"ʻAʻole hiki", "hiki" a i ʻole "pono"? Palapala hoʻopunipuni no nā mākua

7 "AOLE"

1. Mai 'ōlelo pinepine 'oe.

Aia nā mea "hiki ʻole" hiki ʻole iā ʻoe ke hana me ka ʻole: ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻokomo i kou manamana lima i ke kumu, ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke kuha i ka meaʻai, ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke lawe i nā mea a nā poʻe ʻē aʻe me ka noi ʻole. Akā, ʻo kēlā me kēia huaʻōlelo, inā e haʻi pinepine ʻia, nalowale ke ʻano. Ua nānā pinepine au me ka hopohopo a me ka hopohopo pehea e ʻōlelo ai nā makuahine a me nā kupuna wahine, me ke kumu a kumu ʻole paha, i nā keiki a me nā ʻōpio "ʻaʻole hiki."

"ʻAʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke kaha kiʻi me kou manamana lima ma ke aniani o kahi kaʻa!" No ke aha mai?! "ʻAʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke wehe i kou pāpale" - ʻoiai ʻaʻole ke anuanu! "ʻAʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke kamaʻilio leo nui a hīmeni i nā mele" - ʻoiai inā ʻaʻole manaʻo ka poʻe a puni.

ʻO ka hopena, kipi nā'ōpio i nā mea a pau "ʻaʻole iʻaeʻia", me nā mea kūpono, e like me ka pāpāʻana i ka waiʻona, nā lāʻau lapaʻau, ka wahine mua me ka hoa pili. No laila e noʻonoʻo i hoʻokahi kaukani manawa ma mua o ka pāpā ʻana.

2. Mai hoʻopunipuni

E aʻo e hoʻokaʻawale i waena o nā pilikia maoli o ke keiki a me nā mea āna e hōʻike ai i mea e hoʻopunipuni ai i nā mākua. ʻAʻole maʻalahi i nā manawa a pau. Inā hoʻokahe ke keiki i ka waimaka i ke ahiahi a ʻōlelo ʻo ia ua makaʻu a makemake ʻo ia e hiamoe me kona mau mākua, pono ʻoe e nīnau iā ʻoe iho i ka nīnau: makaʻu maoli ʻo ia? Inā pēlā, pono e ho'āʻo kekahi me ka mālie, ma ke ʻano pōʻino ʻole i ke keiki, e lanakila i kona makaʻu i ka pōʻeleʻele. E noho ma kahi kokoke, heluhelu i kahi puke, e hoʻā i ke kukui pō, e hoʻolohe pono i nā kikoʻī o nā moeʻuhane weliweli, e kūkākūkā pū me lākou.

Akā inā hoʻokuʻu ʻoe i kāu keiki e komo i loko o kou wahi moe i hoʻokahi manawa no ka mea ua "makaʻu" ʻo ia a ʻaʻole ʻoe makemake e hana, e hoʻonui wale ʻoe i ka pilikia. E hooikaika ana ke keiki me kona ikaika a pau e hana hou i kona "holomua".

3. ʻAʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻololi i ke ʻano o ke kamaʻilio

Kūkulu ʻia nā mea a pau o ko mākou ʻohana ma luna o ka hilinaʻi a me ke kūʻokoʻa. Aia nā ʻohana ʻē aʻe kahi e mālama ʻia ai kēlā me kēia ʻanuʻu o ke keiki. Ke ulu nei ka poʻe kuleana a koʻikoʻi i loko o ia mau ʻohana. Ma keʻano laulā, maikaʻi kekahi ʻano kamaʻilio inā kākoʻo ʻia e nā ʻohana āpau a ʻae ʻia ʻo ia wale nō ka mea hiki.

Akā ʻo ka mea hiki ʻole ke hoʻololi mai kekahi ʻano i kekahi. Pono nā mākua e ʻae like kekahi i kekahi i nā kumu nui o ka kamaʻilio ʻana me nā keiki a hoʻāʻo e haʻalele iā lākou.

4. ʻAʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke hōʻeha

E pāpā ana au i ka hoʻohana ʻana i nā huaʻōlelo a me nā huaʻōlelo he nui i ke kamaʻilio ʻana me nā keiki. E like me: "ʻAʻole ʻoe e lilo i ...", "ʻAʻole loa ʻoe e hoʻokō ..." a ma ke ʻano maʻamau o ia mau mea "ʻaʻole loa". ʻAʻole i emi iki ke kani ʻana o kekahi "mau": "Ua lohi mau ʻoe, hoʻopunipuni ʻoe, ʻai ʻoe i ka ʻaina ahiahi me ka nānā ʻole ʻana i nā ʻohana ʻē aʻe, poina ʻoe i kāu mau haʻawina," etc.

ʻO ia mau hoʻopiʻi e like me ka ʻōlelo a waiho ʻole i kahi manawa e hoʻoponopono ai. ʻO nā ʻōhumu kamaliʻi e kūʻē i nā mākua he mau hoʻomanaʻo ʻeha no ke ola. ʻO ia ke kumu e ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ka noʻonoʻo ʻelua ma mua o ka hoʻopaʻi ʻana i ke keiki a noi aku i hoʻokahi kaukani manawa inā ʻoe i hōʻeha hewa iā ia.

5. ʻAʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke kamaʻilio e pili ana i ke keiki i mua o kona alo i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe

No nā mākua, ʻaʻohe mea nui a hoihoi aʻe ma mua o kā lākou keiki ponoʻī. Makemake wau e kūkākūkā i kāna mau kūleʻa a me nā pilikia me nā hoaaloha, akā i mua o kahi ʻōpio, e ʻōlelo aku i kahi malihini: "He aloha mua kā mākou," a hiki iā ʻoe ke nalowale i ka hilinaʻi o kāu keiki no ka wā pau ʻole.

He nui ka poʻe mākua i haʻi mai iaʻu e hoʻomanaʻo mau ana lākou i ka hoʻomāinoino ʻana o ko lākou mau mākua iā lākou ma ke koi ʻana iā lākou e heluhelu i nā mele ma kahi noho a i ʻole ka hōʻike ʻana i nā diaries me nā lima lima i nā hoaaloha. ʻO ka hōʻike ikaika o ka kūleʻa e ʻeha no ka mea ʻaʻole i loaʻa i nā malihini. A, ʻoiaʻiʻo, ʻaʻole ʻae ʻia ka hāʻawi ʻana i nā mea huna kamaliʻi, ʻoiai inā he naive lākou a he ʻakaʻaka. Hiki ke ʻike ʻia kēia he kumakaia maoli.

6. ʻAʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻoholo no ke keiki

Auwe ka paʻakikī! Manaʻo mākou ua ʻoi aku ko mākou ʻike iā ia ma mua o kona. ʻIke mākou i ka mea e hoaaloha ai, he aha ka haʻuki e hana ai, he aha ke kulanui e komo ai. Hauoli, ke kulike ko kakou ike me ka makemake o ke keiki. ʻAe, inā ʻaʻole?

Ke loli wikiwiki nei ka honua a me ka ʻike ʻole ʻia ʻo ka hoʻolālā makua kūpono loa i kēia manawa ʻo ia ka nānā nui ʻana i nā makemake a me nā pono o ke keiki ponoʻī. Pono e hāʻawi iā ia i nā kuleana, me ke kuleana e hana hewa. Pono e kōkua iā ia e hoʻokō wale i kēlā mau pahuhopu āna i hoʻonohonoho ai nona iho.

7. ʻAʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke koi i ka "pakeneka" ma nā waihona i kahi keiki

Makemake nā mākua e ʻōlelo: "No ʻoe wau ... (ʻoi aku - nā koho), a ʻo ʻoe ... (ʻoi aku - nā koho)". Inā hoʻoholo ʻoe e hana i nā mōhai ma ke kuahu o ka hauʻoli o kāu keiki (haʻalele i ka hana, hoʻopau i ka hoʻomaha, hemo, neʻe i kekahi kūlanakauhale ʻē aʻe, hoʻolilo i ka nui o ke kālā), e hoʻāʻo e hoʻomanaʻo ʻo kāu hoʻoholo wale nō kēia. A aia iā ʻoe ke kuleana o ia mea.

7 "HIKI"

1. ʻAʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke hūnā i kou mau nāwaliwali

Loaʻa nā nāwaliwali a me nā hemahema o kēlā me kēia kanaka. Inā ʻoe e hoʻāʻo e hūnā iā lākou a ʻaʻole paha, ʻike nā keiki i nā mea āpau. ʻEhia mau manawa aʻu i ʻike ai i nā mākua i kamaʻilio kūʻokoʻa e pili ana i kā lākou kūleʻa a haʻi i ko lākou ola paʻakikī haʻahaʻa ma ke ʻano he kumu hoʻohālike. Eia naʻe,ʻo nā mākua iʻike i kaʻakaʻaka iā lākou iho aʻaʻole i hūnā i ko lākou mau hemahema, kokoke i kā lākou mau keiki a hauʻoli i ka mahalo maoli. ʻO Self-irony ka nui o nā mea ikaika a nani.

2. Hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻoulu i ka makemake

ʻAʻole ʻo ka ambition ke alakaʻi. ʻO kēia ka hilinaʻi iā ia iho, ka hiki a me ka makemake e lawe i ke kuleana no nā hoʻoholo i hana ʻia a lawe i ka mea i hoʻomaka a hiki i ka hopena. ʻO ka mea hope loa, ʻo ia ka makemake e lawe i nā pilikia a hana ʻoi aku ka ikaika ma mua o nā mea ʻē aʻe. "Hiki iā ʻoe!" ʻo ia ka ʻōlelo a nā mākua maikaʻi. Akā, pono mākou e ho'āʻo i ke keiki e manaʻoʻiʻo iā ia iho a makemake e holomua.

E hana i nā kūlana no ke kanaka liʻiliʻi e holomua. Makemake i ke kaha kiʻi? He mea kāhāhā nā kāleka hoʻomaha homemade no nā kūpuna. Holo maikaʻi ʻo ia? E hoʻokūkū me ia a mai hāʻawi aku, inā ʻaʻole maoli ka lanakila.

3. Hiki iā ʻoe ke kamaʻilio e pili ana i ka lā i hala. A ma ka laulā - e kamaʻilio

"E kamaʻilio kāua." Hoʻohana wale kēia ʻano hana inā loaʻa kahi mea e kamaʻilio ai. A i ʻole, makaʻu wau, e pani ʻia nā monologues ʻoiaʻiʻo e nā hōʻike maʻamau. Akā, pono nā kamaʻilio! I kekahi manawa - lōʻihi, me ka waimaka, me nā kiko'ī, e like me kā lākou e'ōlelo nei, i loko o ka pōʻai.

He palupalu loa ka hilinai o ke keiki. ʻAʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻoikaika, aʻo, e nānā i kāu ʻike, no ka mea, maopopo ke keiki he ʻokoʻa kona pilikia. Manaʻo wau ʻo ke kākoʻo a me ke aloha ka pahuhopu nui o ke kamaʻilio ʻana me ke keiki. Aloha a kākoʻo. I kekahi manawa pono ʻo ia e ʻōlelo a uē, ʻaʻole e loaʻa kāu ʻōlelo aʻo. ʻOiai pono ka ʻōlelo aʻo i kekahi manawa.

4. Hiki iā ʻoe ke kaʻana like i kāu mau pilikia

ʻOiaʻiʻo, ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻouka i nā keiki me ka ʻike pono ʻole, ʻoi aku ka ʻike pilikino. Pono e hōʻemi i ka liʻiliʻi i nā ʻōlelo maikaʻi ʻole a pau i pili i nā ʻohana a me nā hoaaloha. Pono e hoʻokaʻawale ʻia ka ʻike, akā ʻo ka mea āu e haʻi ai he mea nui loa iā ʻoe.

Hiki iā ʻoe ke kamaʻilio e pili ana i nā pilikia ma ka hana. Hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻopiʻi no kou maikaʻi ʻole. Hiki iā ʻoe ke kūkākūkā me ke keiki i ke kapa ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ke komo ʻana. Hiki iā ʻoe ke hopohopo nui ma ke aniani e pili ana i nā wrinkles mua a i ʻole ka lauoho hina mua ...

Akā ʻaʻole ʻoe i ʻike i nā kumuhana nui iā ʻoe, hiki iā ʻoe ke kamaʻilio pololei me kāu keiki! E manaʻoʻiʻo mai iaʻu, mahalo nui nā keiki i kēlā mau manawa. ʻO kēia ke ʻano o ka hilinaʻi ʻana - ke kumu o ka pilina maoli me nā keiki no nā makahiki he nui.

5. Hiki iā ʻoe ke kōkua i nā mea koʻikoʻi

Me he mea lā iaʻu ka hoʻokō koʻikoʻi o nā mākua i ke ola o kahi keiki i ʻelua mau hihia - ke kū mai kahi pilikia e hoʻoweliweli i ke ola a me ke olakino, a ke ʻike ʻia kahi moeʻuhane maoli he paʻakikī ke hoʻokō me ke kākoʻo ʻole o nā mākua. Eia kekahi laʻana, hoʻomaka kahi kaikamahine i ka hula i kona loheʻana i ke mele, nā moeʻuhane o ka ballet. Pono mākou e nānā - pehea inā he ʻikepili?

A i ʻole ua kauo ʻia ke keiki i kahi hui ʻino. E hōʻiliʻili i ka ʻike a, inā maopopo ʻoe he pilikia maoli ke kūlana, pono ʻoe e komo! A hiki i ka neʻe ʻana i kekahi ʻāpana o ke kūlanakauhale. Ua ʻike au i nā hihia e like me kēia. ʻO ka mea hoihoi loa, ua mahalo nui nā keiki makua i ko lākou mau mākua no kēia hana.

6. Hiki iā ʻoe ke wehewehe i nā hana hale

Nīnau hoʻopaʻapaʻa. ʻIke wau i nā hiʻohiʻona he nui i ka wā i maʻa ʻole ai ke kaikamahine i ka hana hale a me ka humuhumu ʻana, akā, i ka wā i oʻo ai, ua lilo ʻo ia i mea kuke a me ka wahine needlewoman ʻaʻole i ʻoi aku ka hewa ma mua o kona makuahine. I loko o ko mākou ʻohana, he mea maʻamau ka ʻike pono ʻana o nā keiki i kā lākou mau hana a puni ka hale a hoʻokō pono iā lākou.

Manaʻo wau he mea maikaʻi i nā keiki ke hana mau a puni ka hale no ka mea e hāʻawi iā lākou i ka manawa e ʻike ai i ka mahalo maoli mai ko lākou mau mākua. Eia kekahi, ʻo ka pono e hoʻohui i nā haʻawina maikaʻi ma ke kula, e hālāwai me nā hoaaloha, nā mākaʻikaʻi ʻāpana a me nā pōʻai me nā hana o ka hale me ke aʻo ʻole iā lākou e waiwai i ka manawa a puʻunaue pololei.

7. Hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻolilo i ke kālā ma nā keiki "nonsense"

He mea paʻakikī loa ka hoʻomaopopo ʻana i ke keiki i kekahi manawa. ʻO kēlā mau kukui ʻōmaʻomaʻo weliweli, nā ʻāpana pau ʻole a me ka soda! No ke aha i makemake ai nā keiki i kēia mau mea ʻino a pau?! I loko o ko mākou ʻohana, aia kekahi lula: inā makemake ʻoe - he mea nui loa kēia, pono e mālama nui ʻia kēia. Eia naʻe, he lalo kā mākou ʻeke, no laila pono mākou e kamaʻilio me ke keiki e pili ana i kēia: e aʻo mua e hoʻopau ʻia ke kālā a ʻo kēia kūʻai ʻana he mea hiki ʻole ke kūʻai i kahi mea ʻē aʻe ma hope, ʻoi aku, i kou manaʻo, waiwai.

Manaʻo wau e hāʻawi i ke kālā ʻeke i nā keiki i maopopo iā lākou ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke kūʻai pau ʻole.

5 "Pono"

1. Pono ʻoe e maʻa i ka manaʻo ua loli mau ke ola.

ʻO ka hānau ʻana o kahi keiki he hana koʻikoʻi loa ia. ʻO kahi mea ola liʻiliʻi e hilinaʻi nui iā ʻoe i nā mea āpau. Nui nā hewa i hana ʻia ma muli wale nō o ka makemake o nā mākua hou e ola e like me ka wā ma mua a, ma kahi o kēia, loaʻa ka hauʻoli a me ka leʻaleʻa i ke ʻano o kahi pēpē. ʻAʻole hiki.

ʻIke wau i nā hiʻohiʻona he nui i ka wā i hānau ai ka poʻe i kahi keiki, ʻaʻole makemake lākou e hoʻololi i kā lākou mau hana a huhū inā pono lākou e hana. ʻOiai inā e hoʻāʻo ʻoe e hoʻoponopono i ka pilikia me ke kōkua o kahi nanny XNUMX-hola, e hōʻike mau ana ke keiki i kāna mau pono. A ʻo ka mea nui loa, ʻo kāna kuleana e lilo i kumu o ke ola no kona mau mākua. ʻAʻole ʻoi aku a ʻaʻole emi.

2. Pono mākou e hana i nā manawa kūpono

Inā ʻaʻole ʻoe e hāʻawi i ke keiki e hoʻāʻo i nā koho he nui, pehea e hiki ai iā ia ke ʻike i kāna mau talena? ʻO ke mele, ka hula, nā haʻuki, nā palapala… ʻO ka hele ʻana i nā hui a me nā loko ʻauʻau hiki ke luhi, akā pono lākou! ʻAʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke ʻike ma mua i ka hana a ke keiki me kona kino holoʻokoʻa! I ka manawa like, ʻaʻole makehewa nā hoʻāʻo ʻē aʻe e ʻike iā ia iho, ma hope o lākou e mau ai nā manaʻo ikaika a me nā mākaukau pono.

3. Pono e hoʻomohala ʻia nā pono

He ʻike kaumaha - ʻo ka poʻe ʻōpio ʻaʻole pono i kekahi mea mai ke ola. No kekahi, ua lawa kekahi mau omole pia, no kekahi ua lawa ka heenalu i ka Internet no ka la holookoa. I nā manaʻo a pau e hoʻololi i ko lākou ola, ʻae kēia poʻe i ko lākou poʻohiwi a lulu i ko lākou poʻo. He mea hilahila, no ka mea, i kekahi manawa ʻaʻole lākou i ʻike i kā lākou mea e nalo nei. ʻAʻohe mea i hōʻike iā lākou i kahi honua ʻē aʻe.

Akā, ʻo ke kuleana o nā mākua ke kūkulu i nā pono. Eia kekahi laʻana, pono e heluhelu i nā puke maikaʻi. A i ʻole ka pono o ke mele maikaʻi, he paʻakikī ke loaʻa ma ke ʻano he kanaka makua inā ʻaʻohe kuʻuna ʻohana e hele i nā ʻahamele. Akā ʻo kēlā me kēia hanana moʻomeheu me kahi keiki pono e noʻonoʻo ʻia ʻaʻole ia he hoʻopaʻi, akā he hauʻoli, he haʻalulu.

4. Pono ke aloha

ʻO ke aloha i nā keiki, ʻo ka mea mua, ʻo ka manawa me lākou, a i ka manawa like, ʻaʻole nui ka nui. ʻO ka mea nui ka maikaʻi. Inā ʻoe me nā keiki, e noho pū me lākou! A i nā manawa a pau, ma ka ʻaoʻao o ke keiki, ʻoiai inā ua hana hewa ʻo ia. ʻO ke aloha o nā mākua he kākoʻo like ʻole i ke ola. ʻO kēia ka hope e pono ai kēlā me kēia kanaka.

5. Pono ʻoe e ʻae i nā hoaaloha

E hoalohaloha me ka poe i hoaloha ai kau keiki. E wehe ʻia nā puka o kou hale no kona mau hoaaloha inā ʻaʻole ʻoe ma laila a ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe, e like me kā lākou e ʻōlelo nei, ke kāohi i ke kaʻina hana. ʻAʻole mākaukau nā mākua a pau no kēia.

Akā aia kekahi mau koho ʻē aʻe. No ka laʻana, hiki iā ʻoe ke kono aku i nā hoaaloha o kāu mau keiki i ka dacha, a ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi, e hele wāwae. Ma laila, ʻike ʻia kēlā me kēia kanaka ma o, a ʻo ka mea nui loa, ʻo kāu keiki i ke kūlana e nānā i kona mau mākua ma o nā maka o kona mau hoaaloha a hana i nā hopena kupaianaha, ʻo ia kekahi: ʻo kona mau mākua he poʻe hoihoi, he hoihoi. e kamaʻilio pū me lākou.