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Loaʻa i ke keiki hauʻoli nā mea a pau āna e makemake ai
ʻAʻole ʻoliʻoli ka hauʻoli i ka ʻoluʻolu o nā makemake āpau, ua ʻae nā ʻepekema āpau i kēia! No ka nui o kou mau makahiki, ʻo ka loaʻa ʻana o ka mea āu e makemake ai e lawe mai i ka hoʻomaha liʻiliʻi e like me ka hauʻoli, akā ʻaʻole ia he hauʻoli maoli. E like me ka wā e ʻohi ai ʻoe i kahi e ʻeha ai, ʻike ʻoe i kahi hōʻoluʻolu maikaʻi, akā ʻokoʻa ka hauʻoli! A hala ka ʻoluʻolu koke o ka makemake, hana koke ʻia nā mea hou, ʻaʻole hiki ke pio. Ua hana ʻia ke kanaka, makemake ʻo ia i ka mea i loaʻa ʻole iā ia, akā i ka wā e loaʻa ai, huli ʻo ia i ka mea i loaʻa ʻole iā ia. I mea e hauʻoli ai kāu keiki, mai hāʻawi iā ia i nā mea a pau āna e makemake ai, e aʻo iā ia e koho i kāna mau mea nui, e ʻae i ka huhū, e kaupalena i kāna mau makemake. E wehewehe iā ia aia kekahi mau mea e loaʻa iā mākou a ʻaʻole ʻē aʻe, ʻo ia ke ola! E haʻi aku iā ʻoe, ʻo ʻoe nā mākua, ma lalo o ke kānāwai hoʻokahi, pono ʻoe e ʻae e kau palena i kāu makemake. Pulu ka ua, ʻaʻole hiki iā mākou ke loaʻa nā mea a pau a mākou e makemake ai! Ke alo nei i nā poʻe mākua maʻemaʻe a koʻikoʻi, hoʻomaopopo koke nā kamaliʻi i ke kumu o ka honua.
Hana ke keiki hauʻoli i kāna makemake
ʻElua ʻohana hauʻoli. Pili ka hauʻoli me ka leʻaleʻa - no ka laʻana, kowali, loaʻa i nā pūliki, ʻai ʻana i nā mea ʻono a me nā mea maikaʻi, ʻike i nā ʻano ʻoluʻolu ... A me ka hauʻoli e pili ana i ka haku ʻana i nā mea hou, i ka holomua a mākou e hana ai i kēlā me kēia lā i kā mākou mau hana, no ka laʻana ka hoʻomaopopo ʻana i ka hana ʻana i ka puzzle, ka ʻike i ka holo kaʻa kaʻa me ka ʻole o nā huila liʻiliʻi, ka kuke keke, kākau i kou inoa, kūkulu i ka hale kiaʻi Kapla, etc. no nā mākua e kōkua i kā lākou poʻe liʻiliʻi e ʻike he leʻaleʻa ke aʻo ʻana, pono ka hoʻoikaika ʻana, hiki ke paʻakikī, pono e hoʻomaka hou, akā pono ia no ka mea, i ka hopena o ka lā, nui ka ʻoluʻolu.
Hauʻoli ke keiki hauʻoli
ʻOiaʻiʻo, he keiki hauʻoli, kaulike, e hana maikaʻi ana i kona poʻo, hilinaʻi i ke ola, ʻakaʻaka a ʻakaʻaka nui me kona mau mākua a me kāna mau hoaaloha. Akā inā he kanaka makua a he kamaliʻi paha, ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke hauʻoli i nā hola 24 o ka lā! I ka lā hoʻokahi, hoka mākou, huhū, kaumaha, hopohopo, huhū ... i kēlā me kēia manawa. ʻO ka mea nui, ʻo nā manawa maikaʻi ke ʻoluʻolu kāu keiki, hauʻoli, māʻona, ʻoi aku ka nui o nā manawa maikaʻi ʻole. ʻO ka lakio kūpono ʻekolu mau manaʻo maikaʻi no hoʻokahi manaʻo maikaʻi ʻole. ʻAʻole nā manaʻo maikaʻi ʻole he hōʻailona o ka hemahema o ka hoʻonaʻauao. ʻO ka ʻae ʻana e loaʻa i kahi keiki ke kaumaha a hiki iā ia ke ʻike nona iho hiki ke nalo kona kaumaha a ʻaʻole ia e alakaʻi i nā pōʻino. Pono ʻo ia e hana i kāna iho "psychological immunity". ʻIke mākou inā mākou e hānai i kahi keiki ma kahi maʻemaʻe koʻikoʻi, hoʻonui mākou i ka pilikia o ka maʻi allergies no ka mea ʻaʻole hiki iā ia ke hana i kona palekana olaola. Inā mālama nui ʻoe i kāu keiki mai nā manaʻo maikaʻi ʻole, ʻaʻole hiki i kāna ʻōnaehana pale kino ke aʻo e hoʻonohonoho iā ia iho.
Hauʻoli mau ke keiki aloha
ʻO ke aloha pauʻole a me ka palenaʻole o kona mau mākua he mea pono, akā,ʻaʻole lawa e hauʻoli ai ke keiki. No ka ulu maikaʻi ʻana, pono nō hoʻi ʻo ia i kahi hoʻolālā. ʻO ka ʻike ʻana i ka ʻōlelo ʻole inā pono ka lawelawe maikaʻi loa e hiki iā mākou ke hāʻawi iā ia. ʻAʻole pono ke aloha makua. ʻO nā manaʻoʻiʻo e like me "ʻO mākou wale nō ka mea i ʻike pehea e hoʻomaopopo ai iā ʻoe, ʻo mākou wale nō ka mea ʻike i ka mea maikaʻi iā ʻoe" e pale ʻia. He mea nui e ʻae nā mākua e hiki i nā mākua ʻē aʻe ke komo i kā lākou hoʻonaʻauao ma ke ʻano ʻokoʻa mai kā lākou. Pono ke keiki e ʻimi i nā poʻohiwi me nā poʻe ʻē aʻe, e ʻike i nā ʻano pilina ʻē aʻe, e ʻike i ka huhū, e ʻeha i kekahi manawa. Pono ʻoe e ʻike pehea e ʻae ai, ʻo ia ka hoʻonaʻauao e ulu ai ʻoe.
Nui nā hoaaloha o ke keiki hauʻoli
ʻOiaʻiʻo, ua maʻalahi ke keiki maikaʻi i ka lehulehu a hōʻike maʻalahi i kona manaʻo. Akā ʻaʻole kēia he kānāwai paʻakikī a wikiwiki. Hiki iā ʻoe ke loaʻa kahi ʻano ʻano ʻokoʻa a maikaʻi iā ʻoe iho. Inā ʻoi aku ka luhi o kāu keiki ma mua o nā mea ʻē aʻe, inā mālama ʻo ia, mālama iki ʻia, ʻoiai, aia ka ikaika o ka naʻauao i loko ona. ʻO ka mea nui iā ia e hauʻoli ai ʻo ia ka manaʻo ua ʻae ʻia ʻo ia e like me kona ʻano, he mau wahi kūʻokoʻa kāna. ʻO kahi keiki akamai i ka hauʻoli mālie e hīmeni ana, lele a puni, makemake e pāʻani hoʻokahi i loko o kona lumi, hana i nā honua a loaʻa kekahi mau hoaaloha, loaʻa i loko o kona ola kāna mea e pono ai a holomua e like me ke alakaʻi. "kaulana" loa ma ka papa.
ʻAʻole luuluu ke keiki hauʻoli
Makaʻu nā mākua o luhi kā lākou keiki, hele a puni, noho ʻole. Hoʻomaka koke lākou e hoʻonohonoho i nā papa manawa kuhina nona, hoʻonui i nā hana. Ke ʻauwana ko mākou mau manaʻo, ke hana ʻole mākou, ke nānā aku mākou i ka ʻāina ma o ka puka makani kaʻaahi no ka laʻana, hoʻāla ʻia nā wahi kikoʻī o ko mākou lolo - i kapa ʻia e nā ʻepekema ʻo "network default". He kuleana koʻikoʻi kēia pūnaewele i ka hoʻomanaʻo, ka paʻa o ka naʻau a me ke kūkulu ʻana i ka ʻike. I kēia lā, ʻoi aku ka liʻiliʻi o kēia pūnaewele, ʻike mau ʻia ko mākou nānā ʻana e nā pale, nā hana i hoʻopili ʻia ... Ua ʻike mākou ʻo ka manawa o ka wehe ʻana o ka cerebral e hoʻonui i ka pae o ka maikaʻi, ʻoiai ka
ʻO ka nui o ka lehulehu ke kumu o ka pilikia a hoʻemi i ka manaʻo o ka hauʻoli. Mai hoʻopiha i nā hana i nā Pōʻakolu a me nā hopena pule o kāu keiki. E koho ʻo ia i nā mea āna i makemake nui ai, i mea e hauʻoli maoli ai ia, a e hoʻokaʻawale iā lākou me nā manawa ʻaʻohe mea i hoʻolālā ʻia, nā hoʻomaha e hōʻoluʻolu iā ia, e hoʻomaha iā ia a paipai iā ia e hoʻohana i kāna hana hana. Mai hoʻomaʻamaʻa i nā hana "continuous jet", ʻaʻole ia e hauʻoli hou iā lākou a lilo ʻo ia i kanaka makua e hilinaʻi ana i ka heihei no ka leʻaleʻa. ʻO ia hoʻi, e like me kā mākou i ʻike ai, he kūʻē i ka hauʻoli maoli.
Pono e pale ʻia mai nā pilikia a pau
Hōʻike nā haʻawina i nā keiki he pilikia ka overexposure i ke kaumaha, e like me ka overprotection. ʻOi aku ka maikaʻi o ka hoʻomaopopo ʻana i ke keiki i nā mea e hana nei i loko o kona ʻohana, me nā ʻōlelo maʻalahi a hoʻohaʻahaʻa a kona mau mākua, a ua hoʻomaopopo pū ʻo ia i ke alo o kēia mau mākua hoʻokahi: ʻo ka haʻawina e loaʻa ana ka pilikia a hiki ke hoʻohālikelike ʻia. e lilo ia i mea makamae. Ma ka ʻaoʻao ʻē aʻe, he mea pono ʻole ka hoʻolaha ʻana i ke keiki i ka nūhou televise, ke ʻole ʻo ia kāna noi, a ma kēia hihia, e noho mau ma kona ʻaoʻao e pane i kāna mau nīnau a kōkua iā ia e wehewehe i nā kiʻi hiki ke hoʻoluhi.
Pono ʻoe e haʻi iā ia "Aloha wau iā ʻoe" i kēlā me kēia lā
He mea nui e haʻi pinepine a maopopo iā ia kou aloha iā ia, akā ʻaʻole pono i kēlā me kēia lā. ʻO kā mākou aloha e ʻike a loaʻa i nā manawa a pau, akā ʻaʻole pono e hoʻonui a ma nā wahi āpau.
* Ka mea kākau o “A mai poina i ka hauʻoli. ABC of positive psychology ”, ed. Odile Iakoba.