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Malia paha ua moeʻuhane kēlā me kēia kāne i kahi pilina olakino a hauʻoli. Akā, no ke aha e hiki ai i kekahi mau kuʻikahi ke lanakila i nā pilikia, aʻo nā mea ʻē aʻe e hāʻule i ka wā e hālāwai mua ai me nā pilikia? Hoʻonui nui ʻia ka manawa o ka male lōʻihi inā loaʻa i nā kāne ʻelua kekahi mau ʻano, wahi a ka mea aʻoaʻo a me ke kākā'ōlelo i ka hoʻomohala pilikino a me ke akamai o ka pilina Keith Dent.
Inā ua heluhelu ʻoe i nā puke a me nā ʻatikala e pili ana i ka pilina, ua ʻike paha ʻoe aia ʻelua mau manaʻo kūʻē i ka nīnau o ke koho ʻana i hoa. Ke hōʻoiaʻiʻo nei kekahi poʻe loea e "hoʻohuli nā mea kū'ē", ʻo nā mea ʻē aʻe, he mea pono ke ʻimi i kahi kanaka e like me mākou.
"Akā ʻo ka mea ʻoiaʻiʻo, inā pili paha kou ʻano a ʻaʻole nui paha ia," wahi a ke kumu aʻo ʻo Keith Dent. ʻO kēlā me kēia ola ʻohana piha i nā pilikia, ʻaʻole ʻo ke aloha wale nō ka mea e mālama ai i kahi pilina olakino. "I kekahi mau ʻohana, ua like ke ʻano o nā hoa, a i kekahi ʻaʻole like lākou me kekahi. Mai koʻu ʻike ponoʻī hiki iaʻu ke ʻōlelo: hiki iā lāua ke noho pū me ka hauʻoli mau loa.
ʻO ka mea nui loa ka loaʻa ʻana o nā hoa pili i kekahi mau ʻano.
1. ʻO ka hiki ke ʻae me ka hoʻohewa ʻole
He mea koʻikoʻi ka hiki ke hoʻomaopopo a ʻae i kahi hoa me kona mau hiʻohiʻona āpau, ʻaʻole me nā mea ʻoluʻolu loa.
Inā ʻoe e hoʻāʻo e hana hou i kou hoa ola, e hoʻomaka ana kāu male ʻana e wāwahi. ʻAʻole ia he mea i koho mua ʻoe i kēia kanaka me kona mau hemahema a pau. Eia kekahi, ʻaʻohe mea makemake e hoʻolohe i ka hoʻohewa ʻana, a lawe kekahi iā ia he mea hōʻino pilikino.
2. Loyalty i ka hoa
ʻO ka ʻoiaʻiʻo he hōʻailona ia o ka pilina manaʻo ikaika ma waena o ʻoukou. He mea nui kou makemake e hoʻopakele i ka male - ʻaʻole no ka manaʻo o ke kuleana, akā no ka mea he hui hoʻokahi ʻoe a ua paʻa ʻoe e hana i nā mea āpau e noho pū ai.
3. Paulele
Ua hālāwai paha ʻoe i kahi kāne hauʻoli kahi e hoʻoholo ai kekahi hoa i nā hoʻoholo āpau no lāua? ʻAʻole hiki mai kēlā. Pono kēlā me kēia hoa kāne e kākoʻo iā ia i kēlā me kēia kūlana a mahalo mau i kona mau manaʻo, manaʻo a me kona mau manaʻo. No kēia, he mea nui ka hilinaʻi a me ka hiki ke hoʻolohe i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe.
4. Ka pono
He mea nui ka hiki ke kamaʻilio ākea e pili ana i kāu mau ʻike. ʻO ka manawa pinepine mākou he maalea a hūnā paha i ko mākou mau manaʻo maoli, no ka mea, me ka ʻike ʻana i kahi hoa, hoʻomaopopo mākou e hālāwai ʻia ko mākou manaʻo a ʻōlelo paha me ka ʻae ʻole. I kēlā mau kūlana, mai wahaheʻe a hūnā i kekahi mea, e ho'āʻo eʻimi i kahi ala e haʻi ai i kou manaʻo, akā ma keʻano eʻike ai kāu kāne.
5. Hiki ke kala aku
I loko o kekahi pilina, ʻaʻole hiki ke hoʻomaopopo i kekahi, nā hewa, nā hakakā, nā kuʻikahi. Inā ʻaʻole ʻike nā kāne i ke kala ʻana i kekahi i kekahi, ʻaʻole lōʻihi ka male ʻana.
6. Hiki ke mahalo
He mea nui e hiki ke mahalo i nā mea a pau a ka mea aloha e hāʻawi ai iā ʻoe, me ka lawe ʻole ʻole ʻia, a hoʻomohala i ke ʻano o ka mahalo iā ʻoe iho.
7. Manao hoowahawaha
Maikaʻi mau ka hiki ke ʻakaʻaka i kāu mau ʻokoʻa a me nā kuʻikahi. ʻO ke ʻano hoʻohaʻahaʻa maikaʻi e kōkua i ka mālama ʻana i ka hoihoi like a me ka pale ʻana i nā kūlana paʻakikī i ka manawa. He mea koʻikoʻi loa ia no ka hele ʻana i nā wā paʻakikī i ka pilina.
E pili ana i ka mea kākau: He kumu aʻoaʻo ʻo Keith Dent, hoʻomohala pilikino a me ka ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo pili.