ʻO nā keiki ka mea nui, nā mea a pau iā lākou: hoʻomaha i kahi e hauʻoli ai lākou, ʻo ka waihona kālā ʻohana no nā pono o ke keiki ... poina nā mākua iā lākou iho, e hoʻāʻo nei e hāʻawi i ka mea maikaʻi loa i ke keiki, a ʻaʻole maopopo lākou ʻo kēia wale nō kā lākou. e aʻo i ke kanaka makua e hiki mai ana e noʻonoʻo iā ia iho he wahi kaʻawale. E pili ana i kēia kolamu i alakaʻi ʻia e Elena Pogrebizhskaya.
Aia au ma ke kaʻa kaʻa. Piha na kanaka. ʻO ka mea hoʻokele, he mea wikiwiki ia, no ka mea, ʻaʻole holo wale kā mākou kaʻa i ka wikiwiki nui, ʻo ke kaʻa hoʻi e hana ma waena o nā kaʻa, e like me ke kaʻa makai mai nā kiʻiʻoniʻoni ʻAmelika.
Lele mākou a pau a kokoke e hāʻule i waho o ko mākou mau noho i loko o nā ala. I kēia manawa, manaʻo wau, e haʻi aku wau i ke kalaiwa ʻaʻole ka wahie ka laki. Akā, ua ʻoi aku au ma mua o kahi wahine me kahi keiki o ʻelima mau makahiki ma kona mau lima. Kū aʻela ʻo ia a hoʻōho me ka huhū i ke kalaiwa: “No ke aha ʻoe e holo wikiwiki nei? He keiki au. Pehea inā e haki? »
Nui, manaʻo wau, akā, e hakakā kākou a pau ma ʻaneʻi, ʻo 30 mau mākua he mea liʻiliʻi ʻole, ʻike ʻia, a ʻo ia iho a me kona ola ʻaʻole waiwai ʻole, ʻo ka mea nui ʻaʻole e ʻeha ka pēpē.
Hoʻokele au i kahi hui kiʻiʻoniʻoni palapala - nānā mākou i nā palapala palapala maikaʻi a laila kūkākūkā mākou iā lākou. A no laila ua nānā mākou i kahi kiʻiʻoniʻoni ʻoluʻolu e pili ana i ka poʻe malihini hana, aia kahi kūkākūkā wela.
Kū aʻela kekahi wahine a ʻōlelo: “Ua ʻike ʻoe, he kiʻiʻoniʻoni maikaʻi kēia. Nānā wau, ʻaʻole hiki iaʻu ke haehae iaʻu iho, ua wehe ia i koʻu mau maka i nā mea he nui. He kiʻiʻoniʻoni maikaʻi ia e hōʻike ʻia i nā keiki. 'Ōlelo wau iā ia: "Pehea nā mākua, 'aʻole anei?"
"ʻAe," i ʻōlelo ai ʻo ia me ke ʻano leo, me he mea lā ua hana mākou i kahi ʻike koʻikoʻi, "ʻoiaʻiʻo, a no nā pākeke."
Nui koʻu hauʻoli inā ʻelua mau kikowaena like o ka nānā ʻana i loko o ka ʻohana, ʻo ke kikowaena mua he poʻe mākua, ʻo ka lua he keiki.
I kēia manawa makemake ʻoe e pāʻani i kahi pāʻani? E haʻi aku wau iā ʻoe i kahi ʻōlelo, a e hoʻohui ʻoe i hoʻokahi huaʻōlelo i laila. ʻO ke kūlana wale nō kēia: pono ʻoe e hoʻohui i ka huaʻōlelo me ke kānalua ʻole. No laila, ʻo ka ʻōlelo: kumu aloha no ke kōkua (intonation up) ...
He aha kāu i ʻōlelo ai? keiki? Pololei, a loaʻa iaʻu ka hopena like. ʻEiwa o koʻu mau hoaaloha i ʻōlelo "nā keiki" a ua pane aku kekahi i "holoholona" me ka kānalua ʻole.
A i kēia manawa makemake wau e nīnau: pehea ka poʻe mākua? He nui anei kā mākou mau kālā kōkua makua ma Rūsia a he maʻalahi anei iā lākou ke hana? ʻIke ʻia ka pane - he nui maoli nā kālā e kōkua ai i nā pākeke maʻi koʻikoʻi, a paʻakikī loa ka ʻohi kālā e kōkua i nā pākeke, ʻaʻole nā keiki.
ʻO wai ka mea e pono ai kēia mau mākua?
Hauʻoli nui wau i ka wā i loko o kahi ʻohana - a i loko o ka hui holoʻokoʻa pū kekahi - ʻelua mau kikowaena o ka nānā ʻana, ʻo ke kikowaena mua he poʻe mākua, ʻo ka lua he keiki.
Ua huakaʻi koʻu hoaaloha ʻo Tanya ma ʻEulopa me kāna keiki ʻeono makahiki ʻo Petya. Noho ka makuakāne o Petya ma Moscow a loaʻa ke kālā no ia. I ka makahiki ʻeono, ua kūʻokoʻa ʻo Petya a me ka launa pū ʻana i loko o ka hōkele ua hālāwai pinepine ʻo ia me nā pākeke.
I kekahi lā hele mākou a pau i ka holo lio, ʻōlelo ʻo Petya e holo pū ʻo ia, a ʻae koʻu makuahine, ua hoʻoholo ʻo Petya - e hoʻokuʻu iā ia. A ʻoiai, ʻoiaʻiʻo, e nānā ana ʻo ia iā ia ma ke kihi o kona maka, ua holo mālie ʻo ia i kona lio e like me nā mea ʻē aʻe. ʻO ia hoʻi, ʻaʻole ʻo ia i ʻakaʻaka a haʻalulu. Ma keʻano laulā, ʻo Petya a me kona makuahine, ʻo Tatyana, he hui nui kekahi i kekahi i ka hoʻomaha. ʻAe, a ʻo wau.
ʻO Tanya, me ka hānau ʻana o kahi keiki, ʻaʻole i hoʻomaka e ola i kahi ola ʻē aʻe, ʻaʻole ia i hoʻomaka e hoʻopuni iā Petero liʻiliʻi, e like me ka Honua hina a puni ka Lā ʻālohilohi, akā ua komo mālie ke keikikāne i ke ola āna i noho ai ma mua ona. . ʻO ia, i koʻu manaʻo, ʻo ia ka ʻōnaehana ʻohana kūpono.
ʻAʻole he kāne hou ke kāne, ʻaʻole he kāne hou, ʻaʻole ʻoihana, ʻaʻole i aloha, ʻaʻole hoʻi he kāne. ʻO ia ʻo «pāpā». A pela no hoi ka wahine
A he mau hoaaloha koʻu kahi e kū pono ai ka pilina ma waena o nā mākua a me nā keiki. Hoʻonohonoho ʻia nā mea āpau i ko lākou ola i kahi ala kūpono i nā keiki, a ʻōlelo nā mākua iā lākou iho e hoʻomanawanui lākou. A hoomanawanui lakou. Makahiki. I kēia manawa ʻaʻole hoʻomaha ʻo Egor lāua ʻo Dasha i kahi a lākou e makemake ai, akā ma kahi e maʻalahi ai nā keiki, kahi e holo ai nā mea animator a hoʻomaikaʻi i nā keiki. Pehea na kanaka makua? ʻO kaʻu nīnau punahele.
A ʻaʻole koʻikoʻi nā mākua iā lākou iho. I kēia manawa ke mālama nei lākou i ke kālā no ka lā hānau o nā keiki, no ka hoʻolimalima ʻana i kahi cafe a no nā clowns, a ʻaʻole lākou i kūʻai i kekahi mea no lākou iho no ka manawa lōʻihi. Ua nalowale ko lākou mau inoa, ʻaʻole i kapa ʻia ʻo Yegor lāua ʻo Dasha he kāne ʻōpio a me kahi wahine ʻōpio ma kahi o kanakolu. 'Ōleloʻo ia iā ia: "E Pāpā, i ka manawa heaʻoe i ka home?" "ʻAʻole au i ʻike," wahi āna, "ma kahi o ka hola ʻewalu paha."
A ʻoiaʻiʻo, ʻaʻole ʻo ia e kamaʻilio hou i kāna wahine ma ka inoa a ʻaʻole hoʻi i ʻōlelo "aloha" iā ia. 'Ōleloʻo ia i "makuahine" iā ia, akā,ʻikeʻoe,ʻaʻoleʻo ia kona makuahine. Ua nalowale koʻu mau hoaaloha i ko lākou ʻike a pau - a ʻaʻole he kāne hou ke kāne, ʻaʻole he kāne hou, ʻaʻole ʻoihana, ʻaʻohe mea aloha, ʻaʻole hoʻi he kāne. ʻO ia ʻo «pāpā». A ua like ka wahine.
ʻOiaʻiʻo, ʻaʻole hiamoe nui ka mea i kapa ʻia ʻo Dasha, pili mau ʻo ia me nā keiki. Lawe ʻo ia i kona mau maʻi ma kona mau wāwae, ʻaʻohe ona manawa e mālama ʻia ai. Hāʻawi ʻo ia iā ia iho i kēlā me kēia lā a koi i kāna kāne e hana like, ʻoiai ʻo ia e kūʻē iki.
Ke manaʻo nei kekahi kāne ʻo Papa a me kekahi wahine ʻo Mama ka mea maikaʻi loa i nā keiki, akā i koʻu manaʻo, ke aʻo maoli nei lākou i nā keiki e mālama ʻole iā lākou iho ma kekahi ʻano a hoʻohālike i ke ʻano o ka manaʻo ʻana iā lākou iho he wahi kaʻawale.
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