nā kāmaʻa o haʻi, hōʻikeke aloha a mālama i kāna ponoʻī nā manaʻo.

Manaʻo kōkua 2: e hoʻokau i ke keiki ma ke ʻano he mea hana keaka

E wehewehe iā ia no ke aha mākou e kūʻai ʻole ai i kēia puke e makemake nui ai iā ia: A ʻōlelo koke e ʻike ʻo ia i kahi hopena i ka pilikia: "ʻO ka mea hiki iā mākou ke mālama iā ia ke hele wau i ke kūʻai aku a hoʻihoʻi iā ia i ke ala no ka manawa aʻe, maikaʻi?" Pehea kou manaʻo ? He aha kāu i manaʻo ai hiki iā mākou ke hana? ". ” I kēia hihia wehe mākou i ka manaʻo mai nā wehewehe, wehe mākou i ke kūkā, wehewehe ʻo Virginie Bouchon. Pono e kāpae ʻia ka huaʻōlelo “whim” mai ko mākou manaʻo. ʻAʻole hoʻohana kahi keiki a hiki i 6-7 mau makahiki, ʻaʻohe ona makemake, hōʻike ʻo ia i kona mau manaʻo i ka mea hiki iā ia a hoʻāʻo e ʻike pehea e hana ai iā lākou iho. Pākuʻi ʻo ia.

ʻ Tiplelo Aʻo # 3: Hoʻonoho mua i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo

I kahi keiki e nīnau ana inā aia ʻo Santa Claus, hōʻike mākou ua maopopo iā mākou inā e nīnau ʻo ia i kēia nīnau no ka mea ua mākaukau ʻo ia e hoʻolohe i ka pane, he aha ia. Ma ka hoʻihoʻi ʻana iā ia ma ke ʻano he mea hana keaka i ke kūkā a me ka pilina, e ʻōlelo mākou: " A ʻo ʻoe, he aha kou manaʻo? He aha ka ʻōlelo a kou mau hoaaloha e pili ana iā ia? ". Aia i ka mea āna e ʻōlelo ai e ʻike ʻoe inā pono ʻoe e pili iki aʻe a i ʻole inā pono e hōʻoia i ka mea a kāna mau hoaaloha i haʻi aku ai iā ia.

Inā paʻakikī ka pane iā ʻoe, no ka make ʻana o kahi kanaka (kahi tūtū, he kaikunāne ...) e laʻa, e wehewehe iā ia: "Cpaʻakikī loa iaʻu e wehewehe i kēia iā ʻoe, malia paha hiki iā ʻoe ke noi i ka makuakāne e hana, e ʻike ʻo ia ". Pēlā nō, inā ua huhū kāna hana, hiki iā ʻoe ke hōʻike pū: “ ʻAʻole hiki iaʻu ke kāohi i kou huhū i kēia manawa, ke hele nei wau i koʻu keʻena, hiki iā ʻoe ke hele i kāu ke makemake ʻoe. Pono wau e hoʻomālie a hui hou mākou ma hope e kamaʻilio e pili ana ia a ʻike pū i ka mea hiki iā mākou ke hana ".

ʻO Virginie Bouchon