8 mau ʻōlelo ʻaʻole hiki i nā wahine ke kū

Aia kekahi mau huaʻōlelo kūʻokoʻa i hana ʻia e nā hoa pili me ka naʻau. He ʻokoʻa lākou no nā kāne a me nā wahine. ʻAʻole makemake nā kāne i kahi huaʻōlelo e like me "Makemake wau e hana iaʻu iho", no ka mea e nīnau ʻia ai ko lākou mākaukau a me ke kāne.

A no ke aha i makemake ʻole ai nā wahine i ka huaʻōlelo "hoʻomaha"? No ka mea, hōʻole ia i ka waiwai o kā lākou ʻike.

He aha nā huaʻōlelo ʻē aʻe e hōʻeha i ka haʻaheo o nā wahine a hoʻopilikia i ka pilina?

1. “E hoomaha. E mālie"

Hōʻole ʻoe i ka waiwai o kona mau manaʻo. He mea koʻikoʻi nā manaʻo a pau, ʻoiai inā he waimaka… ʻoiai ʻaʻole ʻo ia i ʻike i kāna mea e uē nei.

Manaʻo paha ʻoe aia ʻo ia i kēia manawa, hohonu hohonu, ke kali nei iā ʻoe e ʻōlelo mai, "ʻAe, he mea lapuwale ke uē ʻana no ia mau mea lapuwale"? ʻAʻole loa, ke kali nei ʻo ia iā ʻoe e pūliki iā ia, e kāhea iā ia i ʻōlelo aloha a lawe mai i kāna kī pumehana.

A i ʻole, ma ke ʻano he hopena hope loa, e hahai i ka ʻōlelo aʻo a ke kauka ʻohana ʻo Marcia Berger: "Ke huhū ʻo ia, e ʻōlelo ʻo ia a kunou me ke ahonui."

2. ʻAʻole ʻoe he kāne, ʻaʻole maopopo ʻoe i kēia.

E haʻalele i nā ʻōlelo hoʻohālikelike e pili ana i nā kāne a me nā wahine, wahi a Ryan Howes, he kauka psychologist ma Pasadena. E hana kēia i kahi mamao ʻē aʻe a pono ʻole ma waena o ʻoukou.

Eia kekahi, ʻo nā huaʻōlelo "ʻaʻole maopopo iā ʻoe i kēia" aia kekahi ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo i ka hoʻohuli ʻana i ke kūkākūkā ma kahi ʻaoʻao pono ʻole.

Ma hope o nā mea a pau, ʻo ka mea āu e makemake ai i kēia manawa ʻo ka hōʻike ʻana i ke kaumaha a me ka huhū - ʻo ia hoʻi, ʻo ia ka mea āu i makemake ai i kēia manawa (e ʻike i ka paukū 1)?

A laila e haʻi mai iaʻu i kou huhū i ka nalowale ʻana o kāu hui punahele (hoʻolaha ʻia o kēia upstart, junk motor) ...

3. "Pono maoli anei oe ia mea?"

ʻOiaʻiʻo, pono e hoʻi i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo kālā. Akā ua hoʻohana ʻo ia i kēlā kālā, a ʻaʻole ʻoe i ʻike i ka nui o ka manawa, ka hoʻoikaika ʻana, ka kānalua a me ka nānā pono ʻana i ka loaʻa ʻana o kēia mea hoʻokahi ma ke kūlanakauhale nui.

A i ʻole he ʻuʻuku liʻiliʻi paha ia i ʻoluʻolu ai…

ʻAe, pono iā ia. ʻO ia ia manawa. Ua hoʻomaopopo ʻo ia iā ia iho i kēia manawa ʻaʻole pono ia.

E ʻakaʻaka pū i kēia kūʻai ʻana a… e lawe i ka manawa i ke ahiahi e noho i lalo a pena pū i nā lilo i hoʻolālā ʻia no ka mahina a no ka makahiki e hiki mai ana.

4. "E haʻalele ana au"

Mai ʻōlelo ʻoe i ka huaʻōlelo "oki male" inā ʻaʻole ʻoe i manaʻo e hemo.

ʻAe, hiki iā ia ke ʻōlelo i nā manawa he nui e haʻalele ana ʻo ia no kona makuahine a haʻalele iā ʻoe, akā ʻokoʻa loa kēia. ʻO ia ke ʻano o kāna hōʻike ʻana i kona mau manaʻo, ʻo ia ke kaumaha a me ke mehameha. ʻAʻole ʻo ia e hoʻomanaʻo iā lākou i ka lā ʻapōpō.

Akā ʻaʻohe mea e manaʻo e lohe i kēia mau ʻōlelo weliweli mai ʻoe.

5. "Maikaʻi ka lasagna… Akā ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o koʻu makuahine… E noi iā ia i ka meaʻai."

I kekahi manawa ua ho'āʻoʻia ko mākou hilinaʻi i ko mākou mau hiki. ʻO ka hoʻohālikelike ʻana me ka makuahōnōwai wahine hiki ke hoʻāla i nā hoʻomanaʻo o nā neʻe akamai ʻole he nui.

Ma ka laulā, ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ka ʻōlelo pōkole, e like me ke kanaka: "Maikaʻi lasagna."

6. "ʻAe, maopopo iaʻu, e hana wau, ua lawa kēlā, mai hoʻomanaʻo mai iaʻu"

Ma kēia mau huaʻōlelo, heluhelu ʻia ka subtext "pehea kou luhi," wahi a Marcia Berger. ʻAʻole kūpono lākou inā ua hana mua ʻoe i kēia ʻano a ... ʻaʻohe hana. He laʻana kēia o ka ʻōlelo hala ʻole ʻaʻole hiki i nā wahine ke kū.

7. "E kaʻa ana kaʻu wahine mua i ka maka o ka maka, a ua ʻoluʻolu loa ʻo ia ..."

ʻAʻole makemake paha ka hoa i kēia manawa e lohe i ka hoʻomaikaʻi ʻana mai kekahi mai kāu i hala. ʻOi aku ka maikaʻi ʻaʻole e hoʻohālikelike i nā wahine, ʻoiai ʻo ka nui o ko lākou mau makahiki, ʻōlelo ʻo Marcia Berger.

8. "Ua pilikia nui anei ia oe? ʻAʻole loa au »

ʻO ia hoʻi, ke pena nei ʻoe i ke kiʻi o ke kanaka pilikua manaʻo, he kanaka makaʻu ʻole i nā ʻino, a noʻonoʻo ʻoe no ke aha i makemake ʻole ai kāu wahine e hoʻohālike iā ʻoe.

A ʻoi aku ma mua o kēlā, ʻo kēia mau ʻōlelo he mea hoʻonāukiuki iā ia. No ke kumu like mākou i hoʻomaka ai: e hopohopo, e hopohopo - ʻo kāna ala kēia e mālama ai iā ʻolua a me ke ola maʻamau. E haʻi iā ia i kou mahalo nui iā ia!