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He mea paahana no ka hooiaio
"He mea hana maikaʻi loa ia e kōkua i nā keiki e hoʻokele i nā kūlana he nui: ka hoʻokaʻawale ʻana mai nā mākua, ke kaumaha, ka paʻakikī o ka hiamoe ...", kuhikuhi i ka loea. "ʻAʻole pono nā keiki a pau. ʻOmo kekahi poʻe i kā lākou ʻeke moe, ko lākou lima a maʻa paha i nā hana ʻē aʻe a maikaʻi loa kēia. Ke kūʻē nei au i ka manaʻo o ka makemake e kau i ke keiki, "hoʻomau ʻo ia. ʻO ka mea kūpono? Hāʻawi i kahi pākeʻe (e like mau) ma ka waiho ʻana i loko o ka moena, ka noho deckchair, ka stroller a na ke pēpē e hopu iā ia inā makemake ʻo ia. "Hiki pinepine kēia ma kahi o 8-9 mau mahina a me ka hopohopo kaʻawale mua," wahi a ka loea.
He hoa pāʻani
Ke koi nei ka psychologist i ke koʻikoʻi o ke ʻano o ka pākeʻe e hāʻawi: "Makemake au i ka plush e hōʻike ana i kahi ʻano a holoholona paha i ka diaper. No ka mea, hiki i ka plush ke kamaʻilio me ke keiki, e hoʻolilo iā ia i hoa i kona ola i kēlā me kēia lā (ʻauʻau, ʻai, hiamoe, huakaʻi). “. No ka hoʻokō ʻana i kāna hana, ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ke kūʻokoʻa (lawe mai mākou a hoʻihoʻi mai ka hale hānai ...), ʻoiai inā maʻa kekahi mau keiki.
loaʻa ʻelua mau ʻokoʻa.
ʻO ka manawa kūpono e alo ai i ka poho
Hiki i nā mākua e noʻonoʻo nei ke kūʻai aku i ka pākeke ma ke ʻano pālua, akā manaʻo ʻo Mathilde Bouychou ʻo ka nalowale a i ʻole ka poina poina ʻole ʻana i kahi pāpale he manawa kūpono ia no ke keiki e aʻo ai i ka manaʻo o ka nalowale. "Ma kēia kūlana, he mea nui ka noho ʻana o nā mākua iā Zen iā lākou iho a hōʻike e hiki iā ʻoe ke lanakila i kou ʻeha me kahi pāʻani palupalu ʻē aʻe, kahi pūliki ...", hoʻohui i ka emi.
E aʻo e hoʻokuʻu
ʻO kēia maloʻo, i kekahi manawa i haehaeʻia, pinepine i ka lepo, hiki ke hoʻopilikia i nā mākua perfectionist. Eia naʻe, ʻo kēia ʻano a me kēia ʻala e hōʻoluʻolu i ke keiki. “He hana hoʻomaʻamaʻa ia no ka hoʻokuʻu ʻana no nā mākua!
Eia kekahi, kōkua ka pākeke i nā keiki e hana i ko lākou palekana… ”, wahi a Mathilde Bouychou. Hiki iā mākou ke holoi iā ia i kēlā me kēia manawa ma ka hui ʻana i ke keiki i ʻae ʻo ia i kēia kaʻawale ʻana o kekahi mau hola a me kēia ʻala ʻē o ka lavender ...
ʻO ka pākeʻe kahi mea hoʻololi i wehewehe ʻia i nā makahiki 50 e Donald Winicott, ʻAmelika pediatrician.
E aʻo e hoʻokaʻawale
ʻO kēia pākeʻe, kahi e hiki ai i ke keiki ke kaʻawale mai kona mau mākua, i ka wā lōʻihi e lilo ia i mea e aʻo ai e kaʻawale. “Ua hana ʻia ma nā pae. Hoʻomaka mākou ma ka haʻi ʻana i ke keiki e haʻalele i kona ʻaʻahu i kekahi mau manawa, ʻoiai e pāʻani ana i ka pāʻani, e ʻai ana, etc. », Manaʻo i ke kauka. Ma kahi o 3 mau makahiki, ʻae ke keiki e waiho i kona ʻaʻahu i loko o kona wahi moe a loaʻa iā ia no nā manawa hoʻomaha (a i ʻole ke kaumaha nui).