I kekahi manawa, uē lākou, ʻike i ka makaʻu a me ka palekana a pono ke kākoʻo noʻonoʻo. A ʻaʻohe ala maikaʻi e ʻike ai iā ʻoe iho a hoʻopau i nā makaʻu ma mua o kahi hui kāne. He hōʻike mai kahi hoʻomaʻamaʻa Paris kahi i ʻae ʻole ʻia nā wahine e komo.
Hāʻawi ka Paris School of Gestalt Therapy i ʻekolu lā aʻo no nā kāne wale nō. Ma luna o ia mea, ua ʻike ka mea kākau moʻolelo Psychologies i ka pono e pale iā ia iho, ka makaʻu i ka male kāne a me ka mana o ka waimaka hui. Ua hoʻi ʻo ia i ke keʻena hoʻoponopono i hoʻololi ʻia a haʻi i ke ʻano.
Kūʻē i kēia manawa
"ʻAuhea kēlā ʻuʻu?"
I ke kolu o ka lā o nā papa, pono e ʻimi i kahi holoholona totem. Ua koho au i ka salmon. No ka hana hou ʻana, piʻi i luna. He nui nā pōʻino ma kēia ala, paʻakikī ka hana. Eia naʻe, mālama ʻo ia. Ua noi mai ke alakaʻi iaʻu e moe ma ka papahele. A laila ua noi ʻo ia i ʻehā mau mea manawaleʻa e noho ma koʻu kua, a pono wau e hana i koʻu ala ma kēia ʻano nui o nā kino. A i kēlā manawa ua lohe au i ka ʻoi loa o lākou, ʻo Oscar1ʻO wai ka mea i hoʻonāukiuki iaʻu mai ka lā mua, hāʻule i kanaiwa kilo o kona kaumaha ma luna o koʻu mau iwi ʻaoʻao me ka ʻakaʻaka: "A i hea kēia tadpole?"
ʻO kekahi o nā hoʻomaʻamaʻa e pili ana i ka hui ʻana i ʻekolu: ʻelua i pani i nā mākua, makua kāne a me ka makuahine, a ʻo ke kolu he "pepe" i ʻōwili ʻia ma waena o lākou.
Ua hoʻonanea iaʻu i kēia aʻo ʻana me kāna huaʻōlelo: "Inā he kāne ʻoe, e hele mai!". ʻO kēia hoʻopiʻi i ke kāne, ke ʻano hoʻonāukiuki: pehea ke ʻano o ke kāne? Noʻu, ʻo nā kāne ʻelua kakini ʻē aʻe i ʻākoakoa ma lalo o kēia hale ma ka ʻāina Noremana, ʻaʻole kēia he nīnau ʻike ponoʻī.
— Nui nā kāne e wili ana i kā lākou mau paka ma ka puka komo, weliweli! - ʻO Eric, ka mea aʻu i hālāwai ai no ka inu i kekahi manawa ma hope o ka hoʻomaʻamaʻa ʻana, hoʻomanaʻo ʻo ia i kona hopohopo no ka hoʻomaka ʻana: "I koʻu wā kamaliʻi, ʻaʻole hiki iaʻu ke kū i ka lewa o nā wahi he kāne wale nō. ʻO kēlā mau lumi ʻaʻahu a pau. ʻO kēia ka pili holoholona. ʻO ka hele ʻana o kahi wahine i hāʻawi mau iaʻu i ka hilinaʻi. Pehea wau e noho ai ma ʻaneʻi? A pehea ka hoowalewale? Makemake maoli au e hoʻowalewale ..." Ua ʻakaʻaka ʻo ia: he hōʻoluʻolu i kēia manawa ke kamaʻilio manuahi. "Ua ʻike wau aia nā kāne male ma waena o mākou. Ua makaʻu wau o makemake ʻia au - a ma hope o kēia hopohopo e hūnā ʻia koʻu makemake ponoʻī! Ua ʻakaʻaka wau. "E noʻonoʻo, a koi wau e hoʻokomo ʻia i loko o kahi lumi moe kaʻawale!" Ua hala mākou i kēia ma mua…
uē pū kekahi kāne
I ka wā mua loa o ka hoʻomaʻamaʻa ʻana, ua koi ʻia mākou e hoʻopili kino kekahi i kekahi, me ka nānā ʻole i ka makemake o ka wahine. He hana maʻamau paha kēia no nā hui kāne, a he mea maʻamau no ka Gestalt therapy, kahi e hana nui ai ka ʻike maʻalahi.
ʻO ka ʻapo ʻana, ka manaʻo ʻana i ke kino kanaka pumehana a ʻoluʻolu, kahi pānaʻi lokomaikaʻi ma ka lima, ma ka poʻohiwi kekahi ʻāpana o ka hana i hāʻawi ʻia iā mākou.
ʻO kekahi o nā hoʻomaʻamaʻa e pili ana i ka hui ʻana i ʻekolu: ʻelua mau mākua, makua kāne a makuahine, a ʻo ke kolu he "pepe" i ʻōwili ʻia ma waena o lāua. "Hui ka poʻe a pau, ua hui pū ʻia." ʻO ka hoʻomanaʻo i hoʻohāinu ʻia ʻo Erik. “He mea paʻakikī ia iaʻu. Ua pau ko'u hanu." A laila haʻi ʻo ia iā mākou e pili ana i ke kaiapuni āna i ulu ai: he makuahine mana, he makua kāne ʻole.
Akā, i ka wā i hoʻololi ai kēlā me kēia i nā wahi me nā mea ʻē aʻe, hiki i kēia ke ʻike i nā manaʻo kūʻē loa i kekahi manawa, mai ka ʻoluʻolu a me ka hōʻoluʻolu i ke kaumaha a me ka hopohopo. "ʻO ke keiki a mākou e makaʻu nei i ka haki ʻana," hoʻomanaʻo wau. "Ua makaʻu mākou a makemake mākou e haki." "A i kekahi mau manawa - hauʻoli nui. E hele mai ana mai kahi lōʻihi loa, "hoʻohui ʻo ia.
Ma hope o nā mea a pau, loaʻa iā mākou nā manaʻo like ʻole: kuko, hoʻowalewale, pilikia me ka makua kāne, ka makuahine mana a i ʻole ke kaumaha no kona make mua ʻana, makaʻu i ka noho hoʻokahi.
Ua ninini ʻia nā huaʻōlelo. ʻO ka hōʻike ʻana o nā manaʻo - me ka hiki ʻole ke manaʻo i kekahi manawa - me ka paʻi ʻana e wehewehe ana i nā hui kāne. E ʻaʻa e nānā i nā maka o kekahi. "ʻO wau kekahi o ka poʻe hana ʻino i kaʻu mau keiki," wahi a kekahi o mākou. — Nui loa ka huhu. Makemake au e pepehi iā lākou. Aloha au iā lākou, akā hiki iaʻu ke pepehi iā lākou. Ua hāmau. ʻAʻole ia he hoʻohewa ʻana i ka mea nāna i ʻōlelo, akā ʻo ka hāmau i ka kali ʻana i kekahi mea ʻē aʻe. A laila, kani maila kekahi leo: "Pēlā nō wau." A laila kekahi. Nui ka poʻe o mākou i ʻeha i ka maka. "ʻO wau hoʻi," wahi aʻu. — A owau no hoi». ʻO ka ʻūhā o ka uē, nā ʻūhū nui o nā waimaka. "Pela wau, a pela no wau." Ua ʻike au i kahi pā mahana a hōʻoluʻolu i kuʻu lima. ʻAʻole ʻo ia wale nō ke kāne, ʻo ia kekahi.
Nā Kuʻuna Nalo
I loko o ka hui o nā kāne, e kū mai ana ka nīnau no ka moekolohe. E pili ana i ka moekolohe ʻokoʻa.
Ke kamaʻilio pololei nei mākou, ʻoiai ua ʻākoakoa mākou i loko o nā hui ʻekolu a ʻehā mau kānaka, me he mea lā i loko o kahi alcove. "I ko'u komo ana aku iaia me na manamana lima elua, ekolu, a mahope eha, ua oi aku ko'u pili ana mamua o ka'u hana ana me kekahi lala, no ka mea, aole oia i like me ke akamai o kona mau manamana lima," wahi a Daniel. ia mea kiko'ī, i loaʻa iā kākou a pau kekahi mea e noʻonoʻo ai. Lawe ʻo Mark i ka papahele: "Ke makemake wau e kiʻi i kahi kāne, maʻalahi nā mea āpau: makemake wau e hoʻokomo iā ia i loko o ka hoki." A ʻo kēia hoʻi, e hoʻokomo iā mākou i ka noʻonoʻo.
"ʻAʻole au i nānā i kēlā ʻaoʻao," wahi a Daniel. Ua ʻakaʻaka mākou a pau. Ma hope o nā mea a pau, loaʻa iā mākou nā manaʻo like ʻole: ke kuko, ka hoʻowalewale, nā pilikia me ka makua kāne, ka makuahine mana a i ʻole ke kaumaha ma muli o kona make mua ʻana, ka makaʻu i ka mehameha. A i kekahi manawa manaʻo mākou e like me nā keikikāne liʻiliʻi i ke kino kāne. "Ua ʻelemakule wau, ʻaʻole au e ala hou e like me kaʻu ma mua," i ʻae ai kekahi o nā mea hōʻike. "Ua ʻike ke Akua i koʻu makemake iā ia!" ʻO Potency ko mākou ikaika kumu, akā inā manaʻo ʻoe e hoʻololi i nā mea āpau, lilo ia i mea hoʻopunipuni. ʻAʻohe mea mau loa, e like me ka ʻōlelo a ka poʻe Buddhist.
Ua lilo nā keikikāne i kāne
Ma ka veranda kahi a mākou e inu ai, hopu ʻo Eric i nā hua: "Ua aʻo au mai kēia aʻo ʻana i ka pōʻino o ka ʻike ʻana me kāu kūkulu. No ka manawa lōʻihi ua manaʻo wau i mea e noho hauʻoli ai, pono ke kanaka e mālama i ka mana. I kēia manawa ua ʻike wau ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ka hoʻokaʻawale ʻana i kēia mau mea. He mau hoʻomanaʻo maikaʻi kēia. ʻAno. I nā ahiahi, hui mākou, nā mea a pau ma laila, ma kahi papaʻaina lāʻau lōʻihi.
"E like me nā mōneka," wahi a Eric.
"A i ʻole nā luina," ʻōlelo wau.
Kahe ka waina ma laila. "ʻAʻole, ʻoiaʻiʻo," i hoʻohui ai kaʻu hoaaloha, "Ua hoʻopau wau i ka manaʻo he hoʻomaha loa ka noho ʻole ʻana o nā wahine i kēlā mau lā. ʻAʻole pono wau e hoʻowalewale i kekahi!”
ʻO ka noho ʻana i kēia mau lā me ka wahine ʻole he mea hoʻomaha loa. ʻAʻole pono wau e hoʻowalewale i kekahi!
ʻAe, aia nō kēlā hihia me ka «tadpole». I koʻu wā kamaliʻi, ua kapa ʻia au he “tadpole in cans” no nā aniani.
Ua pilikia au. He liʻiliʻi wau, mehameha a he makaaniani. A laila hikiwawe, he mau makahiki ma hope mai, i koʻu hoʻāʻo ʻana i kaʻu mea maikaʻi loa e lilo i salmon, ʻo ia wale nō i mua o kēia pā o nā kāne, kēia avalanche kanaka, me ko lākou ʻala, uē kāne, huluhulu, niho, ʻike wau iaʻu iho e hāʻule i ka hohonu o ka wā kamaliʻi. , kahi o na mea a pau, o ka mea a'u i noi aku ai - he papa hoalohaloha, he lima hooluolu ma ka poohiwi. A ua haʻihaʻi ʻia koʻu iwi ʻaoʻao! A laila, komo maila kekahi alakaʻi aʻo e hoʻokuʻu iaʻu. Akā ʻaʻole kēia ka hopena. “I kēia manawa, e hakakā! E kaua aku i ka bea.
He bea ʻo Oscar. Ua hoʻohiki ʻia ke kaua. Ua hakakā au me ke kanaka ʻelua koʻu kaumaha. ʻO wai i ka hopena i ʻae mai iā mākou ua hoʻoweliweli ʻia ʻo ia e nā hoa papa. ʻO ia ke kiʻekiʻe loa, ka lōʻihi, a me ka hilahila ʻaʻole ʻo ia i ʻaʻa e pale aku iā ia iho: ma hope o nā mea a pau, makemake ʻo ia e aloha ʻia, akā ʻaʻole ʻo ia i ʻike i kekahi manawa he mea pono ke hakakā no kēia, a no laila ua hoʻowahāwahā ʻia ʻo ia. inaina a ua i ka hahau. Ua hakakā mākou. Ua mālama ʻo Oscar i koʻu mau ʻaoʻao ʻeha. Akā ua paʻa kona paʻa ʻana a ua aloha a palupalu kona mau maka. “E hele mai, e hoolei i na mea a pau a oukou i hoahu ai. E kiʻi manuahi.» He leo hohonu kona, he leo kanaka.
1 No nā kumu pilikino, ua hoʻololi ʻia nā inoa a me kekahi ʻike pilikino.