ʻO Mom nō ka mea kokoke a pono loa no ke keiki mai ka hānau ʻana, ʻo ia wale nō ka mea e hiki ke maopopo i kāna mea e pono ai. Akā inā ʻaʻole hiki i ka makuahine ke kūleʻa, a laila hoʻouna ʻo ia i kāna kaikamahine i ka makuakāne - maopopo nō iā ia ka pane i kekahi nīnau, a ʻo ka mea nui loa, hiki ke hoʻonā i kekahi pilikia. ʻO Natalia Poletaeva, he psychologist, ka makuahine o nā keiki ʻekolu, haʻi e pili ana i ka hana a ka makuakāne i ke ola o kāna kaikamahine.
I nā ʻano he nui, ʻo ka makuakāne ka mea nāna e hoʻohuli i ka hoʻokumu ʻia o ka manaʻo pilikino pono i ke kaikamahine. ʻO nā mahalo a me nā hoʻomaikaʻi i loaʻa mai ka makuakāne ka hopena maikaʻi i ke kaikamahine, hāʻawi iā ia i ka hilinaʻi iā ia iho. “Pāpā, e male wau iā ʻoe!” hiki ke lohe ʻia mai ke kaikamahine ʻekolu ona makahiki. ʻAʻole maopopo ka nui o nā mākua i ka hopena i kēia. Mai makaʻu - inā ua ʻōlelo kāu kaikamahine e male wale ʻo ia i kona makuakāne, ʻo ia hoʻi ke kū nei ʻo ia me kāna kuleana. ʻO ka makuakāne ke kāne mua a ke kaikamahine e makemake ai e ʻoluʻolu. No laila, ʻaʻohe mea haohao i kona makemake e lilo i wahine nāna. Makemake ʻo ia i kāna nānā a hauʻoli ka hauʻoli.
ʻO kahi makuakāne e aʻo i nā mea huna o ka hānai ʻana i kaikamahine nāna e lilo i mana nui ʻole nona. E hōʻike mau ʻo ia i kāna mau ʻike me ia a noi no nā ʻōlelo aʻo. Inā ulu aʻe ke kaikamahine i kahi ʻohana kūleʻa, ke ulu nei, e hoʻohālikelike ʻo ia i ke kanaka ʻōpio me kona makuakāne. Inā he pilikia ko ke kaikamahine, i ka kamaʻilio ʻana me ka makuakāne, a laila ʻo kāna mea i koho ʻia i ka wā e hiki mai ana ʻo ia nō ka ʻaoʻao ʻē aʻe āpau iā ia. He kuleana nui ka makuakāne i ka ʻike moekolohe o ke keiki. Eia kekahi, ua hoʻokumu ʻia ke ʻano kāne a wahine hoʻi i kahi keiki a hiki i 6 mau makahiki. Hāʻawi ka hānai ʻana iā “Pāpā” i ke kaikamahine e hilinaʻi i ke kamaʻilio pū ʻana me ka wahine ʻē aʻe, kahi e kōkua ai i ka wā e hiki mai ana e ʻike i ka hauʻoli o ka ʻohana.
Pono e noho pū ka makuakāne a me kāna kaikamahine. Nā kamaʻilio puʻuwai puʻuwai, pāʻani a me nā hele wāwae - i kēia mau manawa e hoʻomanaʻo a mahalo ai kaʻu kaikamahine. Ua hele mai ʻo Pāpā me nā pāʻani e hele a luʻuluʻu ʻo Māmā. Me ia, hiki iā ʻoe ke piʻi i nā kumulāʻau a hōʻike i nā helu acrobatic (e like me ka ʻōlelo a koʻu makuahine). ʻAe ka makuakāne i ke keiki a hāʻawi iā ia i ke ʻano o ke kūʻokoʻa.
ʻIke ke kaikamahine ua huli pinepine ka makuahine iā ia iho i ka makuakāne no ke kōkua - nā mea āpau e pono ai ka wiwo ʻole a me ka ikaika o ke kino e hana ʻia e ka makuakāne. Hoʻomaopopo koke ʻo ia e pono i kahi wahine ke kākoʻo kāne a hiki ke loaʻa iā ia.
ʻAʻole pono i kahi makuakāne ke kipaku i nā pilikia o kāna kaikamahine liʻiliʻi, ʻoiai inā he frivolous a frivolous paha lākou i kekahi manawa. Pono ke kaikamahine i kona makuakāne e hoʻolohe pono i kāna nūhou āpau. Hoihoi nō hoʻi ʻo Māmā, akā no kekahi kumu, ʻoi aku paha ka maikaʻi o ka makuahine ma mua o ka pāpā a Papa.
Aia kekahi manaʻo he koʻikoʻi ka makuakāne, a palupalu ka makuahine, he ʻoiaʻiʻo maoli anei kēia? Hōʻike nā hana ʻaʻole hoʻopaʻi nā makuakāne i kā lākou kaikamahine. A inā ʻōlelo a ka pope, maʻa mau ia i ke kuhi. A "ʻoi aku ka pipiʻi" kāna hoʻomaikaʻi, no ka mea ʻaʻole lohe ke kaikamahine iā ia e like me ka pinepine a kona makuahine.
He aha e hūnā ai, nui ka moemoeā o nā makuakāne i ke keikikāne, akā hōʻike ke ola e aloha nui nā makuakāne i kā lākou kaikamahine, ʻoiai inā he keikikāne i ka ʻohana.
Inā hemo nā mākua, ʻoiaʻiʻo, he mea paʻakikī loa i ka wahine e lanakila i ka naʻau a hoʻomau i ka hoʻomau i ke kamaʻilio me ka makuakāne o ke keiki, akā naʻe, inā hiki, e hoʻāʻo nō e hāhai i kekahi mau lula.
- hoʻokaʻawale i ka manawa no ke kamaʻilio ma waena o kāu kaikamahine a me kou makuakāne (e laʻa me, i nā hopena pule);
- ke kamaʻilio ʻana me kahi keiki, kamaʻilio mau e pili ana i ka makuakāne ma ke ʻano he kanaka ʻoi loa o ka honua.
ʻOiai, ʻaʻohe mākaukau i hoʻomākaukau ʻia no ka hauʻoli o ka ʻohana, akā no ka ulu lōkahi o kahi kaikamahine, pono nā mākua ʻelua-makuahine a me makuakāne. No laila, e nā makuahine aloha, e hilinaʻi i kāu wahine me ka hānai ʻana o kāu kaikamahine, e nānā i kahi ala i hoʻohui ʻia i ka hoʻonaʻauao me ia a hoʻokūpaʻa mau i kāna mau pono!