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ʻOkoʻa ka ʻike ʻana o nā kiʻi paʻi kiʻi a nā keiki e nā mākua. He mea hoʻonāukiuki nā mea maikaʻi, ʻoluʻolu nā mea maikaʻi ʻole, a ʻaʻole like ka maʻalahi o nā ʻōkuhi maʻalahi. Me ka psychotherapist, maopopo mākou i nā manaʻo huna o kēia mau moʻolelo.
"Ka Liona Moi"
Kiʻi kiʻi punahele a nā keiki a me nā mākua. Akā ʻaʻole kēia he hana keaka wale nō e pili ana i ke ola o ka ululāʻau, akā he moʻolelo pū kekahi e pili ana i ka hakakā kūloko i loaʻa iā Simba.
He ʻokoʻa ka hopena o ka moʻolelo inā loaʻa i kā mākou meʻe kāna ʻōnaehana waiwai ponoʻī, ʻaʻole i hoʻokau ʻia e kekahi, ʻike pehea e hoʻomaha ai i ka manawa e "noʻonoʻo" a nīnau iā ia iho i nā nīnau "makemake wau i kēia?" a "pono anei au ia ia?" a e ae ana iaia iho e noho me ka manao ole.
A he moʻolelo hoʻi e pili ana i ka holo ʻana mai iā ʻoe iho - ma hope o ka make ʻana o kona makuakāne, ua hopu ʻia ʻo Simba me ka hilahila, a loaʻa iā ia kahi hui hou, ʻo Timon lāua ʻo Pumbaa. ʻAi ka liona i nā anuhe a ma nā ʻano a pau e hōʻole i kona ʻano. Akā i ka hopena, ʻike ʻo ia ʻaʻole hiki ke hoʻomau kēia, a hoʻomaka ʻo ia e ʻimi i kona ʻano maoli.
"Aladdin"
He moʻolelo aloha nani, ʻoiaʻiʻo, e hoʻopaʻi ʻia paha i ka hāʻule. Ua hui ʻo Aladdin iā Jasmine a ma nā ʻano āpau e hoʻāʻo e kiʻi iā ia, a hoʻoholo e hana ma ka hoʻopunipuni.
Akā ʻo kā mākou e ʻike nei: He ʻuhane maʻalahi ʻo Aladdin, a hilahila ʻo ia iā ia iho. Hōʻike ʻia kāna mea huna, kala ʻo Jasmine iā ia. ʻO iaʻano hoʻohālike o ka pilina - "he hoʻoweliweli a me ke kamāliʻiwahine" -ʻike pinepineʻia i loko o ke ola, a ma ke kiʻi kiʻi i ke kiʻi o ka bandit-Aladdin i romanticized.
Hiki i ka pilina i kūkulu ʻia ma luna o ka hoʻopunipuni ke hauʻoli? ʻAʻole paha. Akā ma waho aʻe o kēia, pono e hoʻolohe i nā pae ʻelua ma aneʻi: ʻoiaʻiʻo, ʻo ka ʻaihue a me ka hoʻopunipuni ʻana he hewa, akā inā ʻoe e uhi iā ia me kahi kumu maikaʻi, ʻae ʻia?
"Ka nani a me ka holoholona"
ʻO ka pilina ma waena o Adam (Beast) a me Belle (Beauty) he laʻana o ka pilina pili ma waena o ka narcissist a me ka mea i pepehi ʻia. ʻOiai ʻo ʻAdamu i ʻaihue a paʻa iā Belle me ka ikaika, ua hoʻokau ʻo psychologically i ke koʻikoʻi iā ia, ʻo kāna kiʻi ke kumu o ke aloha.
Ke hōʻoia nei mākou i kāna ʻano me ka hopena paʻakikī a me ka mihi, i hoʻololi ʻia e ka huhū a me ka manipulation, akā ʻoiaʻiʻo he hōʻailona pololei kēia o ka narcissism a me ka nele o ke kuleana no ke ola o kekahi.
I ka manawa like, ʻike paha ʻo Belle i ka paʻakikī, paʻakikī a me ka naʻaupō: ʻaʻole hiki iā ia ke ʻike ua aloha ʻo ia iā ia a ua mākaukau e hana i kekahi mea nona? A ʻo ia, ʻoiai ʻo kona naʻauao a me ka laulā o ka noʻonoʻo, hāʻule mau nō ia i loko o ka paʻa o ka narcissist a lilo i mea pōʻino.
ʻOiaʻiʻo, hoʻopau ka moʻolelo me ka hopena hauʻoli: lilo ka Beast i aliʻi nani, a noho hauʻoli ʻo ia a me Beauty. ʻO ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, ua make nā pilina pili ʻole, a ʻaʻole pono ʻoe e ʻimi i nā kumu no ia ʻano kanaka.
Pehea e nānā ai i nā kiʻi paʻi kiʻi me kahi keiki
- E nīnau i ke keiki. E noʻonoʻo i ka mea o kāna mau mea makemake a no ke aha, ʻo wai ka mea i manaʻo ʻia he hero maikaʻi ʻole, pehea kāna pili ʻana i kekahi mau hana. Mai ke kiʻekiʻe o kāu ʻike, hiki iā ʻoe a me kāu keiki ke nānā i nā kūlana like ma nā ʻano like ʻole. Pono e wehewehe mālie iā ia i kou ʻike i ke kūlana a kūkākūkā i ka pilikia mai nā kihi like ʻole.
- E kūkākūkā i nā kūlana āu e ʻae ʻole ai i ka hoʻonaʻauao a me ke kamaʻilio. E wehewehe i ke kumu i ʻae ʻole ʻia ai kēia a pehea e hana ai i kahi kūlana i hāʻawi ʻia. No ka laʻana, ʻo ka hoʻomāinoino kino a i ʻole ka hoʻomāinoino ʻana i nā kiʻi paʻi kiʻi i kekahi manawa, a hiki i ke keiki ke ʻae i ka manaʻo e ʻae ʻia ia ma lalo o nā kūlana kūikawā.
- E wehewehe i kou kūlana i ke keiki - me ke akahai a me ke akahele, me ka hoʻokau ʻole ʻana a i ʻole ka ʻino ʻana iā ia no ka hoʻomaopopo ʻole ʻana i kekahi mea. Mai haʻalele i nā nīnau kūʻē. ʻOiaʻiʻo, makemake ʻo ia e ʻike i kou manaʻo e pili ana i nā ʻano, nā kūlana, e lohe i kou ʻano i ka mea e hana nei.
- E noi i kāu keiki kāne a kaikamahine paha e kūkākūkā i ke kumu, i ko lākou manaʻo, ua hana kēia ʻano a ʻaʻole i nā mea ʻē aʻe, he aha kāna kumu, inā paha ua ʻae ke keiki i kāna ʻano. E nīnau i nā nīnau alakaʻi - ʻaʻole kēia e kōkua wale i ka huki ʻana i nā hopena, akā e aʻo pū i ke keiki e noʻonoʻo analytically.