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Ma o ka launa pū ʻana me nā kaikunāne e aʻo ai mākou e pale iā mākou iho, e aloha a inaina i ka manawa like. Aia kahi ʻokoʻa makahiki kūpono ma waena o nā kaikaina, ʻo wai ka manaʻo maikaʻi i ko lākou pilina? Nīnau nā mākua i kēia nīnau iā Elisabeth Darchis, ke kaukaʻi kālaiʻike.
Ma ka wikiō: Hoʻopili i ka hāpai ʻana: he aha nā pilikia?
MAKUA: Pehea e noʻonoʻo ai i nā kaikaina o nā makahiki kokoke?
ʻO Elisabeth Darchis : Ke kaʻawale nā keiki i hoʻokahi a ʻelua paha makahiki, makemake nui nā mākua. ʻAʻole i loaʻa i ke keiki hiapo ka manawa e puka mai ai i waho o ka hui makua a kekahi e noho ana ma kona wahi. Akā inā hoʻomau nā mākua i ka nānā pono iā ia, hiki iā ia ke ola maikaʻi loa. A laila e ulu like nā keiki, me nā makemake like e pili ana i ka pilina.
"Inā kokoke nā keiki, e ulu pū lākou, me nā makemake maʻamau e pili ana i ka pilina."
He aha inā he ʻekolu makahiki ka hala?
ʻO Elisabeth Darchis : He emi ke kaumaha o na makua no ka mea, ua oi aku ke kuokoa o ka hiapo; akā, hoʻihoʻi ka pēpē i nā mākua i ka wā o ka diapers. Ma kahi o 3 mau makahiki, wehe ke keiki i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe. Ua kūpono ʻo ia e ʻike i ka hiki ʻana mai o kahi pēpē. Manaʻo paha ʻo ia he hoʻokūkū, akā me ke kōkua o nā mākua, hiki iā ia ke lanakila. Inā aia ʻo ia i ke kula haʻahaʻa, hauʻoli paha ʻo ia e kōkua i kona mau mākua a ʻike pū me lākou.
He aha ka mea e manaʻo ai inā he ʻumi makahiki o ka ʻokoʻa?
ʻO Elisabeth Darchis : Hoʻokaʻawale nā makemake, akā hiki i ka mea liʻiliʻi ke ʻike i ka mea kahiko i kumu hoʻohālike. ʻAʻole ka hope i ka hui ʻana me kona mau mākua. Ua ʻike ʻo ia ʻaʻole e lawe aku kēia hānau ʻana i ko lākou aloha mai ona aku. Ma keʻano laulā, hoʻokipaʻo ia i ka pēpē ma keʻano he waiwai. Inā he 17 makahiki kiʻekiʻe ʻo ia, hiki iā ia ke hoʻokuke a puni. Hiki ke hoʻomanaʻo iā ia i ka moekolohe o kona mau mākua ke kūpono ʻo ia e hānau keiki. Ke nalowale nei nā mākua i ko lākou kūʻokoʻa, akā ʻo ia ka leʻaleʻa o ka manawa hope.
ʻO ka hope, ʻaʻohe kaʻawale makahiki kūpono. ʻO ia ka ʻike o nā mākua a me ko lākou mālama ʻana i nā mea nui.
* hoa kākau o "Brothers and Sisters: between complicity and rivalry", ed. Natana.
Nīnauele: Dorothée Blancheton