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Hana nā mākua i ke kūpono, me ka nānā ʻole i nā hana kolohe liʻiliʻi a me nā hana ʻakaʻaka o nā keiki. Ke aʻo nei kēia i ke keiki ʻaʻole ia e hoʻohuli i ka manaʻo iā lākou iho, a ʻo ka hopena, ʻaʻole paha ʻo ia e hana hou i kēia ʻano. Eia naʻe, ʻaʻole hiki ke mālama ʻia kekahi mau hana.
I loko o kāna hana he ʻumi makahiki, ua ʻike ʻo Leanne Evila ka mea lapaʻau ʻohana i nā pilikia pili i nā keiki e koi koke i ka pane makua.
1. Hoʻopau ʻo ia
Hauʻoli kāu keiki i kekahi mea a makemake ʻo ia e kamaʻilio koke. Inā ʻoe e ʻae iā ia e hoʻopili i ke kamaʻilio ʻana a keakea iā ʻoe, a laila e hoʻomaopopo ʻoe ua ʻae ʻia kēia. No laila ʻaʻole ʻoe e aʻo i kāu keiki e noʻonoʻo e pili ana i nā mea ʻē aʻe a e ʻimi i kahi mea e hana ai nona iho. I ka manawa aʻe e hoʻāʻo ai kāu keiki e hoʻopau iā ʻoe, e hōʻike iā ia ua paʻa ʻoe. E manaʻo i ka mea hiki iā ia ke pāʻani.
2. Hoʻonui ʻo ia
Hoʻomaka nā mea a pau me nā mea liʻiliʻi. I ka wā mua, ʻōlelo ʻo ia ua hoʻopau ʻo ia i kāna mau mea kanu, ʻoiai ʻaʻole ʻo ia i hoʻopā iā lākou. ʻO kēia wahaheʻe liʻiliʻi, ʻoiaʻiʻo, ʻaʻole ia e hōʻeha i kekahi, akā naʻe, ʻaʻole kūlike nā ʻōlelo a ke keiki me ka ʻoiaʻiʻo. Manaʻo paha ʻoe he mea lapuwale kēia, akā hiki ke hoʻonui i ka manaʻo o ka wahaheʻe i ka manawa.
ʻOiaʻiʻo, he mea nui e hoʻomanaʻo i ka makahiki ʻelua a ʻehā mau makahiki, ʻaʻole maopopo ke keiki i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo a me ka wahaheʻe. E hoʻomaikaʻi i nā keiki ke haʻi lākou i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo. E aʻo iā lākou i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, ʻoiai i ka wā e pilikia ai lākou.
3. Hoohuoi oia aole lohe
ʻAʻole pono ʻoe e noi pinepine i ke keiki e waiho i nā mea pāʻani a i ʻole e komo i ke kaʻa. ʻO ka haʻalele ʻana i kāu mau noi ma kāna ʻaoʻao he paio no ka mana. I ka wā lōʻihi, e ʻoi aku ka ʻino o kēia.
I ka manawa aʻe e pono ai ʻoe e nīnau i kāu keiki kāne a i kāu kaikamahine no kekahi mea, e piʻi i kāu keiki a nānā iā ia i ka maka.
E kiʻi iā ia e ʻōlelo, «ʻAe, Māmā (Papa).» Inā nānā kāu keiki i ka TV, hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻopau. Inā pono, e like me ka hoʻopaʻi, hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻonele i ke keiki i ka leʻaleʻa - no ka laʻana, e hoʻemi i ka manawa i hoʻohana ʻia ma nā hāmeʻa mai ka hola a i ka hapalua hola.
4. He ʻinoʻino ʻo ia i ka wā pāʻani.
Inā e hahau ana kāu kaikuaʻana i kona kaikaina, pono ʻoe e komo. Akā ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻohuli i ka maka makapō i nā hōʻike liʻiliʻi o ka huhū - no ka laʻana, inā ʻo ia e hoʻokuke i kona kaikunāne a i ʻole ka nānā ʻole iā ia. Pono e kāpae ʻia kēlā ʻano hana i ka wā ʻōpiopio, inā ʻaʻole e ʻoi aku ka ʻino ma hope. Inā ʻoe e ʻae i kāu keiki e hana pēlā, a laila me he mea lā e hōʻike ana iā ia e ʻae ʻia e hōʻeha i kekahi.
E lawe i kāu keiki a wehewehe iā ia ʻaʻole kēia ke ala e hana ai. Mai hoʻokuʻu iā ia e pāʻani me nā kaikaina a me nā kaikuahine a aʻo ʻo ia e hana pono me lākou.
5. Lawe ʻo ia i nā mea ʻono me ka noi ʻole
He mea maʻalahi ke hopu ke keiki kāne a kaikamahine paha i mea e ʻai ai a hoʻā i ka TV me ka hoʻopilikia ʻole iā ʻoe. Ke kiʻi ʻia kahi keiki ʻelua makahiki i kahi kuki e waiho ana ma luna o ka pākaukau, nani ke nānā aku. Inā ʻaʻole, e nānā ʻo ia i ka wā ʻewalu o kona mau makahiki, hoʻomaka ʻo ia i kahi pāʻina e hopu i nā mea ʻono me ka ʻole o ka ʻae ʻia. He mea nui ka hoʻokumu ʻana i kekahi mau lula ma ka home a ʻike pono nā keiki iā lākou.
6. He kolohe
Hiki i nā keiki ke hoʻomaka i ka hana ʻino i ka wā kamaliʻi. Hoʻohālike lākou i ke ʻano o ko lākou mau mākua a nānā i kā lākou ʻano. ʻAʻole hoʻolohe pinepine nā mākua, me ka manaʻo e hala kēia. Eia nō naʻe, inā e ʻae ʻoe i kāu keiki e hana me ka mahalo ʻole, ma hope o ka manawa e pau ke kūlana.
E hōʻike i ke keiki ua ʻike ʻoe i kona ʻōwili ʻana i kona mau maka. He mea nui e hilahila ʻo ia i kāna ʻano. I ka manawa like, e wehewehe i kou ʻae ʻana e kamaʻilio pū me ia ke mākaukau ʻo ia e kamaʻilio me ka mahalo a me ka mahalo.