ʻO ka makua kāne o kahi kaikamahine a keikikāne paha: nā ʻokoʻa

He kumu hoʻohālikelike… kēlā me kēia

Mai ka hoʻomaka ʻana, ʻo ka makua kāne ka mea nāna e wehe i ka male makuahine-keiki. Hoʻohālikelike ia i ka hoʻolālā ʻana o kāna mau keiki ma ka hōʻoluʻolu ʻana i kāna keikikāne i kāna kāne ponoʻī a ma ke ʻano he "hōʻike" no kāna kaikamahine. No laila he kuleana koʻikoʻi ka makua kāne i ke kūkulu ʻana i ke ʻano o ka moekolohe o ke keiki. Akā he kuleana ʻokoʻa loa, inā he keikikāne a he kaikamahine paha. ʻO ke kumu hoʻohālike no kāna keikikāne, e ʻimi kēia e like me ia, ʻo ia ke ʻano kumu hoʻohālike no kāna kaikamahine, ʻo ia kāna e ʻimi ai ma hope o ka wā ʻōpio.

ʻOi aku ka koi o ka makua kāne me ke keikikāne

I ka manawa pinepine, ʻoi aku ka koʻikoʻi o ka makuakāne me kāna keikikāne ma mua o kāna kaikamahine. ʻIke maopopo kēia i ke ʻano o ka hoʻowalewale iā ia i ka wā e hele pinepine ai ke keikikāne i ka hakakā. Eia kekahi, ʻoi aku ka koʻikoʻi o ke kiʻekiʻe o ke koi i kau ʻia ma ke keikikāne, ʻoi aku ka nui o ka manaʻo iā ia. Hāʻawi pinepine ka makua kāne i kāna keiki me kahi misionari koʻikoʻi i ke ola, e loaʻa kahi ola, e mālama i kahi ʻohana… pili mau ka manaʻo o ka ʻai i kēia lā.

Ua oi aku ka hoomanawanui o ka makuakane i kana kaikamahine

No ka mea, ʻaʻole ʻo ia e hoʻolālā i nā mea like ma kēlā me kēia kāne, i kekahi manawa ua hoʻomanawanui ka makuakāne i kāna kaikamahine. ʻOiai me ka manaʻo ʻole, ʻo ka hana ʻole ʻana o kāna keikikāne e hoʻopōʻino ai ʻoiai ʻo kāna kaikamahine ke aloha a me ka paipai ʻana. He mea maʻamau ka manaʻo o ka makua kāne i nā hopena hou aʻe mai kāna keiki, a ʻoi aku ka wikiwiki.

Kaikamahine a keikikāne paha: he pilina ʻokoʻa ko ka makua kāne

ʻO ka pilina i hana ʻia me ka makua, he kāne. ʻAʻole hana like ke keiki me kona makuakāne a me kona makuahine a ʻaʻole like ka manaʻo o ka makuakāne e like me ke kāne o kāna keiki. ʻAʻole kēia e pale iā ia mai ka hana ʻana i kahi paʻa maoli e mau loa i ke ola. Hoʻomaka ia me nā pāʻani. He cliché kēia, akā mālama pinepine ʻia ka hoʻopaʻapaʻa a me ka hakakā ʻana no nā keikikāne aʻo nā kaikamahine ke kuleana i nā pāʻani mālie, i hoʻopili ʻia me ka hoʻouka ʻana o nā "guilis" palupalu. Ke ulu aʻe nā keiki, a paʻa ka ʻike moe kolohe, kūkulu ʻia ka paʻa ma kekahi ʻaoʻao me ka virility a ma kekahi ʻaoʻao me ka nani.

Kaikamahine a keikikāne paha: ʻaʻole like ka haʻaheo o ka makuakāne

Haʻaheo kāna mau keiki ʻelua iā ia e like me kekahi… akā ʻaʻole no nā kumu like! ʻAʻole ʻo ia e kau i nā manaʻo like i kāna keikikāne a me kāna kaikamahine. Me ke keikikāne, ʻo ka ʻaoʻao kāne ka mea i mua. He ikaika ʻo ia, ʻike ʻo ia i ka pale ʻana iā ia iho, ʻaʻole ʻo ia e uē, ʻo ka pōkole ke ʻano he kāne. He alakaʻi ʻo ia, a he kipi paha, ʻaʻole ia e hōʻoluʻolu iā ia.

Me kāna kaikamahine, ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi, ka ʻokoʻa, ka hana kolohe i hoʻowalewale iā ia. ʻO kahi kaikamahine liʻiliʻi liʻiliʻi a paʻakikī, e like me ke kiʻi o nā wahine, hoʻokiʻekiʻe iā ia. ʻO ka mea pāʻani pôpeku e kūʻē i ka prima ballerina, nā ʻepekema ʻepekema kūʻē i nā kumuhana noʻeau…

Hāʻawi ka makua kāne i kāna keiki i ke kūʻokoʻa

ʻO kēia paha ka ʻokoʻa nui loa i ka mālama ʻana i nā makuakāne: ʻoiai ʻo ia e hakakā nei e hoʻokuʻu i kāna nalo e ulu, koi pinepine ʻo ia i kāna keiki i ke kūʻokoʻa. ʻIke mākou i kēia hanana ma nā wahi āpau o ke ola o kēlā me kēia lā. I loko o ka paka, e paipai ʻo ia i kāna keiki e hoʻolana iā ia iho ma luna o ka paheʻe nui ʻoiai ʻaʻole ʻo ia e hoʻokuʻu i ka lima o kāna kaikamahine, ʻoiai ke ʻano o ka wili ʻana i nā ʻaoʻao āpau. Ma ke kula, hiki i ka uē ʻana o kāna kaikamahine ke hāʻawi iā ia i ka ʻoluʻolu o kona hilahila ke hōʻike kāna keiki i kona makaʻu a kaumaha paha.

Ma keʻano laulā, ʻoi aku ka palekana o kāna kaikamahine ma mua o kāna keikikāne, nāna e paipai mau i ka hoʻoweliweli wiwo ʻole, me ka lawe ʻana i ka ʻōlelo a Kipling "He kāne ʻoe, e kaʻu keiki"

Mālama ka makua i kahi pēpē kāne maʻalahi

Aneane lokahi, ʻoi aku ka ʻoluʻolu o nā makuakāne i ka mālama ʻana i kā lākou keikikāne ma mua o kā lākou kaikamahine liʻiliʻi. Hoʻopili ka "mea" a nā kaikamahine iā lākou, kānalua lākou e holoi a hoʻololi paha iā lākou, ʻaʻole maopopo lākou i ke ʻano o ka hana ʻana i kahi duvet a noʻonoʻo no ke aha i pōkole loa kēia mau pālule pōkole mai ke kauwela hope i kēia hoʻoilo! Me ke keikikāne, ʻaʻole ia e ʻōlelo, hana hou ʻo ia i nā ʻano hana āna i ʻike mau ai. Pono nā mea a pau iā ia, ʻaʻahu ke keikikāne "maʻamau", hoʻopili wale ʻo ia i kona lauoho, ʻaʻole mākou e hoʻolaha i ka ʻaila (ʻo ia kāna manaʻo)… ʻO ka pālule, ka pālule polo, ka huluhulu, maʻalahi, ua like me ia!

He ʻoluʻolu kūikawā ko ka makua kāne no kāna kaikamahine

ʻAʻole kānalua ka hohonu o ke aloha no nā keiki āpau, akā ʻaʻole like nā hōʻailona o ka palupalu. Maikaʻi loa me ka pēpē me ka nānā ʻole i kāna kāne, hoʻokaʻawale pinepine ka makuakāne me kāna keiki ke ulu ʻo ia. Ke hoʻomau nei ʻo ia e lele i kāna ipo liʻiliʻi ma luna o kona mau kuli ke hoʻomaka ʻo ia e kau i nā "puliki" kāne hou me kāna keiki. Eia naʻe, komo pū nā keiki i kēia hanana. ʻIke nā kamaliʻi liʻiliʻi i ka hoʻoheheʻe ʻana i ko lākou makuakāne, hoʻohiwahiwa lākou iā ia i ka wā e mālama wikiwiki ai nā keikikāne i kēia ʻano mea ʻono no ko lākou makuahine.